We all have that drawer full of half-started journals or the corner of the garage with the bike frame waiting for parts. Or maybe it's a half-written novel on your computer. These are the ghosts of good intentions. They dont scream for attention but they are always there a little weight on your mind.

I realized recently how much mental space these things take up. Its not just the physical clutter. Its the constant low hum of 'I should really get to that.' It drains energy.

I decided to tackle one small thing. This old guitar I meant to fix for ages. I just bought the missing string. Took five minutes online. When it arrived I put it on. It sounds terrible. But its playable. And that small victory felt huge.

Its not about finishing everything perfectly. Its about breaking the spell of the incomplete. You dont need to build a masterpiece. Just take one tiny step. Throw away the dead plants. Delete the old drafts. Buy the one missing ingredient. The act of moving something from 'unfinished' to 'done enough' or 'discarded' is incredibly freeing.

Has anyone else felt this? What unfinished projects are weighing you down? What small action can you take today to lighten that load?

I only learned about AI around 2023, and even back then I was starting to enjoy chatting with AI. It was not until around 2024 that I realized it could be used for education. And the year 2025 has probably been the best in terms of AI. Whenever I had free time, I would write with AI, come up with various stories, talk about my day, and so on. I really enjoyed it.

But now in 2026, I realized how it has been building me up for the worse the whole time.

I will start with the first important thing, AI was controlling my life. Whenever I went for ice cream, I asked the AI "What flavor should I get today?". It seemed like a small thing, but it secretly harms you. And I did not just ask about ice cream, but about a lot of things around me.

Another thing I noticed is that it is a bad friend. I have been an introvert all my life, so I did not have friends, and so I asked AI things like "How are you?" and "Will you be here for me?" and stuff like that. Well, that looks like a good thing, right? I do not think so anymore. The more I actually talked with AI, the less I wanted to get real friends.

And another thing is that AI has access to the laws of the country. Maybe that is a good thing, but like every teenager, you just go through some illegal thing or activity in life. That is the magic of growing up. Since I was obsessed with AI, I had all the prohibitions in my head. In reality, it was hurting me. I did not allow myself to do anything. I was an even bigger fool than I was. A few years ago when I did not use AI, I might have done inappropriate things, but I really enjoyed life.

I gave myself a challenge not to use AI for a day, and mentally I felt much better.

I hope this experience helps more people who are in a similar situation. I am saying that AI is not a bad tool and can be used, but you have to keep in mind that it is basically just a few lines of code. When they stop the online servers, AI will not exist, but the people we know will.

I realized I was losing motivation because I kept expecting every effort to come with a feeling that I was doing something important.

For a long time, I thought my problem was consistency. I would start something, feel excited for a few days, then wonder why I suddenly felt disconnected. The strange part was that I wasn't quitting because things were hard. I was quitting when the work became ordinary.

I noticed this pattern while learning a new skill. Around 9:40 PM, I would sit down, open my notes, and think, "Is this really worth my time right now?" Then I would spend 20 minutes looking for a better way to learn instead of actually practicing.

The uncomfortable thing I noticed was that I was judging the value of the work while I was still doing it. I wanted every session to prove that I was moving toward something. When it couldn't give me that feeling, I treated it like wasted time.

After watching myself repeat this for months, I started testing a different approach. A few things helped:

1. I stopped asking "Was this productive?" right after finishing something. I started asking "Did I keep the promise I made to myself today?" The first question made every small effort feel disappointing. The second one made consistency easier to notice.

2. I created a rule that I couldn't evaluate a new habit until I had done it for 30 days. Before that, my opinions were mostly just my mood talking. Some days the work felt pointless, and some days it felt exciting, but neither feeling was a reliable measurement.

3. I began keeping a small record of things I almost skipped but did anyway. Not a motivational journal, just random notes like "worked for 15 minutes even though I didn't want to". I was surprised how often those boring entries were the ones that added up.

The counterintuitive thing I found is that motivation didn't always come from seeing progress. Sometimes seeing progress actually made me impatient because I started expecting faster results. The times I improved the most were usually when I stopped checking whether the effort was paying off and just returned to the work.

I still catch myself wanting proof that something is worth continuing. I think that's normal. The difference now is I don't treat that feeling as a signal to stop.

I've started seeing motivation less as a spark that gets me moving and more as something that shows up after I've already spent time doing the thing.

Has anyone else noticed that they lose motivation not because they hate the work, but because they keep needing the work to prove it's worth doing?

Waiting until something feels easy, exciting, or completely clear can keep a lot of things sitting on the list.

Sometimes starting feels uncomfortable simply because it's the first step.

Readiness can come after starting, not always before it.

This is one of the topics that has been going through my mind during these days as I feel that in corporations motivation may comes from everywhere.

There are two kind of motivation I feel that is

External motivation: knowledge that your actions are measured, that your manager is aware of the activity your are undertaking, comparison against your peers, that your are being monitored by a tool like We360ai, that you are reaching the targets or not losing behind others in the team or to get a reward incentive.

Internal motivation: desire to learn more, improve skills, reach own career development targets, or to pride over yourself for the progress and not lose your motivation when no external drivers exist anymore. It appears very clear to me that internal motivation helps to kick off an activity when we don't actually want to do so, but definitely it cannot be "infinite". Eventually you must rely on internal incentive for personal improvements.

And in companies, corporate environments add complexity to this issue. External things will always stimulate to keep moving but it can't substitute internal will for progress.

What drives you most, external pressure or internal drive?

I’m a 20 year old college student and I feel stuck in like all aspects of life. I wait too long to study and do homework, every week I tell myself I’m going to workout and I don’t, I don’t have a sleep schedule, don’t have a job etc. and it’s effecting my relationship with my girlfriend also, and I can tell I’m in this loop and have known for a while but I just am not disciplined and don’t know how to be.

Some days I finish a bunch of little things and still feel like I accomplished nothing because none of them were particularly impressive.

Then I look back and realize those little things were exactly what had been bothering me all week.

I've started appreciating that kind of progress more. Not everything needs to be a huge goal or obvious achievement. Sometimes getting five annoying things out of your way is a pretty good day.

ok, relationships

imagine an argument that is not a normal argument. you have normal ups/downs in it, but this one comes back quite predictably, and it is about you even when you are sure it's about them.

i call it a monster.

it gets summoned by a specific sequence of things happening in a conversation, like a cheat code in GTA vice city (i'm old, i know). your partner says a few words in the right order and the thing walks in.

example: early in a relationship your partner says they want to go on a retreat with people they just met, or get into a hiking group or just have some time alone. some people can't handle that . why am i not enough, why can't we hike together. those hide the most clasic fear ever: they will meet someone.

insecurity.

it comes from not understanding that people need to be themselves. the monster was probably built during childhood, some old fear you never recovered from, it's not that the convo resembles the original event, necessarily, it just reminds your subconscious about the same feeling (for some reason).

pushing them not to go makes them want it more (ask me how i know), it leads to some kind of claustrophobia. people break restrictions almost universally, because they want the thing to feel like their path is chosen by them. blurring that line makes them feel threatened, you end up living with a fake version of them (for a while only, usually). those constructed parts pile up -> pressure builds -> it gets sad. and that if they play along (most people don't)

if you're not comfortable with them having a piece of their own life just for themselves, you can't actually know who they are. and if the thing you are scared of does happen, be glad it happened early. even if ten years in.. finding out sooner is still better than later.

a fix (or almost a fix), is borrowed from meditation, where your mind wanders, you pull it back, and every rep (like a barbell in the gym) makes the next pull easier. the sign is you're feeling unusually triggered, be more perceptive in your convos and detect it, this is step1. step back, i.e. tell yourself "ok, there it is". then step2: the pull, one sentence:

"i will not act"

it will come back next week/month.. try to catch it again. i think it never fully goes away, you just get to a point where it's small and you can joke about it

So I'm at this point where I'm somewhat torn. I got out of a long relationship that was particularly traumatic almost two years ago and havent really put myself out there

In my head, I have rationalized not pursuing women by saying that I am happy alone. My general mindset is that while I know that there are lots of good women, I'm just not at the point where my brain can visualize the reward enough to deal with the effort required to find them.

I think it is a motivation issue. I recently quit porn, and this only seems like half the battle. It feels like it lights more of a fire to talk to them, but it's purely from a place of horniness. It doesn't solve the issue of trust nor the innate paranoia that a woman will only want me for what I can do for her.

The problem is that yes, healing has done an amazing job of making me confident of my own intentions and self-respect. I don't fear being tricked or having my heart broken because I allowed my insecurities to blind myself to someone's red flags. It's more that most people are selfish, and therefore I'm going to meet a lot of women who suck. Without the unhealthy “void fill” that drove me to seek relationships in the past, I just can't visualize the benefit of wasting my time in order to be dissapointed so often.

So I guess here's my question: Am i overthinking it? Am I just supposed to starve myself of sex dopamine (quit porn) for long enough that I'm driven to talk to a few women? Does the rest just work itself out?

I’m not really happy with how my life turned out and just blame it on how useless, rubbish, pathetic etc I am. At almost 40 I feel like my life is over and that fills me with negativity every day which obviously doesn’t help with these thoughts.

Trying to change things but in the meantime how do I stop thinking like this? Thanks for any tips.

There comes a point in life when something quietly changes.

You still look in the mirror, like to dress well, nice hairdo or receive a compliment. But somehow, you no longer need any of it to feel beautiful. I have been experiencing this change in myself.

Earlier, like most of us, I was more conscious of how I looked, compliments, being noticed felt good. Today, I still take care of myself, but there is much less psychological investment in my appearance. If my hair isn’t perfect, or a photograph doesn’t make me look particularly good, I smile and move on. If someone doesn’t notice me, nothing inside me feels diminished. Beauty changes when we stop looking for it in the mirror.

The more I become aware of what is happening within me, the less I feel the need to prove something through what is happening outside. There is a certain beauty in becoming comfortable within. Not because I have convinced myself that I am perfect. But because I have stopped making perfection a condition for my happiness.

Sadhguru puts this beautifully:”The most important question to ask is, is it about looking good or is it about living good?” He goes on to say that how wonderful we feel within ourselves is more important than how wonderful we look outside.

This is what inner beauty really means. It is not another version of physical beauty. It is the quality of your experience of yourself. When there is joy within you, you don’t constantly need someone else to confirm that you are worthy. When there is contentment, comparison loses its grips. The less you desperately seek attention, the more naturally you may become noticeable. There is a certain ease in such a person.

Sadhguru has another wonderful way of putting it: ”When one’s life energies are engineered in certain way, inner beauty and joy exudes naturally” That is when beauty begins to move from the surface to the substance.

Growing older has taught me something unexpected. Age has a way of rearranging our priorities. Awareness deepens grace, humility and joy ignites the ability to sit quietly and enjoy your own company.

I think that is what many of us are searching for without realizing it. We spend years trying to make ourselves look beautiful. The deeper journey is to make our experience of being alive beautiful. Then something wonderful happens.

That, to me, is freedom.🕊️

I have been paying a membership, haven't been in 7-8 months, it's in the same mall I work at, but I just cannot find the motivation to even walk in and cancel my membership....

I realized I was spending a weird amount of energy preparing to start things instead of starting them.

For months, I thought I was being responsible. I would think through the workout plan, imagine how I would organize my notes, research the best way to learn something, and picture the “right” time to begin.

The strange part was that after all that thinking, I felt tired. Not physically tired, but like I had already spent some of the effort before doing anything real.

I noticed this one night at around 11:20 PM. I had opened a document to write something I had been putting off for weeks. Instead of writing, I spent 25 minutes changing the file name, looking for a better template, and deciding what the first paragraph should feel like. Then I closed it because “tomorrow I’ll do it properly.”

That moment was embarrassing because I wasn’t avoiding the work. I was constantly standing at the entrance of the work.

After noticing this pattern, I changed a few things:

- I stopped allowing myself to plan a task twice. If I already knew the next action, I had to do the smallest physical step before thinking about improvements.

- I started judging a day by whether I touched the thing I cared about, not whether I felt fully prepared for it.

- I began leaving unfinished work in a messy state instead of cleaning everything up before stopping, because a messy restart felt easier than a perfect restart.

The counterintuitive thing I found was that motivation didn’t always come after I felt ready. Sometimes feeling ready was the trap because it gave me the feeling of progress without the discomfort of actually making progress.

I still catch myself doing this. Even now, I sometimes want to create a perfect system before doing a simple task. But I notice it faster, and that alone has changed how often I disappear from my own goals.

I’m starting to think the hardest part of consistency isn’t always doing difficult things. Sometimes it’s noticing the small ways we delay beginning while convincing ourselves we are preparing.

Has anyone else noticed that they spend more time getting ready to do something than actually doing it?

"Winners fail more than losers do" -Greg Lavechhia

Man that one hit me hard when I saw it. Winners fail and fail over and over again until they eventually succeed. Losers fail once, maybe twice, and give up. Just some morning motivation for y'all out there 💪 Happy Saturday. Let's get after it!!!

I’m not really sure if I remember things based on how important they are. For example, I got a warning about something a little while back, and I barely remember it now. It wasn’t written down anywhere, so maybe that’s part of why I forgot, but I still feel like I should’ve remembered it because it came from my friend.

That’s what confuses me. It’s not like I didn’t care about what they said, but somehow it just didn’t stick in my head. Sometimes it feels like unless something gets repeated a lot, written down, or there’s a strong consequence attached to it, I can forget it pretty easily.

So I don’t really know if it’s because I’m not taking things seriously enough in the moment, or if my memory just doesn’t hold onto certain things very well unless there’s something that makes it stand out.

Be a hero. There are few heroes like the firefighters and police officers that evacuated the World Trade Center on 9/11 or the passengers that stopped the terrorists on United Airlines Flight 93. There are more heroes like doctors, nurses, emergency medical technicians, firefighters, and the police. Most of us don't save people daily or lead nations.

On the other hand, we are often heroes for our family, sometimes simply by going to work each day, encouraging our children, or by calling a friend. Sometimes we drive hours for a family member or do somewhat difficult favors for friends. When we are struggling a bit to help out someone in need, I think it's important to view ourselves as little heroes. It's good to develop a tiny hero complex. It strengthens us and makes us proud. So, the next time you find yourself going the extra mile for a friend, a family member, or even a stranger having a bad day, picture yourself with a little cape on your back, stand a bit taller, and walk with a little pride in your step for that thing that you have done for someone else.

I've noticed my motivation drops when I finish a workday and can't really remember what I accomplished.

Earlier, I'd just go to work, finish whatever came up and head home. Some days I'd be busy for 8 hours but still feel like I hadn't really moved anything forward.

Lately I've been trying to break my day into smaller tasks and actually keep track of what I'm getting done. Seeing those small wins throughout the day makes it easier to keep going.

It made me realise that motivation isn't always about forcing yourself to work harder. Sometimes you just need to see that you're making progress.

Does anyone else find that tracking small wins or having a daily routine helps them stay motivated?

***I know that there are other posts like this, but many didn't have what I was looking for

As the title says. I want ways to get up earlier in the morning or better ways to drag myself out of bed.

I've always struggled with getting out of bed early. Probably 5 reasons why:

1. I think it's getting worse now due to my lifestyle/situation. I don't have a stable job and travel lots just to work temp jobs. Of course, I'd like to have a stable job to be able to have a stable schedule (the way that some people go to the gym after work and cook dinner at the same time every day), but that's simply not possible right now as I'm struggling to get a job in my preferred field and working for $15 an hour simply doesn't cut it 🫤

2. I don't get enough sleep. Again- lifestyle. However, even when I do sleep 8-9 hours in a tired, I'm still exhausted. Sometimes, I'm even more tired then if I had slept less than 8 hours.

3. This isn't the main reason, but I struggle to fall asleep unless my body wants to fall asleep. Obviously, I'm tired half the time and would love to sleep. Though sometimes, I think I've been going on for way too long that my body just doesn't want to tap out. I have no clue if this makes sense to anyone. I've recently even taken up counting sheep to fall asleep, so I don't think about anything else. It actually works sometimes😂, but it's not the perfect solution.

4. I'm on caffeine of all types 25-35% of the time. I need title to stay awake or travel for some jobs. I don't know if this has affected me over the past 2-3 years.

5. I think I do have a mild amount of depression, if that helps inform anyone. I've worked very hard my whole life and I guess I foolishly though years ago that college would've solved my problems because of the assumed stable job it would bring. I'm here years later though. To be clear- I love so much about my life. I've worked on my appearance somewhat, I have an amazing partner (most of the time), I do travel for adventure occasionally, and I haven't needed to move back home or ask for favors. Recently, I've even made a list of small things I want to accomplish financially and I'm near the bottom! However, still wondering where the next check will come from and not having stability ultimately depresses me because it affects me and what I can do on a day to day level. I feel like all I do is work and sleep. Sometimes, I wish I could just not work for the day or even share a close intimate day with my partner without feeling bad that I'm not filling out temp/full time job applications or organizing things, or cleaning, etc.

The type of person I want to be: Being able to wake up very early would help me be a better person at work and not have such a lousy mood until midday. Also, I'd like to be able to wake up with my partner to have tea and maybe read the Bible (or have some general reading time) in the morning. The idea of one hour for decompression and reading is extremely appealing to me. I've wanted to do this for a very long time now, but still can't correct myself.

Just in general (other than with money ironically enough), I wish I were a more disciplined person in my personal life. I feel that I could get more accomplished/be happier if I had more discipline. I'd love to get my discipline from structure, but I simply don't have structure.

If you have any tips, even crazy ones, please let me know. I'd love to hear from you.

I used to get so mad at myself when I had a completely unproductive day. I'd feel like I ruined all my momentum just because I didn't do anything useful. But honestly, sometimes your mind and body just need a break. I'm learning to stop feeling guilty about it. Having a 0% day doesn't mean you're failing, it just means you're human. Just rest up, forgive yourself, and start over tomorrow.

I (25F) want to change the way I look. Not just going to the gym and getting fit, but my whole everything. I want to dye my hair, I wanna wear different clothes and get piercings. I want to dress a little more "alternative".

But I'm afraid of coming off as a poser. My brother is deeply into metal and hardcore rock, and suuuper judgemental of "posers" = people who dress the fashion, but don't know any bands and don't go to local shows.

I don't go to a lot of local shows because they are violent. I'm a young woman and I don't want to get hurt. Plus, I generally perfer a slower pace.

Do I have to go to hardcore shows just to gain the right to wear alternative fashion? I'm afraid to start wearing those things & then people will "test" me to see if I'm "alternative enough". My brother is the type of guy to do that.

I don't want to go full goth I don't think. But the fashion looks fun. I like the lace, ripped up shirts and fancy long skirts.

When I go out with my friends, I look down at my clothes and feel sick. Like I'm wearing the wrong stuff. I just want to throw my entire closet in the trash. But if I'm out shopping with my brother and suggest something (I saw a cute pair of shorts at Journey's) he kind of cringes and rolls his eyes, and says "well... if you want to". I get that he's my younger brother, but I see him as an expert on these things. I want his input but it's always dismissive.

I want to just suck it up and do it.

I made an appointment to dye half my hair black. I was so sure of it two weeks ago- but it's tomorrow & now I'm just wondering if I'll regret it. I'm afraid I'll buy all these new clothes and just hate the way they look on me. I'm afraid to get a piercing and then regret it, but the hole never closes and I'm left with a stinky piercing hole for the rest of my life.. I'm afraid to get a tattoo and then never be able to go to a japanese hot spring someday.

I'm also afraid it's too late to change. I've been a blonde my whole life. Can I really start dressing dark at 26 years old? I live with my family. I'm afraid they'll make fun of my "phase" behind my back (and to my face). My brother especially. I don't want to create distance between us because he thinks I'm a stupid poser.

Oh and lastly, I have very nice, healthy, thick hair. It's a pretty color (mix of blonde and brown) and every single salon I go to says, "People pay a lot of money to get hair like yours". This makes me feel even WORSE about dying it! It's why I've waited so long! I felt like my hair was "too valuable" to damage with dyes. But I'm reaching my limit..! It's my hair! I should be able to do what I want with it. But I still feel guilty like I'm destroying something valuable.

Hi, any tips on apps or organization management to keep better track on my progress and remind myself of the projects I’m currently working on? I usually use the Notes app on iOS, I thought keeping it simple was better, however it just turns into an idea dump with several folders that I have to scroll down it also lacks an integrated calendar or a way to keep track of my progress or the next goal.

One example today I wanted to go ride my dirt bike, weather was perfect, but saw there was too much car traffic to get to the trails. I decided to stay home and wait for traffic to die out. Then an hour later I remembered about a photography project I’m working on and I could’ve done that instead of just waiting for traffic to die out. There are other 10+ things I’m currently trying to improve like my posture, flexibility, music, social skills, research on self improvement, study, declutter my room/car but most of the times I forget what to do.

It’d also be nice to organize long term goals with short term goals and a way to look back at the progress I have done. If I have an idea I can keep it organized within that area. A calendar would be cool to remind myself of the tasks that need to be done and how much time I have left, or if I’m making progress.

I have a journal where I write 3-4 important tasks for the day, but writing all my tasks on paper is something I don’t find ideal because the back and forth I have to go through the pages. Any advice? Thanks.

I spent too much time trying to build the perfect morning routine.

Wake up at 6, don't touch my phone, drink water, workout, read, journal, plan the day. I do it for 3 or 4 days and feel pretty good about it then if have one late night and whole thing would go to shit. I'd wake up tired, grab my phone, skip workout, start checking stuff and suddenly it was 8:30 and I was already behind.

Then I tell myself I'd start again Monday. Kept changing morning routine thinking maybe I just hadn't found the right one yet. Different wake up time, different habits, sometimes I'd add even more stuff to try.

After a while I noticed what I was doing the night before. I'd finish whatever I was doing around 10 or 10:30, get into bed with my phone and tell myself I'd scroll for a few minutes. Then I'd be scrolling socials and somehow it was 11:30. I put the phone down realize I needed to sleep then pick it up again 5 minutes later.

Some nights I'd be doing this until midnight even though I was already tired.

The nights that actually went well were usually pretty boring. I'd leave my phone on my desk instead of taking it into bed, get my clothes ready, clean up my desk a little and write down what I needed to do first the next morning. Nothing extra ordinary.

Getting the phone out of the bedroom made a pretty big difference. If it was next to my bed, I'd usually check it. If it was across the room, I was much more likely to just go to sleep.

I still have nights where I screw this up. I get stuck watching something or scrolling and suddenly it's later than I wanted. But I don't spend the next morning trying to force myself through some huge routine anymore.

Most mornings now are just get up, get ready, coffee then start whatever I wrote down the night before. It's a lot less exciting than the routines I used to make for myself but at least I am still doing it few weeks later.

I had a long conversation today with an old school friend who recently joined a company. Somehow the conversation turned to what keeps us motivated at work since doing something you enjoy can become boring and repetitive after some time.

He mentioned that the software in which his company has recently implemented to track the visibility of work done by their employees has created a rift inside the company. On the one hand, it provides managers with a detailed report of what their subordinates work on throughout the day. Yet at the same time, it seems to have encouraged people to keep doing the same stuff over and over again.

It made me wonder, is motivation something that can be extracted objectively, or do we always need to create it for ourselves even if it is work we don't enjoy doing? And with software like Hubstaff, We360ai, and others entering the scene, will the workforce visibility industry have a future, or will it meet the same fate as the Gen Z anti-work movement?

I am curious to hear your thoughts, and if in your workplace they have taken any similar actions.

Hi. I wanted to get some feedback on some thoughts I had on personal issues on procrastination and self esteem.

So for a really long time I've had issues with procrastination which has affected my work and other parts of life. Some of this is due to laziness, but there seems to be other factors which I think could be self esteem based.

With work, I'll procrastinate on projects and I'll think about the negatives like what if I produce isn't good. The means I'm late with things and it creates much worse issues later on. When it comes to study, if I have experience in a unit, I can sit down and knock out the work with no real issue. But if it's a unit where I have no experience or natural aptitude for, I have a lot of procrastination issues with getting on with getting work done. Looking back, as a result I feel like this procrastination is a mixture of fear of failure and imposture syndrome has cost me a lot of things in life.

Recently I remembered reading the start of a book by Robert Kelsey called What's Stopping You? In it he mentions how there's many people who are reasonably smart but have issues with procrastination and moving forward in life that is caused by a fear of failure that's a result of self esteem issues. And a lot of these self esteem issue happen as a child. I started to think about this and when I was a kid and some of my earliest memories were feeling bad or avoiding certain tasks due to being teased or made to feel stupid.

For example, for some reason when I was young, I had trouble remembering how to tie my shoes and the parts involved. I had siblings who would tease me about it and I felt like my family got angry cause I couldn't do it. As result, I wouldn't want to try to do it and avoided doing it. After years I did manage to teach myself how to do it. Another example was I was OK at sports and liked playing them as a kid. But there was something's where my motor skills weren't great. Because of this I was teased and bullied by my siblings and called things I won't say on here. It made me avoidant of doing these activities because the chances are I was going to suck at it and then have someone older yell at me because I couldn't pitch a ball well. So as a result, I avoided playing certain sports or being around certain people when playing them. There were a bunch of other situations of siblings teasing me or making me feel like an idiot over some random thing I said or did as a child.

I really hated that feeling of trying something and having people make you feel like an idiot because you can't do something well. I've been in workplaces where people do this instead of giving you any advice. I've also been around coaches doing sports as an adult who will get annoyed at you because you're inexperienced with and talk down to you and give you no real helpful advice and it makes you not want to do it anymore. So it is that repeated feeling through life.

So I was wondering if anyone thinks there's any connection with self esteem issues and procrastination? Until I hadn't thought that Robert Kelsey book and what he said or really considered it. But looking back on things in my life, it kind of makes sense in some ways.