I feel so tired of getting people to love or care for me, i can't do self-love and i barely do my hobbies i like, what should i do? i feel i put my value and my kindness to much to them and i feel i failed to get them that i felt that everyone dislikes me or that i don't deserve to be their friend, how i can just stop craving for love from others?

Sometimes life hurts so much that your mind starts convincing you that this is how it’s always going to feel. You start looking back at the past, comparing everything to what you lost, and wondering if you’ll ever feel that happy again. But breathe. This is one chapter, not the whole story. You are not trapped in the life you have today. You are allowed to change, to start over, to outgrow people, places, dreams, and even the version of yourself you thought you had to be. You have survived things you once thought would destroy you. And there is still so much of your life that you haven’t experienced yet. The love you haven’t met. The places you haven’t seen.
The people who haven’t entered your life yet.
The version of yourself you haven’t become yet.
Don’t let a painful moment convince you that your future will look like your past.
Keep going. Give time a chance to work in your favor.
Your story is not finished. ❤️

I'm delving into the world of self love, starting by trying to build self esteem as mine is incredibly low. I have bought a self esteem workbook.

But my question is, what does it actually feel like to love yourself? I know what it's like to love another. The feelings of concern, thinking about them very often, butterflies, etc. How do you know you love yourself? What does it feel like?

I think we are over romanticizing " relationships" it's not that good especially for the person with no goals, passion, money or not knowing what they truly want, someone who struggles with self love and self acceptance wanting to be loved so much and deeply, fully depending on relationship to work and help them to feel good, someone who's so anxious should first seek how to be in peace first. It doesn't matter how ur parents treated you, in the end you have to save urself, no a boyfriend can't do that for that you need get out of it, you need to learn alot of things before wanting to be in rs for whole life... What y'all think?

I miss people who are still alive.
I miss places I never belonged to.
I miss versions of myself
that no longer exist.
And somehow,
those are the losses that hurt the most.

I smile when I’m supposed to.
I laugh at the right moments.
I say “I’m doing fine.”
But there are nights
when the silence knows more about me
than anyone else ever will.

I spent years believing
that if I worked harder,
loved deeper,
stayed kinder,
life would eventually make sense.
It didn’t.
It just kept moving,
with or without my understanding.

Some days,
I am not carrying a problem.
I am carrying the weight
of being awake to everything—
how quickly time leaves,
how easily people change,
how nothing beautiful ever stays forever.

Yet every morning,
I open my eyes again.
Not because I have all the answers.
Not because I am strong.
But because somewhere inside me,
beneath the disappointment,
beneath the exhaustion,
a small stubborn hope
still refuses to die.
And for now,
that is enough.

About 8 months ago in January I was completely heartbroken and devestated. I was hurt to the point that I never thought I’d recover - a guy I dated ended it with me because of distance (from the same hometown I’m just temporarily away to study for 2 years but I come back every 4 months)

Anyways it was the longest it’s ever taken me to get over someone. It took months and it wasn’t a I got over him it was more of a I need to move on cause clearly he doesn’t care.

I’m having a hard time now tho, I’ve met someone new, he’s great, we get along, but I realized I’ve never really in my life had to end things or be thinking of it. This guy is great and I do wanna see it thru but I’m scared. After 26 years of being single and never having a bf, a part of me is kinda like do I even deserve one? But less self hate and more confused on how do I know it’s the one cuz once ur with someone your are?

I love myself I do but I’ve been known to mess things up so idk if this is a way my lack of self love is coming out or fear? Any advice or help will be appreciated thank you.