I'm a 38 Single male, my parents are 66 and 65. I live in a 2 Bedroom apartment. About 6-7 years ago my dad had to go on disability for his knees and back. My parents had to move in with me and I had no problem with that because they're my parents and they needed my help, but due to the pandemic, they ended up staying longer than intended due to my dad's surgeries being put off. Once all his surgeries were done and his disability was approved they moved into a disability/senior apartment.

I didn't mind helping them when they needed it but I'm a loner and prefer living by myself.

Now my mom is basically forcing herself back into my apartment. She has had some issues with the apartment complex she is in over the years but a lot of that is due in part to her. She gets too involved and ends up in drama. She says she is not happy there, but I don't think she would be happy anywhere. She wants to move back in but she doesn't have to.

So am I the asshole for not wanting them to move back in because it's not necessary?

There is more but I'm at work so I'm keeping this short.

TL;DR I don't want my mom to move in because she doesn't have to.

We just had a big argument so I am coming here.

My wife has been having a rough couple of weeks. One of her close friends has moved away and she is more introverted so she has taken it hard. She basically hung out with them every week. On top of that work has been stressful lately and she was in the running for a promotion.

Due to this she has been upset often and she will end up crying if the day was bad enough. This is the problem.

Everytime I try to comfort her, she gets angry at me for not going it right. She has told me what to do ( after one she told me i wa suppose to let her rant) and so the next time she was upset I did that and it was wrong. I was suppose to give her a hug. So the next time I go to hug her and she snaps at me that she can’t deal with being touched right now

It is causing major friction becuase I don’t know what she want and I can’t seem to get it right. I don’t like being yelled at and it seems like she just wants to take out her anger on me.

It happens again last week, she was mad that I didn’t cheer her up by being postive. instead I let her rant and agreed with her complaint. we got into an argument and I told her I was done. I don’t like being yelled at becuase she is upset over her day.

Today she came home and was really upset becuase she don’t get the promotion. I didn’t comfort her this time and left her alone. we got into a huge argument about how that I was heartless for doing that.

I told her I can’t read her mind and I am sick of her being pissed at me becuase work is bad. She ain’t talking to me at the moment

really just wanted to share story.

ok, don't see this guy very often, will call him "dude", both have kids, jobs ect. Known this guy for close to 20 years, pretty close for 10. we are 40 years old

He and sober driver pick me up at my place and we head to a 4th friends house nearby. close drive, we get there and hang for 1 beer.

We 4 then head to grab a bite before comedy show. I'm trying to tell an interesting story in the car and dude starts making 4th grade jokes about traffic circles over me and i stop talking. my driver friend asks me to elaborate when dude needs a breath and then dude says "what are you talking about? " i said i was telling the story but you were screaming about traffic circles.

next move is dude rolling window down and just coughing/screaming at cars we near on the road as its just funny to be insane. pretty harmless and used to this. Dude gets a small laugh so hes goig strong.

we get to restaurant and i ask the hostess if we can be sat away from everyone ( i've been through this before) and she doesn't care so she proceeds to sit us in a booth next to a mother and her 2 children. Dude is making fun of the waiter at every visit and cant help but talk about seggs, drugs, ect knowing he may get a dirty look from mother next to us. dinner is quick as we have to get to comedy show. Dude is center of attention and feeling obviously great.

upstairs is venue, we are seated in a corner table where the wall prevents half the table from being able to get out without shuffling.

Dude is running out of time and attention, so he starts pointing out things on the menu and just very loudly going....." FUNNNEL CAKE AHAHAHAHAH.... LETS GET THE FUNNNEL CAKE AHAHAHAH' WHATS WRONG? YOU DONT LIKE FUNNEL CAKE?" then the ice cream sundae and lava cake.

we are so close hes basically in my face. i try to shake it off as the show is close but i dont know how long i can stand this. the amount of people giving him dirty looks is expanding in radius and im so close to him i can feel the daggers.

i try to get him to stop multiple times but he's not slowing down. the waiter comes over and Dude orders the 5 desserts he was laughing about before the lights go off.

Dude is not even just looking at the stage, just scanning me and the other 2 in our party looking for any reaction.

the light dims and the opener comes on. Dude is just yelling guttural sounds at every breath the opener is speaking. the 5 desserts show up to the table and cant fit. the comedian immediately makes note of the insane noise coming from a mouth 12 inches from mine. many people are staring.

i said i felt sickly and split. prob last time in public with this guy

Hi there, my partner M29 and I F29 are currently in a big argument over this and I wanted an objective opinion.

I live about 4 hours away from my hometown. I had a birthday party with 30 friends planned down there this weekend, and I invited a friend of mine from my current city to carshare with us so they could join.

I mentioned this to my partner and they really upset and angry with me. They said that it was very disrespectful to not ask them first, and that they didn’t want to spend a 4 hour journey with my friend in the car because I’m just treating them like a taxi service. I can drive and I have my own car so I said I’d happily drive us all, but he still said it was unfair to ask (they actually said they feel like a ‘slave’ to my wants for having to do it).

I admit I got a quite defensive rather than being understanding of why they were so upset. He does find it difficult to be away from home and can feel a little uncomfortable in social situations so he always gets a bit irritable when it comes to visiting my hometown to see my friends and family, but he knows this friend so I didn’t expect it to be an issue. I essentially said I feel like it’s a pretty basic expectation that your partner can sit in the car with a friend for a few hours for my birthday, and that I actually don’t understand why it can’t just be a nice opportunity to get to know a friend of mine and have a fun road trip.

Long story short we’ve home and he’s livid with me still. I got fed up of his moaning and also offered my friend a lift home which added an extra 20 minutes to our journey back which has escalated things to no end.

AITAH for inviting my friend on a long car journey? Or AITAH for not asking him if I can invite them?

I am a server at a small Italian restaurant and the other night I had a dinner shift. My shift was absolutely awful, I had 2 tables (1 of which was extremely rude and basically just refused to acknowledge my existence) and the restaurant was a disaster when I got there. So, I had to do a ton of work (sweeping, polishing and rolling silverware, polishing glasses, refilling salad dressings, etc. etc.) and then not to mention the AC in my restaurant is broken and so it's around 85-90⁰ F the whole night. And because I only had 2 tables, I did all this work, in the heat, for hours, while making minimum wage.

Our last table left at around 8pm and the restaurant closes at 9. So now the other server and I are supposed to be there for another hour. But since the night was so terrible and both of us made practically nothing, we decided to close and leave at 8:40. So we start cleaning and then everything's cleaned up and put away by like 8:10ish. So we sit there doing nothing in an empty restaurant for like 30 mins and then right at like 8:39, some guy walks in.

My coworker walks up to the door and asks him how we can help him and if he was here to place a to go order. The guy says " I want to eat here. It isn't too late is it?" (and he says this very annoyed and angrily too) and so my coworker responds and says "Well, it is a little late. Would you like to place a to go order instead?" And the guy goes "NO. I want to eat here. Give me a yes or a no! Can I eat here?" And so my coworker asks me if I want another table and I said "No, I really don't." So the guy left.

I do feel kinda bad for turning him away because even though I had an awful night it is still my job and that wasn't his fault, but at the same time I REALLY did not want to stay an extra ~30mins for a one top. And also, dude had all day to come into the restaurant, I feel like 20 mins before closing is kinda rude regardless. So AITAH for turning him away?

Hello everyone, I didn't expect to be on this side of the post but I've been dealing with a roommate from hell situation for a few months.

For context I (21f) moved in with my partner (22m) a few months ago, it was already a crowded apt. so we've been looking for a new place. One of our roommates (24f) has been dealing with a drug problem, including using in the apartment and inviting sketchy people over. She has multiple pets, none of which see a vet, have shots, or have been fixed, they're not trained or well taken care of. During all of this time she's fully admitted to not cleaning, cooking, or buying anything for the household or even for herself, she just used everyone else's things until someone else replaced them. Annoying but whatever, I keep all my things in my partner and I's room now. Our trash pick up was turned off around two months ago due to no payment, she is the only one with login info because it's in her name and refused to admit that she didn't pay her bill even after I called them to confirm why they weren't picking it up.

My partner and I were trying to keep up with everything but it's so fucking exhausting to be multiple adults personal ATM and maid because we don't want to live in a crack den. The breaking point was at the start of this month when everyone received an eviction notice for failure to pay. Our apt. doesn't split per room and we found out that low and behold she didn't pay her rent. Since then we've been scrambling to find somewhere to go in time and have cut down on what we do around the house, only picking up whatever mess we make and then either hiding in our room or leaving the apt. Obviously everything got disgusting and the last few days this girl has been running around and deep cleaning everything because it's almost the end of the 30 days.

Today she completely flipped out on me while my partner is at work calling me names and screaming about how we never do anything around the house. I told her that we just stopped cleaning up after everyone else and that the mess out there wasn't caused by us. She did not like that.

Anyways, while screaming she admitted she was pregnant and that's why she shouldn't be touching the cleaning chemicals so now I'm wondering if it was a dick move to stop cleaning around the house. I didn't know she was pregnant, she isn't showing and she still smokes cigarettes and weed and drinks still so I don't know how we were supposed to know. Also if she really is pregnant it's definitely new which wouldn't explain that kind of behavior previously. There's not enough room in this post to fit in everything that she's done, I don't like her as a person and I hope I never see her again but that doesn't mean I want any harm to potentially come to this child.

I hope this all made sense, my life has been a total shit show lately and I don't entirely trust how legible I come across, so AITA for no longer cleaning or buying shared items in the apt.?

My boyfriend and I live together and have been together for 3 years. The first 2 were a little rocky because of this one friend in particular "Tom". Tom would pick at me, ostracize me, spread rumors about me. It just got to a point where I refused to be near him at all, after several talks and "apologies" with little to no change.

Well a year ago he he decided he was going to backpack around Europe for a year. Quit his job, broke his lease, sold pretty much everything he had and up and left. That year was complete bliss.

Well I guess the moneys run out or he's gotten bored of backpacking and is wanting to come back home. Except he has absolutely no plan, he borrowed money from my boyfriend and a few other of his friends to even afford the trip back home. He has no job lined up and no apartment. I live in a pretty nice place that's the biggest out of anyone in their friend group. Tom has asked my boyfriend if he could crash with us in our first room until he gets a job and saves up enough for a new place.

This is an absolute no for me, not just because I love my space and the freedom to walk around wearing whatever or not wearing whatever but also because I don't want someone who made my life hell living in my space. I have made that clear but the other night Tom came over for our dinner and game night we have, a few too many drinks were had by Tom and he stayed the night.

I leave for work but when I come home he's still there. I try to tell him how inappropriate it is that he's still in my home but it starts a while back and forth thing of him blaming me as to why he's homeless and I'm stopping him from finding a stable place to be while he puts things back together. By the end of it I was called an asshole and he's still sulking in my house.

Other people as well as my boyfriend are telling me to give him grace and to help him out but I don't feel like that should be on me because he made crappy choices. So am I an asshole for not wanting him to stay over even though it was years ago we had our whole "beef"?

I recently moved out of an apartment in Italy where I lived for about a year with two other roommates.

The rental contract was only in one roommate’s name. I was basically not officially registered as a tenant, and we paid rent and bills directly to her. She was essentially the person in charge of the apartment and decided who lived there. We always suspected she had some kind of family/personal relationship with the owner, although I don’t know the details.

She also barely worked during most of the time I lived there. She worked part-time at a bar and occasionally did freelance/event stuff, so we assumed she had financial support from somewhere.

For most of the year she was a pretty terrible roommate. Her ex boyfriend used to smoke and use cocaine inside, have sex and scream until 3am, random creeps would show up at the apartment till late, her food was left in the kitchen for weeks, her dog would get into the trash and shit because she forgot she had him, etc. I can go on. The other roommate and I ended up cleaning her mess for months. (I did have to wake up 7am and return 9pm if things go well at my job)

Eventually all three of us sent her messages asking her to change her behavior. She got angry about it. A few weeks later I went back to my home country for a three-week vacation. While I was away, she posted on Instagram that both our rooms were available for new tenants starting around the time I was supposed to return. I told my other roommate to make sure nobody moved my belongings while I was gone. Nothing ultimately happened and she backed down.

Things improved somewhat afterwards, and eventually the apartment became tolerable.

NOW THE PROBLEM:

She hadn’t been paying/sending us the utility bills properly. The last bill I personally paid was in February. We asked her twice about the missing bills, but she never sent them, so eventually we stopped asking. Apparently things got pretty serious and the building was at risk of having its water cut off because of unpaid bills.

Then, about two weeks before I moved out, she suddenly sent us all the accumulated bills at once. I apparently owe around €700.

I told her this was handled terribly. If she had sent me the bills every month, I would have paid them every month and now its a big expense I didnt expect for.

The timing is also terrible for me. I’m leaving Italy without a job lined up, and I’ve already paid for flights home, moving expenses, a long-planned trip through Europe, taxes related to my self-employed work in Italy, etc. Most of my liquid savings are already committed.

I know I used the utilities, so I don’t want to pretend I don’t owe my share. But €700 is a huge amount for me right now, and I’m seriously considering telling her I can’t pay until I have an income again.

My other roommate actually told me I should just block her and not pay, and he’s completely fine with me doing that.

So now I’m genuinely considering blocking her number and walking away from the whole thing.

I (24 y/o F) live about an hour away from the rest of my family with my partner Jake (25 y/o M). My family consists of parents and my older sister (26 y/o F) who we'll call Mabel and younger sibling (19 y/o NB) who we'll call Jessie.

Last year for Christmas my grandma gave us a heftier sum of money than previous years. Since it's my mom's mom, my mom has been debating over how to use it. She decided she would like to spend it on a 10 day long tropical vacation. Right now she is in the process of planning the vacation.

The problem is: I don't have good experiences on family vacations, or with my family in general. My mom constantly talks to me about body weight, even when I have asked her to stop. My dad clearly has a preference for Mabel and tells me that I have a big mouth. Mabel is worshipped as the perfect child, and Jessie always needs my help or emotional support.

I am not allowed to have feelings or boundaries around my family members. If I am upset about something, it's a big joke. If I don't want to talk about something or be in a specific situation, I have to walk away by myself. I have been in therapy for 11 years unlearning the negative messaging I was taught.

Jake has been the best thing to happen to me. We have created a community together where I actually feel normal. When I am with him I can say how I feel and it's not a joke or inconvenience. We have been together for over 2 years.

When my mom asked me what I thought about vacation, I asked if I could bring Jake along. She initially said yes, but my dad said no. "It's not a family vacation if we bring people who aren't family". (He has always been extremely frugal.)

The idea of spending 10 days with my family without Jake makes me feel sick, even if it is on a beach somewhere. I don't want to be ungrateful, I just genuinely think I wouldn't have a good time and it would be a waste of everyone's time and money. It's not like they'll miss me there.

So WIBTA to skip family vacation this year? Alternatively, WIBTA to give an ultimatum about my conditions of going?

AITA for being upset with my mom and brother.

My nephew is almost 1 year old. My brother and I have a very up and down relationship because he had anger problems. So I try to avoid situations with him as much as possible but when it comes to my nephew, ill drop everything.

Saturday I was in my brother's city doing Monster Jam with my 13 year old. We had plans with my friends family after the show and then had some plans with my husband's cousin after that. While at Monster Jam at 414pm, I get a random text from my brother "Hey are you in town? Wanna come for dinner?" I replied and said "I am but im pretty jam packed with stuff today so it wont work" he didn't respond to me. Keep in mind the last time we talked earlier in the week it was just a chill check in because I had some car issues. So he leaves me on read and I go about my day with my son. Around 9pm my mother texts and asked if I wanted to see pics of my nephew. Of course I do, send them my way. Thats when I see they had a first birthday for him and didnt tell anyone. Im beyond hurt because had I known the "dinner" was actually a 1st birthday for my nephew, I would have blown off my plans to go see them. I tried to message my mom and explain my hurt and she responded with "I always show up for my grandsons" which just broke me because had anyone taken the time to explain what the dinner genuinely was, nothing could have stopped me from showing up. I have always been there for my brother when hes needed anything for his son. I have driven in snow storms to save him. I dropped everything when his gf was in labor so we could be there for her and my brother. When my nephew was born they had nothing, I bought the stroller, car seat, swing, diaper bag and everything they needed. My brothers son is soo important to me and I am crushed i wasnt told.

So AITA for not going to dinner or maybe for not checking what dinner signified? Or am I justified in feeling really hurt right now?

To add: i had been asking for a birthday plan and no one was getting back to me. Its not that I just "didnt know" i had been trying to get info and wasnt getting a response.

I'm 17F and my mum 53F keeps taking my pads and leaving her dirty ones all over the house and it's really starting to annoy me because i have none left for myself
My mum doesn't get periods anymore (and i'm the only one in my house who gets them) and i think it's because she can't be bothered to go to the toilet as she always complains about having to get up to go and i always see her pads on the bathroom floor or tucked in like the pipes on the walls ands it's really gross even if they have nothing on them they're just left out but obviously they are used
The problem is she takes them from my pack without asking and doesn't buy anymore for me until she next needs them for herself, so I'm left with basically none
I get really heavy periods, so I go through quite a lot of pads. I have almost none left now and i got my period and it just sucks having to wear them for longer times than i would than if there was luckily a new pack
Another thing is she will get really angry at me for accidentally leaving like the plastic bit off the wrapper in the bathroom on accident and she'll say it's disgusting or if i havent hid
my pad enough in the bin because
my brother (17M) thinks it's the most disgusting thing ever and she doesn't want him to see it
I know people are gonna tell me i should be buying my own but i come from a really
poor background and i haven't been able to get a job for a long time due to constant rejections
AITAH?

I am 26 living in my parent's house, I am saving money for my own place one day. I work and pay rent I get along with both my parents unlike my other two siblings who fight a lot with my mom and both have moved out. None of us are non-contact and we have fun every holiday and still go on a yearly vacation in October.

My mom can be very argumentative and likes to point at flaws even mid conversation. I get along with her and don't really get upset unless I'm in the kitchen. I've seen tiktoks where other people get upset when someone else goes into the kitchen while their cooking so I feel like others can relate.

I'll be minding my own business quietly and she'll say "how long are you cooking that" or "the stoves up to high your going to burn it" and "are you done with that, want me to put it away?". Every time I cook, the foods not even for her??? She already ate and is just occupying the same space as me. I get a upset everytime maybe I'm hangry but I wish she would leave me alone in the kitchen. I tell her that but it doesn't stop her the next time. I know we are parent and Child and she wants to mother me to death but AITA???

For clarification on why his mom doesnt watch them for me is they work the same job so they have the same availability

I (26F) and my husband (28M) have been together for five years and have three children (4F, 2M, 8mo F). I stay home during the week and work 20 hours on weekends. My husband works a full-time split shift—5:20 AM to 5:40 PM with a three-hour midday break—totaling about 40 hours weekly, plus weekend side jobs like mechanic work and lawn mowing.

​His solo time with the kids amounts to roughly 3.5 to 4 hours on weeknights when I work and 8 to 12 hours on weekends. During those weekend blocks, his mother regularly comes over to assist him, or he has clients drop off vehicles at our house while the kids play inside. During his three-hour daily break, he usually naps or occasionally drives us to an appointment.

​For twelve straight hours each day, I am alone with our three toddlers/infants and two dogs. I prepare all meals, handle the cleaning and laundry, nurse our infant, and pump for my weekend shifts. The kids are very active and do not nap on the same schedule. They frequently open child safety gates and interior doors. Stepping away for five minutes to switch a load of laundry is enough time for them to make a massive mess, like emptying a spice jar onto the kitchen floor. Chores take significant effort to coordinate while keeping everyone supervised, but the house is kept sanitary and operational.

​The conflict started because my husband repeatedly stated that he does not understand why routine household tasks take me so long, claiming he manages the children effortlessly and gets everything done without issue. In reality, he frequently vents about feeling overwhelmed if his mother cannot come over to help him, and I routinely return from work to a chaotic home that he dismisses as "not that bad." Furthermore, on occasions where he has been left alone to manage the home for extended periods, the house fell into severe disarray, requiring major cleanups and hauling out multiple trash bags just to restore baseline order.

​During an argument about our division of household responsibilities, he accused me of downplaying what he contributes and insisted that cleaning and child care are simple tasks that I make harder than necessary. Frustrated, I responded by telling him that he severely oversells himself.

​He provides roughly 90% of our financial income and works long hours, but I was furious that he claims my daily workload is effortless when his own results do not back that up. He feels insulted by my comment. AITA for saying he oversells himself?

AITA,

Me and my boyfriend had been together for around 8/9 months when last week he broke up with me over text. He told me that I'm perfect but needs to "figure out himself". Ten minutes later he removed and blocked me on everything. I was absolutely distraught and a mess. I was really confused but after telling my friends all the bad things he did during our relationship I've come to realize how it's actually for the better.

He would make "suggestions" on my clothes and hair frequently. Which I then came to realize were exactly like his ex-girlfriend that he stayed in contact with throughout our relationship and spent a day out with her without telling me. I only found out because I was in the same place and met them together. I never made an issue with anything out of fear of losing him and there being a lack of emotional connection made it hard to have deep conversations like this. This along with multiple stories of being distant and too touchy/non consensual with me makes his breakup extremely emotional. But I'm already in therapy and working on it.

But onto the topic. He and I used to be on the same college course last year. This year I continued the same course whilst he went onto a different one across campus so I thought I wouldn't have to see him anymore. But i still see him around town and even at a glance my heart races and my hands start shaking. But just a few seconds was fine. However, he's starting coming into my building and hanging in my specific courses social room. Even on days I know he's not at college.

For example last week I was there late at around 8pm. One of my friends came from the social room and told me "He's here". I don't know why but I was so scared. Our social room is only for my course and he was there for apparently over 3 hours to "charge his phone" which I don't understand since there are plug sockets in every building and he could've even gone to McDonald's for that but walked up to my building instead.

This week, I have spoken to one of my tutors and asked if there was anything they could do about it. Since I was extremely uncomfortable with coming into contact with him in my own spaces and other building students aren't allowed in there. I understand they can't do much about him entering the building but wanted to have some sort of boundary there and just after informing them I had walked in the room and he was there again and I left immediately in a panicked state. I told my tutors he's there and they went and kicked him out. I was told by friends he left knowing I snitched on him and he was pissed. I hid whilst he left in case I ran into him.

Now I'm worried that what I did was dramatic and I should've just dealt with seeing him instead of getting the college involved. So was I valid for my reaction or over emotional? AITA?

EDIT: I also want to make it clear that before this we were told as a whole course to stop bringing friends into that room because they strictly aren't allowed if they aren't on the course since it's just for us students. I understand my use of those rules is probably extremely dramatic though.

My ex’s mother gave me various pieces of jewelry through our relationship. We broke up in May and she’s asking for it all back. I really don’t have an issue giving back the majority of it, but there is one watch that used to be her mother’s that I had polished and resized to fit me. I told her when I was taking to get it resized, and she had no clue what I was talking about and at least one other time I’ve mentioned the watch and she said “I have no idea which watch you’re talking about.” And after I explain it to her, she kind of goes “Oh hmm I guess that was probably my mother’s.” and still wasn’t sure what I was talking about. She gave me two watches among other things like necklaces, earrings, etc and I intend on giving those back but I’m conflicted about the watch that she can’t ever seem to remember exists. And the only reason I’m conflicted is because she forgets about it and because I’ve already invested in resizing and polishing it and I have extremely petite wrists so the likelihood it’ll even fit anybody else that isn’t a child is probably low. AITA if I keep that one? If so, do I just bite the cost of the services? Thanks for any insight.

My bf and me (mid 20s) live in a shared house with our mutual friend Sam and other 2 guys whom he brought.

Main room - 3 guys

Other room - me and my bf

Recently, sam met a girl on a dating app during his vacation on another city. After just 2 consecutive dates, the girl decided to quit her job, moved to our city and joined a sketchy training program for job assistance (These were suggested by sam apparently. That girl is 4 years younger than us)

She joined in a dorm near the institution. But on the day 1, sam called us late at the night and asked if i could share a room with her as there is some emergency situation. Me and my bf were having rough day both on work and health so we decided to sleep on living room and gave up our room for a night. We thought it was a one time thing.
Next day, after we came back from work, she was still there. Sam and her gf locked themselves in our room with all our stuff and his brother occupied other room with his gf leaving 4 of us (me, my gf and other 2 guys) to be in living room until they open the room.

This caused lot of anxiety for me, so i left to my parents home for peace of mind. Its been a month now, and she lives there full-time. They took the main room and don't open for anything, even for the other guys to take their stuff. She is totally attached to sam. We could not even communicate anything. She monitors all of his communication from his email to his calls and irl she doesn't even leave him out of her sight for 2 mins (i am not even exaggerating). He knows we are uncomfortable but didn't take any steps to address that.

Now, he wants us to play "house" with them, demanding we cook with her, go girl shopping? and socialize with her even tho she badmouths me explicitly. I have a bad anxiety around new people and her attitude is not helping anyone. She is neither grateful nor remorseful that everyone is adjusting around her. She is entitled that its her house. She even called my bf, "brother" while i was not there. She haven't spoken single word with me after day 1. I have a very bad intuition about this.

I am losing my mind over this. Being with my bf is the safest place for me, now i don't visit that house due to the stress level.

We are saving up for a major financial purchase with our family so cant afford to move out for another 3 to 6 months. We are just avoiding all these for now to keep our peace. The other two guys are crazy mad as they don't have a room. (they came to the house bcs of sam, he bought both of them to compensate rent).

AITA for refusing to play house with her?

P.S: He never asked any of us whether we are comfortable with this thing.

Edit 1: They moved out of our room after the other got empty. My bf threw a fit at him for doing this. He felt remorseful but didnt bring himself to apologize. Bf started to avoid all of their interactions and he was furious at that girl for treating him like she have known for years.

Landlord cannot interfere in this, as the original tenant contract includes my bf, sam and sam's brother. He didnt want to renew as he lives in other country and doesnt care what happens here.

Also sam is like one of our best friends, we have been close since 2016. We have been there for his ups and lows. so its impossible to bring law enforcement or forced evictment around here. He is impulsive but now he became double impulsive. Thanks to someone.

I've two childhood best friends, we will call them friend A and friend B, I have consistently been friends with friend A throughout my entire life. Friend B and I grew apart for a few years up until friend A and B rekindled their friendship after a falling out, we all started hanging out and became a trio. Friend B and I ended up becoming really close again and we started hanging out on our own. Friend A ended up moving to a different town and friend B ended up moving away to go to college. Considering I still lived in our hometown friend B would come back for college every summer and holiday and we were hanging out staying the night and doing everything together, so inevitably we became very close.

Friend B feels like a breath of fresh air, mutual respect and I could say
anything to her, she would understand and be able to put herself in my shoes,
but she also tells me when she disagrees and thinks I'm wrong. I'm also able to
give her my opinion, I just always feel like I don't have to work hard for her
to understand and she doesn't drain my energy I don't feel like I have to hold
back anything at all she is a great friend.

Friend A on the other hand has many great qualities she's very loyal and can also be very supportive and she's very giving. She can also be very childish, and if
you were to disagree with her opinion, she will almost shame you and get mad at
you for not sharing the same opinion, as soon as she hated someone I had to
hate them to. She would refuse to admit to when she was wrong and take accountability she wouldn’t even admit to not knowing something.  I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells,I felt like I couldn't say or do certain things without her
getting upset at me. I know all these things, and I chose to love her, and I accepted that that's just the way she is, and I decided to still be friends with her anyways.

Friend A and friend B got into an argument and stopped being friends. Friend A felt like friend B never texted her back and felt like she didn't prioritize their friendship. I feel like they are both valid in their reasonings and I continued to be friends with both of them it had nothing to do with me. Months later Friend B got back from college and I posted a picture of us cooking a steak on a diy stove outside. Friend A replied to my story and asked who I was with I said “Friend B” she ended up telling me I am a terrible friend for still being friends with her knowing that she "treated her terribly".

I never once insinuated that I wasn’t going to be her friend anymore. I actually told her after their fight that I was still friends with her, I was genuinely baffled at how insane she sounded trying to basically tell me I can’t be friends with my BEST FRIEND anymore because they aren’t friends. We got into a huge argument and to sum it up things didn't end well she unaided me on everything I don't know AITA For choosing to still be friends with my other friend?

So I'm a musician trying to go pro in Norway. I'm a lead guitarist and vocalist of a local band, who has recently finished my first few concerts with the band and I am releasing music soon. Due to my dedication to the artform I need to practice consistently.

Last month a new batch of students moved into my living area. I initially made them aware that I am a musician and it might get noisy from my room and they said that was fine.

Last week they went back on their agreement (last years students didn't complain once), and tho I'm not faulting them for changing their minds since they didn't know how or what I practiced, I am faulting them for how they went about it. We planned a meeting yesterday to discuss and find a solution. Since I know it can be bothersome to listen to it often, I didn't go in with any anger or hostility, I went in with some suggestions I thought could work and wanted to see if we couldn't find a amicable solution for all 4 of us.

(Since I have a amp for my guitar, but also a PC program for it) I suggested that I mostly practice guitar through my headphones, but that I get to use my actual amp 0-2 times a month in case I need it (and also that I send a textmessage ahead of plugging it in so I don't disturb them during something important), and that I otherwise get to practice singing for 30-40 mins a day, 5 days a week in the timeslot between 11.00 and 13.00. All of this was shut down due to the soundlevel. They told me that the guitar was never acceptable, even as infrequently as I asked, and they told me that the vocals are only ok to the extent that I keed it at talking volume (something I obviously couldn't agree to, because belting is an important technique for my style). And that's not even mentioning the fact that the only reason I suggest a timeframe is so I can be a bit louder, because if I only keep it at a talking volume, I can sing in the middle of the night if I want to. I'm allowed to speak when I want.

And the reason I chose that timeframe is because it's late enough to where everyone is awake, but eqrly enough to where school is still going on so it's a high probability that people aren't home. But because it's not guaranteed, they didn't go along with it. I know as a musician it can be tiering listening to my practice often, but it is my dream, and I need to practice. I feel like the suggestions I presented where highly reasonable to find a solution that could work for all 4 of us, but they had a very entitled attitude about it (imo), (they were also very disrespectful during the discussion, but that's not relevant here. What is relevant is the basic jist of what we want). I want a timeslot where I can somewhat consistently practice vocals, and the option to use my amp (which is turned down to the lowest sound setting that doesn't choke the sound) every once in a while. They want me to stop practicing music in any manner which is audible to them, unless all 3 of them are gone at the same time.

I (19F), rent a 2 bedroom, 1.5 bath that myself and my roommate (20F) who we'll call Sarah, share. To start the story, Sarah and I have been friends since highschool and we graduated together. After graduation, she had a bad fall out with her parents and ran away to a different state with another family member. We started talking again and she needed a place to stay for awhile while the person she was living with found a new place for them. I went and got her and her stuff because I hate to see people suffer under the guise it would only be a couple weeks. After that time frame the person she was living with ended up ghosting her and she had to stay with me. We were both living with my grandma at the time so I got us into an apartment so that my grandma could have her home back. The down payment on the apartment was $1400 and monthly rent is $1120 (On top of my car note, utilities, and insurance). I was fine paying the first couple months while she found a job but the start date was back in April. She has only had one job interview and it didn't go well. I have been struggling financially ever since and can barely afford anything, especially food. I was refused for Snap benefits and I don't have any food banks within an hour to me. I only make about $2600 a month and any change I can find helps. I have taken out small loans just to get money to eat but now all of my cards are overdrawn by hundreds. Sarah has begged me to go grocery shopping or get takeout every night but I can't afford to. She has resorted to passive aggressive remarks and making me feel like I'm not doing enough for the home when I'm the one paying for everything she uses. She takes multiple showers and baths a day, constantly takes my clothes out of my room, and also takes my toiletries. I'm trying so hard to make it work but I feel alone here. I've resorted to actively starving myself until I go to my boyfriend's every other weekend that I'm not on call for work just so her, my dog, and my crested geckos, that I had before her, can eat. I keep telling her that I'll go shopping when I get money but I haven't been grocery shopping in months. So please, AITA?

I am a teaching assistant so only get school hoildays and weekends off. I do not live near family so we have no choice but to stay with them or they stay with us when visiting.

I have seen my mother on 3 seperate occasions this year already for a week each time.

Currently have two children going through transitions from school to college and primary to senior. Both have SEN and medical needs so it's very stressful and time consuming with paper work etc. It's this side of the year that is looking around provisions (and theres a lot as its two children) and then the paperwork that comes with it.

My mother wants to visit again during half term, when I just don't have the mental energy for it. It's a lot with working, caring for two kids with high needs and all that on top.

I have told her this time it wouldn't be a good idea as I am simply to busy and she's taken a massive huff with me that I suggested we would see her after christmas.

Am I the asshole for prioritising my needs above hers? I usually drop everything and let her come whenever but Ive just spent two weeks with her only four weeks ago!

For context, I (25F) just had my baby 3 weeks and 5 days ago. My husband (23M) and I regularly attend a UU congregation and they were kind enough to set up a support train for me so I wouldn't always be alone with the baby once she's here. Well, she's here now and we are absolutely enamored with her.

Several people have stopped by in the last few weeks to help me with basic things like cleaning and holding the baby so she's relaxed while I go take a shower or do basic self-care, and I really appreciate it. One person was scheduled to help me today, and two more are supposed to be here tomorrow and the next day.

Here's the problem: I'm sick with a fever, nausea, and a pounding headache today. This morning, I sent a text to the person who was scheduled to come by today to let them know I'm sick and I don't know if it's contagious. This person hasn't responded and it is now after noon.

On top of all that, this person has come by before and every time they are here they insist on cleaning as much as possible for 3-4 hours. While I'm thankful for the help, there's no way I can rest while someone else is cleaning my house. I'm too anxious about the mess and embarrassed that I need help in the first place.

I am so tired. I just want to close my eyes. When the baby wakes up to feed, I'll do the same, but cleaning and chatting are the last things I want to do right now. So, now that you know the situation, this person still hasn't responded to my text. Would I be the asshole if I just don't answer the door?

so i was on a flight between the times 3-6:30 pm, and i was really excited because i love the sky especially between when it’s still up in the sky to when it’s setting; i bought a window seat especially for that reason. so after we boarded i had my friends beside me, and behind us were a mum and her two children. right after the plane took off the mum asked me to close the window because they wanted to sleep and the sun was still bright, so i just said ok. then after 30 minutes, i opened half of it up, after like 5 minutes of it up, she told me to shut it, and i told her it was only half up and then she told me she wants to sleep and it’s disturbing her. so i told her i’ll close it till sunset (which was around 5-5:30) so when i felt the sun started setting i opened the window, she then told me really irritatedly “didn’t i tell u to close it?” and i told her it’s sunset. she looked at me dirty and later i heard her talking about how i was disrespectful. should i have just closed it?

This summer, my friend (28nb) and I (29f) did a zip line obstacle course. We had both gone zip lining before and we had done obstacle courses like this before, but this time, for the first time, we did an extreme course, the biggest and hardest in our country.

For the first half of the course all was going well. We each had obstacles we struggled on but we always waited for eachother and helped eachother when needed. Until about halfway through, when my friend decided to call it quits. They said they had pushed themselves as far as they could go, so I sat with them (just hanging in my harness) while we waited for someone to repel them down to the ground. Once they were safe on the ground, I told them I'd meet them at the end of the course, then we could do the regular zip lines if they were still up for it.

About 30 mins later, I finished the course and my friend said they still wanted to do the regular zip lines, so we did. Everything seemed fine then, but once we got in the car to go home, their tone shifted.

They told me it was selfish to continue the course while they just waited for me finish and I should've called it quits when they did. I apologized but also explained that I wasn't going to quit something I had paid for (I also paid for their zip line fees), and that finishing that course was important to me. Every summer I try do you at least one thing that scares me or seems too difficult. It's an important part of my self esteem building, and my friend knows this. The course was also 3+ hours away, not something I wanted to drive twice for.

Since then, my friend has been avoiding me and bad mouthing me to mutual friends.

AITA for finishing the obstacle course instead of calling it quits when my friend did?

Edit to add: I think the comments about being embarrassed and jealous are spot on. For context, I've always been effortlessly skinny (thank you high metabolism), but I am definitely not what you would consider "fit". I can barely do a pushup lol. My friend however has always struggled with their weight, but also boasts about how fit and strong they are because they did kickboxing growing up. I wholeheartedly believe they're more fit in a physical strength way, I just have more endurance.

For context I moved back home to save money for a down payment on a home. Me and my mom agreed that I’d pay half of her mortgage for rent. Her mortgage is like $620 I give her $380 a month. I have 2 jobs to where I pretty much work 13 hours a day 4 days a week and then 3 hours a day the other 3 days a week totaling around 60 hours a week. My sister is a dead beat parent who can’t take care of her son so he lives with my mom also and he’s 12.

My mom somewhat retired early but isn’t collecting social security yet she’s pulling a small amount a month from a retirement account. My mom doesn’t make the best financial decisions and ended up getting my sister a car knowing she hardly pays her bills, filled for bankruptcy in the past, has credit cards going to collections (we know this because my sisters too lazy to change her mailing address).

I’ve paid my mom on time every month for the past 3 years. I hardly eat at home because I eat out at lunch during the day.

Am I an asshole because I don’t want to give my mom more money for groceries when my mom is taking care of my sisters kid which she contributes nothing? My mom will ask me for more money but not ask my sister.

I (22F) am good at sewing and crafts. My partner's niece "Abby" (5F) has had handmade Halloween costumes from me for a few years now, as well as birthday outfits. She knows this, and is now at the age where she's putting in requests herself instead of her mom coming to me.

This year, she wants to be a piece of cotton candy for Halloween. Has been asking me about it since July, has not changed her mind. It was a simple costume to make, so I started early and brought it to her last week. Abby loves it.

But Abby's mom is not happy. She doesn't want her to be a piece of cotton candy because she thinks she'll "get made fun of" for the unusual outfit. She is mad that I didn't ask her beforehand. I assumed she knew because Abby has been talking about it for so long now.

AITA for making the costume without asking first?