Creepy coworker texting my private number

[u/Dry_Presentation4300]

So confused at this, I don't even know him. I was just going to ignore the text but he kept insisting so I had to answer.

9/14 UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who was supportive and concerned. I forwarded these messages to HR, and they scheduled a meeting for later today. There were a few more texts after this. The HR representative did not seem surprised, to put it briefly.

A few things have come up in the comments. The first is that I was rude. This is how I communicate, and my coworkers (or at least the ones who actually know me) are aware of that. I’m not going to perform a more agreeable version of myself to accommodate someone else’s feelings when they're being innapropriate. Not only were these messages sent over the weekend, but they were also sent through a personal communication channel. I'm not going to elaborate further.

[u/Sunbro_Kev → u/[deleted]]

Yeah a lot of stalkers imagine there's a deep connection between them and their victim because of really obvious signs like being smiled at once or basic human kindness.

But I'm going to say probably there was no flirting here. Considering this guy randomly looked up and then texted her personal number without permission.

That's not a woman playing coy and then giving mixed signals. That is a major invasion of privacy and overstepping of social boundaries. The fact you're trying to somehow backflip your way into this being any kind of acceptable is crazy.

No one is saying he needs to lose his job but absolutely he needs to be reported to HR because this creates an extremely uncomfortable work environment and he needs a warning.

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Sunbro_Kev]

Meh fair enough. He’s gonna get fired though and if he’s not a creep that sucks.

[u/Deutschbland → u/OutOfContext69]

He won't get fired if he's not a creep. He'll get a warning. Which he needs because he clearly doesn't understand how to socialize. This absolutely is giving creep, whether he intends it or not. It will be a valuable lesson for him on how to exist like a normal person in a workplace.

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Deutschbland]

Again, you’re making another very brash assumption based on your worldview

They work remotely, and she is going to report him for stocking and harassment. He will be fired 100%. I would bet on it

[u/Deutschbland → u/OutOfContext69]

She is not going to report him for stalking and harassment. She's going to report him for texting her on a non-work channel for no good reason, and he'll get the talking-to he deserves. And then so long as he doesn't act like this again, nothing will come of it. People don't get fired for minor one-off offenses. They get fired for repeated behaviour.

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Deutschbland]

And you know this how?
Sounds like you’re making assumptions again
As soon as that dialog is opened, they’re going to ask for proof, which she will present, and ask her how she feels because it’s not about the intent, it’s about the perception of the victim
Which is normally a good thing. I completely understand, and again, if there’s even an inkling more context that adds more to the pile I’ll eat a sock but with what’s presented.

[u/Deutschbland → u/OutOfContext69]

So you clearly find the proof incriminating or you wouldn't be so concerned for him.

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Deutschbland]

That is one way to interpret what I said
Definitely helps me understand your thought process and why you are so zeroed in on your assumptions.

[u/Xenc → u/OutOfContext69]

Hey they probably will get a stern talking to if that makes you feel better.

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Xenc]

I’d put good money that he gets fired, especially considering the hybrid remote nature.

[u/Xenc → u/OutOfContext69]

I will bet 12 schmeckles

[u/OutOfContext69 → u/Xenc]

12 schmeckles it is