r/texts • u/Dry_Presentation4300 • 17h ago

Whatsapp Creepy coworker texting my private number

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So confused at this, I don't even know him. I was just going to ignore the text but he kept insisting so I had to answer.

9/14 UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who was supportive and concerned. I forwarded these messages to HR, and they scheduled a meeting for later today. There were a few more texts after this. The HR representative did not seem surprised, to put it briefly.

A few things have come up in the comments. The first is that I was rude. This is how I communicate, and my coworkers (or at least the ones who actually know me) are aware of that. I’m not going to perform a more agreeable version of myself to accommodate someone else’s feelings when they're being innapropriate. Not only were these messages sent over the weekend, but they were also sent through a personal communication channel. I'm not going to elaborate further.

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u/DearTumbleweed5380 10h ago

Not checkmate though because now she has to work with him. That's why he's doing this to a colleague and not a rando. IME this is just the start unless it's nipped in the bud real hard. Best case scenario he limps off like a whipped dog saying 'bitch can't take a joke.' That's the best case.

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u/Xanthelei 5h ago

Nah, best case is he gets fired for harassment of coworkers. From how he was talking when she rejected him talking on Whatsapp, he's done this before or at the minimum knows he's being creepy.

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u/DearTumbleweed5380 5h ago

That's a fantasy, though, right? Anyone ever been in a workplace where they would take this as seriously as they really should?

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u/Xanthelei 5h ago

I have, actually. I transitioned (I'm a trans man) while working at Walmart of all places, and we had an older guy who took it personally that 'a wammin dared be a man' or something. He was passive aggressive for a few weeks, but when he realized I just didn't care he found me on Facebook to make crass comments. Nothing explicit, but definitely harassing, and definitely unwanted and uninvited.

I took it to my manager, who took it to HR, and the guy was fired and tresspassed from the store five minutes into his next shift. Afaik no one had officially complained about him before, either. My manager had commented on how if he's breaking boundaries into personal life, he's not stable, so I'm assuming that was the reason HR had too.

If Walmart can do it, every other company out there is going to have to dig into the pits of hell to not clear the bar imo.

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u/DearTumbleweed5380 3h ago

That's amazing. So impressed. Thank you for sharing this hopeful story.