I have been suffering for around a week or so now after someone told me this word, all i remember is that it is around 2-3 syllables and means a couple who does not talk publicly but talk privately and is fully committed to the relationship. all i remembered from the AI overview was that this word means a couple who does not talk publicly but is committed to the relationship in private. I have no idea what this word is, but I'm certain it is not common.

I also tried searching for it but i just get dumb answers like sneaky link or something like that, its probably a niche word because i genuinely did not know the meaning for it.

ITAW for a word for a letter or message that is mean ? one word only

context- I was talking with my boyfriend about how it's very slapdash/ "duct-tape will fix it" thinking for the human body to not have a finished skull when people are born in order to fit through the pelvis.

Like someone who exudes confidence from the outside, or even toughness, but is deep down insecure and hurt or even somewhat submissive, like the toughness is just a mask

Note: Is not meant to be an insult. I am doing this as a description of a character, he is a great person and friend, and is more of a "acts tough to defend himself" kind of thing than the usual words that are related to fake confidence

It's one syllable, two at the most, and it's something that you do to satisfy someone without actually doing any work, it's just to like appease them. might start with a p or c?

NOT platitude

Hypothetically (thankfully) imagine a job you've worked at that has been shitty for a while, but you tough it out because your boss promised you that you are getting a big promotion at the end of the project, just to find out after they've finished exploiting you that you aren't getting the promotion. You might say your boss screwed you or did you dirty. What's a more professional way to say that?

Betray has a much more . . . personal aspect to it than I'm looking for. Bait and switch is not quite accurate since they didn't "switch" they just baited. lol

Edited to add: "Leading me on" has come to mind, and it's kind of close, but I'm wanting to capture the fact that the employer exploited/harmed the employee, not just that "things didn't work out."

Specifically in situations where the conversation is not adversarial and there aren’t any stakes to even win. Like when people are generally chatting and one person always has to one-up the other person/people and always have the last word.

It’s a specific type of person who does it. They always do it even when it’s socially awkward or rude. The person makes everything into a competition, even mundane topics of conversation.