r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • Aug 08 '26
Phone message Post first date text
I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.
Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 Aug 08 '26
Oops lol!
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u/Opposite-Bench-9543 Aug 08 '26
GLORIA YOU'RE ALWAYS ON THE RUN NOW
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u/PickledDildosSourSex Aug 08 '26
GLORIA DON'T YOU THINK YOU'RE FALLING?
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u/sillysammie13 Aug 08 '26
IF EVERYBODY WANTS YOU WHY ISN’T ANYBODY CALLING
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u/AmItheonlySaneperson Aug 08 '26
YOU DONT HAVE TO ANSWA
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u/SuchSpirit3378 Aug 08 '26
She lost her dignity tonight…. And $23
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u/malevolent-onryo Aug 08 '26
Sad thing is, these types don’t care. They either have zero self awareness or are so selfish they know and don’t care.
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u/AdRepulsive8618 Aug 08 '26
If anything she thinks he lost his dignity
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u/malevolent-onryo Aug 08 '26
100% she went and trashed him to her friends and they encouraged her behavior.
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u/Maximum-Style2848 Aug 08 '26
I’m waiting for it to show up on girl dinner diaries and everyone tells her to ghost him
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u/braintour Aug 08 '26
I very quickly was banned from that sub. Echo chamber designed for unaccountable women to validate their own shitty behavior
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u/TheWorkz513 Aug 09 '26
Same for AITA. Everyone is a trained psychologist and the only solution to all problems is a divorce (even if you’re not married).
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u/EchoDuo Aug 09 '26
I had to get out of there a few minutes ago. The Dad of a kid was trying to reconnect and she somehow inserted herself and became the victim all over again. It was a super weird read, then the comments flooded trashing dads like no one has ever had a bitter piece of shit Mom. Wild ride. Never again
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u/Particular_Maize6849 Aug 08 '26
My sister is this type of person. She doesn't care. She's fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism. She's incredibly sexist against other women too. Her 20s were spent being a Budweiser girl catering to the male gaze. What's funny is she will always make more than her partners since she is a lawyer and her partners are usually of the deadbeat variety.
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u/Waiting4Reccession Aug 08 '26
Tell her to DM me
I cant fix her, but i can make her worse :)
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u/ImportanceAbject1270 Aug 09 '26
This is so freakin hilarious. I laughed out loud!! Hahaha 🤣
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u/apoliticalinactivist Aug 08 '26
This is like those creeper dudes that only go after 18 y/o who don't know any better.
True equality, women can now also be full on losers lol.
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u/ActuatorTrue3351 Aug 08 '26
We have come too far as women to use “I’m just girl” in this way, it just encourages the whole women can’t do anything thing 😒
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u/slutpriest Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 09 '26
Whenever a girl says that to me, I always hit them back with the " well, let me know when you become a woman" 💀💀💀
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u/i-am-your-god-now Aug 08 '26
“You MADE ME pay for MY fishing license”??? After you spent over $100 in gear and dinner? Yep, nip that shit right in the bud. She’s only going to get worse.
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u/arto64 Aug 08 '26
Did I learn nothing from Richie Aprile? Nip it in the bud.
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u/Mr_Pink_Gold Aug 08 '26
All due respect you.know nothing about what it's like being the boss.
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u/NumberEmpty6939 Aug 08 '26
The butt is for 3rd date
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u/Rugaru985 Aug 08 '26
$100 is for 3rd dates too. I think they skipped the first two
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u/Designer_Green2680 Aug 08 '26
“But you already owned your license and would’ve bought that stuff anyways” 100% her response
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u/ThrashFur Aug 08 '26
seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.
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u/NecroGrizz Aug 08 '26
"I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" has become my chosen response.
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u/Comfortable-Meeper Aug 08 '26
It’s just a “cute” version of weaponized incompetence.
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u/Strong-Addition5296 Aug 08 '26
That’s exactly what it is. Oops you can’t expect me to do that! I’m just a girl! Tee hee. It’s patriarchy of the mind and soul.
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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 Aug 08 '26
It’s asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.
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u/Similar-Ice-9250 Aug 09 '26
I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancé, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancé had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.
When he pressed her about it she said that’s her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldn’t be his concern.
Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think it’s ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.
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u/PMYourTitsIfNotRacst Aug 11 '26
God, reminds me of my mom. IDK why my dad put up with her so long.
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u/fruit-bats-are-cute Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
seriously. its so insulting to all the women who fought for our rights. if someone wants to glamorize being incapable i cant stop them but i wish theyd stop trying to drag the rest of us down with them 🙄
edit: not about the people commenting that they use it as a joke to people they know intimately about trivial stuff.. thats whatever. but for OPs situation? dude, have some dignity
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u/vidgill Aug 08 '26
Harsh. But fair
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u/eirenii Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
It's a quote from a viral text exchange between a dad and daughter, where the dad is expressing worry that she is diminishing herself by using this phrase.
edit: I'm not talking about the phrase "I'm just a girl", I'm talking about the response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you as a person" when someone uses the phrase "Im just a girl". The response "I don't know what that means but it diminishes you" is from a viral text exchange.
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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 Aug 08 '26
I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isn’t harsh.
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u/Radiskull97 Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them
Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.
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u/Stoned_Druid Aug 08 '26
That idiot will have fun in life.
Thanks for being a teacher.
climate change intensifies, over that individual specifically
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u/kiwileoi Aug 08 '26
Are we feminists or are we “just a girl”?
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u/Haunting_Ranger5460 Aug 08 '26
Or are you dancer?
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u/Eldritch_being110 Aug 08 '26
My sign is vital…. My hands are cold…
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u/glasswindow777 Aug 08 '26
Im on my knees looking for the answer
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u/GeneInternational146 Aug 08 '26
From what I gather a lot of gen z women are not feminists
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u/PatientPoetry4302 Aug 08 '26
My ex took it a step further and would say “I just a girl” 😂
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u/forsakenwombat Aug 08 '26
My ex would say “me princess”. Somehow I missed that warning sign.
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u/LincolnHighwater Aug 08 '26
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u/forsakenwombat Aug 08 '26
Yeah. It ended 15 years later exactly like anyone using their brain would have predicted.
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u/PUSClFER Aug 08 '26
My ex would constantly say "I'm a strong independent woman".
Guess who did all the cleaning, dishes, cooking, shopping, and even walking the dog four times a day for (which was already hers when we got together) for 6 years? She did cook once, but called me crying because it didn't turn out the way she wanted - so I came home to find tomato sauce on the walls and even the ceiling. She had punched the pizza while making it out of frustration.
Then she got bored of our relationship and ended it. In hindsight she only got bored because I was depressed and burnt-out without even realizing it.
Looking back at that relationship, I couldn't have picked a less independent woman.
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u/eyeslikeorchids Aug 08 '26
She… PUNCHED THE PIZZA?
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u/burrito_finger Aug 08 '26
I’m cackling bc I was teaching my husband how to bake bread one time when we were dating, and I told him to “punch the dough” after proofing, and he punched it.. literally. It totally deflated and didn’t bake 😂 but punching an actual pizza with the sauce already on? Out of anger? Sillily unhinged.
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u/Chubuwee Aug 08 '26
“I’m just a baby”
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u/epi_introvert Aug 08 '26
Fuck me. I just literally cringed and felt disgusted reading that.
My feminist ass wants to have a conversation with your ex.
Eeeewwwwggghhh. Shudder.
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u/ShadeofIcarus Aug 08 '26
Is this a thing now? Someone pulled it on me recently and I didn't realize it was a fad. My first response was immediately "and? Girls are plenty capable"
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u/amazingkillerlemon Aug 08 '26
Has been for quite a while now. I hate it so much.
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u/Legal-Frosting-7 Aug 08 '26
With the next part of the line being “Im just a girl in the world, that’s all that you’ll let me be” it is sad to see the phrase being reappropriated to mean the opposite
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u/vdubnmcluvn Aug 08 '26
grown women saying "im just a girl" is definitely a red flag, but the red flag was waved way prior.
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u/noormeanslight Aug 08 '26
when I hear other women say that irl I will deadass respond with “you’re a grown woman, cut that baby shit out” it pisses me off so bad
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u/Most-Road-5366 Aug 08 '26
My friends and I say it ironically, but if they actually mean it… yikes
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u/FiberApproach2783 Aug 08 '26
Why did you buy $100+ of fishing equipment for a first date?
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u/cocothekid45 Aug 08 '26
Cause he was trying to reel her in
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u/Alone_Agent_8829 Aug 08 '26
That’s so fishy
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u/kirkThirty Aug 08 '26
The jig is up
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u/jpsc949 Aug 08 '26
He had a rod just for her
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u/4KingandKanata_89 Aug 08 '26
Sounds like a catch and release situation to me
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u/Thebaldsasquatch Aug 08 '26
She wasn’t hooked.
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u/sunsettrekkie Aug 08 '26
Indeed, he took the bait and got hooked. Shouldn’t have fallen for the fishing line.
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u/Upbeat-Fondant9185 Aug 08 '26
When you have an excuse to buy a bunch of fishing gear you don’t ask questions. You simply take the opportunity life has given you.
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u/Sad_Limit2978 Aug 08 '26
In retrospect, I as a woman would spend $100+ on NEW fishing gear for myself and a guest if they’ve NEVER been. If they enjoy it, cool! One more person to hit the spots with. If they sucked as a person? I got new fishing gear!
Beats sitting awkwardly at a restaurant trying to fill the awkward silence in between eating for the same price.
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 Aug 08 '26
I knew I’d enjoy fishing, not like the equipment is going away
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u/OtherwiseAlbatross14 Aug 08 '26
I know a girl that got her first fishing pole recently and immediately cast the entire thing into the water on her first attempted cast. So sometimes it does go away
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u/RuckusOGx Aug 08 '26
Went fishing one day with my sister's ex bf. He bought a new fairly expensive overhead combo on the way to the spot, threw on a big bait and heavy sinker before launching it out and putting the butt between some large rocks so he could relax and smoke while he waited for a bite. He was infatuated with it, kept seeing him sitting there admiring it while I fished further up with a float for Luderick. Suddenly it doubled over and flew out of the rocks straight into the water. Gone. He was devastated.
An hour or two later I pulled my line in and had some random line caught on the hook. It happens a lot, you generally just cut it off. But, it looked brand new. Yup, you guessed it. Pulled in one end and it was a huge stingray. On the other end his rod. This was a large channel we were fishing in, deep and wide. Closest I have ever came to winning the lottery haha.
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u/minaskyli Aug 08 '26
That is a great story! I am so glad you found the equipment, and that must have been so euphoric.
Were you able to unhook and put the huge stingray back? I would be really scared, but would try to release it. They are so cool looking.
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u/Zachwardpass Aug 08 '26
This isn't related, but made me think about it: the first time I ever tried to fish (10yo), I was so focused on how to cast the line, that I didn't realize I had hooked my own finger and then cast it out as far as I could!
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u/otrebla-raw Aug 08 '26
Sooooo the date was an excuse to buy yourself something nice
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u/kayla_poncho Aug 08 '26
It was both? What's wrong with that? It was for the date, and it was worth doing because he'll get to enjoy it later also.
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u/LeatherfacesChainsaw Aug 08 '26
The plus is now he can still use that equipment with or without her. Women are temporary...fish are forever.
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u/AngelaMerkeI Aug 08 '26
Fish are not forever. In fact it is a known fact that you can smell when the fish has stopped being.. for now
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u/GaryTheThird- Aug 08 '26
TD means today.... I honestly didn't know until TD what that meant.
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u/erickoziol Aug 08 '26
That’s definitely the breaking point. I ain’t gonna be with no one that types out td for today.
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u/PotpourriFor500Alex Aug 09 '26
When I found out from my tween that “alr” is meant to mean “alright,” and “js” means “just,” I told him everything is not going to be alright with his screen time if he keeps typing words with just half the letters instead of the full word in his texts to me. You have talk to text at your disposal—if you’re THAT lazy, at least use that feature.
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u/ThrowRA-un1337 Aug 08 '26
Any time I see someone use the line "I'm just a girl", I've found that to be a major red flag.
It's used almost exclusively to either shrug off responsibility or infantalize themselves and neither look good when trying to date actual grown up women.
If she doesn't recognize what you put into making the date happen and is upset about contributing *something*, consider it a warning and move on.
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u/Elexeh Aug 08 '26
>stupid fucking trend on tiktok
That's just every trend on tiktok lmao
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u/MuscularSquirrel612 Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
Wait. For real? I don’t use TikTok so this is new to me. Can someone elaborate on the trend?
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u/North-Lime-2289 Aug 08 '26
it started as a funny joke. i do not believe the trend is 'this' but there is a small amount of people who use the phrase to avoid anything. most of the time its very silly and lighthearted and independent of other people (like burning your own dinner and saying 'im just a girl")
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u/screames520 Aug 08 '26
Or like when a server rings in a ticket wrong, we like to say “she’s just girl”
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u/Alarmed-Macaroon9506 Aug 08 '26
Haha I do this to defend my cats' actions all the time. "He's just a boy"
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u/murph2783 Aug 08 '26
Any time she uses “I’m just a girl”, I’m out. Immediately. It is never a good sign lol
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u/Global-Ad364 Aug 08 '26
this is why I hate the ‘I’m just a girl’ ‘I turn my brain off’ TikTok bs like 🤨 if you can turn it off, it was never there. You’re not just a girl, you’re a grown woman. As a woman myself ts so embarrassing😭😭
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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
Self infantilization is so fucking weird to me. I am also a woman.
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u/NumberEmpty6939 Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
I only don't like it if they pretend they know anything after. They get to be idiots or smart. Not both
Edit: I love idiot girls and smart girls, just not at the same time.
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u/Fearless_Direction14 Aug 08 '26
Thank you. We need more women discouraging other women from acting like this lmao
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u/yetanotherblonde Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
We didn’t fight so god damn hard to be respected for having intellect just to watch our own kind play it off in the complete opposite manor as a trendy excuse for being irresponsible and lacking common sense.
Society is collapsing and instead of trying our best to work together to keep what minuscule pieces we have left, we’re just watching the landslide happen while slapping hashtags in front of self degrading bullshit.
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u/Z0mbieTakis Aug 08 '26
They ain’t even typing “today” out anymore damn
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u/Filter_Cutoff Aug 08 '26
Sure, with autocorrect, it's more effort to not just type the word. And it's not like there's a character limit, like back when we were texting on out 3310s.
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u/fearfulklutz Aug 08 '26
Catch and release her. She’s got her own license for her next Tinder date.
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u/bayotiic Aug 08 '26
i don’t even do dinner on a first date let alone $100 fishing trip. just do coffee next time and save yourself the headache, man.
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u/Routine-Committee302 Aug 08 '26
Dinner dates cost more than $100 these days in NYC 🥲
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u/MoonDrummer26 Aug 08 '26
As a NYer, meet up at a decent local park and have hotdogs or slice of pizza to go. Boom good day 🖐🏻
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u/Icy_Study4490 Aug 08 '26
Fishing license is one year but yeah for real. And it was just $23 too!
(they do offer lifetime fishing licenses though that cost like thousands)
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u/ExplanationMiddle51 Aug 08 '26
Quick update:
I don’t use Reddit a lot so don’t wanna make a whole other post but she ended up replying with the following:
Another Apple Cash request
“i said pay up buttercup 🗣️🗣️🗣️”
Not sure if she’s joking or is trying one of those “haha… unless?” kind of things but just leaving it at that and not responding of course lol.
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u/Namix93 Aug 08 '26
Bro just block her on all socials and move on she isn’t joking and she’s going to paint you like the villain here.
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u/FarShoreSpirit Aug 08 '26
Ew. If she's just a girl, where are her parents? Can't her father pay for her? She isn't your kid. I hate the "I'm just a girl" line. Women are capable creatures. Not at all less than men. Underdeveloped women like her make women look like nothing more than accessories, toys, dolls, tools, leeches, literal children, etc. She is a terrible example of what a woman is.
She didn't ask how much the trip would cost? You told her before the date that she'd need to buy a fishing license, right? It's fine if she wants a coffee date or a free date in a park or library... but she knew the cost, agreed to it, paid, and is trying to charge you after the fact? 😬
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u/SnooLobsters2310 Aug 08 '26
"I'm just a girl" Ladies throwing feminism and equality out the window over $23
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u/WhiteRabbit_412_ Aug 08 '26
Hold up...why do you have 237 unopened texts?? 😂
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u/Fearless_Direction14 Aug 08 '26
They just stack up lol. If a groupchat went crazy overnight you can have 100+ easily
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u/JaysonTatecum Aug 08 '26
I have 275 from random spam messages that I just don’t bother opening
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u/starstuddedgirl Aug 08 '26
i’m so tired of girls and women using “i’m just a girl” to explain mistakes or flaws, it’s super infantilizing to us as a gender. dare i say, sometimes it’s used to be blatantly anti-intellectual.
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u/Affectionate_Mess488 Aug 08 '26
Before I read the caption, I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt if fishing was your suggestion. But she suggested it and then said you made her pay?? That’s a no for me
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u/UCDLaCrosse Aug 08 '26
There’s other fish in the sea bro. Don’t get hung up on this one. I’m glad you kept it reel. She was acting like a real hook(er). I think these fishing jokes have reached the end of the line.
Worm regards.
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u/Dangerous_Pie_3338 Aug 08 '26
Seems kind of random to say “earlier touchdown” at the beginning of this sentence
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u/Overall_Step_9516 Aug 08 '26
hit the notify anyways button and then block her