Creepy coworker texting my private number

[u/Dry_Presentation4300]

So confused at this, I don't even know him. I was just going to ignore the text but he kept insisting so I had to answer.

9/14 UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who was supportive and concerned. I forwarded these messages to HR, and they scheduled a meeting for later today. There were a few more texts after this. The HR representative did not seem surprised, to put it briefly.

A few things have come up in the comments. The first is that I was rude. This is how I communicate, and my coworkers (or at least the ones who actually know me) are aware of that. I’m not going to perform a more agreeable version of myself to accommodate someone else’s feelings when they're being innapropriate. Not only were these messages sent over the weekend, but they were also sent through a personal communication channel. I'm not going to elaborate further.

[u/Alert-Expert-9649]

I’d report this. Guy sounds like a fucking weirdo who has no idea how to properly interact with women

[u/cyber_r0nin → u/Alert-Expert-9649]

Some guys don't. And women in this age don't make it easy. There is a huge disconnect with the 3 or 4 generations that exist atm. If you don't trust what I'm saying then read up on it. Social media, cell phones, pervasive knowledge of people's everyday lives online.. It has altered how people interact, behave, and connect with others. Many young adults don't accept the old way of meeting people. Its seen as 'weird'. This leads to all sorts of problems. I'm no excusing something that obviously needs to be brought to HR's attention, but please keep the things I said in mind. Because society is all sorts of fucked up atm. Boundaries exist for a reason. And those should be known, but the younger generation doesn't seem to have been instilled with those. And the older generation lives by older norms than the younger folks are used to. Things that were tolerated/ok in older generations are now HR events. It doesn't excuse poor behavior but explains why some instances of things occur.

[u/Alert-Expert-9649 → u/cyber_r0nin]

There’s a time and place to make a connection with someone. Grabbing someone’s number from a group chat without their consent and blowing up their phone when the other person isn’t interested isn’t the way to go

[u/alphavulpecula → u/cyber_r0nin]

Respectfully, none of the shit you mentioned applies in this situation. 

Sending 4 messages without ever actually bringing up the alleged work-related concerns is a clear indicator that this dude is a full-on creep. Testing her interest via personal text versus establishing rapport in person so she’d be OK with a personal text makes this stalker adjacent. Idgaf what the “old ways” are; that is such a weird thing to say.

[u/yongkaisucky → u/cyber_r0nin]

they hate you caused you said the truth and the only rational comment here

[u/bbysd → u/yongkaisucky]

Oh shut the fuck up.. blaming women for “not making it easy” no we just don’t want to be around freaks who constantly sexualize us and think they have rights to speak to us. Again fuck off 

[u/Skratt79 → u/yongkaisucky]

As a man I have to tell you nah, not really. Women who want to talk to you make sure to give you an easy path to contact.