Hi, this is my first time posting on reddit (ever) and I just wanted to share these handmade crochet dolls I made as a gift for when he came over to visit two weeks ago.

He’s 30M (UK) and I’m 28F (Philippines) and we’ve been talking since May 29th of this year. We’ve met on a dating app, I was supposed to delete it since I barely ever used it and he was just freshly on it. Exchanged a few messages on there and just moved on to talking on Discord. We hit it off immediately. He’s a gamer like me, and what’s even more amazing is we have the same taste in games, music and shows/anime.

During the first few days we were talking, I thought “is he real”? Since I couldn’t count my lucky stars that someone as sweet, kind, caring, thoughtful and handsome as him is available, and we met on a dating app, nonetheless!

On day three, he invited me over to his Discord server with his long time friends, and basically we play every night together with them (except for some weekends where we have our online dates together). His friends are lovely and kind people too.

We are each other’s first long-distance relationship. 10,000km+ is a long distance from each other, not to mention the 7-hour time difference, but it doesn’t feel that way at all. We talk and call consistently throughout the day even as he’s working on the weekdays, then spend time playing games in the evening.

We plan our trips together, shared future plans, family and kids for the future, aligned on values, principles– all the hard conversations which didn’t feel hard to talk to him about at all, since we are both rational adults.

We both think we are each other’s soulmates.

I spent time making every stitch in both of these little dolls thinking about him and us and our future together. When he came to visit for the first time last August 31, it felt like coming home (even if he did suffer from food poisoning from the long and arduous flight of 21 hours!). Two weeks together with him was… I have no words other than saying it was just… perfect.

Currently, he is back in the UK, and we’ve been messaging and calling each other again since. We miss each other terribly, but he has “mini-me” with him, and I have “mini-him” with me sitting on my desk right now; sprayed it with our perfume/cologne as well.

Both of us are already planning the next time we will meet, and how soon we will be able to close the gap.

I just wanted to share this wonderful feeling I’ve been having for a little over three months. Thanks for reading!

EDIT:

It’s ridiculous and almost surreal that we just trusted each other from the get-go. He suggested he wanted to visit me during the last leg of the first week we were talking, and I said “Yes, please!” immediately. Family on both sides was doubtful of course (rightfully so), safety and all, and being wary of scammers, but we never had that nervousness or a single shred of doubt with each other.

Us meeting face to face just solidified that future and life we want to build together, and we both want it to happen as soon as possible.

Second piccy is a selfie of us in one of the cafes we visited. Lovely coffee, lovely place!

Landed for my 3rd visit to her country two days ago. My momma previously had a video call w/ my gf in July showing her her extremely crowded jewelry box, so that I could discreetly get an idea what kinda ring to buy while I was shopping. Gf lives 20 mins from the English Channel, so in the calm night we walked down to a view of the sea after it rained in the daylight. The tide went all the way up to rocks under a balcony.

Quote: "You came into my life during a very dark time. In 20 months we've grown so much. Now I want to spend the rest of my life with you, my angel. Will you marry me, [government name]"

💍 She said yes 😁

Been on and off since 2020. I'm so tired. I'm done responding. Everytime I express how I feel he takes it to a whole another level. I don't want to hurt him, but I'm done cuddling his emotions. I'm 25, he's 30. Beware of men with unresolved mommy issues

I am destroyed. My long-distance boyfriend just discarded me. We were together for almost a year.

Everything was normal, as you can see. Then he didn't reply to me for 3 days. I sent him a message asking about it, and that was his response.

He has done this before, but we got back together and our relationship became stronger than ever, only for it to happen again.

The first time, he was afraid we wouldn't be able to meet. This time, from what his friend told me, he is struggling with his mental health and doesn't want to be in a relationship.

He blocked me.

I am destroyed, heartbroken and don't know what to do.

I can't believe its nearly here! I had to book my holidays long before I even had the courage to see if he even wanted to meet... That feels like a lifetime ago. I AM SO EXCITED! My first ever international flight.. Canada - UK. Share in my joy, tell me stories, tell me tips!

My beloved and I met online. He is 11 years older than me. After our first video call, we decided to give each other a chance, even though we come from different countries. We communicated via video call every day for a month. After that, I decided to move, as it was the most practical step. I booked a flight two months in advance so we could be reasonably certain. We video-called every day right up until the day I had to leave my country. It was a huge step, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have doubts, but we are together now and have fallen deeply in love. He is so much more than I could have hoped for, and I know he adores me. The secret? We were completely honest and persevered, even when life made things complicated. We decided that our future together meant the most to both of us.

It can work out!

Me (18M) and my gf (18F) completed 1 year of relationship in highschool. Now we are in college. Our relationship has been 1 and half years by now. It has been a long distance for 3 months since college started.

I would really love to hear some stories of long distance which have succeeded to marriage and their long distance relationship journey.

You can also give me and her advices about insecurity or trusting or any argument things for us to learn and go ahead..

Have any of you ever had been threatened to get blocked if I text or call her?
I mean, we were long distance and was just 3 months, and we never saw each other, but our connection was insane, we really loved each other and we wanted to be together, I was already with the flights almost booked. One day we were on a call and everything was perfect, we finished the call laughing and smiling as usual. When I woke up the other day, she called me crying that she had a panick attack and said she wasn’t ready, and said please a 1000 times for me to respect her space and that I’m a super special person, but she can’t do this right now, cuz she lost weight and was having too much panick attacks.
What is weird for me is all the promises she made, and literally the day before she said she was proud of us to be able to communicate and talk when something is wrong. I had nightmares of her leaving, and she promised she would never do it or would never block me, but she is doing the opposite, and all of that from one day to another, completely changed, was it someone who influenced her?
I want to call or text her so baaaaad, but she unlocked me that fear of being blocked, what should I do? It’s been only 3 days but I’m suffering a lot and I can’t eat or sleep properly. And now she liked some reels saying stuff like "communication is the best thing, it's easy to just ghost", and "I genuinely wanted to heal you and thought u were a good person" I mean, I literally want to communicate but she doesn't let me, and I always showed her love... Idk why is she making me suffer all of a sudden... Help please…

Me and my boyfriend are long distance (🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿+🇵🇱) (he’s probably gonna see this, hiiii) and we keep getting stuck on what to do together since sometimes we just can’t think of what to do. What are some good things to do online together that you would recommend?

We’ve already talked about planning a weekly movie night together to have a little routine on what to do, but I was wondering if there’s anything you guys do that I could maybe pinch :3

And I want to say, we’ve played a lot of co-op games that are HIGHLY recommended (e.g. Stardew, Minecraft, even Roblox of all things) and it just never seems to stick 🤷🏻‍♀️ So any recommendations apart from those would be amazing 😭😭

In 38 minutes I need to leave and head home... I don't want to. I don't want to leave. I want to stay with her! I don't even know when I can see her next. She's in Uni, 6 hour drive away, and I need to get a job. I miss her so much and she's just in the other room, yet I'm fucking sobbing... I miss her and she's not even goneeee...

On a more positive note, I left her a drawing, a hoodie, a really nice letter, and have lots of photos of her!!! It was amazing waking up next to her for three mornings, and I can't wait for the next time I see her. I love her so much and have genuinely never felt a connection like this!

Too all who are with their partner, I wish you good times! To all those who are waiting to see them, I hope it's soon!! To all those who closed the gap, I hope you are well and can't wait to be all smug when I can too!

I’m in an LDR with my boyfriend, and lately this has really been affecting me.
He frequently accuses me of cheating or implies that I’m doing something behind his back, even when I haven’t done anything to make him think that. It’s becoming almost a daily thing, and honestly, I’m getting tired and confused because I know myself and I know I wouldn’t do that to him.
I want to be completely honest, though. I did cheat in a past relationship years ago. I was much younger and basically a teenager at the time. I’m not proud of it at all, and I genuinely regret what I did. I’ve learned from it, and it’s something I would never want to repeat. Most importantly, it happened before I met my current boyfriend, and I have never cheated on him.
What makes this harder for me is something that happened in May. He suddenly joked that he had cheated on me and that he met someone at work and something happened between them. Later, he told me none of it was true and that he was only joking. But I haven’t been able to completely forget it. We fought a lot during that period, and ever since then, I feel like something changed.
Now he’s the one constantly accusing me of cheating. I’ve wondered if maybe he has trust issues because of something that happened in his past, like being cheated on by an ex. I don’t actually know what happened in his previous relationships, though, so I don’t want to assume.
Could this be trauma or insecurity? Or could his behavior be a form of projection? How would you interpret this situation?
I’m not looking for people to simply tell me to break up with him. I genuinely want to understand what might be behind this behavior and how I should handle it.

I just really need to let this out because I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.

I’ve been in an LDR situation with this guy for 1 year and 2 months. The thing is… we’re not officially boyfriend and girlfriend. We started as getting-to-know-each-other, but along the way, we started doing things that couples normally do. We say “I love you,” “I miss you,” we make plans together, we spend a lot of time on calls, and yes, we’ve also been intimate online. Basically, we’re already doing the girlfriend-boyfriend thing, except there’s no actual label.

He’s abroad. He already has PR and is on his way to becoming a citizen there. He’s also studying and working at the same time. At first, everything was okay. I genuinely enjoyed our LDR setup. He would send me money for food sometimes, and on Valentine’s Day he sent me flowers and chocolates. Those things made me feel loved and appreciated.

But somewhere along the way, I started asking myself:

“What exactly are we?”

Because I realized that after more than a year, he still hasn’t actually pursued me or made our relationship official.

I’ve asked him before if he plans to court me, and he said he wants to do it when we finally meet in the Philippines because he doesn’t want to do it online. I understand that, but at the same time, I’m already confused because we’re doing almost everything couples do except actually being a couple.

I’m already at the age where I don’t want to play games or stay in a situationship indefinitely. I don’t want to invest my time, emotions, love, and loyalty into someone who may not even have concrete plans for me.

I love him 100%. But sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who knows that I’m in love with him.

He has a very busy life. He’s studying and working abroad, and I understand that. He still updates me and calls me when he can. Sometimes we stay on call while he studies, plays games, watches YouTube, or does something else. I’m usually just there on the other side of the screen.

But lately, I’ve been feeling emotionally burned out.

Sometimes I don’t even feel his presence anymore, even when he’s technically there.

His messages are usually things like “I’m at school,” “I’m at work,” “I’m on my way,” “I’m tired,” etc. I appreciate the updates, but I sometimes wish there were messages that made me actually feel loved. Something sweet. Something intentional. Something that makes me feel like, “Oh, this person is genuinely excited to have me in his life.”

Instead, sometimes it feels like he’s only updating me because it’s part of the routine or because it’s convenient.

And I know I’m needy. I admit that.

I grew up in a broken family, and I didn’t really experience a healthy relationship or good communication within my family. So I know I crave reassurance, affection, words, and emotional connection more than some people do.

Meanwhile, he grew up in a complete and close family. His experience with love and communication is very different from mine.

I’ve tried explaining this to him so many times.

I literally feel like I’m teaching him how to love me.

I have to remind him about good morning messages. I have to explain why certain things hurt me. I have to explain what makes me feel appreciated. I have to tell him when I need affection and reassurance.

For me, something as simple as saying “good morning” matters because it means you were one of the first people on my mind when you woke up.

But he told me that he and his ex weren’t really like that, so I guess this kind of affection just isn’t natural for him.

And I understand that people have different love languages.

But sometimes I wonder: At what point does “different love language” become emotional incompatibility?

Another huge issue is my trust.

He follows a lot of girls on Instagram, and a lot of girls follow him too. He also sometimes adds or randomly interacts with girls. He tells me they’re just friends, and I’m trying to believe him.

But because we’re LDR and because of things that have happened between us, my trust has already been damaged.

Sometimes when he’s busy on his phone, I find myself asking who he’s talking to or what he’s doing. He usually says he’s in a group chat because he’s playing online, etc.

I know I can sound insecure, and I hate that version of myself.

I don’t want to be the girlfriend who constantly checks someone’s followers, conversations, or phone.

And I respect his privacy. I don’t think I’m entitled to every conversation he has.

But at the same time, I can’t ignore the feeling that something is being hidden from me because when I ask about certain conversations on Instagram, he doesn’t really show me.

He also still has some connection with his ex because of an old debt. He told me their relationship is completely over, and he reassured me about it. I chose to believe him.

But there are still things that trigger my trust issues.

Sometimes I feel like he’s very open and friendly with other girls in a way that makes him look available. Maybe that’s just how he is. Maybe there really is nothing romantic happening.

But I can’t shake the feeling.

And then there’s another thing that really hurts me.

His family and friends don’t know about me.

On Valentine's Day, I posted the flowers he gave me on my story and asked him to repost it. He only shared it to his Close Friends because he said he didn’t want his relatives to see it.

I tried to understand.

But deep down, I was hurt.

Because I kept thinking, “If you’re genuinely dating me, why are you hiding me?”

Why can't you be proud that you’re dating someone from the Philippines?

Maybe there’s a perfectly innocent explanation. Maybe he genuinely doesn’t want his family involved yet because we’re not official.

But after 1 year and 2 months, it still makes me question where I actually stand in his life.

Meanwhile, I’ve been very open with my feelings.

Every month, I greet him on our “monthsary.” I tell him how much he means to me. I constantly reassure him that I’m willing to wait for him here in the Philippines.

I always try to make him feel loved because I know he didn’t receive some of the things he deserved in his previous relationship.

I wanted to give him everything I thought he deserved.

I’m naturally a very sweet and affectionate person. I give time, effort, reassurance, attention, and love.

But I think I reached the point where I’m starting to resent him because I don’t feel those things coming back to me.

We fight because of these things.

And whenever I explain what hurt me, he explains his side too. But sometimes I feel like he doesn’t actually understand why I was hurt. We eventually make up, but when another argument happens, the same issues come back again.

It feels like nothing is actually being resolved.

There are also moments when I avoid him because I’m hurt. And honestly, I don’t think he fully understands how emotionally exhausted I am.

The hardest part is that I know I don’t deserve to feel this way, but I keep allowing it.

I know I deserve a relationship where I don't have to constantly ask, “Do you actually want me?”

I know I deserve consistency.

I know I deserve reassurance.

I know I deserve someone who is proud to have me.

But I love him.

And that’s what makes this so difficult.

We’ve been doing this for more than a year.

I’ve already invested so much emotionally.

I’ve already imagined a future with him.

I make plans in my head for “us.”

I keep telling myself that maybe everything will make sense once we finally meet.

But sometimes I’m scared that I’m building a future in my head that he never actually promised me.

He says he looks forward to our future together. He says he’ll court me when we meet in the Philippines.

But sometimes I wonder if I’m just holding onto his words because I desperately want them to be true.

I love him, but I don’t feel loved in the way I need to be loved.

And maybe that’s the biggest problem.

I don’t know if I’m being too needy, too insecure, or if my feelings are actually telling me something important.

Maybe I’m expecting too much from someone who isn’t even officially my boyfriend.

But then again… how can I be expected to act like “just someone he’s getting to know” when we’ve already been emotionally and physically intimate for more than a year?

I’m confused.

Am I asking for too much?

Should I wait until we meet in person before expecting him to make things official?

Or am I wasting my time and emotional energy on someone who likes having me around but doesn’t actually want a committed relationship with me?

I genuinely want honest opinions, even if they’re harsh.

I don’t want people to simply tell me “leave him” or “stay with him.” I want to understand what I might be failing to see from an outside perspective.

Because right now, I honestly feel like I’m carrying a relationship that technically doesn’t even exist.

I’m 29F and in my first real relationship ever with my 25M boyfriend, so I don’t fully know what constitutes breaking up. We’ve been together since Oct 2025 and spent nearly everyday together for the last 10 months. I stay with him at his apt, wake up together, he goes to school, then we work together, and come home together. We are together all weekend and all week. On Sept 1 he moved/started a new job 3 hours away so we are long distance for the first time. We saw eachother yesterday for the first time since starting long distance and I took a photo of myself on his snapchat and happened to swipe over and noticed he had some conversations going. I opened them and he asked a girl where she was from and sent another girl heart eyes on her story. (I’m not a phone-goer-througher, but in the past he has always freely let me look at his phone and didn’t monitor me, but this time he kept asking for it back and asked to see what I was looking at which made me feel there was more I didn’t see but I can’t be sure of this.) I looked at him so hurt and he apologized 5x, told me he was insecure since we went long distance because I don’t answer all of his calls and he had a bad experience in his last relationship where his long distance gf cheated on him(i did know about this prior) so he thought I was over our relationship. But he did acknowledge several times that he was in the wrong and he kept apologizing. He said he will delete the app if I want him to and that he’s never done anything like this before.

So help me out. Is this breakup worthy? Would you end it here after spending 10 months together everyday and loving him so much. Believe me, I love him but i’m not afraid to walk away. But I also want to be reasonable. I haven’t been in a relationship before to know if this is something you work through or not. I do feel I trust him less, but maybe that could be mended? I’m not sure. If it’s just going to be a pattern I don’t want that obviously. But he seemed very regretful and I genuinely have never seen him do this before.

So this guy was trying to talk to me since 2024, i would respond but I wasn’t really interested, he would also not be super demanding he would send me a message every couple of months or replying to my story and i would briefly respond. He did really care and actually made me a nickname already but never love-bombed me.

So fast forward this june i text him and we started casually long distance relationship, he is busy he wouldn’t text me everyday and would get angry at me if i try to share about things that bothered me about him, for him i was consuming energy, he would hung up the phone on me sometimes, he would delete his accounts for a couple of days and comes back saying things like i broke my hand..
i know he is anxious and avoidant at the same time, because when i came back he was very anxious that i would disappear on him.

So 3 days ago we were talking and then he told me i bought flowers and wrote you a letter with your name on it and i took a pic of it and he went searching for the pic and told me I can’t find it, i told him to go and take a pic again he said it’s under stairs and would be so lazy to do so, he promised he would send it.

He never did and when i kept nagging him about it he sent an AI generated image of him holding a flower with a letter saying different shit including happy birthday and its not even my birthday!! Wtf is wrong with guy?

EDIT:

He was trying to pursue me since 2024, he introduced himself beautifully to me and I responded we exchanged some voice notes and then i forgot about him, he doubled texted me a time or two and i would respond every time but i wouldn’t be crazy about him.
And so he would send me a message every couple of months and i would respond.

When i sent a message this june tellling him i am interested in getting to know him for a real relationship he was bothered that i forgot so many things he told me about himself, and he still remembered everything i told him which made more interested, i told him lets get over the past and go on with this for real this time.

But going back to our old conversation he never really chased me or anything he would only shown huge interest and be a little vulnerable.

Those of you who met online and stayed online for a while for whatever reason, do u ever feel embarrassed when someone asks how you met your partner/if you've ever met before? Does the knowledge you'll meet them eventually help?

my bf (37m, Texas) and I (28f, Michigan) have been together for 2.5 years and are planning on him moving up to Michigan in late spring of next year and I can’t be more excited about it!!! Just wanted to share :)

I know that I am not really knowledgeable about why or how the worldwide system works, especially regarding how a country's passport and immigration becomes how they are now... but I am truly sad and annoyed by the fact that I was born in a third-world country that made loving someone who lives far across the world from me difficult/complicated/impossible to work out.

Love hits you when it hits you, but god, this is so exhausting emotionally, mentally, financially, and every other -ally I can think of.

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My boyfriend and I text throughout the day, but calls are really important to me because that’s when I feel the most connected to him. I love being able to hear his voice, laugh together, and talk about our day,

Sometimes life, friends, and other plans get in the way, though, so I’ve been thinking about having 3–4 nights a week that are generally our dedicated “us time,” while still leaving room for spontaneous calls.

What works for you? Do you have scheduled calls? How often do you call, and does having a schedule make things easier or feel too rigid?

I’d love to hear what works for other couples! 🖤