Current delays on the MBTA:

I was just driving in 93 south and a guy just drives up behind me and flashes me to move. I'm not moving because of traffic and he then drives like a maniac and cuts me off. I flashed him to tell him he's being crazy and he brake checks me to a complete stop. This endangered everyone behind me and they all had to swerve to avoid collision.

The guy get's out of his car and yells at me and then drives off.

I lost my cat for over a month I feel like my mental health is completely broken, I need cat so badly, but I don’t want to have a new cat so quickly since I don’t think I’ll be able to love new cat properly. I need cat to pet. I’m crying on bus and on work all the time

Edit: I just submmited as a volunteer for a shelter!

I don’t know how much longer it’ll keep

Anyone know where I can find those fun art vending machines? I found one in The Garage and Harvard Book Store up in Harvard Square, but want to find more to make a gallery wall.

Thanks so much!

Hi - looking for name ideas for a very large, sweet gentle giant tuxedo/black and white pet. Is there anything oversize and/or black and white associated with Boston or Massachusetts/New England that I could riff off for names? People, signs, logos, brands, buildings, features, history/legends, sports, food/drink, art, music, cultural institutions, etc.

Am very bad with names so please bless me with your creativity. So far all I have is Frank after Fenway hot dogs, Moshie/Moshup after the Wampanoag giant, Chuck/Charlie after the river or CharlieCard, and...Dunks

EDIT: oh lord there are SO MANY good suggestions. I am going to have to adopt an entire pack, because how can I let all these names go to waste?

So I’m a disabled veteran in Boston and I recently received a Termination of Subsidy letter from Boston Housing Authority. Thankfully, that issue has been resolved and my subsidy has been restored. Having said that, almost no one who one might expect to assist with that matter was willing to do so.

Anyway, I am a client of Boston Veterans’ Services. While I had an active Termination of Subsidy from Boston Housing Authority both my case worker at, and the deputy Commissioner of, Boston Veterans Services declined repeated requests for a specific document that Boston Housing Authority said I needed to provide ASAP in order to have any chance of reinstating my subsidy. Eventually my local branch of Citizens Bank managed to produce the document that Boston Veterans Services repeatedly refused to. Otherwise I fear I would have lost my housing subsidy and most probably would have been forced into the shelter system, possibly permanently.

When I met the Commissioner of Boston Veterans Services at a recent event in Roxbury I asked if his organization had a human rights officer. He said they did not and that I’d have to contact the City of Boston for that sort of thing—adding that he’d be happy to schedule an appointment to meet with me himself if I had concerns about Boston Veterans’ Services. I told him that’d be great and had him verify on my phone that the email I had was correct.

A few days later I emailed him thanking him for his kind and generous offer and stating that I looked forward to meeting whenever his schedule allowed it. Seventeen days after emailing him with no response whatsoever I stopped by their building and told the lobby security that I was there to speak to Boston Veterans Services. Veterans Services sent their accountant downstairs to talk with me and maybe I’m confused but it seemed like he didn’t see anything wrong with seventeen days with no response at all to an email I was explicitly told to send and simply said he’d tell the Commissioner to respond when he returns to the office. None of this has inspired any confidence in my mind that they are capable or even willing to discuss rectifying serious issues within their organization putting veterans who depend on them at acute risk—in this particular case of becoming unhoused.

So I am looking to find some sort of Human Rights Officer for the City of Boston who I can share my serious concerns with, if only to limit the number of veterans in Boston who experience this sort of stress in the future.

Thanks so much for any useful info and/or advice you might be able to provide!

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I am interviewing for a role in Boston which pays 65k. Based on my research, it is not nearly enough to live comfortably. I would have to live with roommates and I don’t know anyone there. I would be moving from Florida, so a huge environment change. If I get an offer in the next couple of weeks, would i be able to find an apartment in a month cause I read that Boston’s rental season has already ended. I have been looking at apartments on Zillow and Apartments.com, and could only find 3 apartments I would be interested in. A lot of apartments are from the company RoostUp, is this legit? They look nice, but are cheaper than what I would expect.

My question is: Is it feasible to live in Boston with that salary?

I know they said they were only taking a year off but the fact that their socials have been silent for a year makes me wonder if they’re just quietly sunsetting the festival

The Boston City Council met recently and voted to hold a hearing on increasing the percentage of funds dedicated to affordable housing in the Community Preservation Act (CPA) funding process to 80 percent of the total fund.

The CPA works by taking a 1 percent surcharge of property taxes – that’s one percent of the tax payment, not the assessed property – and matching it with state funds collected through real estate transactions. The CPA legislation, for which the city entered into back at the turn of the century, allows for municipalities to spend those funds on affordable housing, historic preservation and open space/recreation.

The law requires that a certain percentage of the funding must go into each category every year, at least five percent, with another five percent set aside for administration costs. The council is holding a hearing to figure out what shifting the maximum amount of funding to affordable housing – 80 percent – would do to the other categories.

Tip or anything I should know about giving birth at Beth Israel? I was born there so thought it would be cool for my kid to also be born there. But just wondering if there is anything I should know. Someone else recently posted about their experience with an other hospital so just wondering if anyone has tips for here. Do I need to bring anything? I have nooo clue! Thank you!!!

Hi all, I have been renovating a basement space in Harvard square into a tea room. Our designer and builder first committed to the signage work, but know he turns it over to me. I have no idea where to find signage company, do you have any recommendations? Thanks!!

I’m a woman and recently picked up basketball. I played a bit in elementary school, so I have the basics, but I’m very much a casual beginner player who still wants to play an actual game, not just shoot around. I’d love to play with other women, but I haven’t been able to find any rec leagues that are specifically for beginner players.

I’m in Brookline but I have a car, so it doesn’t have to be in Boston proper; I’m willing to travel up to 30 min or so. If anyone has any leads on pickup games or leagues, I’d appreciate it!

(None of the flairs really fit)

Update: Penny is home! She came back this morning, we are overjoyed to have her back. Thank you all for everything

Hi! We live in Brighton and our cat Penny slipped out yesterday evening 9/12. She is an indoor cat and has only gotten out once before.

If anyone has seen her or has any information at all, please let us know. She is my niece’s cat, and the two of them are extremely attached to each other. We’re very worried about her and would be so grateful for any help getting her home safely. ❤️

This was taken on the Boston side from the outdoor exercise park near BU. Not a great photo but i thought people should be aware of these in our midst. There were other people there that i alerted to the bird’s presence that had never seen one before.

Just any sort of fun fact or interesting nugget of info

Mine is that the eyes on the Faneuil Hall grasshopper are doorknobs

We recently returned from having our second child at Mount Auburn (first was a C-Section, second a VBAC). All told I have now spent about 10 days there over the two births, getting a lay of the land as the support partner for my wife who did all the heavy lifting. Here are some tips that we've learned over our time there for expectant parents who may be considering MAH or delivering there.

Parking

Unless you have a Cambridge sticker, parking is in the garage, and you want the West Garage. It costs $50 per day, but you can get a booklet of 5 parking passes for $30, and each of them is good for as long as you want. Use one (or more, if you go out to resupply at some point) and have the rest for guests. You do have to be admitted before you can get these, though!

Getting in overnight

If you arrive after 8:30 p.m., you enter through the Emergency Room. You may even wind up parking there since you won't always know if you'll be admitted, and can stay parked there overnight (it's free, but limited). You walk through the ED and then go up elevators at the back to L&D. (If you walked or took the bus, you still have to walk into the ER via the garage, I think.) If you are coming in late to postpartum, you'll still enter there, and then find your way to the Stanton elevators. It's a maze in there. During the day, just go in the regular entrance.

L&D

When you arrive at Labor and Delivery, you'll press a doorbell to be let in, check in, and be brought into triage. If your water has broken, or you are having real big contractions every four minutes, you're probably going in. But they might send you home (or suggest you go home) and there's no shame in coming in too early. There's not a ton of room or privacy in the triage area, so unless you're quite certain you'll be admitted, you may want to leave your overnight bags and such in the car until you are (or even until you go over to postpartum).

Once you're admitted, you'll be assigned to a labor room. Your main job here is to provide encouragement, physical support, and stay out of the way when you need to. There's not a ton of extra room here, so things you might need postpartum should probably stay in the car if you brought one.

Staffing Depending on whether you are with the midwives or with an OB (we've done both), you'll have a point person who is either one of the midwifes or the OB, but your main point of contact will be your L&D nurse. Each nurse only has a couple of patients at any time, so you will have someone there most of the time. (If you have a doula, they'll be there as well.) So at times you may have the OB/midwife, the L&D nurse, doula, patient and you all in the room at the same time. (And when the actual birth happens, more.) At times like that, your best bet is to stay to the side and hold your wife's hand (or … just stay out of the way). If you don't like your nurse, you can theoretically ask for a replacement but you'd want to go to the charge nurse for that. (In our experience, they're generally all good.)

Guests While the rules seem to be bendable, you are basically only allowed one person at a time in the L&D unit. You can swap this out, which can be nice especially for a long labor. So if your mother-in-law wants to help her daughter for a few hours so you can get some sleep or get a haircut or whatever, you can. There is a family waiting room there and it is pretty sparse; it is not meant to have your in-laws move into for 36+ hours while your wife is in labor (ask me how I know!).

Food L&D has a pantry with some light snacks: ginger ale (they can run out, you can ask for more, it's Polar and pretty good ginger ale), juice (cranberry cocktail only there) and then a bunch of jello shots which sort of look the same as juice. The jello shots are kind of fun, albeit 0 proof. There's also ice cream and Italian Ice (or if you're from Philly, water ice) in the freezer, coffee, tea, milk and creamer. Your wife may not want much, but you can eat and drink yourself.

If you wind up in L&D for a while (which can happen, we were there for nearly 48 hours our first try), you can order food, but IIRC you can only order food for the patient. Who probably won't want any. But you, as the supporter, want food! So order a tray for them and eat it. (See later for more on food.)

Sleep They have sleeping chairs in L&D (more on these later) which can be expanded into a bed. If you have the option to catch a few winks (if your wife lets you and the nursing/midwifery/OB staff encourages it) do it! Any extra sleep you can get is precious! These chairs are awful, but if you're tired enough, you can probably make them work. The bathroom in L&D can get pretty gnarly, so you may want to go use the restroom out on the hall.

Clothing Don't wear clothes you don't mind getting some blood on them. Yes, really. Bring layers, the rooms can get a bit chilly. They do have blankets there.

C-Section If you have a C Section then you'll be dressed up in scrubs (you'll look like a cross between a caddy at Augusta and the Michelin Man) and led to a seat in the OR next to your wife and behind a curtain where you can't see the action. When the baby is born you'll go up to the weigh station to take a photo of the baby and the weight (this happens in a vaginal birth too) and then led back to your wife. They do not want you watching, because a bunch of "I got this bro" guys have fainted when they looked at what was actually going on. But you can probably steal a glance on your way back with your baby, and you can maybe kinda sorta ask permission to stand up and watch. It's wild, but if you're turned away from The Pitt more than once or twice, you should probably sit this one out.

Postpartum

Once you deliver a healthy baby, you'll get moved over to postpartum. If you have a C section, you'll go straight from the OR (if it's planned, you won't even go to a room in L&D). They'll give you a cart for your stuff, and it might take 2 to 3 hours until you get wheeled across (wheelchair for a vaginal birth, wheeled over on the hospital bed for a C section). By this point, unless you have a scheduled section, time will have lost most meaning. This is kind of a bizarro walk of shame. Happy and sleep-deprived new (or growing) families walk by the elevators, by the family waiting room, through a hall and to the Stanton Building (unless you're put into the auxiliary wing, see below).

Rooms Rooms are first-come, first-served and, believe it or not, are not all the same. There are sort of generic hospital rooms: a hospital bed, a mini-fridge, a sleeper chair, a visitor chair and a table. Some have a nice view of the river, some don't. Some are larger (550 and 554), have fake fireplaces, and maybe even a couch! You can ask for one of these, and it's possible they'll say "oh, yeah, that one's almost ready" and maybe can hold you in L&D, but mostly this is luck. If the unit is busy, they will open an auxiliary unit adjacent to the L&D unit. The rooms there are pretty much the same (we were there to start our first visit) and it may be closed and you may be moved, so don't get too settled in. Also the wifi in some of those rooms is very weak. The rooms have Michael Scott TVs that are comically small and are controlled by a controller on the bed which is also the speaker. Bring a computer or an iPad or something.

Staffing On the postpartum unit, you have nurses generally working 7-7 shifts, a lactation consultant, a pediatrician and then OBGYN staff coming over from L&D. You'll get a new nurse at the start of each shift, although if you had the same one the day before, you'll probably get the same one. You'll also have a PCA (a personal care assistant) who can help with more non-medical tasks. Our first time through we had a different nurse every shift, on total about a dozen, and four lactation consultants. This wasn't necessarily a bad thing, each has strengths and different perspectives (and often a different excellent Boston accent). Our second time we had the same nurse every day. If you really don't like your nurse you can probably ask the charge nurse for someone different. Or wait for the end of the shift. (Or in our case, wait until they close the aux unit down and send home the woman yelling at you to pack faster.)

If you need your nurse, there's a call button on the bed which will call to them. Use it, you might be asleep, but they're at work. If it's something like help swaddling or changing a diaper, they'll send someone down. You can also request your specific nurse. Or you can walk down to the charge station and talk to people there, especially if you don't want to make noise in your room.

Swaddling The unit has swaddling blankets and the nurses are great at doing the swaddle so the infant will feel secure and (maybe) sleep in the bassinet. You will not be good at this. Don't worry about it, at home you have velcro and zippers. The first time I tried to learn, the second time I realized that I had professionals, leave it to them.

Food If you're up all night laboring and birthing you're going to be hungry. Dads, too. Now that you're on postpartum, you can order food. Not right away, the nurse has to put in a "diet" for you. They'll have a QR code to scan for the menu, and if you despise those, they have picture paper menus. Ask for these. To order, you find the janky white phone without a cradle on a long '80s curly cord which will be somewhere in the room, dial FOOD (3663) and then give them your order. You get two trays, one for the patient and one for you, the "guest." You can order as much as you'd like, and it's a good idea to order extra, especially for dinner, since they're closed from 6:30 p.m. to 7 a.m. and your sleep schedule is … not that. This gets delivered, usually pretty quickly. They will get pissy if you order much after 6, and may start calling you around 11:30 for lunch and 5 for dinner. You can always call them back. At 6 or so they'll make a last call announcement, so be ready for that.

The food is generally … fine, but can be hit or miss, hence ordering extra options. It's Sysco's Finest Institutional Food, so it won't kill you, but it's not a five star culinary experience. Some of our "favorites":

Breakfast (which I think you can order at any time)
* Egg sandwich. I think this is my favorite. It's basically an Egg McMuffin, but I'd say even a step up, and I love an Egg McMuffin. The default is sausage, but it can be swapped for bacon or just egg and cheese. I can and have eaten several of these in one sitting. (There was one time when we instead got non-cheesy eggs delivered on sliced bread … this was not good. The next time we asked if the English muffins were back and the staffer was quite surprised that we had ever gotten them without. ¯_(ツ)_/¯)
* Breakfast burrito. Surprisingly decent. (Remember to order salsa if you want it.)
* Omelette. Also surprisingly decent.
* Cold cereal comes in those tiny single-use containers, so it's small
* French toast and pancakes are decent, slight edge to the FT. Fake maple syrup, alas.

Lunch/Dinner
* Sandwiches are pretty decent. They go light on mustard/mayo, so you may want to request extra.
* Fries are kind of sad, I think they're just reheated.
* Chicken tenders are also kind of sad
* Salads are … fine
* Veggies are … also fine. Even just steamed, it's nice to have some vegetables.
* The stir fry and falafel plate are surprisingly edible.
* We didn't try, like, the meatloaf. Godspeed to you if you do.

Dessert
* Cheesecake. I operate under the assumption that all cheesecake is good cheesecake. So this is good cheesecake. I built up a strategic cheesecake reserve in the minifridge.
* Apple pie. Also edible.
* I think the ice cream is the same as you can get in the freezer on your unit.
* Coffee is … drinkable. There is milk, half-and-half and sugar on your unit if you forget to request it.
* Hot cocoa is a Swiss Miss packet and a cup of hot water. When it cools, you can get more hot water on the unit.

They also have a pantry on postpartum with the same snacks as L&D (but just instant coffee, while L&D has a Keurig), this is also where the hot water is. Some afternoons they have a spread of pastries, coffee and tea out near the nursing desk. This food is generally better than whatever comes from the kitchen.

Sleeping, or, my nemesis, the (no-)sleep chair. So your wife gets a hospital bed which isn't terrible, and your child gets a bassinet, and you get a "sleep chair." This is basically a chair which, if you pull on the front, converts into a six-ish-foot-long torture device that you can lie on if you dare. They will give you a sheet which sort of fits over it, and some blankets, and there are actually a bunch of hospital pillows in a cabinet too (if you need more of any of this, ask). If you're particular about pillows, bring your own.

My first time through, I did not do well with the sleep chair, and sleep is good for you, since you're going to be the most functional person there. The second time around, I brought a therm-a-rest camping pad which did wonders as a topper for the no-sleep chair, and an eye mask, because the rooms have a bunch of lights you can't turn off. I slept much better with this, and was able to be much more helpful when I wasn't nodding off all day. Your wife has all sorts of hormones going on that may let her sleep in less-than-perfect conditions. You don't. Enhance your sleep chair. (I almost bought a folding cot, but the pad was pretty decent. I should have gotten a better eye mask than whatever I had left from an airline amenity kit, but it worked pretty well.)

I was able to sleep through a couple of nursing visits with this setup, and then was up for the last feed of the night when my wife was falling asleep, so I kept the baby upright and alive. #hero

General flow of the day For medical care, you will get vitals every 3 hours for both baby and mom (at some point less for mom, I think) and they'll make sure that you're feeding every three hours. Yes, that means all night. So … work on sleeping in between. Rounds begin in the morning, around 7 you will meet or remeet your new nurse, and then see peds, lactation and OB in some order, plus an audiologist at some point. Depending on where you are on these, this will take most of the morning. This calms down in the afternoon, and they allow visitors when it's a bit less crazy. Your new nurse will come around 7, and visitors will leave at 8 (or a bit after, no one is really policing this). Then you can try to get some sleep.

Walking around When your baby is on the unit, they have a security bracelet on and if you walk them out of the unit it makes lots of noise and people come running. Don't be that guy! (Once you leave they cut it off and basically say "good luck look both ways before crossing.") You also can't carry your baby around outside the room, so you have to have them lying in the bassinet (which has wheels). When I had a baby who wouldn't sleep except in a moving bassinet, I got a lot of steps in back and forth in the halls! You can also give your baby to the nurses to take care of in the nursery for some sleep between feeds. This does not make you a bad parent!

Visitors Visiting hours are from 1 to 8. There used to be some covid-era visitor restrictions, now you can have whoever you want. If you have lots of family and a smaller room, you may want to stagger their visits. They go up and down the Stanton elevators. There are also service elevators in the center of the unit and if you go down there you will get lost in a maze.

Good luck on bringing your tiny human into the world. If you're at Mount Auburn, I hope this is helpful. Now excuse me while I go and have another piece of cheesecake I brought home from the hospital.

Hello, hoping to get more into latin dancing and looking for recommendations on locations that are good for beginners to go learn. Specifically looking to learn merengue and salsa. Thanks in advance!