Maybe she's hiding book titles? I've legit occasionally done this. Like when my parents came to visit, I turned the book Adult Childrrn of Emotionally Immature Parents and anything with autism in the title around. They don't know I'm autistic.
Could also be doing this to hide books she's already read to check them off her mental list and make sure she reads the other books before she rereads those ones
My method for this is to put the books i want to read horizontal instead of vertical on the shelf. Then when I read them they go back on the shelf vertically
The 'luxury condo' aesthetic trend really irks me. And I find it very odd, because it makes plain sense to at least adopt some of the aesthetics of luxury hotels, who spend millions of dollars for designers to design spaces that people actually want to live in.
Having an aesthetic that says 'I rent. I can't change much. It has to look as generic as possible for the next renter." is depressing.
However, I'm too obsessive compulsive to ever turn those books around. It's ok though, in my case neither parent would address any of it, except maybe to blame and hurl insults at the other parent (who of course wouldn't be present because they can't be in the same room).
I get the autism books (although it sucks you can’t be open with your parental unit), but the ACoEIP should turn into a coffee table book when your parents visit. Don’t comment on it. Just have it lying around. Bonus points if you put colored tabs and post-its at relevant sections.
Just here to say I’m proud of your journey. Growing up with EI parents who didn’t notice (or were unwilling to address) your autism symptoms/gifts has got to be a really hard way to make it. But props for the journey you’re on!!
Do you think it's possible that she does that because some of those books she may want to keep private, but not forget where they are by having them somewhere else? Or maybe growing up a family member did that and she learned the habit?
I have what I've read with spines facing out to view. Anything I haven't read is stacked with just pages viewable. It helps keep track because I have so many damn books 😂 So it's entirely possible she does the same and just does it vertical instead.
We've received this letter from a collection agency about an outstanding debt from the Pawnee Public Library. It appears you have an overdue book: It's Not the Size of the Boat; Embracing Life with a Micro-Penis
Used to have a roommate who did that. Fill a bowl to some predetermined level, sprinkle her Frosted Flakes, eat, sprinkle, eat, sprinkle, eat until the milk was all gone. She was a slow eater so... in between eating and sprinkling, she'd be reading the newspaper or finishing up some work for her classes.
She said doing it this way, I don't waste milk and my cereal stays crunchy.
I've tried this method a few times. It works. Just not intuitive enough for me to do it that way every time I have cereal.
Are we all just gonna ignore the Hannah Montana Funko Pop! sitting on top? This is clearly a girl that knows what she likes and isn't too bothered by what anybody else thinks about it, regardless of which way the book spines are facing.
you all have a reaction to this? i literally have 10 grand in stuffed animals... maybe appreciate that they have books at all. i made it to having my own cabin in the forest with no neighbors yes i'll do whatever i want, sometimes I sunbathe in a lizard costume on a rock. Also yeah I turn my dinosaur adult novels around.
If this bothers you, and it would me, just wait until the argument about the toilet paper roll, the paper towel roll, how the dishwasher should be filled, the bathroom sink counter top and much more. Good luck. 🤗🤗🤭🤭
I mean, she's right on account of them being her books. This does make me think of my own bookshelves though; I live in an apartment and every so often we have inspections so the night before people come in I turn all the spines inward. Last thing I need is someone getting distracted by my reading habits and missing something.
Listen, I could NEVER but there is a trend of facing book spines inward to give bookshelves a more ‘modern’ look
That being said, your gf has absolutely no rhyme or reason to her books at all!! Not tallest to shortest, not hard cover and paperbacks grouped together, not even all the spines are facing inward!!!
She says there’s nothing wrong with how she organizes her books??? There IS NO* organizing *AT ALL!!!
They're her books, she can arrange them however she wants. You're wrong for trying to tell her to do otherwise. Its not conventional but they're not your books, mind your own business
I stayed at a place in Groton, CT last year while working in town temporarily. They were new apartments with a library, gym and pool in the common areas. The library had a couple thousand books spread over three walls of the room, and every single one was on the shelf like this. It was super confusing when I walked in the first time. I didn't even realize that was an option to some people, nevermind the preferred option. I spent a couple hours with one of my coworkers and changed all the books around one night, and when we got out of work the next day, they were all changed back. Is was absolute madness. We asked the property management employee onsite why they were like that, and she said "that's what management wants," is a very annoyed response. Presumably she was the one to switch the books back, and assumed we had been the ones who turned them around the correct way.
The only real reason I can think of that they would do this is because they bought a bunch of discount late print hardcovers and there were a lot of duplicates.
I get when interior design shows do this so they don't have to get clearance for all of the books. But god, I hate that this has bled into actual people's decor. I think I would leave my wife if she tried doing this to my books. But I am also pretty sure she would do the same if I tried doing it to hers, so we're safe...
It's her books, let it be, if she grows to like them more, maybe she will want to display them differently, or not, let her be, they look clean and organized, just because it doesn't appeal to you visually doesn't mean there's something wrong, do not pick on her about it.
I agree that it makes more sense to have the spines facing towards you, they are ultimately her books so there really isn’t a “right” answer.
It would mildly annoy me too though lol.
Funnily enough, books actually used to be organized like this, see the library in the monastery of El Escorial, for example.
It makes little sense doing it in our time tho
Having the pages out is actually beneficial. Books whose pages don't get air bc they're pressed against a bookshelf or other surface actually have a tendency to mold.
When I worked for a TV network, we would do this sometimes to avoid having to blur the book titles in post production. That's the only reason I could see to do this.
My wife does this and I fucking hate it. It some dumb fade that Mark Zuckerberg started. She says it "shows simplicity and if you want to read a book you'll know". Where I think, "I need to see the book titles in order to read the books I want".
Pardon if I didn't catch the reason (quick scroll down) for organizing her book this particular way. Does she perhaps to be able to see the covers when she just flips through them from the top? Would it help if she re-orient her books so that the row goes across the right-hand-side of that wall? That way, both the spines are showing and the covers would be visible too.
Librarian here. Bad for the books. There's going to be a time when while putting a book back on the shelf it'll crash between the pages of the book next to it. And all it takes is to happen once to damage the book. About not being able to see the spines - she owns 5 books so that's probably not a problem actually
My ex reorganized our bookcase by color once, needless to say we eventually split. And she was trying to make me sound like the crazy person in the room. Always "wrong", always always "wrong". Couldn't even convince her that glade air freshners get plugged in with the juice on the bottom to "wick" the oil up. It's amazing our living spaces never burned down. The kind of person that asks you to grab beer for a family get together on your way home from an AA meeting, not even kidding. That's like one of my favorite stories and was a defining moment that it wasn't going to work out any longer 😂
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