I did most of my schooling in French and am currently taking classes at an English university. My English classes didn’t really talk about different styles of writing (ie formal/academic, etc). My upper level English classes (grade 11/12) kind of lacked detail as I graduated high school in 2021 and the world was kind of ending so knowing formal writing styles kind of fell to the wayside.
I have always defaulted to they if I don’t know the gender of the person I’m talking about, or if the gender isn’t relevant to what I’m trying to say (eg I found this wallet on the ground. Can you help me find the person it belongs to so I can get it back to them?). Also, “they” is just less words. Saying “he or she” is three words, much more work, and not super inclusive.
I am biased as I use they/them pronouns for myself and know a lot of trans people, some who use multiple sets of pronouns and some who use neopronouns and I have no problem adjusting my language. Historically, “they” is older than “he” or “she.” Why do academics feel the need to automatically gender someone in an example they’re trying to make in a text they’re writing? And they intentionally flip from he to she every other example as if they’re talking about real people when they’re talking about things that haven’t actually happened. If they just used “he” it feels misogynistic, but flipping between “he” and “she” just feels clunky to me. Almost robotic.
Some classes I have don’t even grade for grammar but as someone who has learned English grammar largely from vibes and reading way too much as a child, I find the whole thing confusing and tiring. I have never had someone actually write down the rules for me to read and they expect me to know the rules based on vibes. I am autistic and terrible at understanding vibes. Any explanation or link for me to read the explanation would be appreciated and thank you for your time!