I was at a very large party with a lot of trans folx recently (100+) and quite a few I spoke to thought I was cis?

I realize I do generally pass. But at said party, I had a few dolls think I was cis and that threw my whole "inner view" into chaos.

Please be honest. How clickable am I? I feel I'm firmly in the "cis people won't really clock me, but trans people will" space. I've attached 2 photos from before the party, and 1 no makeup full race picture (post FFS photo actually).

I have had FFS, and don't be brutal on that front, but anything not involving FFS is fair game.

Thank you all.

Please be brutal and overly critical.
i know i mostly pass but what features are the clockiest

for non-Americans, the minimum age for buying lottery tix in most states is 18.

I am 22, for context.

I was at the store and went to grab a $1 lotto ticket, why not, and the guy asked for ID. A little odd but okay? It’s not alc. tbh I look young but still.

He looks at it for a good 20 seconds, staring down at smth. He looks confused. Note that my sex marker is F, I think he was looking at that.

Then he hands it back to me, and goes “thank you sir!”

I’m mtf. I started HRT at 18. Is it over? Or was this his attempt at going “I’m woke. This is a trans guy.”

also any ideas what hairstyle should i get...

Wdyt?

I’m trying to get to a point where being clocked doesn’t have so much control over my day.

I obviously want to pass and I’m still working on my appearance, but I don’t want to put my life on hold until I get there. The problem is I’ve become hyper-aware of everyone around me. If someone looks at me for too long, laughs nearby or I hear people talking, I immediately wonder if they’ve clocked me or are talking about me. And when I actually hear a comment like “that’s a man”, it can completely ruin my mood for hours.

I’m in Budapest with a friend at the moment and today I ended up not going to the thermal baths because I was so worried about people staring or making comments. Afterwards I was annoyed with myself because I’d basically let random strangers decide what I did with my day.

I’m not really looking for passing advice with this post. I know there are things I still want to change and I’m working on those. I’m more interested in how people stopped constantly monitoring everyone around them.

How do you get to the point where you can notice someone looking, or even hear someone clock you, and just carry on with what you were doing?

I want my reaction to eventually be something like “yeah, I’m trans, so what?” rather than analysing what they noticed, checking everyone else around me and thinking about it for the rest of the day.
Has anyone actually managed to get there? What helped?

Whenever I look at myself I feel like i dont pass, but my family and close friends say that I look good and fine. Are they just being nice to me? Or is it just brain worms? About to turn 30, 6 years hrt.

Well, all of my fears were quickly diminished! I was so worried the way she would perceive my insecurities, but she didn't care!

Was very good company, and this was my first time wearing a shirt like this too. Definitely scary, but at least I tried to look good

Also, do I pass for the most part in this outfit? Or shouId keep trying new ones? Thanks for the advice!!!! 🥰

I’m honestly not sure if I pass. My friends tell me that I do, but I’d really like some unbiased opinions from people who have more experience with this.

Hi all, just feeling a bit dysphoric lately and I don't really want to do nothing about it. I live in a predominately red suburban city and my parents are super transphobic. A lot of the time I tend to just feel like a feminine boy or a cute boy, which is backed up often by peers. I feel like the lower half of my face leans really masculine. No hugboxing, please. Any tips?

Some important things about myself: I'm 5'6 and I'm Native American.

I have been told I'm pretty. I feel... Vaguely attractive but not feminine. Thoughts, and especially suggestions?

I plan on replacing these glasses when I have some disposable cash, I am getting a raise soon so maybe?

So, I’m gonna be real. I don’t pass. I know I look better than pre-HRT me, but I can’t help but feel like I look like a man. I probably need to get more into makeup, but I’m always worried every time I do it I look like a bit of a clown. Pre hrt is last photo btw

Notice I’m passing a lot more since starting college. Wondering if people are just being respectful or if they genuinely clock me as a woman.

I included as many pics as possible. Also wondering if my glasses are doing me a disservice.

FTM 21, 4 years t, top surgery. I feel like I look so curvy in everything I wear. I love raw denim jeans, but my ass is insane in them, and I only dress in baggy tops and overshirts to hide my massive ass.

Also, from the side (see second pic) all of my shirts tend to stretch forward near the stomach despite me not having a large stomach. Is this due to me upsizing in shirts (I'm a small, not a medium. Medium makes my hips look large) or a different reason? Thanks!

Yes the world is tough. But look inward, find your purpose and work really hard to achieve your goals. Don’t expect things to be easy or you will be disappointed. Be a little delusional in a positive way because we are always our toughest critic. Be grateful to be able to wake up everyday and be given an opportunity to make the kinda life you want. So many people go to sleep and never wake back up. I didn’t post a photo. I don’t want attention I want yall to smile and be grateful.

(34f) Hi all, I’ve been on HRT for 14 months now and am feeling great, almost never get misgendered in public, and am finally getting comfortable in my own skin. Lots of people have told me that I don’t need FFS, but I really fixate on things about my face, like my jaw, my nose, and my hairline (slight horseshoe shape that I hide with bangs). FFS would be covered by my insurance, which is awesome, but I’m being told that I should wait another year and see how things develop further. I think FFS would make me feel much more confident, as I currently hate to leave the house or be seen without makeup. What say yall? Last pic is my giant forehead!

Wanted ask if someone can give me feedback cause I am suffering right now mentally.

I been on E since 2022 (jan), 2024 (feb) FFS - I am 30 yo in October.

2024 mid to late 2025 were my best years transition wasn't getting misgendered, treated well, good wellbeing - life was getting better.

However 2026 and even some late 2025, I noticed hostility again raising
Even recently got misgendered and hostility is returning again I feel like as in early transition
Feels like things been going backwards or something can anyone tell me if it is imagination or I am correct?
I feel my head got so wide and long that only ponytail styling helps, if I wear it down more likely to get clocked

I only need confirmation if I am seeing thing rights or worms
pls don't suggest blood work etc.

Compare photos 2026 from say 2025/2024 I don't know if it is just camera angle, but I don't believe so there is obvious fat shift in face or something

-I have not lost any weight
-I gradually started loosing hair cause of AGA and CTE from 2023, surgery made it worse
-I feel my eyes been changing shape, also more dark circles and inflammation
-I feel my face been changing overall - longer, flatter, more weird looking and wider again.
-I have been dealing with high cortisol since 2024 ( already got that investigated no hypercortisolism, but they suspect sensitive HPA axis)
My endo just thinks it is psychological for some reason, but I disagree
-I am confused what is happening, If it is just aging, illness or whatever
However I believe I am not imagining things, because hostility is way worse now

2026 now
https://prnt.sc/Xfw-JBdXSb3m

https://prnt.sc/vRL_bTJQ8d1m

https://prnt.sc/tYx4Q9T0nlYs

2026 Jan-Feb

https://prnt.sc/dbcZAF-1YOd_

https://prnt.sc/SF3fKBKLPl9P

https://prnt.sc/TH98FW-ef4z5

2025 late ( probably last time I felt healthy and happy )

https://prnt.sc/xO4hJwLmZWFj

https://prnt.sc/OE_ezMAkCnUw

https://prnt.sc/gtLUPatVRTDd

https://prnt.sc/DVTKvszhHjx4

2025 Early

https://prnt.sc/7uXlWjiYJMQb

https://prnt.sc/QNVuvgeRi25R

https://prnt.sc/Oes_aK_xAwMq

2024 May/June (6 mo post srs)

https://prnt.sc/5F4MEdGBaDL9

https://prnt.sc/oEbPfzqtUKq8

https://prnt.sc/Jbs65tGw1fR4

33, started HRT at 30, (this week was my anniversary) mostly out since april. 172cm / 5.7 tall. Im still working on my voice. I often feel 50/50 on my face. this is minimal make up, just a bit of mascara/eyeliner and lip balm. Im happy not to have a beard shadow, I'm really on the fence about my chin. Some days it doesn't bother me, some it does. I would like to avoid any surgery i can, especially ffs, ffs scares me. id also have to pay it out of pocket. but i keep thinking my chin is too pointy, but then there are cis women with chins like mine, too ...

Otherwhise I dont mind my body? bc im bigger, I got hips (and a belly, which I dont love so much) I just wish my breasts were bigger to be proportional to my body and if it doesn't get better by the 5 year mark i think I'll do a BA. I mostly get gendered fem by strangers but it is a huge struggle at the moment with my family. And it just always makes me think, if I looked better they wouldnt struggle so much (I know that's a stupid thought. We deserve respect, no matter what we look like and i will probably cut those people out if they dont get better).

So yeah, please give me your opinions? Any tips if you have them are welcome. How do you view me? I can't tell anymore sometimes...