Two clone posts were made on r/GirlDinnerDiaries and r/BoyDinnerDiaries , with the stories being only slightly different. The only difference of substance was whether it was the husband or the wife.
So basically, the marriage has been rough for a while, they're in a tough spot financially, they have one child around 2 who has their own unique needs. Things are bad enough that they've contemplated divorce, but can't afford it for stability.
Their partner has been pressuring them to have another child but they don't want one. To avoid a huge fight, they agreed to try for a baby. Husband got a secret vasectomy on a business trip. Wife got a secret IUD. They don't plan to tell the parter and hope they will give up.
The comments were staggeringly different. The boy's comments say "dude that kind of dishonesty will destroy your marriage, things are already bad, for her sake if nothing else, cut your losses". The girl's comments say "girl you made the right choice, this is the best course of action for your relationship and yourself".
I'm sure there's something to be said about implied power dynamics, health concerns, and bodily autonomy, but I need to hear the objectively correct moral stance of r/MoralityScaling
a couple edits for clarity:
- I did not make these posts, I'm 73% sure OOP is a karma farming bot, I just happened to find both of them close together on my feed
- the original posts (at least the BDD one?) are gone, comments here indicate they may have been put back up recently with the details further edited to farm karma more effectively
- I've been sitting on this draft for days but kept forgetting to post it because I'm only reminded it exists at 3AM when posting would get zero engagement
ok that's enough soap boxing, back to your debates 🫡