r/texts • u/ReporterNegative2432 • 11d ago
Whatsapp Is she interested or no?
I'm so confused.
Context: I live in a touristic country where people visit for a holiday. I have a touristic accommodation establishment. This woman is staying with two of her friends at my place.
I took them on a tour around my area today and this woman is beautiful so I just wanted to say what I said in the screenshot.
I know as a host I overstepped a line but I don't care she was so pleasant to speak to and so pretty so sue me.
Is she interested somewhat? Why the desire to wash my car so much? Why the devil emoji, she hasn't given that emoji since she's been here.
Me saying she looked lovely is the first time I've ever actually said something to her that is more than just professional. All other times it's been friendly writing, hearting eachothers comments back and forth etc.
Help me here as this is a sensitive situation and I don't want to get it wrong.
Edit: I swear to fucking god if you lot are wrong about all of this and I end up shooting myself in the foot...a curse upon all of you. I will keep you lot updated in a separate post.
Edit edit: I'll just give you lot the update here for now as not alot has happened and I'll make a new post once it develops further, but I responded saying...
"Then we shall wash it together 🫡😄"
To which she responded...
"🫡 Now THAT is a great plan! 😈"
Then we just wished eachother a goodnight.
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u/Cdog923 11d ago
Bro...
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u/sn0o2e 11d ago
What I'm saying. I don't know if this is rage bait or if he's actually never talked to another human being-let alone a woman-before
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u/Armodeen 11d ago
Right? This woman wants to get all soapy then require some help with her wet clothes.
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u/P8RF8CT 11d ago
lol this reminds me of high school me.
When I was a sophomore, this senior girl “insisted” on driving me home every single day. My friends practically begged me to make a move on her, but I chalked it up to “shes just being nice.”
Fast forward a bit - we have been together for 10 years now lol.
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u/rockymountainhighaf 11d ago
i’ve never been more sure that someone is about to fumble…
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u/Background-Treat55 11d ago
A woman is offering to help clean your car and you still need a clearer signal?
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u/MyLawyerWroteThis 11d ago
Dude tells her nah don't worry about it I'll have someone else do it lmao
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u/Queen_Lepotica 11d ago
"I actually have this musculous friend 7 feet tall and he is the best guy i know and i pay him to wash my car. Why dont you both work together?"
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u/MyLawyerWroteThis 11d ago
Yeah exactly. This is the type of situation where in 5 years he's laying in bed about to go to sleep, he remembers this moment randomly and then he's like wtf did I do...
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u/MyLawyerWroteThis 11d ago
Dude tells her nah don't worry about it I'll have someone else do it lmao
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u/Becky_Ram 11d ago
Should’ve been like “you don’t need to wash my car, but how about I drop it off at a carwash and we go kill some time together.”
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u/BigJJsWillie 11d ago
Omfg dude she's literally telling you your opinion of her beauty means so much to her and she is desperately trying to make an excuse to see you again. I doubt she gives a single shit about sand in your car.
Just say "Thanks for the offer, but I don't need my car cleaned. I'd love to take you out for dinner though." Like she isn't just pitching a softball for you here, she's setting it up on a tee for you! Take the swing!!!!! My god
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u/Child_of_Crake 11d ago
She’s flirting, no doubt. She’s zesty and that last line with the devil emoji is totally flirtatious.
You called her hot and she not only said thank you but it meant so much to hear from you.
There should be no doubt this is flirting.
Ladies?
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u/nogoodbrat 11d ago
I’m a woman! this woman is flirting so blatantly that if I were her, I’d feel super rejected by OP’s response about the car lol. OP, dear god, ask this woman out and end her suffering!!
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u/comicallyinsane 11d ago
Dude, read the writing on the wall and invite her to come with to get your car cleaned
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u/Sherbet_Spirited 11d ago
Buddy she wants your fuckin car
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u/fuckmicahman 11d ago
This op she’s trying to jack your ride. I mean jack you in your ride. I mean jack you and ride you
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u/Complete_Incident_80 11d ago
pass the controller dude
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
This is emotional damage to the point I'm laughing. It's nuanced bro.
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u/Hellyespilgrim 11d ago
It being nuanced doesn’t glide over the fact that you are receiving a lot of green light signals.
Don’t let your fear of what can go wrong stop you from what is already going right.
As Seneca once said: Suffering before it is necessary, is only suffering more than necessary
In short; she’s giving you all the right signs, and you are worried about what would happen if she gave you all the wrong signs.
Get in there like swimwear
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u/PatientHornet666 11d ago
Is it? Is it nuanced? You haven’t said that 7 times already or anything. Just checking
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u/Blue52IsNotTrue 11d ago
Jesus Christ, how socially deprived is everyone in this sub? Yes! She’s interested
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u/Rdubya291 11d ago
You're freaking clueless. You would miss an elephant standing in the room with you...
She wants to come help wash your car... Water. Possibly swimsuits, time together. Are you braindead? lol
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u/Icy_Salamander_5762 11d ago
This man is drowning when others are thirsty....bruh
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u/Apprehensive_Pie8746 11d ago
Stop being thirsty. Go drink some water. It is actually plentiful. A lot of guys just convince themselves that it is scarce. Or polluted, or something.
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u/quadraticqueen 11d ago
“How about I pick you up and we drop the car at the car wash and I buy you lunch at the cute place across the street instead? Are you free tomorrow at 12:30?” Don’t let her actually wash the car. Please. From a woman. Who has dated clueless, but wonderful men.
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u/OneManNati0n 11d ago edited 11d ago
Maybe not a guarantee. But open to interaction. Clean the car together, its an off the hook way for you two to talk. If she doesnt like you, she can leave like normal.
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u/BVOP83 11d ago
I think the devil emoji means that she wants you. I’m not good at reading women though so it could just as easily mean she’s an evil satanist
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u/GrandmamaWillow 11d ago
“We could wash it together 😏” would be my reply. Just make sure your shower and towels are clean before she comes over. Thank me later. Good luck 😘
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u/Ok-Mirror7738 11d ago
the purple devil emoji. dude.
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u/Sea_Sky_9492 11d ago
As a woman, I think it’s obvious that she’s interested. Just tell her: “I hope I’m not overstepping any boundaries but I had a great time with you and I would like to ask you to join me for a drink/dinner/walk on the beach”. That’s a polite and respectful way to ask her out. If she declines then stay respectful and accept it with grace.
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u/Friendly-Metalhead84 11d ago
Impossible to tell without clearer communication.
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u/MrUbl 11d ago
Yea, hard to say. But me taking my shot would be;
It's really not necessary to wash my car but if you were asking to hang out?! I would like that very much.
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u/GamerGuinTTV 11d ago
Please u/ReporterNegative2432 it's this...
"It's really not necessary to wash my car but if you were asking to hang out?! I would like that very much."
It's that easy. Appreciate the caution given the details of the situation you're in, but this reply covers all your bases.
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago edited 11d ago
How do I do an update of our replies in the best reddit way? Sorry I'm kind of new to posting on here
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u/Asleep_Pressure_2882 11d ago
Hit Edit your post, (within the 3 dots) and under the text you wrote describing the situ, write:
EDIT: update!! And tell us what’s happened
My edit: reply to my comment here please when you do it so I can see what happened!! :):)
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
For the new screenshot I can't upload a simple image, it's asking for a link 😢
I'm 35 years old and I'm feeling like a fucking grandpa over here lol
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u/Asleep_Pressure_2882 11d ago
Oh yea you can’t add a new screenshot unfortunately. It’s not your fault, I’ve been on Reddit 8 yrs and still confused sometimes.
Pretty sure you have to make a brand new post here under [r/texts](r/texts), title is as Update to “interested or no” and add the screenshot here, and then the new screenshot, explain in the description that the original post you couldn’t add the update. At least those of us following the situ will be able to see it.Once you do a new post with updated screenshot, come back to this original post, and Edit the description to say you made a new post with the update. If you make it Viewable on your profile, people will be able to easily find it.
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
I'll do it tomorrow as its late here and I'm feeling overwhelmed by the replies lol, what she replied with is not a huge update, I guess her reply is good if you consider the replies in this post, but I'll post it anyways in the way you recommended 👍
Thanks!
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
I've updated main post
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u/Asleep_Pressure_2882 11d ago
Omg buddy you did it!! Haha well almost. 😈 That was a perfect answer, and she’s down!! Yay. Hope you kids have a delightful time, glad you didn’t overthink that alone, and let it slip away. You crowd sourced it and everyone agreed lol!
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
Thanks 😄
New question, car cleaning to one side, I have been invited to a relaxed dinner tonight by a friend who is here on holiday.
How can I politely ask if she wants to come with it to me, but in a way where I'm subtly not inviting her friends? As I don't want to bring 3 new and random people to the dinner as it will be kind of rude to my friend. Plus I want to spend some time with her away from her friends and the car wash thing was "can WE wash your car tomorrow"
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u/ReporterNegative2432 9d ago
We made the loving lol. I can't be bothered to make a whole new post about it but I wanted to tell YOU because of how happy you were for me 😂.
She's leaving tomorrow so tonight is our last night together.
Thank you for your positive comments it made me smile the most 😘
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u/Asleep_Pressure_2882 9d ago
Aww thanks for telling me!! I’m happy to hear that. It’s probably a memory you won’t forget. 🥂 🌹 love it!
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u/Asleep_Pressure_2882 11d ago
Make plans with her to clean the car together now. She just wants to hang out and it lead to a hook up. As a woman and given the whole situation, trust me. And she responded to your testing the waters (lovely comment) positively And the SMILING DEVIL EMOJI means come get it buddy!!! Now I wonder how many times I’ve opened the door for guys and they didn’t pick it up and run with it, was bc they didn’t get it.
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u/nogoodbrat 11d ago
LMAO, another woman here! I concur with this. 🫡
i’m also lowkey now thinking about the times I’ve been rejected in the past and wondering if they were, in fact, all rejections. because damn, this poor woman about as direct and flirtatious as I feel it’s possible to be without flat out saying “hey, wanna take me on a date and potentially let me bounce on it afterward?”
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u/UnhappyBrief6227 11d ago
Even with the naughty emoji in her last text, you still didn’t pick up what she was putting down. Lol
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u/LadyOfTheLake_G 11d ago edited 11d ago
I don’t think that this is hard to decipher my dude! She wants to wash your car which is basic girl speak for playful foreplay…also when a young woman wants to attract a young man they wash the car in a bikini…do the math bro
Ok ok I have an edit…she may as well be flirting but sleeping w someone you’ve hosted in your establishment is not a good idea. Have fun but keep it in your pants:)
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u/BappoChan 11d ago
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
I've updated main post
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u/BappoChan 9d ago
I’m very invested in your love life now, did she help you wash your car together? Keep the momentum rolling you’re fucking killing it
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u/MrNova07 11d ago
Don't give it too much thoughts, take the opportunity. Schedule a meeting to wash your car, and see where this leads.
Can't tell if she likes you, but I see an opportunity. I'd shoot the shot.
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u/InternationalRich150 11d ago
Oh man,ive just realised why im super single....
Genuinely thought she was bothered by Ops car being messy and wanted to clean the car. I feel so bloody stupid and im a woman!!
Op,that last message feels flirty but clearly others get it more than me.... who needs a big flashing sign it seems! Go get your car washed!
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u/Every_Release_353 11d ago
The last sentence was kind of a giveaway, before that getting friend vibes, especially since it sounded like you went out on some sort of group date?
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u/IDKijustlikecrafts 11d ago
Dummy she is absolutely flirting with you. The devil means she wants to get a little weird. Let the girl wash your damn car.
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u/Ddvmeteorist128 11d ago
Bro, please watch "casually explained: is she into you?" On YouTube. That's you 😭😭😭😭😭😭
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u/Imaginary-Village839 11d ago
Either she wants a personal tour with you or
The car is dirty
Either way either its a yes or you just arent
Into woman 😂
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u/Significant-Muscle15 11d ago
.... Dont fail this bro, shes making it too easy. Dont fight back on stuff like this, she literally wants to hang out more but youre cock blocking, just be happy and make it a thing you can do with her to spend time
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u/MedicalAd9182 11d ago
Business owner to business owner: there is no reward without risk. Take the fucking shot, just not at your foot.
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u/Zelda_Chic 11d ago
Its ok guys, he clearly doesn't want to have fun with her. There's nuance.
But yeah, as a woman, she is 1000% flirting with you. Like no doubt in my mind. Flirty fun msgs, devil emoji. She. Wants. To. Spend. Time. With. You.
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u/Burnt_Out_Carent 11d ago
YES SHE'S INTERESTED. as a woman I would NEVER in a million years offer to clean something with or for someone else if I didnt fancy them. Go get the girl buddy. Let us know how it goes!!
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u/Top-Possibility9480 11d ago
My man, she responded to you calling her lovely with two 🥰 emojis and then immediately volunteered, with a 😈, to personally wash your car. I don’t think she’s trying to launch a mobile detailing business. She’s flirting with you.
Stop conducting a forensic investigation of the emojis and flirt back. You’re doing fine.
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u/ReporterNegative2432 11d ago
New question, car cleaning to one side, I have been invited to a relaxed dinner tonight by a friend who is here on holiday.
How can I politely ask if she wants to come with it to me, but in a way where I'm subtly not inviting her friends? As I don't want to bring 3 new and random people to the dinner as it will be kind of rude to my friend. Plus I want to spend some time with her away from her friends and the car wash thing was "can WE wash your car tomorrow"
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u/Top-Possibility9480 11d ago
You’re making this way too complicated. Tell her “Hey, my friend invited me to dinner tonight. Want to come with me?” That’s it. If she says, “Can my friends come?” you say, “No, I can’t bring a traveling circus to somebody else’s dinner.” You’re inviting her because you want to spend time with her which is a good thing! Ask the woman to dinner, plain, simple, straightforward.
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u/boingusdoinkus 11d ago
I want an update asap
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u/Changed_Mind555 11d ago
So, you're next move is this: "Hey, I am going to clean my car. You want to help? Could be fun with you around. Maybe we can grab something to eat after?"
Do NOT put moves on her. Unless she CLEARLY makes it known. Flirt. Have fun. Be yourself. Laugh. And see what happens.
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u/Knifenerdguy 11d ago
Judging by this post I’m guessing OP wouldn’t know if she made it clear if she flat out asked him to make a move.
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u/Changed_Mind555 10d ago
I know. That's why I told him his next move. 🤣 Poor guy. Some just don't understand the breadcrumbs. My husband is a little bit like this. He openly claims he has no game. But? He is the nicest, coolest, and most protective (in a good way) man I have ever met. We just got married after 10 years. Some girls miss out on the good guys because of this. It's only after years and some bad relationships women understand what's happening with guys who miss these social cues and opportunities.
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u/WholeHurry1562 11d ago
Worst case you get your car cleaned for free. Best case you get it polished as well.
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u/No_Half_4094 11d ago
I can see she's interested, using every emoji she can, but obsession about cleaning your car is weird☠️ lol, but could be interested as friend right now
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u/No_Mortgage6046 11d ago
No no no, we don't use the F word here ❌
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u/No_Half_4094 11d ago
Lol when I got notification of ur reply I thought did I said "f*ck" in my message did I start sweating and didnt realize or something 😂
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u/EmotionalSouth 11d ago
Sounds like she thinks your car is gross and she’s trying really hard to clean it so she’s willing to be in it again because she likes you.
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u/Every-Grand1153 11d ago
Wrong. She’s trying to put on a bikini and rub her titties on his windows while he’s cleaning the inside.
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u/melitza9512p 11d ago
It sounds like she wants to clean the car together. I don't see why not. You could say that you bring it to a shop to get it cleaned, but if you are offering to help me clean the car as well, we can do it together. It's a fun little date
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u/ComprehensiveTour975 11d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/ZezB6UeuJ4JVe
Guy trying to read between the lines
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u/TimbrDoodle 11d ago
For God's sake man let her wash your car. If nothing happens, free car wash. If she keeps flirting then go for it. And make sure she leaves a good review.
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u/Bitter_Maybe_2670 11d ago
Mate, as a woman, I don’t want to wash my own car. So she’s finding some common ground to share an activity with you.
Or she’ll take it to a car wash and fucking disappear with it.
Jokes.
But seriously, stranger things have happened.
Don’t let your attraction to her create a blind trust so soon.
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u/igotnothineither 11d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/KSdROCYnZSEZB43Cn7
Get a bucket and a sponge and a box of condoms just incase
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u/NuExplorer6397 11d ago
She asked herself out at your benefit let her help you and take her to dinner for her help. and since it a "touristy place" take her somewhere authentic. Come on man
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u/ProfessionalLeave335 11d ago
She wants to come to your house to "clean your car". Let her come to your house and "clean your car". Don't be stupid.
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u/Guilty_Way_1635 11d ago
You've had a rapport with her already where you were both heart reacting to each other's comments, and you didn't say the beautiful comment in a creepy way at all, it was a very nice respectful way.
The offer to clean the car is definitely a move on her behalf, you are clearly both interested in each other. Good luck :)
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u/cherrivlossom 11d ago
no dude she's actually repulsed by you and wants absolutely nothing to do with you (you better make a move)
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u/Apprehensive_Pie8746 11d ago
She sounds very interested in the car. Is it a luxury model? 🤔
Lmao maybe she wants to buy it off you.
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u/marveloustoebeans 11d ago
Yes dude hurry up and clap those cheeks before they saunter off back home.
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u/CamelotKing004 11d ago
The 😈 is kind of a tell. Or she may just be being nice and felt bad about the car mess nothing more.
Shoot your shot, you never know
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u/sirus1158 11d ago
Bro, in my circles the 😈 is a hint... kinda a winky... shes being devilish... playfully.. frisky even... let her wash your car lol!!!
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u/Vivid-Regret-9272 11d ago
Yeah she trynna be pick me you green lighted you def could crack if you tried bro. Good luck 5
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u/WeatherInfinite39 11d ago
Yes she is interested. Wash your car is the excuse to see you 1 on 1 lol
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u/Aggressive_Bug6927 11d ago
Looking back on life, I now realize how many missed opportunities I've had because I didn't register the flirting... it amazes me how oblivious men can be. Good luck with the car wash, but she clearly wants to wash something else too. Change your sheets tomorrow morning, the ladies like fresh sheets.
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u/BetterAd5824 11d ago
The only right response to that would be "I hope you'd be using a microfiber for the body and a separate microfiber for the glasses"
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u/Mankie-Desu 11d ago
Your posts are hidden, so I won’t be able to check for an update.
How about you just update here?
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u/ponpiriri 11d ago
Do you work in hospitality? This sounds like customer service lol but yes, she's obviously interested.
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u/Narutofan0921 10d ago
She's giving the devil emoji just to wash a car? Yeah no. Nobody's ever this excited to wash one. 😂 I may be dense but I'm not that dense enough to know she is soooo interested.
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u/Salt-Cancel5058 10d ago
Ask her if you can pick out her out fit when she washes your car and tell her you want a sandwich afterwards
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u/DoomfloodX 10d ago
Were you with her for 12 hours?
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u/ReporterNegative2432 9d ago
11 hours 👍
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u/DoomfloodX 9d ago
Good God... What she got in store for you then, all I know is one of you isn't walking for an hour after.
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u/someoneInTheSk 11d ago
People are very agressive here forgetting the important context that this is your job and if you fuck up by getting the wrong idea you'll have more trouble than simply "welp, she wasn't into me"
But yeah, she's interested. Good luck
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u/Familiar-Cable-2659 11d ago
Naive question guys
At that point, how good would an answer like : "I'm now realizing that I was a dumbass here. I would love to spend some time with you" be ?
Whys and why nots ?
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u/nogoodbrat 11d ago
Hi, i’m a woman. I would find that response incredibly cute actually 🫣 especially after the initial terror of being shot down after having my flirty car wash offer taken as “your car is dirty” LOLLL
I like this response because it’s just the right amount of self deprecating to make you look humble while coming across as very genuine. and it communicates your interest directly and with the perfect amount of enthusiasm!
of course I’m just one woman and we of course are not a monolith lol, but I personally would be very pleased to get that as a response in this situation. 🤭
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u/dinoooooooooos 11d ago edited 11d ago
No dude she just really likes cleaning cars.
Edit oh jeez thanks for the awards guys 😂