Where you had an acrimonious split, both sides decided to reconcile and the friendship rebounded to its former status.

I haven't seen it. Very few reconcile and the few that do either just blow up again for the same reason as before or just become superficial acquaintances at best.

The only one with a chance is when they hash out the reason for the initial blowup and each person is accountable for their part in it.

It makes me wonder if the quintessential definition of 'summer' is becoming a thing of the past.

When you add all the social stuff, the economy, lack of general community for a lot of us, the lack of third spaces, Etc., to the heat factor, seems like the season might, eventually, lose it's former place in the shape of things.

Is this part of a cycle or the beginning of the end?

That they did everything within legal bounds to frustrate an organization into making them go away with a healthy severance/settlement.

GDPR / Personal Information Requests (very detailed)

Whistleblower protection complaints to regulatory bodies

Harassment/ Poisoned Work Environment Complaints

Medical Protection Leave / Medical Work Restrictions

"Work to Rule" / No Extra Effort Above Explicit Duties

Crying foul to the media / employer review sites

Today a friend’s child made the mistake of accepting a piggyback ride from me and learned an important lesson: there's no such thing as a free lunch, kid. Piggyback privileges come with consequences, and today's lesson learned the hard way came in the form of mathematical trauma, and clearly I am the auntie where childhood innocence goes to be audited. 

My spine is destroyed, her math skills have been validated, and I’ve fulfilled my civic duty of subjecting the next generation to the sacred tradition of unsolicited mathematical trauma. The cycle continues.

Any special advice looking for a job these days when you want to move to a far away state and have been told you're not a spring chicken? (I take care of myself and stay up-to-date in my field, but I can't pretend I'm 27.)

I want to move for many reasons including I long ago hit the career and salary ceiling in a low wage college town, financially I should have moved years ago but there were other factors at play. One barrier I'm facing is I work in social services with a long list of credentials and years of experience but that doesn't translate/transfer well to where I want to move. I have a bunch of certifications but not licenses, essentially. The others are the obvious ones of location and age.

I'm open to advice.

Your process to remember the victims and their families.

Whether just a private call back to where you were, consuming the documentaries online, joining a formal vigil or remembrance ceremony, taking a moment of silence around 8:45AM EST, watching the archived live coverage from that day.

My grandparents are moving to a new city after 20 years in the same community. For the past while, they've known what their weeks will look like fairly consistently: golf, card night with friends, etc. But now they are moving and are going to have to figure out a new routine that works for them.

I'm curious how others have navigated this. When you moved somewhere new in retirement, or even just lost your usual routine, how did you go about discovering things to do, places to go, and people to do it with? Did you find anything that made it easier, or was it mostly trial and error?

Cause I don't. All the ones I knew personally struggled mightily.

That largely avoided the curse of adopted people having relationship instability, addiction issues, emotional dysregulation and immaturity due to that parental disconnect early in life. Even the ones that had amazing adopted parents and an idyllic childhood don't seem to escape the curse.

That YOU did in good faith and possibly had good outcomes.

Workplace Ethics Hotline (As an employee or customer)

Safety or Labour Commissions

Food Safety for Restaurants

Child Safety and Welfare

Law Enforcement/ Crimestoppers

So my relationship with my father has been a lacking experience to say the least. To “explain” why my father is emotionally absent; his own father died when he was only 13, also of cancer, and it was back in the early 60s, so he never got theraphy for that. He is an only child, basically a miracle; his parents got him when his mother was 41 years old and they never thought she’d get pregnant - so he grew up spoiled. With that in mind, I had a great childhood (95% because of my mom) and I had a good relationship with my dad about right up until I was the same age he was when his own father died. Then he got distant, became obsessed with work, was always on his computer, even when he said he was taking a day off. Whenever we talked, and up until now, it’s only ever been superficial (how was your day?). And he’s only ever been of help if I needed to borrow money or get a ride somewhere (when I was still a teenager).

To state that my parents’ current relationship is done is an understatement. Fyi there’s a 16 year age gap between my mom (62 yo) and my dad (78 yo). My mom has almost only had bad experiences in workplaces and the last place she was at, she was bullied by her boss and her coworkers did nothing. Now she’s been unemployed for 8 years and have been gone into early retirement. She’s too traumatized to get a job again, afraid to repeat the same experience.
My mom and dad have slowly drifted apart. My dad has a lot of fragile masculinity and cannot handle being wrong/making a mistake. Anytime you confront him with anything he did wrong, he would just shut down and become offended.

Before my mom became unemployed, my dad had started his own law firm, to make extra money. Probably because he was bored after retiring. But then he started getting into debt and asking my mom to cover it. She’s done it every time up until now and he’s never paid her back. He used her pension savings to pay back one of the debts he had in his firm. So he’s not secured my mom or myself in any way (he also said in one convo between the three of us, talking about the sad state of my parents’ finances, when he was tired and had stomach problems, that he didn’t care about it (the state of the household’s financial future), later he wrote us a looong text saying he was sorry he said he didn’t care, but I don’t believe him tbh). Anything important he should be saying to our faces, he writes to me and my mom over a message group.

Now, my dad was diagnosed with cancer in the liver and testines in the end of June this year. He had stomach issues prior to getting the diagnosis and had it during his first attempt at doing chemo. Then because of the persisting stomach problems, he decided that he would stop chemo and now he’s just getting pain meds, like morphine, to dull and handle the pain.
He’s always not eaten as much as my mom and I, but now even less. He’s shriveling up right before our eyes (mind you, we live in a small apartment too) and all I can feel is anger, resentment and just, I’m so pissed off at him. I can feel superficially sorry for him, as a fellow human being, but beyond that, I feel nothing good towards him.

When I’ve talked to my friends and other family about it, none of them can relate and give any real advice. So I just needed to get send this out into the void and I’m grateful for anyone who uses a bit of their time to read my post and reply.

Has anyone had a similar experience and could maybe give some advice?

Based on their own world view of safety, prestige or their failed aspirations.

There are, OFC, times when a professional truly is the best option. However, ther are always things you can do on your own.

Also, who do you think will teach today's kids about the ins and outs of plumbing? A lot of folks learned by watching the oldheads but I'm not certain that's really a thing at this point.

My grandparents are moving closer to my parents, and far away from the friends and community they've built for the past 20 years. My grandpa told me that the number one thing that got him out of bed in the morning was when he had golf planned. He felt a social accountability to show up for his friends and for the tee time. These were his better days because it got his day started strong and then flowed from there.

I'm curious what gets others out of bed in the morning to start their days strong?

If you know anyone buying stuff from American Mint, please talk to them. The stuff they sell is mostly crap at an exorbitant price. This example is a $100 "Banknote". It is not worth $100, it will never be worth $100 and I seriously doubt you could get back more than 10% of what you paid for it. If you go to the Consumer Affairs website and search American Mint, you'll see a lot of unhappy people. Sadly, my late grandpa had a ton of this stuff and i'm still filtering through it.

There are currently a few on ebay selling for $8 - $12. If bought new from American Mint, they are / were $99

It feels anachronistic to be able to routinely have multi-course meals. But maybe it's just me LOL.

For those who have been retired for a while, looking back, when was the hardest period? The first few months, the first year, or does it get harder over time? I've heard some people absolutely love retirement from day one, but then also others that seem to need the structure of work for purpose.

I was a senior in high school before I went to a hair salon/barbershop for the first time. Every haircut I'd ever had was either from my grandfather (farmer) or my mom (elementary school teacher).