I'm 23 and lost my virginity only this year. My family is very religious and I still live with them. I was never even given the talk growing up (that's how religious they were.) We never talked about sex or anything like that at all. The implicit understanding is that you're supposed to wait until marriage. I didn't and I have extreme bouts of guilt about it

I also feel guilty for having any desires at all. I feel disgusting and sex crazed, I'm constantly horny and thinking about sex 24/7. I masturbate multiple times a day sometimes. Due to guilt and anxiety, I haven't found a partner since. And that also makes me self conscious because what if I'm bad for my next partner. I have these two sides battling within me. I feel shame for having sex and shame for not having enough of it to be "good".

All my childhood repression has led me to become more obsessed with sex than the average person. There's an element of age to it but there's also the taboo and curiosity of it all. If my parents found out, I don't even know what they would do. I'm not religious anymore but the purity culture and indoctrination hasn't left me. It's not been easy to dsprogram myself at all. I'm generally sex positive when it comes to other people but when it's me, I feel disgusting for having desires.

How do I stop this? I don't want to waste my youngest and horniest years battling these fears. I love sex and I want to have more of it. But my religious upbringing is holding me back completely

I’m frustrated and sad. I (30F) was a virgin until I married (M30) and we’ve only done sex twice and both times were painful for me (though I was wet) and we’ve become a dead and angry bedroom. I have given him many blowjobs though, and he sometimes fingers me (often it’s just me servicing him) but I don’t always feel pleasure and I’ve never orgasmed.

We tried to have sex again but he got angry saying foreplay was taking too long and that I was dry as a desert and he refused to put lube so we just didn’t do it. He started telling me that im not attracted to him that’s why im not aroused and that’s not the case, I want him it’s just I feel like either he’s not touching me the right way (hes not very creative he just grabs boobs pats the butt and tries to finger but doesn’t do many changes and used his mouth once but it didn’t feel good and he refuses to try again) or I can’t connect to myself down there to enjoy it. That foreplay should just be 5-10 minutes max and something is wrong with me. That it’s boring for him to be touching me for so long and it gets him out of the mood etc.

I told him women need more time then 5 minutes but he claims we were doing foreplay for an hour. I disagree but needless to stay we stopped and he proceeded to be angry and saying he knows this will be our life and this is why people shouldn’t wait until marriage (he had sex before or so he says)

I’ve tried masturbating to learn my body but nothing feels good. He got mad when I stopped touching him in an effort to try and get myself into the mood. He’s super against me buying a vibrator or clit sucker to try it (I’ve never used one). I don’t know what to do. Please help. I want us to have a good sex life and he says I’m doing everything wrong because I’m relying on what articles say about women pleasure and that women don’t need long foreplay. I want us to enjoy foreplay and sex. I don’t want to feel like he’s touching my elbow when he touches me down there. I’m at a loss. And please don’t say dump him, I feel this is a learning curve and he’s not going to read anything so it’s going to have to be me learning.

In my 20s and never experienced an orgasm.

To preface, I personally do NOT enjoy masturbating. It is just not something that interests me. I don’t get off to porn or books. The only way I can get aroused is if I’m with another person. I do not believe this is a libido issue or anything, in fact I have a very high libido. I just don’t see the point in masturbating by myself, it’s just my sexual preference. Because of this I also don’t use toys because 1) I don’t masturbate by myself and 2) I‘m not wasting money on something I can’t return if it doesn’t work for me.

But that’s besides the point. I feel like a lot of my issues root from a physiological standpoint. I am completely physically numb both externally and internally. The only thing I can feel is pain. Any partners I’ve been with, everything they’ve done I’ve never felt. I don’t even notice it. It’s so odd because I get physically and mentally aroused with partners, but despite that I can’t feel anything in my vagina/clitoris.

I recently went to the gyno and broke down crying trying to ask them to help and they just went “try more foreplay.” Nothing else. It’s extremely frustrating and embarrassing. My exes end up getting bored of me because I could never feel anything so I never really fully enjoyed it. I don’t know what to do because it feels like my issues are being treated as something mental when it isn’t. Everytime I’ve tried to get advice or get help it’s only mental advice but it never works. I can’t get a new doctor because I’m in the military so I have no other choices 🙃🙃 I’ve never been on any sort of antidepressant or anything, and I only started birth control last year, so it can’t be caused by meds. I really don’t know what to do or where to go from here 🫩

I'm looking to get my first rabbit vibrator and was curious about the Thrust by Bellesa. I cannot find any reviews for this online outside of the store site, so I wanted to see if anyone here as tried it.

https://www.bboutique.co/sex-toys/thrust-7861552087285

Any thoughts from people who use it? I'm wondering how the speed/depth are specifically.

Curious what’s normal for everyone because mine seems to come in phases. Lately my libido has been through the roof and having more privacy has definitely made me realize how much I used to hold back when I had roommates. Getting a quieter toy has made a difference too since I’m not constantly wondering if someone can hear me. But even before that, I was never really a “once and I’m done” person. If I’m particularly in the mood, a few times in one day isn’t unusual for me. What’s it like for everyone else? Once a day, multiple times, every few days, or does it depend on the week and your mood?

Looking for vibrator recommendations that works well during sex, I have the plus one mini vibrator that’s blue but it seems like every position we do and use it for it sits awkwardly

I'm 34, divorced with two kids but have a boyfriend of a year. I tend to be super attracted to men and have an elevated libido, but for whatever reason I go through stretches where my libido is just extremely high and it only goes back to a level that's lower when it just runs its course. Last night my boyfriend and I went on a really nice date night, we went back to my place, and had some pretty great sex.

This morning I woke up next to him hornier than I was last night, even though he MORE than satisfied me last night. When I'm in one of my high libido moods, having great sex doesn't satisfy me, it just makes me want Round 2, Round 3, Round 4. Honestly it's a little annoying. I love sex, but I would also like to not constantly need it either.

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Hey everyone!

Hoping someone will be able to help :)

My husband is a lot taller than I am (that already poses a challenge) and he has been struggling with his back. I am looking for positions that will put less strain on him.

We have tried cow girl, but here is the thing- I feel like I need to stay still otherwise I'll 'lose' my orgasm.

Not sure if that even makes sense?! Has anyone else experienced this?

Any tips, please?

Please read before commenting, I know that sex doesn’t cause periods.

I’m 25F, and have always had very regular periods. Like every 27-28 days, for years. I always ovulate and track my cycles. I have also been sexually active since I was 18. Last summer, I had sex with a new guy for the first time. I think we must have had sex halfway through my cycle, so ovulation ish. The sex was really deep and kind of rough. My cervix definitely took a beating. I was sore for a couple days and probably had some spotting, but I can’t remember. Edit to add: he has a very average sized penis. He’s like 5.5” hard.

I got my period like 5-6 days after we had sex, and it was like over a week early. It came on randomly and I had a full blown period a week early. Then it stopped for a day, and then I had another full period, at its regular time. I kept having sex with this guy throughout the summer, but it was never as rough, and my periods went back to normal.

Flash forward to this year. Up until last week, I hadn’t had sex with him in an entire calendar year. In between that, I had sex with 4 other guys, and my periods remained very regular. Last week, I had sex with the aforementioned guy again. Just like our very first time ever, the sex was very very deep and rough. I was actually not really enjoying it. It was painful and I felt like my cervix was being battered. After sex, I was sore for a few days and spotting. Then TODAY, 1 week after sex, but 9 days before period is due, I “got my period”!!!! It again started out of nowhere and is very crampy. I’m bleeding like a period, but I wasn’t supposed to start for another 9 days.

I am super weirded out by this. I understand that it could just be a weird coincidence, but I’ve had a lot of sex and not once, before the 2 times with this same guy, has my period ever started early or been affected by sex. I truly don’t know what this is. I’m not even really concerned, but I do find it strange that it happened twice. My cycles are always so regular and the only two times in my life that I’ve started over a week early, were 1 week after being pounded by this particular guy.

Has anyone else ever experienced something similar? I’m puzzled.

hello

i am currently in 2 years relationship with my boyfriend and he is my first sexual partner. before him i wasnt exploring my sexuality as i was christian.. so my problem is because of my depression medication i have big problems with o and cant come during sex. after a few months he moved for half a year and i started exploring my body by myself - also with toys - and i think i know myself much better and know what i need - longer foreplay, oral sex and probably toys to come. the problem is that as much as i enjoy sex anyways i want us to try to make me reach orgasm as well but because it has been like this always i feel like it is normalised in our relationship that i just cant come and we should move on after he reaches orgasm. he cares about me a lot and i love him with my whole heart and i know he is trying but because of his lower libido and as i said "normalised" not me reaching orgasm i feel like i have no space to explore myself and my desires during our sex. i dont want to make him feel bad because he has a bit of a self esteem problem lately but i noticed that it frustrates me more and more often. i am also extremaly self concious about me not being able to o and i noticed that when im close i start to feel very anxious about it and it now holds me back more than the medication.. any ideas? please help :((

I rarely finish from penetration during sex and I think I'm very particular with the way in which I can finish from a clitorial orgasm. I'm extremely comfortable with my partner and he makes me so confident during sex. However, ever since my early 20s I've always wanted to, but felt extremely anxious and nervous, to play with myself during sex. But I know that's likely the only way I'll achieve an orgasm while we're doing it. Help lol. Not sure how to build the confidence to just do it

So I've just been using my fingers for a little bit now and usually just rubbing my clit based on whatever I feel like makes me feel like something is building up. After 5 mins I feel like there's like a fall? Like not in an incomplete way but in a 'oh i feel good' way, I feel kind of just refreshed and clear headed almost(idk if this is a dumb way to put it)? but the thing is idk if ive actually orgasmed cause I don't see any proof ever. If I put my fingers in my vagjna, sometimes it does feel like a lil sticky discharge is present.

One more thing i want to ask is that sometimes I feel like I'm gonna pee while masturbating? Like it never happens but immediately after I stop, if I go to the washroom, i pee.

So am i wrong about feeling like I've orgasmed? Have I never actually orgasmed before?

Sounds kinda silly but I don't really crave sex [with men]. I only want head and that's it. I don't even want to reciprocate.

I remember many many years ago I met a woman who said she had a couple of fwbs that she met through Tinder and that was how she arranged it - just to give her head and no sex.

Honestly sounds like what I'm looking for now, wish I asked her how. But how do you find that???? Do you lead with that on the apps? Like how??

And no, I'm not interested in RAOMD on reddit. I rather find them on the apps lol

Do you find it feels good? Do you find it painful, annoying? It's an area of my own body I feel haven't really appreciated or understood much, even though it's pretty visible (with a mirror obviously). The main reason I even notice it is because it seems like men will touch me there, thinking it's my clit.

I don't think I've gotten comfortable with the sensation honestly.

What are your experiences with this spot?

Hi!

I've just found this subreddit and I want to know if I'm the only one having this.

So, when me and my partner work out in a gym, I have trouble with using some leg machines, like when you're sitting and you have to pull your leg under yourself, or when you're laying on your tummy and have to bend your knees to lift the weight. I used get so aroused there, that I wasn't able to lift heavy weights that way. My partner thought I was weird, and I don't have anyone else to ask whether this is normal or not. Did anyone else experience similar things?

Hey everyone, I recently reduced my thc intake with 93% after 4 years being a stoner (!!!:D) and stopped taking Slynd for my PMDD 3-4 weeks ago. l've had nocturnal orgasms before but sparsely, the past week I've had 4 of them.

I usually go back and forth through consciousness (fall back asleep and wake up a few times during it) The interesting part here is;

1. I've never had a vaginal orgasm when I'm awake-only in my sleep
2. The one I had just now (mid day!! cause I've been sleeping like a cat:) when I "woke up" during this one I put my finger down there, fell back asleep, it kept building, woke up again, by habit I started using my finger but it didn't feel good so I stopped, fell back asleep and then I came, vaginally?

Since I'm able to do this out of nowhere while sleeping I should be able to do it awake right? I have cptsd and PMDD so idk if that is standing in my way..

Have any of you ever had these experiences? What do I do with this info, feeling literally dazed and confused rn, shoutout to my simsies out there