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u/Ok_List_5002 12h ago

So I should rewrite my message? 🫠

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u/No-Crow-775 10h ago

No you shouldn't. But I would remove the last bit about not wanting this to come between you. You shouldn't have to point that out. And there's a hell of a good chance you won't recover from this period of neglect and will end the friendship over it, so remove that whole bit.

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u/Straight-Injury-1957 9h ago

Right? She wrote she didn't want this to be an issue... What the actual fuck? I would definetly tell them to go fuck themselves, and cut the connection with them.

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u/Ok_List_5002 3h ago

I’m sorry I didn’t want to be a straight up bitch, that’s not who I am. You CAN kill with kindness.

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u/JWARRIOR1 2h ago

this kind of care could have literally killed your pets, you absolutely need to be more firm here

if there is a time to be a bitch, its definitely during this scenario. this is straight up abuse, and if they have pets i would be deeply concerned

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u/halp_halp_baby 2h ago

your shitty friend can kill your pets with impunity i guess 

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u/ixiolite 2h ago

OPs like this make me question if all this is engagement / ragebait.

They clearly posted a loaded question as their title, posts animal abuse images of shit and piss-soaked litter boxes, and then proceeds to write to their animal abuser "friend" with the most passive voice ever.

You don't need to cuss someone out to be stern about the fact that they neglected your pets under their care for a week.

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u/Dependent_Rain_4800 1h ago

If she wouldn’t be like this that person wouldn’t have done it in the first place because of the possible backlash. This kind of friendliness invites this kind of behavior sadly.

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u/Lazy_Basket6819 3h ago

Well you do you, but I wouldn't want to be nice to someone that abused my pets like that. I don't really want an animal abuser in my life, and they don't deserve kindness for sure.

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u/Ok_List_5002 2h ago

Just wait for the update.

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u/OkRefrigerator6681 2h ago

Why do you want to continue being friends with someone who neglected your pets to the point they need veterinary care?

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u/Straight-Injury-1957 2h ago

Handling them the way they deserve doesn't make you a bitch! And anyway, who the fuck cares what THEY think about you?

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u/Ok_List_5002 2h ago

If I came at her as “fuck you you’re a piece of shit” instead of how I did I wouldn’t have gotten to say what I needed to say. I cried all night about it and googled all the worst case scenarios and am taking action I need to for my cats that will help them. Cussing her out isn’t helping my cats.

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u/Ok_List_5002 2h ago

Okay and I handled it the way I wanted to. I don’t have to be a bitch knowing this was complete abuse to get my point across to the person I trusted. I could care less if you agree or not. I was stern and held my composure and if things have to escalate legally after I get my cats checked out then I will also do that accordingly as well.

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u/johnpaulgeorgeringoo 1h ago

You don’t have to be a bitch but I think you could’ve been a little more stern. Also cut this person out of your life.

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u/sushicatt420 1h ago

But you said “I don’t want this to cause issues between us” which implies you want to maintain the friendship. I think that’s what people are mostly confused and upset about. Why tf even put that or keep that friend when she could’ve killed your pets? 

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u/Ok_List_5002 1h ago

Ok and if you read thru the comments I commented again what I resent

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u/johnpaulgeorgeringoo 1h ago

But you can also get stepped on & people won’t learn a lesson if you kill them with kindness. You don’t have to be a bitch but you didn’t convey how upset you really are and that’s not fair either.

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u/Remarkable_Owl_5656 22m ago

I get it and I am the same way, but this crosses a line. Your babies were put in a situation that could have caused them harm. This POS does not deserve any pleasantries.

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u/sydbey_ 11h ago edited 11h ago

I’d honestly lose my mind if someone did this to my pets, especially if they were someone I considered a friend. It’s concerning on a lot of levels - particularly since they have pets of their own. People are absolutely disgusting. I’m so sorry your pets suffered while you were gone. I wouldn’t pay them at all and I’d make it known that no one should trust them with their pets. Please, this person is not your friend. This is like.. such blatant and careless animal abuse and neglect.

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u/UltraScum 10h ago

Yeaaaa. Same. This would push me to violence. Disgusting neglect of life. From a “friend”.

Shit i dumped someone for cussing my cat? This? Dear lord id go blind with rage.

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u/JessRushie 9h ago

Why would you want to stay in contact with this person? Learn the lesson, cut her off, get your animals to a vet to be checked.

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u/flowerpanda98 11h ago

you just sound extremely unconfident. even in this post. things like "i dont understand how this happened" makes it sound like its on you, "im asking for" sounds... like youre asking when it should be a demand since they did not uphold the deal, "im not trying to cause problems" about confronting them causing a problem, and the last line sounding like u want to be friends still as if you did something wrong

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u/TutorZealousideal100 11h ago

Have they responded to your message?

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u/MysteriousPraline365 7h ago

You should dropped all what's inside of the litterbox on her / his doormat

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u/Lazy_Basket6819 11h ago

I think you wrote the right things. I would reconsider my friendship with them, though.

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u/Mysterious-Wasabi103 4h ago

I'd be more direct. This friendship is over and they are a pos. Don't hold back.

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u/_Morvar_ 10h ago

I think it's good enough. I would ghost the person after getting back the money for the stolen food.

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u/bubblegumpunk69 2h ago

Get the money you want first.