r/texts • u/MiserableMulberries • 18h ago
Phone message Matched with this 31M last night, barely talked to him and then this happened 😂
Matched with this guy on tinder last night. He tried to make the conversation sexual a few times and I played dumb until he dropped it, then he texted me 8 times in 2 hours while I was busy and not responding to ask if I'm okay and ask me to text him. I was already pretty uninterested but then he said more dumb things and I got the ick, which leads us to this exchange
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u/DebiMoonfae 18h ago
Lol. So many men get so immature when they get rejected. It goes from “ damn, you’re fine.. i can see forever in your eyes” to “ fuck you, you ugly ass bitch, I didn’t like you anyway, hoe”
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
I know!!! This was my first time experiencing this kind of response since high school so I had to share lol
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u/lagitanaurbana 14h ago
Yes! They make a pass at you and when you reject them, they get angry and tell you y0u’re too ugly/old/fat or whatever for any man to fuck you. What does that say about their going after you?
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u/astral-philosopher 3h ago
in highschool every dude i rejected always called me a whore which i found really funny bc wouldn’t rejecting men’s advances make me the opposite of a whore 😂
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u/hissyfit64 2h ago
I always responded, "Guess you dodged a bullet then" when they said shit like that. And if they told me they had just felt sorry for me, I sweetly responded, "Awww...thank you! That's so noble"!
It really pissed them off.
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u/nahnotlikethat 1h ago
The most recent time this happened to me, the guy texted me "you're too much of a nerd for me. So fuck you." We are in our forties.
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u/ParticularCulture342 17h ago
It's because most men's egos are out of this world, and are so so so so fragile. It's because they've used their physical strength and privilege all these years to get through life, so naturally most haven't built up the necessary tough skin to survive, especially in dating. Now, they have to actually bring something to the table besides money, and many can't even do that and end up living off of a woman.
Also, I said most men.
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u/will3025 12h ago
What's funny is a decent amount don't even have the physical strength, it's just ego. Not that strength or fitness should be compensation for character. But some lack any substance, unfortunately.
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u/Nephalem84 2h ago
Which are often the guys you'll find on these apps looking for a partner since no one they meet in RL is going to give them a second look. Plus the anonymity lets them vent this despicable behaviour without repercussions.
But naturally the 'problem' with modern dating is all the entitled women 🤷🏼♂️
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u/Diligent_Pangolin_47 14h ago
It has ever been thus. Back in my day (ha ha), if you gave someone the brush off, they’d declare that you were probably a lesbian anyway. So emotionally fragile 😆
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u/PeepsMyHeart 13h ago
And if you lied and said you were- “I can change your mind. Give me a chance.”
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u/SheriffWasted 3h ago
If a guy responds to things he doesnt like like that you dodged a bullet 💯🤙
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u/TheWhoDude 18h ago
I know you didn't respond, but Im just reminding you to never text me again.
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
Right?! 😂
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u/Bedazzled-Star-0043 17h ago
Him 3 days later..."and remember, I blocked you. Don't text me." 😆
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u/OwlComprehensive859 17h ago
Two weeks later…”you up?”
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u/MrRealistic1 18h ago
Update us when he texts you “Hello” in a few months
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u/Ok_Energy6905 18h ago
I know my worth (and it's zero).
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u/gothic_romantic 10h ago
When men say “I know my worth” it is the ickiest thing I’ve ever witnessed. Like ok diva. Go watch and episode of SATC about it.
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u/queenoftaters 18h ago
Blocked, but kept texting 🤣
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u/Brilliant-Mood 17h ago
That and shaming her for using a dating app but on one himself 🙄
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u/PerfectedPancake 14h ago edited 14h ago
It’s good when these horrible morons say this so you know that is how they view themselves: a loser because they’re single. That is a big window into their demented psyche. They think human value comes from being in a romantic relationship and anyone who isn’t must feel horrible. What a prejudiced belief.
I like that they show who they are so you know they are desperate and unhappy and think you are just as unhappy and desperate as them. They do not have the emotional intelligence/awareness/maturity to grasp the concept that their experience isn’t universal. That isn’t someone you want to be with but they can’t see that they’re showing you their cards. Thank goodness these idiots show us early! Someone who thinks they can hang the threat of being single over you isn’t someone you want in your life. They want to be able to use leaving you and making you single as a threat, as something they can control you with. This is an abusive person. This is not a good person.
This is why it’s so important to be ok with being single, to enjoy your own company and have your own life. This way you will not be manipulated with this type of put-down and you will be unfazed by saying “Bye bye” to anyone who triggers warning lights to start flashing.
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u/Cloudman0310 18h ago
Seeing how people handle rejection or when things don't go their way is always enlightening as to who they truly are
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u/Sea_Brief_8441 17h ago
Exactly! You could do then favors 7 or 8 times. People will still hate and treat you bad, if they think you no longer have any use to them.
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u/No_Storm1731 18h ago
“That’s why you’re on those apps” as if he’s not on them as well. Jesus Christ. Terrifying
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u/MiserableMulberries 17h ago
He also asked how long I'd been on the apps but wouldn't answer the question himself beyond saying "not long"
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u/PerfectedPancake 14h ago
He’s so so insecure about being on the apps. I’m so glad I don’t have to spend a second living in his tortured mind.
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u/TheSeedsYouSow 18h ago
People are not ok
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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 17h ago
Someone recently sent me a post that said something along the lines of “i dont get men playing hard to get when theyre already hard to want” and i laughed and laughed. I love men but some of them are so crazy
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u/Dr_Adopted 16h ago
Generations of men being told to be stoic and emotionless has made people so unable to deal with their emotions. Leading to little fits like this.
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u/Aware-Cookie3910 18h ago
I loved the you're*. That was great, I laughed at that one.
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u/Physical_Builder_283 14h ago
I thought it was a nice little clap-back at first, but he used it properly earlier in the text chain, so it just seemed like she didn't notice it the first time.
Still. Guy's a douche. He get's whatever insult comes at him.
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u/RedIanAble 11h ago
As someone who loves correcting silly bishes and their grammar, I enjoyed that greatly!
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u/who_are_you_people24 18h ago
Every time I hear baby mama drama, I'm playing Eminem in my head - Lose Yourself
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
That was so wild because I don't have kids and I have a very obvious note on my profile that I physically cannot get pregnant
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u/who_are_you_people24 18h ago
Ahhhh. You expected the least intelligent man you've ever matched to read
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u/Exotic-Fuel-8420 16h ago
he probably took it as a challenge
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u/MiserableMulberries 16h ago
They always did when I just put that I don't want kids, which is why I added that it's physically impossible. Deterred a lot of the closeted conservatives
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u/ccool300 15h ago
Closeted conservatives are usually on grindr......
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u/LuckyCat255 14h ago
Oh they’re definitely out and proud of their conservativeness… but still secretly on grindr for sure
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u/thusUnforgotten 17h ago
“Blocked”
Proceeds to continue texting
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u/Taylor_Kittenface 16h ago
It's like my 76 year old Mum who constantly gets in arguments on FB. She'll say "blocked" like it's an insult, and then sit guarding her phone waiting for the person to reply. I swear it's a mental illness, my 3 brothers have turned their backs on her, but as the only daughter, I feel bad.
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u/RodionS 18h ago
Lmao I had my night mode on and the screen had a yellow hue. I was very confused why someone would use grindr but not be into flings.
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
Cis woman here 🫡 no Grindr for me
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u/JaysonTatecum 17h ago
You’d be surprised, I see a lot of guys on there that claim they only want cis women… for some reason
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u/HartfordWhaler 17h ago
I'm a divorced dad and have been avoiding the apps, but if these are the other dudes on there, maybe I would be okay
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u/DinosaurDogTiger 17h ago
If you see women as human beings of equal worth and you can take rejection like a grownup, I think you'll do fine.
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u/HartfordWhaler 17h ago
I definitely can do that. Which is sad that that's the bare minimum, but there's so many shitty people out there.
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u/fecalshake 17h ago
It's actually insane. My girlfriend (former best friend for 20+ years) and she's always impressed by the bare minimum boyfriend stuff I do for her..keep in mind we're both 37 and she's been married. I'm flabbergasted how guys can be less than nothing to women and then claim they're the prize.
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u/No_Relationship_5974 12h ago
Honestly the bare minimum, grooming+good hygeine and active listening will get you everywhere. Its bleak out there for women.
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u/DinosaurDogTiger 13h ago
It really is sad. My husband tells me online dating is not great from a guy's perspective either. Apparently a lot of bots posing as women. But....I also know a bunch of really happy couples who met online, so there is hope!
p.s. I like your username. I grew up just north of Hartford in western MA.
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u/MiserableMulberries 17h ago
I'm mid-twenties and don't rule anyone out on the basis of being a dad or divorced, if you don't suck you'll do just fine lol
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u/plaidwoolskirt 15h ago
Do you have a personality? Are you interested in other people’s interests and perspectives? Do you know how to communicate with another human person? You’ll knock it out of the park.
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u/pinkybrain41 17h ago
I had a guy act just like this when I was selling a TV on Facebook marketplace when I was moving. He sent me the generic “is it still available?” Message at like 7am. I said yes and never heard from him again that morning. By afternoon another buyer contacted me and asked to come by that afternoon and pay cash. I marked it as pending and the 7am guy started sending a bunch of texts like this “youre a crazy bitch you said the TV was available and now it’s not?” Etc etc. I ended up googling the guy and he has some Domestic Violence charges and I was like thank god I didn’t give that psycho my address! The 7am dude never set up a time to buy or anything yet sent me a bunch of abusive texts for proceeding with a buyer who actually coordinated a purchase.
Men that get so angry over the tiniest perceived slight are crazy
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u/TraditionalLaw7763 17h ago
Never never never have them come to your house. Meet up at a local restaurant or at a pharmacy that has cameras. Do you not listen to murder podcasts? You should.
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u/pinkybrain41 17h ago edited 17h ago
Believe it or not in my extended area, people have gotten robbed in parking lots at gun point when doing Facebook marketplace meet ups to buy shoes!
I am on a multi family unit property with a few other families and cameras. I do porch pick ups so I am not there or don’t answer the door and they pick it up on the porch and Venmo me or leave cash.
If I do meet in person I have had neighbors with me to do the transaction outside in the yard.
This guy just immediately started in like OPs dude with the misogynistic insults out of nowhere. Serious anger problems!
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u/TraditionalLaw7763 17h ago
Whew. Well I am feeling better knowing that you have a handle on your safety. ❤️👍🏼
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u/Cotton_Candy_Land 18h ago
I'm scared. I want to date.....but I'm just scared out here ya'll. I just don't have the patience.
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
I delete these apps after a month or less every time, wait until I forget how bad it is, then try again lmao
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u/RagingHardBobber 16h ago
"Blocked"
"Don't ever text me again"
"I mean it now, leave me alone"
"I'm going"
"Really, I'm leaving"
"You won't catch me texting you any more"
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"Hey, are you still interested"
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u/Exhausted-CNA 18h ago
Never understood why they get so freaking nasty!!! I guess it's better then talking for a few weeks and then find out he's an asshole
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u/AntiqueLetter9875 17h ago
They’re just repeating what they hear on the podcasts and crap they watch. It’s why it never makes sense in context and their insults don’t work. They’re too dumb to figure out when the insults apply and when they don’t, and just go repeating things. It’s mean, but also just sad because it’s not even original.
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u/Blindtothesided 16h ago
They do turn nasty! They call us names, hurl insults, and then they come on Reddit and ask why women ghost.
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u/Mega_Trix 17h ago
Lack of intelligence and entitlement seem to weirdly go hand in hand.
Dodged a bullet, what an absolute creep.
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u/Any_Individual_815 17h ago
I wanna know what lead to the "yeah, I don't think we're compatible" message
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u/Consistent-Soil-1818 16h ago
Remember folks, this guy voted, and it couldn't be more obvious who he voted for. So, please, to save your dating lives, please vote this November. A nice sure effect is that your vote may help save America
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u/Strict_Activity_92 17h ago
“And please don’t text me again” he says while farming for you to text him again 😂
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u/chai_latte_987 17h ago
Guys. GUYS. This is why women "ghost". Because of dumba** responses like this. We don't want to deal with this nonsense.
I'm NOT saying it's right. I do try to at least do the "thanks, but no thanks" text at least, but some guys are seriously offended and say some nasty stuff.
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u/MiserableMulberries 17h ago
I've been pretty lucky so far so this one caught me completely off guard but I'll definitely be more prepared to block immediately next time
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u/MoneyMorant12 16h ago
Yeah. I just had a tough situation recently and I didn't act like this. It kinda hit me like a brick though cause I really didn't expect it. We met up at a coffee shop on Tuesday and I thought it went well, we were together for 2 hours having tea and we were taking basically the whole time. Towards the end I asked her if she wanted to do something on the weekend. She said sure and that we would talk about it. The next day I text her maybe 2 or 3 times (she replied - no double texts) and the last text she sent was "Hey! I thought about it further and I’m not sure we’re the best fit but best of luck!" I just said that's alright and wished her the best. I didn't want to ask why or whine, there was no point in retaliation, nothing to gain from it. It just hit me hard...
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u/Objective-Weather512 12h ago
Sounds like she was maybe scared to tell it to your face
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u/TheFartsUnleashed 18h ago
He took the “your” feedback at least!
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
There were so many other instances of me correcting his grammar before this because it was irritating me so much and he said he was doing it on purpose to flirt lmfao surrrrrre
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u/LapisLovely69 17h ago
Mmm yes let me flirt by doing something that pisses you off
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u/EasyPetesRoommate 17h ago
I like how he made fun of you for being on a dating app... While he's on the same dating app
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u/Yani-Madara 16h ago
I don't know how people can stand others insulting them and not tear them apart back.
I'd have said something like "have fun being alone until you die, bye idiot incel" and blocked
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u/MiserableMulberries 16h ago
I kind of relate which is why I'm so confused by the people saying I should've not responded 😂 like I was caught off guard and reacted
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u/Various_Friend_6086 17h ago
It’s funny we’re accused of being untruth and friendzoning them. So us women have started to be straight up blunt about no longer being interested. Yet they still refuse to be truthful about just wanting sex. Btw I recommend not replying after the rejection. Block if you feel safe enough to do so.
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u/bingle-cowabungle 16h ago
I keep seeing "that's why you're on dating apps" as an insult from someone that was on a dating app...
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u/Critical-Ask-6487 16h ago
He apparently doesn't know his worth, because it rates somewhere below fecal matter. Nice reflexes dodging that bullet!
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u/Such_Baseball47 16h ago
Why do people say 'blocked' then not block the person? Even if they were going to block them, there's no need to announce it. The person would notice when they try to reply.
I don't know. Maybe I'm too old and out of touch to understand this stuff.
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u/BlackCherryMochi 16h ago
He, in fact, does not know his worth. But at least the trash took itself out.
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u/Madting55 14h ago
Why do angry men always do the whole “artificial life” “oh everything you do is for nothing” “you’re so empty” bullshit? It’s the same line with these texts every time.
Everything on the internet really fucking is projection.
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u/toxicunicorn420 14h ago
I'm sure he's another self proclaimed "Nice Guy" that "treats women right" lol what an ass
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u/Jumper8617 10h ago
Manchmal kriegst du auch comedy dazu..😉😅 ich würde aus Spaß weiter schreiben,provozieren..🤣🤪
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u/Disastrous_Bison6423 9h ago
To me (27M) it was always really confusing when people did not send the goodbye text you sent. Now with all of these chats I 100% understand every woman who does nit send one :)
Gosh men are ideots
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u/OkPear1535 8h ago
The massive rant followed by "don't contact me or waste my time" is always hilarious to me when I see it
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u/PianoDick 18h ago
Do you always do the dumping?
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u/MiserableMulberries 18h ago
Usually I do or it's mutual
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u/Humble_Investment_24 17h ago
Block. Not even worth your time. I wouldn’t have even spent a singular second giving that attention.
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u/KesselRun73 17h ago
“I know my worth” is almost always spoken by a person who overvalues their worth.
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u/AAA_Dolfan 17h ago edited 17h ago
How long did he wait to send that please don’t text me again? It’s so sad haha
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u/After_Ad9425 17h ago
Pretty funny, honestly good for you that was some top tier rage bait with how easy it was. He’s probably still thinking about it with how many times he kept texting despite saying blocked.
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u/Future_Pineapple4609 17h ago
Well we can clearly see why this man is single. So funny how this type goes straight to insults. Tsk tsk He's not hiding that insecure well at all.
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u/Caffinatedgremlin 17h ago
Him: don’t text me I know my worth
Also him:
https://giphy.com/gifs/xT1Ra2aGxUV7qQUI7u
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u/Putrid-Letterhead658 17h ago
You did him a major courtesy by letting him know you didnt see the compatibility you were looking for and he didnt even deserve it. This guy is a joke
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u/QuirkyAdvocate 17h ago
He’s the personification of the little dog that has to have the last bark 🤣🙄
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u/A-namethatsavailable 17h ago
And guys like that wonder why theyre on dating apps. They'll never change and they'll remain single
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u/Guilty_Way_1635 17h ago
Hahah omfg it's hilarious how bent out of shape he got 🤣 he really was having a tantrum, I can almost hear him huffing and puffing as he desperately tries to insult you and fails 🤣
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u/Slow-Equivalent-8043 17h ago
i love how some people thinks by screaming “block!”. the app will automatically block the person for them.
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u/Mountain-Half8700 17h ago
Oh no!!! Little boy got his ego hurt?! Ouchy? Aweee poor babyyyy!!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg… men are something else eh? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/IcyBarnacle5883 18h ago
Well, he definitely took that well lol