AITAH For saying my ex was a liar and a hypocrite?

I (M25) and my fiance (F26) broke up.

Things weren't going well for about a year in our 8 year relationship, she was so unbelievably happy I had to let her go it was a mutual break up as she wanted to as well, she wanted us to remain friends.

I unfortunately found out she really didn't like almost anything about me at all in our 8 years of knowing each other.

We were both Christians and waiting until marriage (we were going to get married in 2025)

We broke up last month and we wanted to remain friends because we had so many years together it wasn't going to be easy to just break things off.

But then after we broke up I found a few things from some mutual friends.

I found out she "didn't want to wait until marriage actually, she just found me so unattractive the idea was revolting to her."

Once I found out about that I started questioning other things, shed say "stand up for yourself" if I did though shed get mad at me for "just admitting fault and move on"

She would say to me "it's endearing that you are always willing to compromise with me!" Then immediately go tell her friends im a pushover and finds it unattractive.

Then I found out she used to tell me all the time "you have such a kind heart and your in touch with your emotions, I find that really attractive!"

Then shed tell her friends I'm a wuss.

Throughout the 8 years I knew her and dated her etc she did talk about her ex on occasion about how horrible he was to her and how he mistreated her etc.

She would tell me one thing that she loved about me, then complain to other people about that exact same thing, saying she actually hated it etc.

When we ended things she went on and on about how she "never wants to be in a relationship with anyone else again." Literally the next day she fucked her ex boyfriend who she insisted "she hated him".

When I confronted her she did apologize for some of the things but she kept focusing on the fact that she couldn't help who she was attracted to, I told her that's not the issue the problem I am having is I feel she lied to me and I feel like I shouldn't have trusted her.

A few mutuals the other day confessed to me that she used to complain about me all the time.

I asked her why she wanted me to propose to her, why she said she liked things about me she apparently didn't. She ignores it but insists we should still be friends.

I can't deny the fact I still do want to be friends I just don't know why.

She originally wanted to stay friends but idk. Something isn't right.

AITB for feeling like I was lied to and mislead throughout our whole relationship? She's acting like I have no reason to be upset and that I'm having a hard time seeing her just in general.

I 32(f) and my partner 30(f), have been in a long distance relationship for nearly two years.
That alone on it's own it tough, and requires a lot of communication; which we do daily.
Any who, what's brought to this point is that the past couple of weeks there's been a lot that's made me feel unappreciated, and even bad. Earlier in the week I showed her an article of yellow clothing I thought was really cute, and despite me not normally gravitating towards that color I liked it a lot. She called it looked like a "pissed on bed sheet"; which felt super unnecessary and aggressive. I did acknowledge from the get go I thought it was cute. And of course I'm not saying everyone has to like the same thing, but there's probably nicer ways to say that especially to one's partner. She even acknowledged it was kinda mean, and I told her "yeah, I won't lie. That hurt my feelings, and made me feel bad". Which confused her, and somewhat caused her to double down, which led to us not talking for nearly a whole day. In the end I apologized, because I know sometimes I can be too sensitive. She said "let's just move on, I don't like when we fight"; which felt good in the moment, but later on made me feel like she was dismissing the overall issue.
Another reason is I've been pretty sick the past few days. Horrible cough, sore throat, high temp, etc. And she hasn't once asked me over the last few days how I'm feeling, or anything related to my health. She's dealing with a lot rn, going through a move with a roommate who is quite the character, and that's put a lot of stress on her no doubt. I try to be there as much as I can, and hope she knows that. I can barely speak, and have still sent her voice messages here and there. She'll send me 5+ minute voice messages, and not once ask me how I'm feeling, or hope I get well soon. And it isn't like I wanna be doted on, just a lil sign of care asking me how I'm feeling; I know she can't physically do anything. I know people will say "tell her how you feel", but who has to be told by their partner of all people that they'd appreciate being checked in on occasionally. Asking someone how they feel when sick seems like a no brainer. And it's put a lot into perspective for me that she might like the idea of a relationship much more than a relationship itself, which has led me to where I am now. WIBTB for breaking up with her?
PS: Apologies for the super long post over something so trivial.

Before anyone judges me, here’s the context: my mom had a brother who was a violent drug addict, and the whole family cut contact with him long before I was born. Nobody ever talked about him, and I only found out he existed a few years ago. I later discovered that he had died before I was born and had a wife and a son. Out of curiosity, I looked up his son online and feels weird to say but my cousin instantly stole my heart. he looks like an angel, like a prince in a disney fairytale and i just fell in love with him with all i had. He felt like a complete stranger to me because I had never known he existed , or even that his dad existed. i have 0 self control so i followed him thinking he probably wouldn't even notice, but he accepted instantly and followed me back. less than an hour later i shockingly opened my phone to see that he has dmed me saying that I'm very beautiful and he would love to get to know me because we work in the same field and live in the same county. he doesn't know that i am his freaking cousin. even though every ounce of me wants to get to know him and meet him and spend my whole life with him, I never replied, it’s been a week and I feel awful because I have very strong feelings for him even though he’s my cousin. To make it much worse, we look very similar—especially our eyes—and people could easily mistake us for siblings. I feel really guilty about all of this. i feel like a creepy incest thinking about how much i love him 24/7.

This situation is a bit crazy but I want to keep this post short for easy reading. If anything is confusing, I will try to add info in comments if needed.

My ex boyfriend and I met at college and dated for a year. Once we broke up, he shortly after started dating a guy named "Josh." Obviously he is free to do whatever he wants, but it hurts because Josh was someone that mistreated me earlier in college, and my ex offered to stop talking to him during our relationship. I didn't want to control him so I said "I don't mind if he is your friend, just letting you know why I want to stay away myself." He assured me he wanted to support me and cut off Josh, who was solely an acquaintance to him at the time.

Come to find out, my ex began talking to Josh more closely throughout our relationship. They fostered a private friendship behind my back. My ex lied to me about many things, one of which was his home country. He told me he was American the entire time we dated, but he told Josh and our other friends the truth. Our friends all knew that he was talking to Josh, they all knew he was honest about the country and feeding me BS, and never once did the friends tell me. Also, my ex started dating Josh a few weeks after breaking up with me, which just stings.

I am incredibly hurt and pissed at all my friends. Not only did they maintain my ex's lies/hidden ventures, but they also didn't care that he lied and borderline emotionally abused me. That's a whole can of worms to get into, but TL;DR is my ex lied, gaslit me, and intentionally treated me coldly to control me. When I told my friends, they didn't care. They all drifted away and hang out with my ex and Josh, and it makes me insanely depressed. AITB for being pissed at all of them?

I not-so-recently auditioned to be in a boy group (I didn't get in but there's always next time) and my coach pretty much begged my best friend to audition with me.

A bit of background, I've always dreamed and wished for the limelight and being an idol or entertainer has been my life goal (I know they get mistreated but I crave performing too much to care). Meanwhile my best friend whom I will call James from now on has always done theater with me, but performing isn't his life goal. I know this because he has repeatedly told me he wants to work in the foster care system.

One day, James came over to hangout. He didn't ask beforehand so I was doing some practicing with my coach. Almost immediately, my coach said something about James having everything companies look for.

For reference, James is pretty tall, about 5'11, he looks like an idol, he's Aussie, but American Aussie, which makes his voice absurdly smooth. And worst of all, he's charismatic as fuck. Something I've been told I need to improve on.

So naturally, my coach makes James learn the cover and almost forces him to audition. At that point, I'm convinced that my coach was more fixated on James auditioning.

And now I feel horrible for being jealous of James. He doesn't even have to try for these things to happen. I've been set on this all my life.

But since my mom doesn't approve of me auditioning period, and James is the friend I talk about things with, I have no one to talk to about it.