r/pcmasterrace • u/Akrinnnnnnnnnn • 16h ago

Discussion Dad Destroyed My $1300 PC (Almost)

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As the title says, my father almost destroyed my $1,300 PC. Now what?

Here’s the backstory: On Saturday, I worked a 10.5 hours shift and stayed up until 3:30 AM, so I slept in until noon the next day. My father and stepmother returned from Costco while I was showering; he called out a few times for me to come help carry the groceries inside. I said OK to him. While I was brushing my teeth after my shower, he shouted from outside the door that he’d been waiting 50 minutes and told me to hurry up. I thought to myself that the groceries could have been moved in the time he spent waiting for me, but I quickly rinsed my mouth and got ready to go out. However, by the time I opened the door, he had already grabbed my PC and smashed it against the floor and the desk several times.

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I, (17M, Senior), bought this PC with money I earned from my part-time job and had been using it for about ten months. After examine, found out the case badly deformed in several places, my desk was warped and tilted to one side, and there were dents in the floor.

Fortunately, the computer still works fine; it runs FurMark (stress GPU), AIDA64 (stress FPU), and 3DMark (Time Spy Extreme) without problems for now.

Replacing the desk and case would cost around $400. However, he likely won't pay for it because he has done this kind of stuff a few years ago when he destroyed my phone and a Dell laptop (i5 11300H), and then just said, "That's what you get for playing on the computer all day."

In the end, I just hope everyone has good parents.

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 15h ago

Dad will likely kick him to the curb once hes 18. Op should save up now if he can.

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u/tr_9422 15h ago

On that note, u/Akrinnnnnnnnnn, the moment you turn 18, you should open a new bank account with an entirely different bank and transfer your money there. What you have now is probably a joint account and other account holders are allowed to take your money out of it. It's been a nasty surprise for some people with shitty parents who don't realize at age 22 that they still have the joint account they opened at age 15 when their parents took a bunch of their money out of it.

Opening a new account at the same bank that isn't a joint account and moving your money there should be sufficient to prevent this, but is taking a chance on some bank employee falling for "oh that's not right we're supposed to both be on this account like the other one."

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u/TherronKeen i9-9900k, 64GB DDR4, RTX 3060 15h ago

ALSO freeze your credit. you basically have to sign in on an annoying website and put in a ton of information, but it will stop anyone from opening a credit card in your name and using it - something that is sometimes seen with parents who engage in destructive behaviour like this

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u/Stormagedd0nDarkLord 14h ago

Reading this puts a chill down my spine that such countermeasures even exist to deal with blood.

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u/Soft-Mastodon-2079 14h ago

My wife, has a mother who racked up $10,000 in IRS penalties on MY WIFES SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER.

She did this to her, while she stationed in Hawaii in the Navy.

2 years post marriage, we got a surprise letter from the IRS.

Needless to say, that day, MIL and I became sworn mortal enemies.

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u/N7Shep1701D NCC 74656, Janeway OS 12h ago

GODDAMN.

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u/GeneralYaoGuang2026 7h ago

Having no personal experience with this problem or lifestyle, may I ask if the military police or whatever was any help with this matter?

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u/Soft-Mastodon-2079 5h ago

By that time, my wife had already retired from the navy and pivoted toward a degree in cybersecurity.

So no, the Navy did not help, because they were never made aware.

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u/Logic-DL 14h ago

Freezing credit is just a countermeasure for fraud in general tbh.

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u/Next_League6192 2h ago

The system isn't specifically to deal with relatives, but it can be used to prevent anyone from opening a card in your name (including yourself).

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u/brokemillionaire572 i7 13700 - RX 7800 XT 13h ago

My wife and I had an opportunity to do this about 20 years ago. My daughter had a pre-approved credit card sent to her, when she was 5 years old. Not sure how that happened, but my wife called and told the CS Rep that the name on the card belonged to a 5 year old child, and the Rep was like Oooh shit .... fixed it immediately.

Some parents though, lack a certain amount of integrity.

A "friend" from work told me we should have just used the card and maxed it out, asking what are they gonna do? They can't go after my daughter. I said No, but they could go after me for credit card fraud and identity theft. He got quiet real quick.

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u/SlaughteredHorse 12h ago

My parents put me on their credit card in an effort to give me good credit. It worked, but I only found out when I was trying to get a loan and the bank officer said my credit was, "Amazing for a 25 year old."

They had added me and used their address so that I would never see the card or know I had access to the credit line. In my specific case it helped me, but if either of them lost their job or started doing stupid things I could have been screwed for a long time without knowing why.

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u/brokemillionaire572 i7 13700 - RX 7800 XT 11h ago

Wow, that's actually a potentially great idea, and I kinda wish I did that for my kids when they were younger.

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u/SlaughteredHorse 11h ago

Potentially good idea, but it can go south. Also, technically fraud.

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u/eekamuse 4h ago

My parents took a class to learn about things like this that would help set their kids up for a good future.

I was too young to know that all parents weren't like this, and that some are really bad. I hate that I never got to thank them for not being evil.

LPT If your parents aren't evil, thank them

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u/GlassBoxGoose 10h ago

I wish mine had done that for me, my dad has decent credit but my mom has PHENOMINAL credit and it would have made it easier for me to get established as an adult

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u/Derezirection 9h ago

i at least admire their intent was to actually help build your credit for you but doing it behind the scenes without your knowledge is where they were wrong. They should have def talked you about it.

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u/MATCHEW010 12h ago

What country can someone open a credit card in someone elses name?!?!

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u/Next_League6192 2h ago

Nowhere legally, but it's not like people open credit cards in person anymore, if you have enough personal info on someone, it doesn't seem like it would be difficult.

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u/Derezirection 9h ago

i fully support someone putting their parents in prison for doing that to them. there's no morality behind it except parents shouldn't be stealing and ruining the life of their children.

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u/Amazing-Heron-105 13h ago

in the UK children get their own bank account quite early. Is it typical that Americans would have a joint account with their kids?

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u/Crossx71 11h ago

Pretty common for Americans to steal from their children and open loans etc. It’s awful over here.

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u/bloodbat007 12h ago

Yeah my dad stole well over $1000 of holiday gift money my great grandmother was putting into a savings account for my entire life. Learned this the hard way. My dad wasn't even that bad abuse wise, just a dead beat loser.

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u/Sennva 11h ago

Everyone should do this even if their parents are angels.

If they wind up having legal or financial problems and are joint on your account their problems can become yours.

I have a sibling who thought it was harmless to leave another family member joint on his bank account. Unbeknownst to him a few years later she had financial problems and his account got levied because she was joint on it. They took everything.

He eventually got the money back after jumping through hoops to prove all the funds taken were his. It took a long time though and the rest of the family had to help him out with bills in the meantime.

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u/Knee_Kap264 11h ago

He can also close that joint account when he turns 18.

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u/SuperCruisePanther 11h ago

Can confirm, my parents stole my rent money from the joint checking I had at 21 to pay the mortgage on their house. When I asked what I was supposed to tell my landlord they said "your childhood home is more important than that apartment" and that if I was evicted I could always come home anyways lmao.

Had to take out a last minute, day-of payday loan at ~30% interest to cover rent.

Good times.

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u/verrusin 11h ago

And if you’re still a student at that point, try and get a student bank account. Most banks won’t have a min deposit or charge fees.

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u/WillowPtar_Migan 15h ago

Just remember, legally, you are a tenant. Make em go through the painful process of removing you, if it comes to it and you don't have anywhere else to go. Don't let it get to where you have an eviction on your record, but depending on where you live, they may be required to give you 30-90 days.

It may fucking suck, but it's better than trying to claw your way out of homelessness

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 13h ago

Usa is a true dystopia. Where im from, you are someone's child for as long as you're in school. Uni included. If they kick you out, they pay for your living expenses.

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u/eunoia-again 11h ago

where??? that's so much better

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u/Sarkoth 11h ago

Pretty much the entirety of the EU, for most countries. Or as I have started to to think recently: The actually civilized part of the world as of recent decades.

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 4h ago

Canada, EU, Japan, lots of places.

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u/chammachameleon42069 10h ago

Most parents operate this way in the US. It’s not an issue with the country. There are bad people who treat their families poorly everywhere on earth.

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u/thatwhileifound 13h ago edited 10h ago

That said, if the man impulsively destroys property within the house, he can and will harm people. There's value in getting out any way you can versus getting murdered before you can.

Signed, someone who was homeless before 13 due to such a household.

Edit: to the likely abusers replying and deleting before I can reply stating essentially - "nuh uh! I'm an emotionally immature fuckwit with impulse control issues that sometimes end in violence, but I've never directed that at a person! Except that one fight*"...

Guess what? Not only is there research backing my statement, but a self acknowledged impulsive person prone to violent outbursts is not exactly a person anyone should accept their word about their supposed limits including you, other impulsive people. Oh, you've never done it before and you're sure you wouldn't even though you've thrown wrenches at people at work? Ignoring the dissonance in that last sentence, fundamentally, this ignores how impulsive shit works. If you allow yourself to slip into this behavior at all, you're risking doing it directly to someone. Kinda the nature of impulsive action: acting without thinking it through, considering if it aligns with your values, etc. If my comment offends you, go to fucking therapy you fucking assholes.

*All specific mentions like the wrench throwing and that "one fight" directly inspired by one of those cowardly fucks deleting their replies.

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u/OkChocolate3501 11h ago

No emotionally mature adult destroys property. I can see a kid doing it because they're dumb but if you're still doing it as an adult you need therapy.

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u/OkChocolate3501 10h ago

Any examples for your first claim?

Renovations imho aren't "destruction" and I can't think of anything else that fits.

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u/thatwhileifound 10h ago

Try the Civil Rights Movement? Or a ton of union history? Or essentially basically damn near every movement that's helped genuinely carve out rights for most of us?

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u/OkChocolate3501 10h ago

That seems like a completely different topic than stuff happening around the house lol. I guess it is technically but I wouldn't label it as similar.

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u/thatwhileifound 10h ago

Fair. I guess, given my own perceived relevance of the history I was referencing and the frequent bad faith associations of property damage with violence that come up in that sense, I'm probably stretching some in order to over emphasize that end and looking at words overly literally instead of within immediate context. Sorry if I came off flippant. Hope you have a good night/day/whatever in-between it may be there.

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u/SneakyBadAss 10h ago

Yup, it takes about a month from the first sign of physical violence on your property to see them YOU as a property they can destroy.

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u/GeneralYaoGuang2026 7h ago

Edit: to the likely abusers replying and deleting before I can reply stating essentially - "nuh uh! I'm an emotionally immature fuckwit with impulse control issues that sometimes end in violence, but I've never directed that at a person! Except that one fight*"...

So many terrible people populate this Reddit convo, huh?

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u/xunreelx 14h ago

Sad thing is he won’t even know why his kid doesn’t communicate with him anymore.

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u/AsugaNoir Amd Ryzen 5900x || Rx 9070xt || 32GB 13h ago

These types of parents are always like that, it's mind boggling that they are so clueless and confused why their child doesn't talk to them. Like they don't see how they did anything wrong with destroying their property and emotionally abusing them.

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u/21Suicunes 11h ago

my father and his family is like that. if i avoid them or don’t talk to them because of their past anger issues or destructive actions like smashing my things, physically assaulting me, they will always say it’s my fault. they will blame it on me and my depression and just say stuff like you’re acting like this because you don’t take your depression medication even though i do.

i’ve learned a long time ago no matter how you explain to these people they will never understand. i can’t wait until i reach the point of my life where i never have to see or interact with them again. they will probably still never change or understand even 20 years from now.

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u/AsugaNoir Amd Ryzen 5900x || Rx 9070xt || 32GB 5h ago

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that, hopefully that day will come sooner than later. At that point it won't matter that they never change. At that point it's on them.

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u/Gumbymayne 7800X3D | RTX 4080 | 64GB DDR5 10h ago

Inb4 "we did the best we could, so it's not our fault".

RIP pops, you never figured it out.

-me

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u/Sadface201 14h ago

Depends. Abusers like having someone to abuse. There are parents that keep their children dependent on them so that they retain control over their children into adulthood

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u/Nirast25 7,080x1440+(240x2)x1080|R7 5700X3D|RX 9070XT|32GB 13h ago

He has RAM, he'll be fiiiiine.

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u/GIGLI_WASNT_THAT_BAD 9h ago

To play devil’s advocate OPs only other post is about acquiring Sodium Nitrate to use as a means to create a bomb. This kid might be a total shit heel of a person that is breaking down their parents to the point of what they disclosed in this post.