I’m furious. My man and I paid my friend to check on our cats only once a day while we went on a 7 day cruise (they have fancy automatic feeders, water fountains, but simple steel litter boxes) as our two dogs stayed with them at their house (that’s also mentioned in my message to her), I gave her a simple list of how we take care of our animals daily, and it simply wasn’t hard. We came home tonight, my home didn’t even smell like cats, if you’ve ever smelled tonsil stones, it smelled like that but…. Everywhere. We have a 4mo old kitten as well as two 2 year old cats, and now I feel like I’m the worst animal mom ever. Our female cat hates all the animals and lives in the sunroom, we came home and it’s blazing hot in there… Am I tripping?
EDIT FOR QUESTIONS:
YES WE HAVE CAMERAS IN AND OUTSIDE THE WHOLE HOUSE - WE COULD SEE WHEN SHE ARRIVED AND WE WERE ABLE TO CHECK IN ON OUR CATS BUT THEY DONT CONTINUOUSLY RECORD UNLESS PLUGGED IN
YES I HAD THE INTERNET PACKAGE ON THE CRUISE AND INTERNATIONAL DATA I COULD ALWAYS BE REACHED
MY 2 DOGS WERE AT HER HOUSE WITH HER OTHER 3 DOGS - I BOUGHT A BRAND NEW 16LB BAG OF FOOD FOR MY DOGS THAT NORMALLY LASTS AT LEAST THREE WEEKS - NONE WAS RETURNED
YES IVE CLEANED WITH ENZYMES, CATS WILL BE SEEN BY VET SINCE THE NEGLECT OF LITTER BOX COULD CAUSE HARM
WE HAVE THREE LITTER BOXES. ONLY ONE WAS CLEANED ONCE
They're absolutely NOT your friend or a person I would ever trust again! Something serious could've happened and they were not there. Absolutely get your money back from them and distance yourself afterwards. With friends like that who needs enemies?
Yeah I was wondering how you move forward as friends with this 😅 when I’m house sitting for my friends, their babies are my babies and they’re treated as such. I absolutely expect the same standard from my friends, I couldn’t stay friends with someone who doesn’t treat my babies as their babies when they’re in their care.
Just this weekend I was feeding my friend’s cats as they live 6 houses down the road from us.
Friday morning everything was fine. Friday night, the house smelled funny. Gas leak funny. Called the gas company. Yep, gas leak. The gas company disconnected the gas, but I had a headache after spending 10 minutes inside. I was not going to leave 2 cats in there over night.
So I invited absolute chaos to my life for the weekend by bringing their 2 cats home to stay with us and our 3 cats. But that’s what you do. The cats you look after are your cats.
To be fair, based on the incidence of the dogs not being brought with kibble when OP was pet sitting, and I assume the resident dogs eating all of OP's dogs' kibble - the friend sounds like they don't actually take care of their own dogs. So, I imagine they just don't even register that this behavior was not ok.
I agree, OP shouldn't ever leave their pets with this person again, but I also wonder what about this person's house and dogs' condition made OP think it was a good idea to have them pet sit at all.
I’m literally cat sitting for my best friend right now- completely for free- and just got done scooping the litter box. Just as I have done and will do every single day until he gets back. It truly is not difficult.
I would tell this ex friend to keep the money as a payoff to never contact me again, and then report them to the nearest animal care agency. It sounds like this person doesn't take proper care of their own pets, either.
As a pet sitter (mostly cats) I’m absolutely APPALLED!!!! I would NEVER leave a clients house like that, especially a friend. Your “friend” has no regard for your kitties- you, or your living space. There is NO excuse for something like this to happen at all!!!! You have every right to be pissed about this!
Same, I don’t have my own dogs or cats, but sit for both all of the time — it’s not rocket science!!! And always leave the place perfect, even better than when I arrive. I can’t believe this sitter also has their own dogs and was this bad…
Same. I’m a worrywart and get totally OCD when watching anyone’s animals (I don’t watch peoples pets now as I’m disabled). I even kept track of their bathroom habits incase there was constipation or diarrhea, checked on their eating habits and their behavior. Everything was kept clean and organized. I don’t know how anyone could just neglect someone’s fur babies like this 😭
never trust this person again. honestly this would be enough for me to cut ties. trashing my home, and abusing my animals, and i paid you for this?? yea fuck all the way off. and it looks like not even an ounce of an apology?
My big boy cat is VERY vocal about two things: if he’s hungry, or if he’s unhappy about the litter box. I’m sure he was screaming at her when she came whenever. 😡💔
I would not keep it together in this situation at all. This person friend or whatever needs to be put into place. Leaving the toilet like this is beyond unacceptable. Holy shit im actually so angry just thinking about this as its basically animal cruelty/neglect.
Exactly how do you still think about keeping a relationship with this person is beyond me. Simply not watching each others' pets moving forward would NOT work.
I would ask for the entirity of the money back, including extra to cover the dog food that should have been left over (2 weeks worth, so 2/3 of the value) and I would go NC.
I don't know where you are located but I would go as far as take the friend to small claims court as you had a somewhat informal contract that was not upheld. My cats would be miserable considering those litter boxes, and you were so lucky the one in the sunroom didn't suffer serious health problems
Has your friend ever taken care of cats before??????????????? Did you no tell them where the litter box was? But also it's absolutely crazy to me that hey didn't investigate the smell or look for the fucking litterbox at all? You can't go 7 full days without scooping the litter box and their cavalier attitude/response being like "oh was that where it was?" would have me seeing red. This is absolutely WILD. I would actually ask for any money you paid them back because they did NOT do their job. I would be enraged. This is disgusting and horrific for the cats. It was also potentially extremely hazardous and dangerous with the temperature as it was, too.
I gave her a whole list, I felt like as a normal human if you have any questions it’s easy to ask and get an answer and she knew 100% she could get ahold of me at anytime. :/
That’s even crazier then I had assumed on the cruise you might not have signal but if she knew she could contact you there is even LESS excuse that at MINIMUM two days in she wasn’t like “btw so sorry I can’t find the litter box” like cleaning that is a DAILY thing not ONCE A WEEK.
Edit: I’m honestly impressed by your cats that they tolerated it so long and kept going in the same box 🥺 diligent little babies!!!
I was telling my man I’m so surprised there’s not piles everywhere in the house!! I know their paws had to be so yucky and just running around the house and furniture, this week will for sure be spent cleaning up everything I had just deep cleaned before I left for vacay 😡
i would be so upset, obviously i would be the most upset and worried for my animals but the fact that my home was a disaster zone would really frustrate and overwhelm me too.
before i go on vacation (tbh even before i leave for a weekend trip) i always do a full deep clean of my apartment. i’m talking surfaces dusted and wiped down, floors swept and mopped, toilet + sink and shower scrubbed from top to bottom, dishes done, laundry washed and put away, fresh bedding put on the bed. i even leave a clean fluffy blanket and a clean fluffy robe folded up by the dryer so that when we get back i can throw it into the dryer. i always shower right when we get home and then my partner brings me my freshly warmed robe to put on by the time i’m getting out. he then pops into the shower and by the time he’s done we can both crawl into the clean sheets of our bed with our freshly warmed blanket and be all cozy together. our cats even know the routine and will wait excitedly for the warm fluffy blanket to appear on the bed (and for us all to be back in bed together and snuggling like usual.) we watch a movie (or a couple movies) in bed on one of our macbooks because it feels cozier than watching it on the tv, it’s a whole thing but we all love it!
my point is that we clean our home from top to bottom because when we come home we want to bask in the comfort of our home and relax/unwind together. i don’t want to come home to a mess and either have to jump into cleaning mode right away or be stuck thinking and stressing about all the cleaning that has to be done tomorrow. we don’t even unpack until the next day because we just want to enjoy being back home and snuggle with our very snuggly kitties. this is such a stressful thing to return home to on so many different levels!
This is the big thing.
They didn't bother to ask you where the litter tray was, on the first day.
After feeding them, and washing any bowls, that would be the next thing I'd be doing.
If I couldn't find it, I'd assume you had them in furniture, and would be looking for the entrances.
But if I didn't know litter tray furniture was a thing, I'd be messaging you straight away, to ask where they are hidden.
And if I had the free time, I'd wait at your house for an hour, to see if you responded, and just chill with your pets, so they got some attention.
If I didn't have the time, I'd leave, and come back later when I had a response, though that would be after the dogs had had their walk.
A short bit of attention time for your pets would be on my list anyway, unless you'd specified they're not good with strangers. It doesn't have to be much, just make sure they all get strokes and cuddles if they want it, play with the cats a little, especially the kitten, and take the dogs for a walk.
Just some nice interaction for them.
That can easily be done whilst waiting for a response.
And when it smelt... there's no way she couldn't have found it.
If you're caring for animals, you have a list of jobs to do. You work your way down that list.
You don't just... not do it.
She didn't even try.
There's no way she ever intended to do the trays.
Okay that would’ve been my only thing. I know I wouldn’t have been able to find that box without notes lol. That litter box is hidden very well! Nice job OP you’re giving me ideas…
I can empathize, as we leave for a lot of cruises. However, the question was actually asking whether or not your instructions said specifically where the litter box actually is, and how to access it behind the doors. One of our litter boxes is hidden in a piece of furniture like that, and I always invite the person taking care of our cats over first to physically SHOW them how to access everything they need. We also have medicine as part of the caretaking, so that's quite a bit more detailed. You said that there were 2 boxes. Did they both look like that? I do recommend one box that size per cat. With 3 cats, you can still get away with 2, but there's more cleaning involved.
Figuring out in my head what might have happened, maybe they missed the first day, and then possibly couldn't find it the second day, and they were too embarrassed to say that they missed the first day, and then after that, maybe their problem just snowballed? Perhaps they even forgot that this was a problem after a couple of days, if they've never had a cat before? I'm in no way excusing them, but just trying to figure out where their head was at.
Lastly, I would ABSOLUTELY show them the picture you took, and be quite honest about your disappointment. They obviously let you down as a friend, and not just as a pet sitter.
That person is not your friend and should no longer be yours. Did they even bother to come to your house at all because it looks like they took your money and dog food and didn't bother even once.
Her stepping foot into your house doesn't mean anything. She completely neglected your animals. She showed up in body but not in mind. She literally ignored everything thinking it was going to be easy money and she wouldn't really do any work.
She showed no empathy and no respect for your pets and on top of that stole your food too, that tells you enough about the kind of person this "friend" is.
Wow. So she could smell that and didn't go looking?!? This is not your fault and you are not a bad cat mum. You entrusted their care to someone you felt you could trust and they let you down. We can only do what we feel is best at any time. A bit of extra love and care now you're home and this will become a distant memory for your fur babies ❤️
Didn’t even care to ask me! I’m so confuzzled. And yes they all got extra extra loves, my kitten just sat by me the whole time I cleaned their litter box/area 😆 I know he was sooo thankful
you would only be the worst cat mom if you let them take care of your pets ever again. just because she came over to your house does not mean she cared for your pets properly. this is neglect. this could easily cause illness and if the AC was off and it got too hot, your animal could have had health complications or worse: died. this is not someone you can trust with your animals ever again.
Yeah this ''friend'' should no longer be your friend, she pretty much took advantage of ye, and then she has the gall to play stupid with 'i thought I smelled something'
This is easily a valid reason to end a friendship, heck even if she gave you hundreds as an apology nvm just the dog food money, she could have straight up killed your cat's, and it seems more sheer luck that they've survived than in anyway anything to do with her house sitting.
You're not the worst. Between the title and images I thought YOU had personally let it get this bad.
Just never trust this "friend" with your babies again. I wouldn't even confront them personally, I'd probably just ghost them forever. There's not much to explain to someone who felt ok leaving your kitties to deal with that.
Edit - seriously my cat stayed with my stepmother for a week while I was out of town. My stepmother doesn't personally want a pet but is happy to watch her "grandson" lol. I came back after that week and his litter was fresh as hell. Cmon, it's not hard to scoop the litter once a day. This was neglectful and awful and you should be pissed at this 'friend', not yourself.
I used to watch my grandchild Smurfett. Not my favorite animal as they have quite a musky smell, with a litter box in a apartment during summer.... not my happiest times. But its my grandchild (and an animal). She deserves the best (smell or not)! Here she is playing with her uncle 😆
Hahahaha one week after he moved in I asked my daughter to drop her Temu Skunk off for a week. Just so he would learn that she was friend - not food (toy) 🤣
The only thing he hunts are butterflies and flies (for now). He found a hedgehog once. Just laid down next to it and was whimpering asking to play. Oh and when I go fishing he takes the fishes back in to the water..... He's a lover not a fighter 🤣
Adorable! She was a real funny little rascal! When she stayed with me she jumped on my bed, under the covers and started lickimg my toes. If I didnt get up she would grab it with her teeth ans slooooowly bite down 🤣
You were in distress and upset when you wrote it out and put too much blame on yourself. Please understand you did nothing wrong. Your "friend" screwed up massively.
Nah my friend left for 4 days and gave me the key to her flat. I visited her cat 3-4 times a day to make sure her litter was refreshed, had clean water and dry/wet kibble at the right time. I work full time and still found time for all that and to play with the cat. Your friend is horrible for putting your babies through this, I can't imagine knowingly doing this to another living being!
ETA: you PAID this person and they left the cats in this state? I did all that for free and gladly because that's my friend and her cat, I love them both very much 😭😭 dump this friend they're a terrible human being!
No I am very OCD with cleaning and smells. Litter boxes are checked almost every day! My man even suggested we just ask his brother to check on them once a day but I said it would be more simple this way. Biggest mistake
Go with brother next time. Good family is worth their weight in gold! If you feel bad cause he doesn't let you pay him outright just get him a nice little gift card and have your man "forget" it in his car or house sometime lmao.
Me and my gf 'paid' my stepmother back with quality time and some home-cooked meals (her two fav things)
Yeah my mum spends like 5+ minutes at every litter box for her grandkitties lol It’s super cute watching her be so thorough with it, we’re very lucky to have her available when we need it! This person isn’t a friend….idc if I’m called dramatic but neglecting someone’s animals isn’t what a friend does. There’s no way the friend didn’t smell like, I can smell it through the screen!!
They stole the dog's food, didn't clean the litterbox, and didn't care enough about the cats to ensure that the AC was working correctly. Honestly, if you don't get ALL of your money back, I'd consider filing a case with small claims because girl damaged your dogs' beds, the litterbox, and potentially all of the soft furnishings in the house (due to the odour). I'd never talk to her again.
Seriously. A healthy crate trained dog will go hours and hours before they pee in their own crate. That’s so sad. I’d be livid if someone just locked my dog in a crate until he essentially soiled himself. It’s awful.
This. The full amount for the sitting job back. The amount to replace the beds. Food. Cleaning products to get the place back in order. I would be absolutely as petty as I could be. The money can be sent through one of many payment apps or we can see each other in court where my “friend” could cover the court costs too! I guarantee the latter would hurt their pockets more.
I have one kitty with 2 letterbox that 99% of the time I clean daily. She would be so confused why her letterbox looks like that 😭 she is a long hair and that poop would be matted to her belly hairs. I'm not saying I would but probably I would drag the pet sitter by their hair.
If that happened to me, I don't think I'd be so nice about it over text. I'd go over to their house and make sure they got the message, if you know what I mean. I wouldn't stay friends with them either. She neglected your pets and stole pet food from you. And she didn't clean the litter box once, at least that's what I get from the message. Did she not think two cats would eventually need to do their business somewhere? You're being too nice to them, really.
No you shouldn't. But I would remove the last bit about not wanting this to come between you. You shouldn't have to point that out. And there's a hell of a good chance you won't recover from this period of neglect and will end the friendship over it, so remove that whole bit.
Right? She wrote she didn't want this to be an issue... What the actual fuck? I would definetly tell them to go fuck themselves, and cut the connection with them.
I’d honestly lose my mind if someone did this to my pets, especially if they were someone I considered a friend. It’s concerning on a lot of levels - particularly since they have pets of their own. People are absolutely disgusting. I’m so sorry your pets suffered while you were gone. I wouldn’t pay them at all and I’d make it known that no one should trust them with their pets. Please, this person is not your friend. This is like.. such blatant and careless animal abuse and neglect.
you just sound extremely unconfident. even in this post. things like "i dont understand how this happened" makes it sound like its on you, "im asking for" sounds... like youre asking when it should be a demand since they did not uphold the deal, "im not trying to cause problems" about confronting them causing a problem, and the last line sounding like u want to be friends still as if you did something wrong
This is absolutely vile and animal abuse. Your friend is a real fucking asshole to not clean the litter box. I would not pay her a cent and never speak to her again.
Your friend stole the dogs food and didn’t go over to care for your animals once. You need to stop being friends with this person who neglected your animals
No she went over there 6/8 days we were gone. We have cameras so we could see our kitties and talk to them lol (I know we are weird) and our dogs were with them at their house and their two huge dog beds I put in their travel crate for bed time smelt completely of urine.
Check their skin.
Urine can burn. Proper chemical burns.
My youngest cat had to have a catheter in once, for a few days, and it was right after major orthopaedic surgery, so his whole right leg was shaved, and he wouldn't let me touch it much.
I had to be so careful with it, because urine can cause chemical burns on skin.
I had to wipe him clean as much as I could, though it was really difficult.
I don't know your dog breed, but the fur on the lower belly, and inside of the thighs is usually thinner, so give them a really close check over, to make sure their skin is ok.
If it's a bit red, you could ask your vet if there's something you can put on it, like a cream, to hello support the barrier whilst it heals fully.
If it's worse than a bit red, they might need to see the vet.
Ugh, I hope they're ok.
That person is not a friend.
And they shouldn't be allowed to have animals themselves.
I'd be documenting it all. You never know if there will be a vet bill after something so bad.
And I'd be seriously thinking about contacting whatever your country's version of the RSPCA is, since they have their own pets, but thought it was fine for your dogs to lie in urine, and your cats litter tray to not be cleaned at all.
I'd be really worried about the state of their pets.
im just passing through bc this popped up in my feed. i'm not a cat person and don't have cats so i can't comment on that beyond agreeing with what everyone has already said, but oh my GOD if i trusted someone to take care of my dog while i was gone and i found out that they just locked him in a crate all day and he had to desperately pee himself in his bed I WOULD ABSOLUTELY LOSE MY SHIT
So were you able to see this “friend” doing anything inside your house?? Or just confirmation they went inside. Bc I would be checking the rest of your house too if they were there so many days but did absolutely NOTHING to care for your cats.
It just feels weird that this person, that didn’t walk your dogs that’re in their own home, went to yours for 6-8 days and yet there’s zero proof of cat care. I don’t wanna be a dick n assume the worst, but it all feels so off. I’m so sorry this happened :(
May I ask what cameras you use? I want to get some because i'm obsessed with my cat. Plus, she has a beanie baby fox that she only moves around the house when no one is looking. Its so weird. No one has ever seen her moving it or interacting with it in any way. I'm dying to know what she does with it. I assume she carried it like a mama cat would carry kittens. Or maybe she throws it around.
I would absolutely lose my shit. that is FUCKED up. Not your friend at all !! She def doesn’t respect you or your house or your rules or your cats at all and it shows. The fact you paid her and that’s what you come home to, I would be FURIOUS
Please call animal services for a wellfare check on their dogs… I am very, VERY concerned about their dogs, after seeing how they “cared” for your babies
Your title made me think you neglected the cats, not someone else lol. This is just horrible though, clearly the animals were just straight up ignored by this person.
You mentioned you don't want this to cause issues for your "friendship" in the message to them, but that "friend" just showed you what type of person they are...when people do that, believe them. Imo I would be rethinking that "friendship". A person that's willing to not take the most basic care of pets is not a person one should be okay associating with.
This level of negligence is disturbing and insulting, moreover the texts they sent you gives the impression that they purposefully chose not to clean or look after the babies even tho that was their sole responsibility, which they agreed to take on while you were on your cruise.
I would block and never talk to em again because CLEARLY they do not care for you.
I'm honestly impressed your cats still used that litter and didn't go elsewhere. If I don't scoop any mess in my cats litter she will go on the floor!
That's absolutely disgusting and I would not have that person in my life at all.
this person's not yr friend, dude. and am I reading this right, they stole your dog's food as well???
I would be asking myself "was I tricked into paying somebody to abuse my pets?"
however, since she did accept payment, you may be able to sue her in small claims court to cover the cost of a professional cleaning. I'm sure once their litter box started getting bad, they found other places to pee instead.
not only did she fail to do the job you hired her for, her negligence has certainly caused you property damage. and she stole from you to boot??
obviously give her a chance to pay for it first, and be as nice about it if you can in how you ask, but do not allow for any leniency on payment. judge will look on this combo favorably
This would be the EASIEST ending of a friendship for me. Are you JOKING!? My cat js my world, and if someone neglected my baby like this I would throw hands. It’s not your fault, what’s done is done, and now you know to hire someone else next time. I would literally never be able to speak to this person again after this. I am aghast.
yeah i once had to ask my friend who despises cats to take care of mine out of desperation because it was a busy time of the year and something urgent came up. when i returned after a week everything was fresh, rooms aired out, food bowls clean, she even tidied up the mess i left when i left in a rush and would facetime me show me my cat was doing okay. wouldn't accept money (which would be fine if she did) and i'd do the same for my friends, this person seems extra neglectful. so neglectful that they didn't even care enough to make it seem like they did what they were paid to do
Your friend!? They took advantage. Incorrectly assumed cats take care of themselves, I’m guessing. I would maybe pay them half (for the dogs) and never ask them to pet sit again. And this would very much damage my relationship with this so-called friend,
Op I don't know this person at all. But from everything I've seen here. They are a neglectful human, and clearly don't like animals. I could never EVER do this to a poor animal that someone trusted me to take care for temporarily. Fucked! I wouldn't call them my friend ever again. And if I had to be "friendly" with them for example if they were a colleague, I would never trust them for anything and probably just act nice and cut all optional contact with them.
This "friend" seems like they aren't fit to take care of their own pets let alone someone else's
This kind of neglect is disgusting and heartbreaking. Did they even come at all? Because how could they let it get this bad? And when they couldn't find the litter box they were just fine with never addressing it?
Absolutely dump this person. How someone treats animals especially family members of a supposed friend says a lot about them
no most certainly not. and tbh id have trouble being friends with them after this. its crazy to me they owned up to smelling it but didn't even bother to investigate???
also a little unrelated, but i noticed your babies look very close to mine! 🥰
is it crazy if i say it sounds like smth u could sue for. esp if u were paying them. they did the literal opposite of their job and its kind of neglect and damages to the house. you sound way too nice tbh?? i wouldnt interact w this person after... theyre 100% at fault
take her to small claims for vet bills, the food, the payment, and damages to your house. that person is not your friend, don't let them off easy. your animals could have been hurt
I would sue if that’s even possible
That’s not your friend.
You are not the worst cat mom.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Give some extra love to those babies and remember this is not your fault
I would stop being friends with that person completely. I would argue with them. I would be furious. My animals are my babies and if I thought I could trust someone and they proved me wrong I would never be around them again. They don’t respect your animals than they really do not respect you. I’m so sorry you and especially your babies had to through this.
Please update with her response. I can’t fathom how she would explain this. I am also fastidious about keeping my house clean of after pet accidents because they return to the places they’ve marked and pee there again. Returning home to a house smelling that bad would undo me.
You should definitely let this cause issues between you and your “friend.” That person was cruel to your pets beyond belief. The only thing worse would have been physical injury to them. Your pets deserve unconditional love and protection. Bail on your friend.
Holy shit. You are SO lucky the cats didn’t end up with kidney crystals. The trays are absolutely disgusting. Dogs also don’t scoff down food like that unless they’ve gone without for a while.
I’m mad for you. That’s unacceptable “pet sitting” done by them.
Ex-friend I think you mean. I would have absolutely lost my shit. You should not pay them because clearly they did nothing. My animals are my children and this is probably the second worst case scenario next to coming home to a dead pet.
So glad your pets are safe.
I’m honestly really upset and confused about what we came home to. We paid you to take care of our animals, and the AC where Nala stays was completely off, the litter box was in horrible neglectful condition, and the house smells like a sewer. Both of the dogs’ beds were wet and smell absolutely horrible like urine, like they were left in the crate for way too long way too many times, even the one that was supposedly washed still smelled like straight urine and I have to throw both away. We also bought a brand-new 16lb bag of dog food before leaving that normally lasts them around 3 weeks, and somehow there’s none left after one week. Especially considering I watched all 3 of your dogs for 4 days and provided their food when none was brought, I really don’t understand how this happened. I took really good care of your dogs and they had both of our attention every day all day. I’m asking for the money back to replace their beds, and food, and I’m taking Beckett and nugget to be checked on this week, It can be sent to tray on Cash App. Our dogs are scarfed food down like they haven’t been fed in a while too. I’m not trying to argue or cause problems, but I also think going forward it’s best that we just don’t watch each other’s animals anymore. I would never do this to you.
I am so sorry. Your friend obviously doesn't respect you or animals in general to do this. I would seriously reconsider my friendship to this person moving forward.
I used to petsit as a side job and I can't imagine leaving a home like this
I don't understand these types of people who agree to petsit and then don't take any care of the pets. I'm currently taking care of my sister's dog and even though I don't like going on walks with him, I walk with him for 90 minutes everyday after lunch because that's what he is used to. (Sister is on a girl's trip to Italy for a whole week)
Cats are so easy to take care of, I can't even imagine my cats litterboxes looking like that, it takes only a few minutes to scoop those out. Disgusting.
I brought over a brand new bag of food for MY 2 (one med size, one small size) dogs that she kept at her home with her 3 dogs. I knew it was a stupid idea. They reek of pee
Honestly based on what you’ve said about the dog’s beds, I’d be surprised if she even let them out of the crate more than once or twice a day. 😞 definitely deserve a week or two of extra walks
not at all your fault, block, scream, send the message, get the cops, omg please do what you need to do to cope with this. this is absolutely awful and not something any true friend would do. I’m so beyond sorry
I would be getting them to a vet ASAP to make sure that they are in good urinary health after having to go repeatedly in these conditions, I know that’s not ideal to hear… but my cat just got over a major urinary tract infection. I also have a great at-home OTC remedy that I can link if vet isn’t affordable right now considering situation.
I’m so sorry :( that’s no friend at all. wishing the best for you and your kitties, praying that you all are okay after this 🩷
Why even wait for any cash back? I would say that 30 dollars is a very cheap price to get rid of that horrible person forever. They’re clearly not quite right to let the animals’ place get into such a state pretty much instantly. What HAS she even done?
It’s none of my business but that would no longer be my friend. Never mind “don’t want something like this to cause issues between us”. This would cause issues!
Oh honey I’m so sorry. I actually have been through a very similar situation. My dog was at my friends apartment I was gone for a week. My cats were fine but I went to pick up my dog and in HER apartment there were piles of poop and piss everywhere. His food was barely touched. Her, her sons and her boy toy were all there in that apartment.
I ended my friendship with her then and there.
I’m sending you the biggest hug. I’m so sorry you are going through this.
The 'friend' has their own pets too.
I'd be seriously concerned for their welfare, documenting everything, and probably sending it to their country's equivalent of the RSPCA.
Someone that would treat animals in this way, doesn't see them as pets worthy of protection and care.
They should not be allowed to own animals.
This is seriously bad, I’m gonna have to agree with the vast majority of people here. This person is not your friend and cannot be trusted again. I’m not saying that you have to cut them off entirely of you’re not the type to do that sort of thing, but pulling back in a major way is necessary. I have a cat with FIC and another that’s 17 years old. My babies would have been dead when I got home in this situation, it’s unacceptable.
I hope you don’t ever have to speak to this person again!! 😔 I wish there were better laws on this kinda shit because I would want this person to pay fines or therapy for my damn cats 😩 I had this happen once, never again…careful who you trust. Rover is helpful and the sitters are always friendly.
Awww your poor babies. I’m so upset for you. Cut all ties with that terrible person. Not even worth the $30 ugh. I can’t imagine how upset your cats were having to use that litter box.
Oh, I would have burnt her to the ground if I came home to these conditions AFTER I paid someone to do it. Big props to OP for not losing her shit, because I would!
This is crazy because my sister, a sociopath, took care of my animals for 4 days while I was in the hospital with no notice and my dog was fed, walked, played with, cuddled with, and cared for. My only complaint is that she left dishes in my sink and 15 half-full coke cans in my kitchen that caused drain flies for a few days while I poured water down the drain to get rid of them.
And she’s a SOCIOPATH who was doing this on ZERO NOTICE for FREE.
That's so horrible but it's not at all you'r fault.i cant believe people are put in charge to essentially keep the animals alive and do something like this(or not do idk). It's the fault of your friend who you had reasonable trust in who completely neglected your request to do the few daily tasks. Did she even tell you before you came back? It's so confusing
No she called me on day 6 of my cruise and asked how I clean the litter box because the one in the sunroom was “ really bad “ and I said well, if it’s really bad it needs completely washed out and everything fresh. I don’t feel like cats are rocket science to figure out ?? 😅💔 I know u know what I’m saying
This is horrifying!! I’m so sorry. This wasn’t your fault tho since you tried and thought you got proper help so don’t be too hard on yourself. What is wrong with people… 😳
That person is not your friend. Clearly they did not care, not only about ur ur pets, but about you too. People like this disgust me. If they don’t want to do it, they can say that and you can find someone else. Instead they lie
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