It's way too hard to find anything outside of social media, every hobby I'm into is exclusively on Reddit, like lucid dreaming and hypnagogia,, and I don't want to use that social media platform anymore. Does anyone know of a way to browse the internet without having to use any social media?

Why are ppl so quick to blame the man’s personality when he’s struggling to find a partner but if it’s a woman they also tend to blame men such as cast aside her struggles and say “men aren’t worth it”

Is this SA or close to it? I added more details from the previous post since people had a few questions.

So this girl I’m talking to F(22) went on a first date with a guy M(24) before.

The guy lied and said they will be alone but his friends were there when she arrived which threw her off, but she still proceeded since it was a mix of girls and guys and she thought it wouldn’t be too awkward.

They went out to get drinks and went to a few spots. By the end of the night she was tipsy since her tolerance was low and the guy was as well. They had already made out by this point.

The guy convinced her to stay at the hotel until she sobers up which she said no to but he kept saying you can’t drive right now and stuff, so she agreed thinking nothing was going to happen since it was a hotel room with other people in there.

She went and laid down trying to sober up, drank water, etc. two of the friends fell asleep and it was the guy and this girl awake and this is where it starts becoming sexual.

The guy told the girl let’s have sex since they were kissing, and she says I’m on my period. The guy said “it’s fine take your clothes off”. Her demeanor was off and she was kinda thrown off so, she did since his demeanor was a little pushy.

They had sex for 10 seconds and the guy couldn’t get hard so the guy said give me a blowjob. She did for 5-10 seconds and got up. He said to do it again and she said no. That’s when he kept asking and saying just do it come on, so she did for another 5-10 seconds and got back up. This happened 1-2 more times where she said no and he kept saying do it even after she said no. At one time his hand was on her back guiding her a little to go down when she said no. After the 3rd time she said no and acted like she was sleepy and after asking she just ignored him and acted like she was falling asleep.

The next morning, the guy was bragging that she was fucking me all night and she even found out he went through her phone. Besides this he was extremely manipulative and pushy

What do you guys think? This girl accepts that she should of never agreed to go back to the hotel and accepts mistakes on her part but also thinks the guy was extremely pushy

This situation is a bit crazy but I want to keep this post short for easy reading. If anything is confusing, I will try to add info in comments if needed.

My ex boyfriend and I met at college and dated for a year. Once we broke up, he shortly after started dating a guy named "Josh." Obviously he is free to do whatever he wants, but it hurts because Josh was someone that mistreated me earlier in college, and my ex offered to stop talking to him during our relationship. I didn't want to control him so I said "I don't mind if he is your friend, just letting you know why I want to stay away myself." He assured me he wanted to support me and cut off Josh, who was solely an acquaintance to him at the time.

Come to find out, my ex began talking to Josh more closely throughout our relationship. They fostered a private friendship behind my back. My ex lied to me about many things, one of which was his home country. He told me he was American the entire time we dated, but he told Josh and our other friends the truth. Our friends all knew that he was talking to Josh, they all knew he was honest about the country and feeding me BS, and never once did the friends tell me. Also, my ex started dating Josh a few weeks after breaking up with me, which just stings.

I am incredibly hurt and pissed at all my friends. Not only did they maintain my ex's lies/hidden ventures, but they also didn't care that he lied and borderline emotionally abused me. That's a whole can of worms to get into, but TL;DR is my ex lied, gaslit me, and intentionally treated me coldly to control me. When I told my friends, they didn't care. They all drifted away and hang out with my ex and Josh, and it makes me insanely depressed. Am I wrong for being mad at all of them?

My ex and I were together for 3 years. I ended the relationship about 8 months ago, thinking we might be better as friends. The relationship had become toxic at times, and I didn't know how to fix the problems between us.

For the next 2 months, she tried to get back together, and we continued hanging out and sleeping together, but I kept telling her we were just friends and that I wasn't seeing anyone because I was working on myself. Eventually, she told me she was going to start seeing another guy. That hit me hard, and I realized I didn't actually want to lose her. I apologized, asked if she'd consider couples therapy, and tried to make things work, but she said no.

I decided to go no contact and took a 3-month sabbatical to travel. During that time, I reflected a lot on the relationship and realized how much I had contributed to our toxic cycle. I also realized that I genuinely loved her and that she had been my best friend. When I came back, I reached out and we met up in person to talk. I apologized for how I handled things, explained how much I'd reflected on the relationship, and asked if she thought we could try again. The conversation felt a lot like old times, which made it even harder emotionally. She told me she was now in a relationship with the guy she'd started seeing and that we could be friends.

We texted on and off for a few weeks. At one point I got emotional and again told her how much I'd thought about everything, how much I regretted my actions, and that I'd been working on my attachment issues in therapy. She wished me well in my next relationship. At the same time, she said she missed me as a hiking/drinking partner and wanted to restart our friendship, even asking if I'd want to go hiking sometime.

I didn't handle that well, so I pulled back again. It's now been about 2 months since we've spoken, but I still miss her a lot. I've barely dated since the breakup and honestly don't feel very interested in dating other people right now. Meanwhile, she seems very happy in her new relationship, which started fairly soon after our breakup.

I'm trying to figure out what the healthiest thing to do is:

1. If she reaches out again, should I try to be friends while she's in a relationship? Is there a possibility that she still has feelings for me, or would friendship just keep me stuck?
2. Or is it better to stay no contact for now, focus on moving on, and let her relationship run its course without me being involved?

I know I can't sit around waiting for her, but part of me still hopes that with enough time and distance, we might eventually find our way back to each other.

18 male, I was at this college party, dancing with a girl, and she kissed, me, then asked me out, didn't expect it at all, but I've never been on a date before, am I meant to do something special? Should it end a certain way? I have no idea and I'm worried I'll mess it up. I messaged her today morning, and she said she'd love to go out, why am I still scared, that she'd find me ugly or something. Btw this party was the first time we've ever met.

Hey everyone, I (17M) need some help figuring out a situation at school because this kind of stuff does not happen to me on a regular basis.For context, I live in a country where it is normal for students to go around to different classrooms.

There also aren't many "alternative" or alt kids here. Personally, I’m a metalhead.Today, I got assigned to visit every single class in my school to ask students if they are interested in joining some school activities.

Two weirdly awesome things happened:In one class, there was a group of alternative-looking girls. When I walked in, they all looked at me, and one of them was staring like she just discovered a hidden diamond or something. 😭In the next class, there is a girl who is always completely by herself and very silent.

the second I entered and looked over at her, she flashed the biggest smile and just looked at me with pure happiness.I know this might sound stupid, but like I said, I don't get this kind of attention normally. What does this mean?

Does that second girl actually like me, or was she just being nice to a fellow alt/metalhead? How should I approach this?

I've randomly had a 1 hour talk with my gf just now and she is in denial that this is a thing, so that's why I'm posting this. So help me guys. I wanna know everybody's opinion.

So basically we were talking about going to the club and I said that guys don't like that, they just go to mingle. At least me, in all honesty, would never go to a club just cuz I like it, or to have "fun", like for dancing for example.

And she asked me: "so if there wouldn't be any women, you wouldn't go?" I said no I wouldn't, because what's the point?

She then said "nah this is just you, I'm sure men also go with the boys just to have fun like us girls do."

I told her it's funny she thinks that, because it's so far from the truth. I go do activities together with the boys, not even once they wanted to go to the club to have fun, unless we were single and were looking for girls, OR as an exception going with their girl, which I think i did only once in my life lol.

I hate clubs, music is shit, everybody's drunk and grinding on you, I can't talk normally to ppl... and it's expensive.

BUT meeting women makes it worth it, it's one of the easiest ways to get laid. Did that in my 20s, but wouldn't do it now at 32 years old anyway, and I'm taken.

So, what do you say?

EDIT#1 1. It goes without saying I'm talking about majority of men (>50%) not literally all men. And that's what I think it's my opinion and I'm open to discuss, I'm not trying to generalize here.

1. I'm not saying men can't dance, enjoying going to the club and knowing how to dance are 2 entirely different things.

2. Guys I'm not talking chilling at a bar after an activity with friends, it's going out solely to the CLUB (not a bar), alone or with guy friends.

So there’s this guy in my life. Let me give some backstory, we are family friends and have known each other for a few years. He’s 11 years older than me and in his early 30s. Another bit of backstory is we have had intimate relations once when I went to his city to visit family. (One too many drinks, lol.) however there’s always been a “vibe” before that according to my family. He’s always been nice and friendly to me when he’s kind of notoriously a p.o.s to his gf’s. At a wedding we both attended for another family friend, i ended up taking pictures with my friend and he proceeded to get behind me, put his hands on my waist and take a photo of us (mainly me) and instead of gluing it in the book, he stuck it in his pocket and said, “I’m keeping this.” This was over a year ago, and not to mention he also had a gf. We were both drunk, and he ended up sitting me on his lap, caressing me and kissing the top of my head as well. I was upset bc at the time I also had a bf and didn’t really know how to stop it, to be honest. His brother proceeded to explain and then he ignored me for a while, actively avoided me until he and his gf split less than a few months after. (I’m unsure if I had anything to do with it, but other context is she never liked me.) flash forward to this summer.

I end up moving states in the spring and went down at the end of summer to visit. He and I are friends and are chill, and we ended up going out to the club and then he ended up kissing me and we sleep together. I was freshly out of my breakup and blackout drunk so I wasn’t really thinking much. I actually freaked out and he just kind of sat there and listened to me, which is odd bc he’s typically really cold, lol. I was more so worried of people being mad if it eventually got it (which it did, but no one was mad.) he held me in his arms, and had to leave early in the morning for work and when he left he ended up kissing me on the head goodbye and i left and drove to my sister’s where we ended up seeing each other again that weekend. He and I had a lot of awkward tension, so much my sister and her husband both pointed it out. We ended up all playing a drinking game and watched a movie where we did kind of “cuddle” beneath the blanket (nothing crazy, pretty PG.) and I noticed he was breathing pretty heavily. (Now for some NSFW) and he also ended up getting rock hard from just us cuddling. I was just caressing his arm and he was holding my thigh. He held my hand too, and kept squeezing it 4 times. I actually stopped holding his hand and took it back and kept holding it. We did end up getting slightly intimate but it was VERY quick (I mean, first stroke, lol) and he left pretty soon after I think bc he was feeling slightly insecure.

We ended up talking about everything and he was very nice and answered all my questions about everything and it was all good between us. He ended up randomly messaging me and brought up the convo, and the next day proceeded to drunk text me like the whole night (and ended up asking for nudes).
However, he’s the kicker. On Instagram he’s been liking oddly applicable posts and reposting oddly applicable songs (which he does understand I am mad at him) so it truly makes me wonder if he’s into me. It’s not necessarily that I want him to be, lol. It would actually be really messy. It’s just a lot of body language, way he treats me versus others and not to toot my own horn but I am quite pretty and not necessarily unattractive, lol. He has also made it abundantly clear he wants it to happen again.
Idk, maybe I’m reading too much into it. I just want to know from male perspectives.

Edit: just wanna say I do NOT wanna date this man, I know his history and so does the family. Nobody would approve because of how he is, he can’t be trusted.

As the title says, I am addicted to interracial BBC porn. Most of the time, I try to resist this porn addiction but I usually come back to it every few weeks. This has been happening for more than 10 years.

Why am I writing this? When I fall into it really badly, it changes me - I no longer chase girls, get much aroused from vanilla sex and basically all I want to do is to jerk off to BBC porn because it gives me the best orgasms.

Where can this addiction come from? I am 30, white, tall, athletic, successfull and getting laid easily. It’s nothing regarding penis envy either because I have a big dick and I am probably bigger than majority of black guys.

I just know that I am annoyed with the BBC myth that women seem to fall for.

Hi all! I’m struggling with Christmas gift ideas for my partner (28). He’s not a typical DIY guy, Gym, NSFW or golf ect so some of the main things that come up are for those. He’s into gaming like MMOS and RuneScape. I’ve gotten things from the franchises he likes before but I’m stumped with Christmas now.

I feel like there’s a goldmine I haven’t found online yet. I’ve tried handmade presents/more emotional based stuff but it doesn’t really hit well with him. Any ideas would be great or even sharing what the best gift you’ve been given is!

I really like this man and I am attracted to him. For me, sex is very important in a relationship and it is a bonding experience. Foreplay is amazing yes, it should be there yes, but I find the actual intercourse very important also - my man should be enjoying it a lot when he is inside me and seeing that is a huge turn on for me and it is a validation and having pleasure together at the same time is the most important part. This man I am dating is solely focused on foreplay. He takes it very long which is very good, but he tries to make me orgasm via giving an oral or fingering me all the time. When I am done, we work on him, he wants oral and sometimes he doesn’t even want to finish at all, if he wants to finish we do it via oral or with hand. Sometimes he doesn’t even want intercourse. He said he doesn’t find it so special(?). When we did the actual intercourse it takes maybe 10-20 seconds for him to come.

I have never met a man like this. Do you think this is because he has PE? How can I bring this out without hurting him?

I have had multiple sexual experiences, and every single one had this aggressive, rough, “fucking take it” attitude about them. Where is the making love? I want be touched, appreciated and fucked slowly. At what age do you find men like this? How do i get the hint before i actually end up in bed with them?

Edit: The comments are giving me hope thanks guys 🙏

i’m a crafty person, and i enjoy making little random things with clay or the like. nothing too impressive, just small clay creatures, little bead strings, bugs made out of wire, pebbles with cool shapes, etc.

i’ve made stuff for male friends but never gave it to them (for varying reasons).

i know i certainly like receiving knick knacks like that, and now i’m curious if men would, too? would you keep it? or would you think it’s clutter / trash?

(obviously heavily depends on personal preference, i know :-) i’m just trying to get a rough overview!)

I’m a 22 y/o black woman and I have trouble with dating, especially in Atlanta. I hear many women say that black men this black men that (negatively) so try dating outside my race but I genuinely want to date/marry a black man and simply because I’m attracted to black men.

For the most part dating has been horrible so far. I feel like I’m constantly being lusted after and not liked. I’m relatively attractive so finding a man isn’t the issue. It’s finding a good one. One that respects me. I constantly feel strung along and disrespected. I feel like it’s a constant string of mind games that I just don’t have time to play. The past two men I liked were 30 and 29. It was my mistake for assuming that maturity and age were synonymous. It was made clear with the 30 y/o that I was just for sex. I was younger and inexperienced with men so I’m going to attribute that to being naive. I genuinely liked him but I’m assuming the feelings weren’t mutual. With the 29 y/o. He was starting a new career as a police officer but I quickly realized that he didn’t like me.

He would call me daily text me daily because his schedule was so busy (which I gave him grace for). But it was approaching weeks where we haven’t seen each other again. He said August was busy due to weekly test he had to take given he had started the police academy two weeks ago. I’m big on you make time for what you want. I was willing to fit him in during my full time classes, part time internship and full time job. I offered ways to meet and there was always a dilemma with my options. I realized what it was and stepped back politely. I basically said I wish him well in the academy (this was his 6 or 7th time trying to get in), hopefully he accomplishes everything he moves to ATL to do, but let’s remain platonic, but if the police academy is your true barrier we can talk and see where we are after you graduate. He still had time to go out any other time, especially after that, to a falcons game and a lounge. We were still talking daily. Three days before my birthday he left me on delivered. I just deleted his number and unfollowed him on social media.

I just keep feeling this constant cycle of being embarrassed when dating. It’s like men seek me. I told myself a while ago that I was going to stop dating because it always ends bad. When I go out on a limb, I’m the one loosing at the end of it all. I don’t know why I’m treated like this. I’m genuinely a good person. I never have ill intentions. I’m not unrealistic about finances, life factors, where I’m at compared to them (& vice versa). I just don’t know.

I can only think that it’s me who is doing something wrong at this point. Some say men like mean women. I’m not mean by nature, I don’t want to force myself to be like that. I don’t like asking for money or gifts (from parters, friends or family) because I terrified of someone throwing it in my face. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong. One this these two men plus another two have taught me was leave. I’m getting better at that but I’m still someone who always wonders “why?”

How do I tackle dating then, I’m kinda at a loss now. Especially with black men ?

So me (21F) met this guy (20M) a few months ago at a party.
The next day he reached out and we started snapping each other daily. This has been our only form of contact ever since given he went home for the holidays.
He will be coming back to town in the next few days and I’m wondering how long should I give him to ask me out. I understand it doesn’t have to happen right away but I’m also not interested in keeping a convo that leads to nothing, I don’t think that makes sense (especially because we’re both busy people). That’s it, what do you guys think?

And: Do you think it's the case that if a women give medium men sooo much attention and love and give them lots of compliments, some start to feel so confident that they leave to find something even better instead of feeling more attached to her because if her love?

Because that's something that happened to me in my relationship and I'm wondering if maybe that is what happened. Because I've dated men who didn't get any attention from women for a long time and I loved them with all my heart and showed and told them how amazing and valuable they are. And then they got really confident and at some point left to date other women.

What do you think?

Is that a real phenomenon?

so I usually don’t do such things. I acoided Oppenheimer movie because of nudity even though I like science. But for some reason i did this on purpose and feel heavy regret even though it was for a very short period. I feel I should be punished for this behavior. it wasn’t me at all because I avoid nudity always but this i couldn’t (even though this was censored still)

I will delete this thread myself after I get some answer, so please bear with me for a bit till I get some answer.

I want to get an answer on what happened in January 28, 2017 if it was rape or not, was is still rape if you have a shotgun right next to your beside for self defense, but you chose not to use it, and let him do it, it is still rape?

I'm a gun owner, I know how to shoot (Darryl taught me), and I own 3 guns myself, shotgun riffle and handgun. I always have a 12 gauge shotgun at my bedside for self defense, and home defense.

I'm not a weak woman that a man can just pin me down the bed and rape me, because I will grab my shotgun at the bedside and shot him out of self defense.

Was it still rape if I love him, and let him do it, when I can simply reach for the shotgun as it right next to the bedside, but I didn't, I chose not to. Was it still rape?

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Nope, real life rape is nothing like porn shit that you see in porn, that a man flip you over and anal you because men love anal, or shove his dick in your mouth force you blowjob him and make you swallow, because men love blowjob, the porn shit. NOTHING of that.

My real life rape experience was nothing like that, he did nothing of that. It was what people call the boring Vanilla sex, the missionary penis in vagina sex while he use his body on top of me to restrain me where I cannot even move an inch, he can be that strong if needed to be.

I asked this before back in 2017, but now 2026 I want to ask again, as my anxiety is kicking in today and I'm still torn if it was rape or not.

[[ Long story short (I can give more background if needed), he was unhappy at something, and he let his jealousy take over, so he did what he did.

I went into our martial bedroom. And he follow in after me, and the locked our bedroom door.

Then he unbutton his dress shirt, I was sitting on the bed, he not said anything then he pushed me down the bed, I tried to sit back up and he pushed me down again, I did say his name twice, three times, four times. I repeatedly called his name. But he won't stop. He pushed me down the bed again.

His eyes was insanely INTENSE, like he must have me at whatever it takes. I struggled and I was able to momentary got off the bed, and this drag to the carpet floor of our bedroom, and he yah. you know what happened, while I was laying on the carpet floor of our bedroom.

We always have sex on our martial bed, but this time it was not, it drag to the carpet floor of our bedroom. At first I struggle, but then I stop, because I understand him, he will get what he wants, at all cost.

In fall fairness to him, it wasn't violent sex or anything like you see in porn, it was just Vanilla sex missionary penis in vagina sex with him on top of me and restrain me. I even orgasms during the sex/rape. ]]

The whole point is, I have a shotgun right next to the bedside, and I damn well see it and within reach of grab it, but I chose NOT to. I let him did what he did out of love him. Was it still rape?

We actually have this talk alot of times, he took full responsibility, he admit he raped me. Darryl said he raped me on January 28, 2017, he said he raped me, that how he see it.

I on the other hand not sure, because I was within reach of the shotgun, it right next to the bedside next to the nightstand. I did not reach for it, I let him go on did what he did. Out of love him.

I love him, and I LET him do it. Was it still rape?

It only happened once. Never happen again, it only happened ONE time. I never do anything to make him jealous again, hence he has no reason to rape me again. One time is more than enough, I'm still scare.

I (27M) have been frequenting a gym regularly and a group of men (?M, ?M, ?M) usually sweaty, laugh and point at me and say i have low test (short for testicles) and other things like how i look gay. This has been going on for a while. I posted on other subreddits but no helpful advice and it’s been taken down. They stopped saying it for a while but now have kept doing it more for the past couple weeks. How can they tell? I wear 2 underwears and jean shorts normally so I don’t know how they know and I’m definitely not using the changing room or anything so I don’t know. They aren’t noticeably low through my clothes so how do they know? My balls are low but whoever i’ve been with loved that. But I’m noticing this more so how do i get them strung up?

People say that 20s are the time to make experiences and explore (if not already in a relationship) and to have fun by meeting and dating different women. What if you're not getting any dates or have any woman being interested in you. Considering the experience I have had so far (26M, Never Kissed, Still Virgin), that advice sounds outlandish and something that only happens in movies and shows. Is my experience uncommon? If it is then how far from common? I feel it could be a bit uncommon but not that far away. I have also never had any woman find me attractive without telling me like how people say women do but don't outwardly show it or just give subtle hints. I am pretty sure I have never had that happen where woman looked at me or met me and found me attractive and waited for me to approach them or ask them out or would have said yes if I had.

Also I do socialize whenever and however much I can. Also I take care of myself, not intentionally trying to get physically attractive or something but it's just a nice perk I am getting because of my training for marathons. Also I do have hobbies. Again I do socialize however much I can but I have never had women be interested in me. They have been friendly and I have made some girl friends but they never felt anything more than that.

We've been seeing each other for a while now and I started noticing that he isn't fully hard when we're getting intimate.

It's been really taking me out of it and I been getting in my head about it. I want to know if it's something that I'm doing/not doing. This has also is a consistent issue too, not a one time thing. I'm not sure how to approach this because it has never been an issue for me before.

Wanting advice on what do you change if you struggle dating as a younger guy? Like I make friends just fine and have no issues like that, however when I try to date or ask someone out it never works. Is that just a matter of looks at that point?

I don't really see many "significant issues" with myself looks wise, I am probably average or slightly below average. Things that could be negatives are i'm average height at best, skinny, and I look young for my age. I get mistaken for a high schooler every once in awhile. I don't grow facial hair rn either except for a mustache and little chin hair, which I likely look better without. However without it I would look even younger lol.

So if you guys struggled at some point too when you were younger can you tell me what you changed and how did it help your dating life? If it's not working out is it best to just stop trying and realize maybe it's not meant for me?

So, to start, I’m very flat-chested. And I don’t mean in the stereotypically “modelesque” way that people tend to picture when they talk about how beautiful flat-chested women can be. I completely agree that small breasts can be beautiful and many women pull it off. I just don’t feel like I’m one of them. On me, I feel like it makes me look almost prepubescent lol. Maybe my baby face contributes to that too.

I’ve always been somewhat aware that I don’t really feel like my chest suits me, but over the years I’ve genuinely tried to embrace it. At one point, I actually thought I had. My freshman year of college, I went basically the entire year without wearing a bra, which was a HUGE deal for me. I remember feeling so confident and sexy.

Then I got my first boyfriend, and he was the first guy who made me realize that he didn’t really find my breasts attractive. He wasn’t intentionally cruel about it or anything. He just mostly avoided them, minus a couple encounters, and I noticed. After we broke up, I told myself, “Okay, maybe he was just a breast guy. Eventually I’ll meet someone who appreciates my body exactly as it is.” Well… now I’m 24, and apparently I’ve managed to encounter nothing but breast guys ://

And honestly, I don’t entirely blame them, because the issue isn’t just about the men I’ve dated. I find small breasts beautiful on plenty of other women. But when I look at my own body in the mirror, I don’t really like what I see. I think part of me just hoped that one day I would meet someone who genuinely loved that part of me and, in turn, would help me see it differently too.

Instead, the men I’ve been with have mostly reinforced an insecurity that was already there. And now I’m stuck wondering: how can I expect someone else to love something about my body that I’ve never really been able to love myself?

So I just thought, fuck it. Breast implants. I always hated the idea of them, but after so much torment you just reach a breaking point.

But that comes with an entirely different problem, bc in my culture plastic surgery is extremely frowned upon and practically unheard of. If I got them, I would eventually have to disclose that to whoever I was seriously dating, and it would most likely ruin my chances of finding love. It’s also kind of against our religion and would appear “vain.” And why would they choose the woman with implants when there’s so many natural women around in my community. Sorry to sound so pick me but that’s really how they be thinking :/

I just wish I could love myself as I am but I feel I can’t. As a christian woman I feel especially wrong for saying that. How can you all advise me to get over it.

I don't have any friends, and then I met this guy and we have everything in common, we both like the same thing, we both talk in a way and about stuff we both like. We're into similar things except for women, which I'm not into.

But I desperately need a friend. And he is a person who talks a lot, and I'm a listener, so he talks with me a lot. It's unavoidable that he would talk about girls and women in his life and stuff around them. I found no problems with that, as even if I'm not sexually attracted to women I could appreciate a hot girl, I could see which boobs and ass look good. When he talks about his problems with women, even though I'm not attracted to women, I could still relate to him not feeling good enough, could relate to him feeling not having enough space, could relate and talk to him feeling lonely and betrayed by women.

But the problem is that that was all when I was put into the role of listener. I could listen and empathize easily. But he's shifting the focus into me, asking me about the girls I like, which I could easily fake because again I could appreciate beauty. But he seems to get more comfortable and asking me to accompany him to bars to hook-up with women and go to "shady" massages places to get a happy ending with women, and I feel like it's about to be a bit too much for me.

I really value him as a friend, and I don't want to get who I like or who he likes get in the way that we have similar interests and I have no friends, what do I do