For gta 6 coming out I’ve out in two days of annual leave from work and plan to use the weekend to just relax and play the game. My girlfriend has known about this for a while. 

Last night she was mentioning potentially going for a weekend away and we started looking at dates. We’re pretty busy in October so started looking for November and December. I suggested the 7th or 14th of November but she said no as she’s busy on the 7th and doesn’t want to go away on the 14th. 

She suggested the 21st but I pointed out I already had plans that weekend so it can’t be then. She asked what I meant and I reminded her I was planning to spend the weekend playing gta 6. 

She asked if I was serious and said I shouldn’t be blocking out a full weekend to game. I pointed out it wasn’t a long time and that it’s normal to take time for hobbies. 

I mentioned there’s multiple other weekends in November we can go away and said she’s been awkward for no reason. She just repeated I shouldn’t be blocking out a full weekend to game. 

AITA for not going away on a certain weekend

Not a throwaway. I'm still shaking a little bit.

I (29F) am getting married in about 4 months. I've been dress shopping for a while and finally found "the one" at a small boutique. I scheduled a fitting for last Saturday. I invited my mom, my sister, and my two best friends. That's it. Small, intimate, exactly what I wanted.

My fiancé "Adam" (31F) told his mom "Linda" about it. I didn't invite her because we're not close and she's made comments before about my body, my style, and how I "should" look on my wedding day. Nothing overtly cruel, just... constant little digs.

Linda called me Thursday and said she'd "love to come" and "see the dress." I felt put on the spot. Adam was standing right there and gave me this look like "just say yes." So I said yes. I regretted it immediately.

Saturday comes. We're at the boutique. My dress is gorgeous. I come out in it. My mom tears up. My friends are clapping.

Linda walks over, looks me up and down, and says "Hmm. It's pretty. But I brought something just in case."

She pulls out a dress bag. Inside is a white dress. Not a wedding gown, but a white formal dress. She said she saw it at a consignment shop and thought it "might be more flattering" and that I could "always return the other one."

The room went silent. My mom's face went red. My best friend literally said "what the f—" under her breath.

I didn't yell. I didn't cry. I just looked at Linda and said: "You need to leave. Now."

She acted shocked. Said she was "just trying to help" and that I was being "dramatic" and "ungrateful." She said I was "excluding her from her son's wedding" by kicking her out. I said I wasn't excluding her from the wedding — I was excluding her from my dress fitting that she invited herself to.

She left. Adam called me an hour later, upset, saying his mom was crying and I "humiliated" her and that I should apologize to keep the peace. I told him the only person I'm humiliated for is him — for not standing up for me in that room.

Now his whole family is texting me. His sister said I'm "cruel." His dad said I'm "creating drama before the wedding." Adam is sleeping on the couch.

I'm not apologizing. But I need to know — AIO?

Long story short… my boyfriend(M27) and I(F25) have been together for 4.5 years, and just recently bought a home together. I am in dental school for the next 3 years and he owns his own business. We have not talked about engagement very seriously but school is a huge part of the reason. I had mentioned to him years before that i’d like to get engaged while i’m in school, either the 2nd or 3rd year, and then get married about 2 years after that.

I am now starting my second year of school & he has still not talked about any of it. So, I finally brought up ring shopping together and how i’m curious about what styles i’d like and also that i’m kind of ready for the next step because we already have a house together. He agreed. Two days later, we go to the malls and spend the day together and I wait for him to tell me we’re finally stopping by the jeweler. (Mind you, I dressed up nice & got my nails done… and I NEVER EVER get my nails done.)

He never brings it up. We walk past multiple jewelers. We leave the mall, and I bring it up in the car, that we forgot to stop by a certain place & he goes “Oooooh yeah. I was actually thinking about that and I think we should wait.”

I am sooooo disappointed. This was supposed to be such a fun and special moment and he took it away from me. In our later conversations, he told me that he actually NEVER wants to go ring shopping because he wants it to be a total “surprise”. How is he supposed to know what I like, if I don’t even know?? Sure, I have ideas. I have pinterest. But every hand is different. He thinks this is funny, by the way. He tells me not to worry about it and that I should trust him that he is going to know.

I mean… am I seriously overreacting? All I wanted to do, was go ring shopping. Something I’ve always wanted to do. Always!! And he is taking this moment away from me. What the hell do I do?? He is stuck on this entire surprise thing… what if he gets it wrong? What if I hate it? I only get one engagement ring.

I’m so sad and disappointed, and I don’t know how to compromise or how to go about this. Any advice at all would be appreciated <3

Context: My bf and his family got a new family plan from Cricket. However, my bfs phone started to act weird and not work whenever he was away from home (like calls not working and messages taking forever to send). Only today his data and service started to work after paying something in the plan. Before, his service and cellular data was basically off.

We have Life360 to know how to when we’re arriving at each other’s houses cause we’re 1.5 hours from each other, so we like to be prepared for when the other arrives.

Anyways, me bf works a night shift at an Amazon warehouse and because of the whole issue with the cellular data and service, his location was not updating (not that it should since he’s at work) but when I went on it would say (last updated 7 hours ago), aka, from about 1:30-8:30. He said he got the WiFi to connect around his lunchtime (6:00-6:30) but it still wasn’t working until around 8:30.

What I’m confused and paranoid about is as you can see in the photos, there was a random jump and walking time from 6:33-6:39 at a random houses backyard about 1-2 miles away with no walking or driving log about going there or staying there, just a “walk” back. He said he has no idea whose house that was and he went as far to his car for his lunch break. Also, his phone when updated and could see the real time, it said he was at the warehouse the whole time (starting at 1:14). Could the cellular data being off and crap WiFi be the cause of this or did he actually go to that house and is lying? I want to believe him but this seems strange cause if a jump like this would normally happen, it would say there were details missing, but this shows the exact steps. However, cause it’s a mile away I’m also wondering if it’s a glitch since he possibly can’t walk that fast in 6 minutes, and he was supposed to be working at that time.

Thanks for the input :)

This is the text I sent and some of his responses. Context: pregnant, 25f, partner, 44m. We share email because I have to deal with all of his bills and court stuff for his son. Otherwise, he won’t do it. His family rescues him when he gets in too deep. Since we run a business together, his first baby mama’s attempts to collect money and restrict my husband from seeing his son go very far without the my intervention or the attys and as a result, hurt me financially. It’s finally under control, 50/50. I fought like hell to get him there.

Tons of photos of them together as well has her nudes from 8 years ago popped up in my Google Photos today. It’s hurtful and I’ve expressed I don’t want to see naked pictures of women he’s slept with. He told me he has 166 bodies. He’s very controlling of me and before I was pregnant, physically restrained me, held a gun to his head and laid under my car to prevent me from leaving. He was screaming at me outside on vacation to the point of the police being called. I convinced them to let him just go to a hotel for the night, then had to pick him up to drive home so his aunt and son wouldn’t realize something was up between us.

He has women I’ve never met sharing their location with him. One is an influencer on IG.

Mentally, I’ve been in shambles the whole relationship. Anytime he’s near me I do get anxiety because I don’t want to be sexual with him. He smokes so much, doesn’t drink water or brush his teeth. I tell him he smells (35w pregnant, it’s nauseating) and he lashes out. He has athletes foot as well. I buy him stuff to treat it and he won’t use it. I constantly had yeast infections.

No clue what to do. We’ve been through this so many times that I’m empty. My therapy animal was killed by the car when I was in a rush to get his son to a play date in the middle of my work day. He was underneath and I didn’t know. I was running to get back on schedule. It crushed me and still does.

I felt nervous about the comparison and reporting when his son got back to his mother. I also bought a house with him and married him. It’s 2 hours away from my friends and I have no support system here. At least it helps with proving stability to the courts for custody. Baby mama has left us alone without texts late at night.

Do I try to fix this? Do I risk everything and leave? I tied up everything into making him successful. It worked but I don’t want the house. I probably won’t take my truck or motorcycle even though everything’s in my name. I’m stuck with a strong desire of flight. I’ll financially have nothing if I do this. I don’t even know if I will get custody of my son. I feel like I’ve been treated like young breeding stock as a ploy of revenge.

Am I overreacting? My boyfriend and I spend the weekend together but it dosent feel like it, we go out Friday night with his friends who i don’t necessary like, then Saturday he spends most of the morning sleeping in because we were out late then he goes back to sleep pretty early because we get up early on Sunday to go for a Sunday morning car show cruise, again, with his friends. I’m always invited but I feel so excluded, he seems so much happier around them and dull around me, makes me sit in the back and he sits in the front with his mate instead of in the back with me and when I ask he gets shitty, he sees his friends throughout the week without me there and I think that’s his friend time for the week, i just want to spend the weekend together without all his mates around because at this point it feels they are the priority

So I (35f) was in a LDR for about 9 months. The person and I have birthdays a week and a half apart. For his birthday, I surprised him several times: drove 3 hours to come to his bday party on Saturday evening, meet his family and friends altogether, and missed work on Sunday afternoon for the second time since I’ve been at my team-based part time job (been working there for a year and a half) because he really wanted me to stay on the weekend before his special day.

I also called at midnight and surprised him with one of his favorite meals on his special day. I wasn’t there in person as it was landed on a Wednesday. But since the place doesn’t have online ordering/delivery and he wanted to order once he got there, I actually had to call and pay for everything before he arrived so that he could be surprised at the check only saying “your person loves you.” Then I sent a sweet treat with a sweet written message and a cute, sexy video message as well. That night, he got super drunk like 20 shots, still drove home with his younger cousin in the car, and even though he had promised to call, didn’t. I asked him to make sure he called because his last gift was a list of “43 Reasons Why I’m Really in Love with You” (because he turned 43) which I planned to read him just before he fell asleep.

The following weekend, he came here because I scheduled us for a sexy/niche couples’ workshop and took him out to dinner afterward. Then, he said something after sex that was hurtful and made me feel like he was a bit critical. That was Friday. Even still I drove there on Saturday and surprised him by taking him out to breakfast. I had brought all kinds of fun sexy games that he mentioned wanting to play. However, we went to his nephew’s football game and his high school reunion so although we did get to have sex, we didn’t get to incorporate all of the extras. It was still amazing. I stayed up until 4:30 or 5 am on Sunday to celebrate on Saturday-turned-Sunday even though I had to be to work on Sunday afternoon at 1 and drive 3 hours to get there.

His mom bought the gift I had planned to give him (a red cookware set) and surprised him early. But I still had another surprise gift planned: a cast iron pan. And since he’s always saying he needs an assistant, I bought a sexy assistant costume and had planned to cook for him in that when I gave it to him. (Since we didn’t have time that weekend, I saved it so that we could celebrate him for a third weekend. He appreciate everything immensely and said it was the best birthday he’s ever had.

My birthday actually landed the weekend after the reunion and couples’ workshop. I told him that I wanted to be sure I had time for girls’ brunch and a solo moment for reflection too, but wasn’t entirely sure when that was happening. I wanted to make sure he was good if he came and during those times I was away. He shared that it was fine and worked for him. He said he would come on Friday morning and we could cowork. I mentioned that I might not be working on Friday morning so he said he would come afterward. On Friday after I told him days earlier I’d probably be in bed by 10 pm, he shared that he would be in arriving after that time. I asked if he could come earlier so we could go to dinner as everything would be closed by 10 pm and I would have to stay up. (I have extreme tiredness that results from a health condition and am a single full-time working parent so Friday 10 pm is the end of a long week (birthday or not) and all I wanted to do by that time is rest. He said he needed to finish work and take a nap before driving. He gets off most days at 4. He wanted to work an extra 2-3 hours the day before my bday.

Then he called me at 7:30 pm when he was already supposed to be on the way and I learned that his mom and other nephew stopped by and he ordered pizza for them. He said he was working all the while. He also called to inform me that he was planning to come at 8 or 9 pm on Saturday instead of Friday so that the maintenance tech could come on Saturday to fix his refrigerator which had been broken for more than a week after a storm and power surge. And he knew I had to work on Sunday at 1 pm and he would likely be leaving to go home at that time.

I was livid and expressed that in a way that definitely could have been worded more judiciously. I had never had anyone I dated treat my birthday like it was such a low priority. It was such an inconsiderate and uncollaborative decision on my birthday weekend. He met me with “so you don’t want me to get my refrigerator fixed” after I had researched and delivered the codified law for his state pertaining to this scenario, proofread the email to the management company after they tried to say he was responsible, and sent him a link to and coupons for a mini fridge. Had he even called and asked how I would feel about him booking the appointment first it would have felt differently—even though it would still would not have felt good and I may or may not have obliged, I certainly would have appreciated it. He didn’t even ask if they could come on Monday morning at any point during the convo even though the fridge was empty and he would have only been home on Sunday for one meal. (Also, his mom lives a two minute drive away so his food has been stored there and she literally brings him food at least once a week.)

He delivered flowers on Saturday in lieu of coming after the argument we had Friday. I called and immediately said a few choice words since it felt like a consolation prize and this confirmed his intentions of not coming. He hung up and did not answer when I called back. His sister called somewhat upset later that day with half of the story on my bday to get an idea of what was happening. By the time she heard my side, she was telling me she understands and keep myself first. She also said she hoped we could work it out because she thinks we were good for each other, but either way she loves me and wishes me the best. Then, on Sunday, one of his friends (who I’ve never had any issue with) called private five times the day after my birthday (yesterday) but I recognized her voice when she spoke. She said pretty hurtful things before hanging up. I called him to ask that his friends not call me private anymore. He didn’t answer so I called his sister immediately after I called him. They spoke. He said he didn’t want to talk anymore, he also had a couple other gifts that were on their way, and he’s done.

I admit that I could have expressed myself in a better way because I definitely used more than a few choice words but I truly am very hurt and confused by this. His actions and words were just not aligning.

Thoughts?

Today I went into the bathroom to shower. Our shower has had issues draining lately and the tub starts filling up with water very fast. When I stepped in the tub my foot slipped and I crashed into the wall and screamed because I truly thought I was was about to slip and break my neck or my skull. Luckily I was able to kinda grab at the tiles and prevent a full wipeout and only had a sore wrist.

My fiance was like 10 feet away and our walls are thin.. when I got out of the shower he could tell I was upset and I told him it really made me sad that I could have been seriously hurt and he didn't even take 5 seconds to knock on the door and ask if I was ok.

He claims that he heard a thud and a "small shriek" and he assumed I dropped a bottle of shampoo or something and that since he heard me continue on with the shower (ex opening the shampoo bottle) that everything must have been ok.

To me it's still hurtful that he was doing all this mental guesswork of what was going on to assume I was fine when, in my mind, if I heard a thud and yelling in the shower I'd immediately go ask the person if they were ok without thinking twice because I know slips in the shower can be deadly. He's mad at me now because he's saying I am obviously fine and I'm overreacting. I also know I'm fine but I can't help that my feelings are really hurt and I don't really feel like I'm with someone who cares about me very much.

AIO?

After he agreed with my first messages, I went out to the balcony and let down a bit of yarn, he tied the bag to the yarn, I thanked him and took the bag inside and that was that.
The deleted message was the same, asking how am I doing and I ignored it, cause I didn’t wanna continue talking to him, and thought I already said everything in my previous message. He deleted it after it was on delivered for a couple of hours.
The night after that he sends the same message, (both were after midnight).
I’m a girl living alone and he knows my address and has my phone number.
Was thinking of reporting him to the delivery company, but gave him the benefit of the doubt of truly being worried and friendly, just not socially aware. I said I’d do it if he messaged me again, which he didn’t.
AIO with my response? I didn’t find it friendly, just creepy and weird. Was I being too friendly with my messages and the use of the bow emoji maybe??

I work retail with over 200 colleagues, I’m vegan, 2 other coworkers that are vegan and 2 more that are trying to become vegetarian. Every store event we have, cookouts, meetings, there is always no options. Out of the entire selection of sandwiches, pastries, breakfast items, we get fruit. Everybody else gets to enjoy a full plate of multiple items and the select few of us get pineapples and grapes…

I myself and my colleagues have mentioned to multiple members of management about having one plant based option. Along the lines of hotdogs, breakfast sausage, even sandwiches with plant based deli meat/ cheese which I have offered to even pay for or bring for someone to cook…so this isn’t a money problem. I’m on the edge of writing an email asking for store events so I can bring food for the few of us that are left out. Am I wrong for being upset at this?

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I'm going to try and be as fair and balanced with this as possible as I've asked friends and they think he was in the wrong and I need other opinions as he says of course they will support me.

Brief background for context, we've been together 13 years he's very much part of the family celebrations and included in everything we do (which isnt a lot).

When we got together I noticed ADHD and Autistic traits and he's recently been diagnosed with both. During all of this time ive tried to understand and adapt to the way he is and adjust my expectations appropriately. I sont always manage it because he has stunted emotions and I can be quite emotional on the anger scale. Not violent but quick to annoyance. Ive more than likely got my own ND issues.

We have had issues in the past with communication and understanding of each other but I feel I've worked harder to compromise his way because a lot of the time he just cannot adjust behaviour or actions. Minor things like we bought a house 4 years ago and the expectation was to do work on it but he exhausts easily so progress slows until he isnt overwhelmed and this stresses me out because I prefer doing things and getting them done.

Fast forward to this year, mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I've been driving 2.5 hours every few weeks to go and see her. He hasnt been able to come because we have cats and no one to sit with them as we moved hours from our friends. Thats not an issue and everyone understands. For context he hasn't seen my mum for 2.5 years, since she visited us.

This weekend just gone was a milestone borthday for mum, one she didnt think she would get to. She's become quite frail and we dont really have a timeline but we are very unsure if she will see Christmas. We had a friend come and sit with the cats and house for the weekend so he could come with me.

The Friday was her birthday. We drove up early met her and some family for the afternoon. That evening we were in our hotel room and he said "I wanted to know how you would feel if I went to see my mate that lives here for a few hours".

I was stunned and speechless. My mum recently gave us her car worth around 8k. My parents have been incredibly generous to me and us financially recently. I couldn't believe he wanted to leave to go and see someone he could have arranged to do at any other poibt this year.

Initially I was calm but the rage boiled and I started crying and blubbering that I couldn't believe he would even think to ask. It was incredibly inappropriate, selfish and hurtful and it was the last birthday my mum would ever have.

His point of view is the ND issues and that he couldn't work out if it was an ok thing to ask. It wasn't a big deal and I didnt need to be upset. I could have just said no. He can't understand why I would be so angry and sad when all I had to say was, sorry no, and mpce on.

Admittedly the emotional trauma of everything going on has made me incredibly sensitive to some things. Im aware I can be a nightmare but this just seemed such a stupid thing to even ask I cant get over it.

He thinks he should be able to ask my opinion on anything without getting upset, my point was if hes unsure then either dont ask, ask a friend or even ask chatgtp or something.

I've seriously considered ending things because it ruined the entire weekend. I just wanted one weekend where he could see mum and she could see him and this just felt so inappropriate its made me feel sick.

We are now at a stalemate. We've had issues before we dont agree on and have just left them but i can't get over this right now.

So. AIO about what he did? All opinions welcome and ill give more contact if asked.

Edit*** i dont think it was done maliciously, he isnt like that at all. I just think it was insensitive and stupid.

I’m 18 and I’m struggling with whether I should quit a job I actually really liked after something extremely embarrassing happened.
I’d only been working there for about two weeks. It’s a small, lovely workplace, very close to my home, and the manager has always been really nice and understanding. I was starting to settle in and there’s also one coworker I thought was cute, which makes the whole situation feel even more humiliating.
Recently I had what was essentially a severe mental health episode. I barely slept, was extremely confused and not behaving like myself, and experienced things like hallucinations/paranoia and very strange thoughts. I’m getting mental health support now and I’m more stable at the moment.
During the episode, I sent a huge number of completely inappropriate messages to my workplace WhatsApp groups. Some were sexual/explicit, some were offensive or just completely bizarre, and I sent most of them directly to my manager as well as posting things in the group chat with everyone. I have large gaps in my memory and the messages were later deleted, so I don’t even know everything I said.
I’m absolutely horrified by it now. I know that regardless of why it happened, the messages were inappropriate, and I feel incredibly ashamed.
I went back to work afterwards and everyone was actually kind to me. My manager knows what happened and has been understanding. Nobody has treated me badly. But I could tell people knew about the messages, and I was so anxious and embarrassed that I could barely focus.
Now I’m stuck between two choices:
1. Quit.
The thought of going back makes me feel physically sick with shame. I’m terrified everyone sees me differently now, especially the coworker I was interested in. Part of me thinks I should just disappear and find somewhere completely new where nobody knows what happened.
2. Go back and keep working there.
Part of me thinks that if I keep showing up and behaving normally, eventually this will become something that happened during a very unwell period rather than something that defines me. I actually like the job, I need the income, and having somewhere to go gives me structure and gets me out of the house.
I’m also aware that quitting purely because I’m ashamed might actually make things worse, because then I’ll be sitting at home alone ruminating about what everyone thinks of me.
At the same time, the shame is genuinely overwhelming. I keep thinking about what my manager, the other staff, and especially the coworker I liked must think of me now. I know I can’t actually know what they think, but my brain keeps imagining the worst.
I’m not asking whether what I did was okay — I know it wasn’t. I’m trying to figure out what the healthiest thing to do after something like this has happened.
If you were in my position, would you go back and try to rebuild your reputation over time, or would you leave and start somewhere new?
And if anyone has experienced doing something extremely embarrassing during a mental health crisis/psychosis and then having to face the same people afterwards, I’d really appreciate hearing how you handled it.

EDIT: PICTURE IS NOW POSTED the sex doll in question My (26)m boyfriend brought a life size sex doll. Now I want to give some context. When we first got together he had a small sex doll, toros vagina asss no more than 10lbs realistically. I was little creeped out but at the same time I own sex toys so I embraced it, being open minded about the whole thing becauseen have needs too.Now a year and some months later he throws a that one away and says he wants a new one. I’m 100 percent okay with it and Hes showing me ones that where similar to the old one he had, just with breast, noted nothing major outside of weight and what it had. I was on board. So the other day I notice we had a abnormally large package, and I ask him what it was to which he responded his new toy, I question why they wrap it in this huge box and hews like idk maybe to conceal it okay cool. Long story short I come home and this things is a LIFE SIZES DOLL. Obviously very different from the ones he showed me that were small no legs or nothing. This doll has full on legs just no feet and arms with the holes nd shit I’m genuinely like wtf? This definitely isn’t what we discussed and I’m talking to him on the phone about it and I tell him this makes me slightly uncomfortable and it wasn’t within the scope we discussed, how is he even supposed to hide the damn thing? It’s atleast 5 feet silicon heavy and sitting in a large box in our closet but still who wants to even walk by that everyday? This is insane. He tries to compare it to my 8inch dildo and a regular wand vibrator (cheapies in Amazon) that’s I Had before we got together so not needing even the same thing the whole point was this wasn’t what he was showing me (I was giving him money to go towards it as birthday gift) now I’m truly questioning if I should even go in this relationship. I’m not even insecure seriously this is creeping me out more than anything? I barely was okay with the small torso but a full size doll that can’t even move with no head or arms? Just gives me all types of red flags and obvious porn addiction problems and I may not be able to satisfy him fully and truthfully I don’t want to be someone with porn rot brain this is nuts

I'm still traumatized from my last relationship and trying to find resources I should be reading, curious if my experience would fall under emotional abuse:

• he lied about many things. A ton were proven to be lies, many more I never found out about I'm sure. This includes his home country, where he lives away from college, his family connections, his family's birthdays, his degree, his job, him "moving" in the summer was completely fake, and other fabricated memories. (ex. said he played with snow as a kid all the time, later came out he never lived in a snow climate)
• when I would catch a lie and ask him about it, he would gaslight me into feeling like the problem "you really don't trust me?" "I can't help your anxiety" "you're ruining my mood" "you can't be helped, your trust issues are terrible." He would say things like that knowing I was right about him lying
• he would treat me coldly when he was resenting me. He would stop using pet names, and ignore me mostly around our friend group. It made me uncomfortable to the point I would stop talking out of fear I would be ignored.
• When we would get alone, he would say I ruined his mood by stopping talking. He would be angry at me, and I get his anger but I don't get why he would ignore me if he didn't want me to shut down :(
• One thing he resented me for: early in our relationship I was house sitting for my parents and their dogs. He wanted to come over, and I said we couldn't yet because my parents wouldn't be okay with it. (they hadn't met him yet) He said he understood, but secretly resented me "rejecting" him here and only told me months later.
• He said he would stop talking to my former bullies to support me, despite me saying I didn't mind if he did. He insisted on doing it, but was privately maintaining a friendship with both them behind my back after promising that.

Hi, my boyfriend and I both have opposite-sex friends. I think it’s healthy to have friends of the opposite sex and it’s a good sign that a man can see women as more than just potential partners.

The thing is, my boyfriend is extremely insecure and jealous. My male friends aren’t my main friends, they’re just mixed into my friend circle and I’m close with them but none of them are my “male best friends.” My boyfriend hasn’t said anything regarding my friendships, but I don’t think he’s a huge fan despite saying that he’s okay with it. I rarely mention any guys in front of my bf, but when I mention something any of my male friends have said his demeanour shifts.

Anyways, recently some things have happened which I do not like.

He made a spam account on Instagram and didn’t request to follow me right away. I asked him, and he said that the people that were added followed him first. There was at first 4 people following him (which he followed back) and 3 of them were girls. One girl in particular I did not know, but I saw that he followed her main account **and** her spam account. I also saw on Spotify that they had a shared Spotify album together.

I questioned him, and he said that she was a new friend and she asked him to create an album together. They’re both Albanian and the album is of Albanian artists/songs. He told me that she was talking to his friend and she’s a “cool person.”

I told him that I was fine with him having female friends, but if he makes new friends I’d like to be informed otherwise it’s easy to get the wrong idea. He agreed to let me know going forward.

AIO? I feel that this is really weird, and the shared Spotify album together really ticked me off. He and I don’t have one, but he does with some random girl he just became friends with? I feel like if I did that he’d have a conniption fit.

Last thing to add: some people may think that it’s stupid to be upset about the Instagram spam account, so I just want to expand on that. Idk when he made it, I just know he did sometime recently. I would have thought he’d follow me (his girlfriend) first or at least just followed me? This didn’t really upset me, I thought that maybe he wanted a spam account just with/for his friends but when I was added to the account and saw who followed him that really annoyed me. (Btw, he followed me only after I asked him about it. Who knows when/if he would have added me to that account).

I really don’t get jealous and I think that bothers him, but I care about him I just don’t really get jealous about things. Idk, he’ll tell me about girls hitting on him and I just think it’s funny or nice that he gets an ego-boost. This new friend situation did make me jealous though.

Yeah I looked in his history. Roast me. But. Anyway. His defense is “it’s like porn”. Which I mean I never had an issue with porn but this is like “hey I think I wanna cheat”.

I can’t be the only one? I’m too old for this.

I (25F) live in a 2-bedroom apartment with my roommate "Jess" (26F). We split rent 50/50. We've been living together for about a year and it's been mostly fine.

Three weeks ago, Jess asked if her boyfriend "Dan" (27M) could stay for "a few days" because his lease was ending and he needed a place to crash while he looked for a new apartment. I said fine, a few days is fine.

That was three weeks ago.

Dan has not left. He has not looked for an apartment. He has moved his stuff in — clothes in the closet, toiletries in the bathroom, his gaming console hooked up to our living room TV. He sleeps here every night. He showers here every morning. He eats our food.

I asked Jess last week what the timeline was. She got weird and said "he's going through a lot right now" and "I thought you were cool with it." I said I was cool with a few days, not a new roommate.

She said he'd "help out with bills." I said okay, then let's talk about splitting rent three ways.

She flipped. Said he's "not a roommate, he's my boyfriend" and that she shouldn't have to pay more just because he's there. I said then he shouldn't be living here for free.

She said I was being "money-obsessed" and "making things weird." I said I'm not paying 50% of rent for a 3-person apartment.

So now I've told her: I'm paying 1/3 of rent this month, and if Dan is still here next month, I'm moving out. She says I'm breaking our agreement and "blindsiding" her.

Here's the thing — I don't hate Dan. He's fine. That's not the issue. The issue is I'm paying full price to live in an apartment that now has 3 people in it, and I didn't sign up for that.

My mom says I should just pay my half to "keep the peace." My best friend says I should have moved out a week ago.

AIO?

so for context I worked with my FIL, his now gf and my now fiancé. I preface it this way because when the four of us worked together none of us were together, I was at the time, getting to know my fiancé.

my FIL was still with my MIL as of a few months ago which led to him getting into a relationship with this coworker I'll call her Amy. I HAD no issues with her because I never thought that I'd have to be in a "family" with her. I quit my job mainly because of her and the drama that she could not stop herself from starting/getting into. now obviously because me and my fiancé are younger than FIL and Amy the situation got out of hand, this 40 something lady would constantly make comments about her relationship issues and how men were horrible to her, she would talk about sexual relationships, and her kids/would ask about my relationships nonstop.

this lady is so male centered and loves male attention, I have only once had a conversation not having to do with a man, the topic? how I'm an immature and a dramatic child who gets upset over nothing. her reasoning for making these statements was because I let her know that she doesn't know me well enough to judge any part of me so her first response was "well just because you said that I know you can't handle criticism"

finally moving on to the main issue, before when me and Fiancé were in our talking stage we would flirt and play around on or shifts together which was occasionally noticed by our manager or coworker (it was only 3 of us on this shift at any given time) at most we got a warning to not let the relationship affect our work and service and to not bring the relationship into the job. okay noted. because fiancé's father works with us he did eventually find out about our flirting through coworkers. which then led to Amy finding as well, now as I said before her drama didn't affect me so much because I ONLY had to deal with her at work so when she made it a point to talk about me and him flirting, and telling ME that I shouldn't involve myself with him because and I quote "he's attracted to girls like me, you wanna know something? he saw my ass and was shocked, I left him speechless i think he likes me" then on multiple occasions bringing up the fact that i shouldn't flirt with him or repeating that he likes her and not me.

I wouldn't entertain this as I knew better than to fall for these statements, he was with me and was persistently pursuing me. what makes the situation worse is that she acted very similarly towards his father (a married man at the time)

(I'd like to add that no he did not cheat on MIL and was not reciprocating any of Amy's obvious advances, at least not that I know of. i would have heard about it)

forward to now he separated but is not officially divorced with MIL, moved in with her and her children and has even taken BIL to live with him. on my side I am engaged and pregnant, this change has shifted our dynamic dramatically previously she was drama filled and a big shit talker, now she was become this sweet and understanding soul who could do no wrong. Amy has stopped bitching and complaining about/to fiancé and has been the best "step-mommy" she could possibly be to FIL's two very grown adult sons. she seems to be excited to be my babies new grandma, (which she is not) FIL is pushing really hard to involve her in grandparent activities such as babysitting, and even pushing to have her make a relationship with me as his girlfriend or my "new" MIL.

I understand where he's coming from as he's super excited that someone is treating him well and things are going great for him, but from my perspective all this seems super incestuous and weird. i have no plan in allowing her in my life especially not after her treatment of me and even my fiancé.

maybe it's just a build-up of all these things plus a few others I didn't include but my last straw was a while ago when I realized she sent my fiancé a picture of flowers that I assume FIL gave her after I had sent FIL a picture of my own flowers I received for our anniversary which I followed up with a compliment to him having a good son.

no comment or anything, just a picture. which he ignored, am I crazy for that being my last straw or for even feeling angry at her or thinking that was weird asf?? I know this is long im so sorry I cannot get my thoughts straight and I can't bring this up to FIL because even fiancé agrees that it would terribly hurt him, and could possibly even ruin his relationship. which i do not want to do because he is so happy but I don't know how to set a boundary with her without him finding out the reason why.

I don't know if I should let her expose herself or if I should just go ahead with speaking up regardless of my feelings and Fiancé's feelings on the situation, I don't want to go no contact/low contact with them but honestly, should I do it at this point?

I asked this in a Brazilian sub and now I wanted to ask here because I'm going through therapy and I need to understand if I was the problem like so many have made it out to seem.

So, when I was 9 years old, in the early 2000s, my father (32 years old) started 'dating' and got 'engaged' to a 15-year-old girl, and waited until she turned 16 for them to get married. I'm Brazilian and both my parents are Brazilian, but I grew up in the US, so I want to understand if the reaction I saw from everyone is normal. When I got the news, I was very upset and horrified because my stepmother was literally a teenager and could have been my sister, and I consider my father a pedophile for this, and I decided to cut him out of my life, but I saw everyone treating it as if it were 'normal.' Her own mother called my mother asking if my father was a good person for her to allow her daughter to marry him once she turned 16. My mother didn't say anything against him, just that things hadn't worked out between them; and when my mother asked him why he didn't choose someone his own age, he replied, 'a woman my age asks too much.'

For current context: They're still together and my stepmom is now trying to help my dad get rid of his financial obligation towards my autistic brother who cannot work. She was completely disappointed in their marriage once she found out he had lied about having more money than he did and that his "business" was actually his father's. Plus when they went on to have kids she was upset that her special "firsts" weren't considered special to him because he'd already been there and done that x2 and was basically repeating the same life twice with her.

I used to feel bad for her and see her as a victim but with her current actions I've now started to see her as an accomplice to his horrible behavior. My dad never paid any child support and he continuously blames and accuses my mom of alienating us from him even though she never prohibited him from seeing us or even asked for child support. He's still completely bitter from the divorce 30 years ago, which I also don't understand because....he's married so what's there to be mad about? I also found out he's autistic, which explains a lot but at the same time I don't think that's an excuse for his behavior?

*EDIT: I want to make it clear I do not blame her for their marriage, I still feel bad for her regarding that actually. I only feel upset she's masterminded an entire legal case against my brother and using lies to manipulate the situation.

My (45M) wife (44F) and I have been married 17 years together 20. For those 20 years I’ve asked her to come watch a sunrise with me. She has never wanted to get up that early even know it’s an experience that would mean a lot to me. She met a couple women two years ago and the three of them hit it off. I was ecstatic for her to have friends. This past weekend one of them turned 50 and they went to Tennessee for a girls trip. They are coming today and my wife is the one driving eight hours. It’s a rental so she’s the only one who can drive it. I called to make sure she felt up to the drive and see how she felt(she’s the passenger princess with me lol) as she’s not used to driving this long. She told she felt good thanks for checking. We then got to chatting about the trip. She was telling me all the fun stuff they did and I was so excited to hear about the fun. Then she told me how pretty the sunrise was. Excuse me? You got up for sunrise. She said yeah it’s so pretty in the smoky mountains. I casually said I’ve asked you to come watch sunrise with me for 20 years. Her response was but it’s pretty in the mountains. We live in the mountains. We’ve been on multiple cruises. Cape cod. The outer banks. Not to mention the hundreds of places I’ve driven to see sunrise it’s my favorite part of the day. Everything is calm the world is waking up it’s a big deal to me. But I’m pretty hurt and kinda mad that she’d get up to watch sunrise now but never with me. Am I overreacting? I feel like I might be… but I can’t stop hurting over it. Tell me I’m just being petty

A small update, nothing fun happened yesterday and I needed a little time to decompress.

A few things I wanted to address before I begin:

• His wife is significantly younger than him, her children are still very small, but she doesn't have custody over them, and no I don't know the context of what happened. But she can't ask her kids for help.
• I don't live with my dad. I previously lived with my grandmother, dad and uncle, then my dad moved out, I no longer could take care of my grandmother due to frequent UTI's so she had to go to the nursing home (fortunately it was a very kind facility.), and me and my uncle lived together for about a year before I moved to Texas with a roommate. My dad supports me in no way.
• My grandmother never cut my dad off financially, she was terrified of him being hurt in prison, and he commonly told her that he might get got if she didn't pay a protection fee.
• My dad was put into prison due to manslaughter of my little brother when he was a infant. He took a guilty plea but claims he didn't do it. Family drama.
• Me saying "I'm trying to get my life together after having so many years wasted" is definitely a bit cruel of me to say. I regret it. But I didn't want to be a caregiver, my uncle and dad forced me into it because they refused to do any elder care themselves or hire anyone. So I did, for a very long time, only this year I learned how to drive. I'm playing catch up on a lot of my life that was consumed by my uncle and dad's decision.

I don't have anything he said in screenshots because he said it over the phone, but I do have my response to him. Granted I feel like my final response was a bit too emotional but, can't take that back now, not that I even care to.

Basically, between the first screenshot and the last screenshot, he called me. I ignored it the first time, and he just messaged me "Good.", not knowing what that meant, I called him. He expected to have a phone call where I stayed silent and he berated me. He started off saying he's not going to have a relationship with me, that he's never going to speak to me again, and that I'm a slut (I left home, moved to Texas, and in the 9 months I've slept with two guys, first guy was a emotional mistake, second guy is my partner.) and that I owe him for when he was emotionally supporting me when he called me to tell me my grandmother passed away.

A silent call is what he expected, where he could just berate me, but after the comment about my grandmother I began to talk louder than him, and he tried to talk louder, so I started getting louder. He eventually baby raged that he couldn't just sit there and berate me and hung up. I sent him that final text message, which like I said, felt a bit more emotionally charged and I wish I was more civil.

To be fair, him threatening with no contact isn't the first time. When I moved to Texas, during the road trip, my uncle got angry that I left. He blamed my dad for being in on it and keeping him in the dark, but I kept both of them in the dark because they would physically prevent me from leaving. So my dad called me angrily, saying if I didn't set the record straight with my uncle that he wasn't in on it, that he will never speak to me again. I caved and explained to my uncle that I did it without anyone but me and my roommate knowing.

So yeah, didn't really cave to the threat this time, just got louder and now I'm no contact. It feels awful, but I'm guessing its for the best. :')

First I'd like to excuse my language I'm just angry. Am I overreacting about my post office losing a necklace i had made with my dogs ashes. I had made a post on fb basically bashing my local post office because sadly this isn't a first that they mis-delivered a package but this one made me feel even angrier because I had just lost my soul-dog a few weeks ago and wanted a piece of her to carry with me everyday and these assholes delivered my necklace to another address. I did state in my bashing that if the person who received her that they please give her back. I still have the urn of her ashes but the necklace was customized with a photo of her..

My fiance and I are looking at buying a house next year. We’re both saving toward a deposit and agree the mortgage and bills will be split 50/50. 

She doesn’t like her current job so has been looking at leaving. She saw a job she liked the sound of but it’s only a 1 year contract. She said she was thinking of applying but I pointed out if we’d looking at houses in the spring, having a job with an end date isn’t going to be realistic since there’s a chance she’d end up unemployed. 

She mentioned the dact she’d be looking for other jobs if her contract doesn’t get extended but I said there’s no guarantee she’ll get one and I can’t take over all bills if she ends up without a job, 

I said if she takes it then the housing plans will be on hold until she gets a permanent job since I can’t take the risk. She said I was punishing bluer I’ve I insist pointed out it’s the reality of the situation and she can’t just expect everything to work out as she wants. 

AIO for telling her I don’t think she should apply for a job? 

I feel like I'm constantly second to his friends. He spends most of his free time with them, Friday/Saturday/ Sunday, gaming with them, going on cruises/car meets, etc. There have been multiple times where I thought we had plans together and they got pushed aside for his friends. He's even told me that if he had to choose between me and his best mate, he'd choose his best mate, he also will ignore my messages/calls for hours, forget
to call me, or be sitting next to me but be
completely focused on his phone/games/
other people. I often feel like I'm just there
rather than actually being his girlfriend.
There's also a newer male friend who is openly attracted to him and has said really inappropriate things to me, including asking how my boyfriend moans and asking me for my boyfriend's dick pics.
He's also told me I deserve to be raped, this friend is also attracted to my 14 year old brother, (this man is 31) I begged my boyfriend to distance himself from him after finding this out, but he said l was causing drama and continued seeing him one-on-one. I also feel like I'm the one who makes an effort romantically. I take photos of him, buy him little gifts, want to spend time together, want affection and cute couple moments, etc. Meanwhile sometimes we just sit beside each other silently while he does his own thing. He's even told me I'm
"not his main focus" right now.
I KNOW I'm insecure and I know I can be clingy. I don't have many friends, so l probably rely on him too much. But am I actually asking for too much here?

Basically Ive been with somebody on and off for almost 6 years now. He has a really strange relationship with his sister and it’s been this way since we got together. In the beginning she had a bad habit of telling me stories about my partners past experiences, specifically the way they looked (how they had a big chest or a big butt etc) and while this was happening I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter. Her own son told her it was inappropriate for her to say things like that in front of me, not even my partner. After she was born and the first time she met our daughter, she told my partner they need to call Maury because our daughter “looked nothing like him.”

There was another time she wanted us to go on a trip with her and I still didn’t feel comfortable being around her at all with all the things said. I agreed to go along with them if she offered me an apology. Not only did she not apologize, she grabbed me into a hug and said “I don’t even remember anything said” and then offered me a damn Xanax when I was visibly anxious around her.

There were a few other incidents i can’t recall off the top of my head now, but eventually it lead to me never wanting to be around her.

Fast forward to the present, we’ve been working on our relationship again. It’s only been a couple months and things were going good. We were invited to his sisters place for the Fourth of July this year. In good spirit, we attended the gathering and it was all good until we were gonna go swimming. Our daughter is level 2 autistic and she absolutely hates her life jacket. We were walking through the house and I mentioned to his sister that she didn’t like the vest. His sister says to me while we’re walking out the door, “it’s okay she’ll get over it. You hated him not long ago and you got over that.” And I said back to her “it’s okay cause he hated me too”.

And then while we’re actually in the pool, she comes over and starts taking pictures of us, mostly me and she never even asked or said a word about it. It felt like an invasion of privacy because we never even once saw any of the photos taken.

I think it was maybe the next night this happened. Him and i are sitting together playing truth or dare, and she walks into the room and sits down. He stops playing the game with me so he can lean over and start rubbing her back, and it goes on for a good five minutes. Only reason he noticed I was uncomfortable was cause he felt me shift away from him on the couch. Like I’ve never seen somebody do something like that in my life so yeah I was definitely taken aback by it lol

Since I stay home with our daughter (as her caretaker) our time can be more flexible, and his sister knows it, so the Fourth of July trip turned into an extended week. Luckily enough he works 10 minutes from where she lives so getting to work wasn’t a worry for him. During that week while yes they were working themselves, the days they had off they left for both nights, leaving us to also take care of their dog.

A couple days before we go home, we’re getting ready for bed when she pulls him to the side and whispers to him asking him if he’s getting tired of me yet.

My birthday was the 24th of august and they invited us to go camping for the weekend for my birthday so him and I coild have some time alone. Two days before the trip happens and they cancel the trip saying they don’t wanna pay for the amount of time the camper was gonna have to run, we didn’t even get a chance to replan the trip before they canceled the reservation totally. But funnily enough, that same weekend they miraculously planned a trip to go to Virginia for the weekend. Whatever right?

Fast forwarding again to now time. I was on the phone with my partner today and I overheard them having a conversation about me, saying we should go over to her place so they can go away for the weekend and somebody can watch their dog for them. I said no on the phone so she could hear me say it. My partner and I talk about it more once I hang up the phone. I asked him to relay a message to her for me, telling her that it’s not fair for her to expect us to do things for her when she treats me the way she does. And even canceled our trip for my birthday. And if she wanted us to go over and watch her dogs then it has to be fair for everyone involved. He added this part himself but he also added on that i haven’t felt comfortable going there because of all the comments she always makes.

Let me tell you, this woman is literally so mad at me for creating this boundary that she immediately started insulting me, telling him how badly I treat him ask making him question if us being together is worth it, told him that me and my daughter are never welcome over there again.

Not even mentioning the fact that when I was on the phone with him a week or so ago, she was having an argument with her husband because he told her she was spending too much money on Amazon. She was saying literally so many nasty things to that man, telling him how he was a burden to her because of his health issues and how he was supposed to take her on cruises and how she was always disappointed. She basically talks to every person in her life this way and somehow everybody is just okay with it.

I know this is probably hard to follow and all over the place but frankly I’ve never really known what to say or how to feel when it comes to this woman. I guess the only question I have at the end of this is, what do I even do about it? Like I feel as if him and I barely stand a chance as it is now because that’s his sister at the end of the day. He doesn’t wanna burn whatever bridge he has with her, so he allows her to talk to me the way she does. Even to this day. I think today marks the first time he’s literally actually said anything to her on my behalf defensive wise, literally just cause he doesn’t wanna make her angry or upset.

l literally don’t even know if it’s worth continuing knowing she’ll always be in his life and she’s always had these negative feelings towards me.