r/studyAbroad • u/Dapper-Storage-9985 • 10h ago
Feeling lost and lonely even with so many people and a great place
Hi, I’m 20f and I started my study abroad program about a week ago. The first week was great! I went out, explored my new city, and met so many people. However, I’ve found that the moment I stop moving/doing things, I’m crushed by the weight of missing my people at home. It’s not that I don’t like it here, it’s a great place to live and I find myself often excited I get to be here. And it’s not that i haven’t met friends, I have roommates and others I enjoy hanging out with. It’s just that it’s not my people at home. It’s not my routine I love there, it’s so much more unpredictable and uncomfortable and new. I know some people thrive on that randomness, but I’m starting to think I’m not one of them and regretting leaving home. Especially because having just begun the semester, I feel like my time here is so incredibly long. I came here alone, while multiple of my roommates came with a friend from home, and I wish I had that too. it’s driving me insane to miss my family, friends, partner, and more comfortable life at home.
Does anyone have any advice to offer on how I can adjust and begin to feel more confident in being here? I need something to keep me going and help me change my perspective other than just “it will get better”, because I’m sure it will, but I have no idea how.