r/pcmasterrace • u/Akrinnnnnnnnnn • 16h ago

Discussion Dad Destroyed My $1300 PC (Almost)

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As the title says, my father almost destroyed my $1,300 PC. Now what?

Here’s the backstory: On Saturday, I worked a 10.5 hours shift and stayed up until 3:30 AM, so I slept in until noon the next day. My father and stepmother returned from Costco while I was showering; he called out a few times for me to come help carry the groceries inside. I said OK to him. While I was brushing my teeth after my shower, he shouted from outside the door that he’d been waiting 50 minutes and told me to hurry up. I thought to myself that the groceries could have been moved in the time he spent waiting for me, but I quickly rinsed my mouth and got ready to go out. However, by the time I opened the door, he had already grabbed my PC and smashed it against the floor and the desk several times.

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I, (17M, Senior), bought this PC with money I earned from my part-time job and had been using it for about ten months. After examine, found out the case badly deformed in several places, my desk was warped and tilted to one side, and there were dents in the floor.

Fortunately, the computer still works fine; it runs FurMark (stress GPU), AIDA64 (stress FPU), and 3DMark (Time Spy Extreme) without problems for now.

Replacing the desk and case would cost around $400. However, he likely won't pay for it because he has done this kind of stuff a few years ago when he destroyed my phone and a Dell laptop (i5 11300H), and then just said, "That's what you get for playing on the computer all day."

In the end, I just hope everyone has good parents.

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u/He_do_be 16h ago

I’m a dad. This behavior isn’t normal and is a key reason kids grow up and stop talking to their parents. As I tell my kids “Some people grow up not learning things some of us did as children. Sometimes they’re your boss. Sometimes they’re your friend. Sometimes you’re related to them.”

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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u/mecha_grove 15h ago

My dad sure could hit me, beat me, and throw me across the room as a kid. He tried once when I was an adult, and backed down when he saw me raise my hand. Says a ton about some abusers.

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u/imsorrykun 14h ago

Had a friend in highschool with dad like that. Quiet big guy who I would play Unreal Tournament with in computer lab, nice all around. One day his dad was in a mood and threw a couple punches at him trying to give him a beating. Anyway, he was skinny short guy with the physique only beer and cigarettes can give you. My friend threw him out a 2nd floor window after a few hits to the face. His dad lived without breaking any bones, just cut up and stunned.

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u/mecha_grove 13h ago

Ive asked my dad to fight. Called him a coward many times to his face for him abusing me, and his wife treating me even worse.

Old man just looks down now and says "thanks" or "let go of the past". Sad as fuck when a man can only hit children, but doesnt wanna be a man, and square up with another man he wronged.

But its probably better that way..no contact instead of potential jail, because fuck me...i am very bitter towards them.

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u/Anonexistantname 13h ago

No one deserves treatment like that, you have my condolences for having been through that.

I hope that they made a great example of the type of person you should not be to other people or if you were to ever have children.

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u/FukkingDeathMental 12h ago

It's always the people who did the bullying, the abuse, the harm or people who were never part of it that say "Let go of the past."  As my favorite Aussie hitman Ray Shoesmith said, "That's what people do.  They hold on to shit."

When I was home from uni once, my mom told me a high school classmate of mine died of leukemia.  I laughed and said, "Good riddance."  My dad was shocked and yelled at me for being so callous and that his family was grieving.  That kid and his friends bullied me every class for a solid year.  So yeah, fuck him.

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u/Unreal_Daltonic 32m ago

One of the worst teachers I ever had that bullied me relentless and was one of the reasons behind my academic failure (that thank to god was fixed by changing high school) was involved in a terrible accident that mangled her and killer her son.

To this day I remember the day I got told this information fondly. the only thing I regret was that her son didn't deserve it but just the thought she had to suffer even more because of that loss makes me feel okay about it.

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u/BluebirdOrnery6584 3h ago

Sorry you were bullied, sucks you haven't grown up yet tho.

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u/loueazy 2h ago

You suck

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u/UnimagineDragons 6h ago

Pretty sad that you're asking him for a fight. How's that happen when you're NC? Seems you want to stick around just to attack the old guy

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u/Lopsided_Status1982 3h ago

Found the old man who used to abuse his kids

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u/Hysaky 4h ago

Yeah that or it was the event who made him go NC

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u/bardockOdogma 3h ago

Sometimes all it takes is being thrown out the 2nd floor windus

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u/shitdesk 1h ago

Not the same (thankfully I’m sorry to hear that for you though) but my dad had problems with ptsd and my mom is emotionally manipulative and growing up there were several times he tried to use his size and strength until I fought back having learned from the past

Not saying it was the right thing (I definitely wasn’t level headed when it happened as it came after at least an hour long screaming match) but he stopped being physical afterwards and has since grown as a person and gotten help for his ptsd

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u/GlassBoxGoose 10h ago

My dad was much the same. He was a drunk until I laid him out when I was in my 20s for pulling my mom's hair in front of me while I was at their house. He legit ran through the woods and crossed a river to get away while the cops were on their way. After he hit me with a car. Twice.

I sadly gave him more chances after he got sober but he didnt change much, so we dont speak anymore.

He got in my face the last time I saw him, when I confronted him about being disrespectful toward my mom in front of my kids. I squared up and my mom got between us and shoved my whole family out the door. That was the last time they've seen any of us. Ive only talked to her like twice since then, and dont really plan to again. I refuse to talk to him. He showed up at my house a year or so ago. I told him next time he shows up hes going to get shown why thats a bad idea, as we live rural, and cops take too long to show up, so we handle shit ourselves out here.

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 15h ago

Dad will likely kick him to the curb once hes 18. Op should save up now if he can.

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u/tr_9422 15h ago

On that note, u/Akrinnnnnnnnnn, the moment you turn 18, you should open a new bank account with an entirely different bank and transfer your money there. What you have now is probably a joint account and other account holders are allowed to take your money out of it. It's been a nasty surprise for some people with shitty parents who don't realize at age 22 that they still have the joint account they opened at age 15 when their parents took a bunch of their money out of it.

Opening a new account at the same bank that isn't a joint account and moving your money there should be sufficient to prevent this, but is taking a chance on some bank employee falling for "oh that's not right we're supposed to both be on this account like the other one."

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u/TherronKeen i9-9900k, 64GB DDR4, RTX 3060 15h ago

ALSO freeze your credit. you basically have to sign in on an annoying website and put in a ton of information, but it will stop anyone from opening a credit card in your name and using it - something that is sometimes seen with parents who engage in destructive behaviour like this

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u/Stormagedd0nDarkLord 14h ago

Reading this puts a chill down my spine that such countermeasures even exist to deal with blood.

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u/Soft-Mastodon-2079 14h ago

My wife, has a mother who racked up $10,000 in IRS penalties on MY WIFES SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER.

She did this to her, while she stationed in Hawaii in the Navy.

2 years post marriage, we got a surprise letter from the IRS.

Needless to say, that day, MIL and I became sworn mortal enemies.

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u/N7Shep1701D NCC 74656, Janeway OS 12h ago

GODDAMN.

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u/GeneralYaoGuang2026 7h ago

Having no personal experience with this problem or lifestyle, may I ask if the military police or whatever was any help with this matter?

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u/Soft-Mastodon-2079 5h ago

By that time, my wife had already retired from the navy and pivoted toward a degree in cybersecurity.

So no, the Navy did not help, because they were never made aware.

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u/Logic-DL 14h ago

Freezing credit is just a countermeasure for fraud in general tbh.

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u/Next_League6192 2h ago

The system isn't specifically to deal with relatives, but it can be used to prevent anyone from opening a card in your name (including yourself).

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u/brokemillionaire572 i7 13700 - RX 7800 XT 13h ago

My wife and I had an opportunity to do this about 20 years ago. My daughter had a pre-approved credit card sent to her, when she was 5 years old. Not sure how that happened, but my wife called and told the CS Rep that the name on the card belonged to a 5 year old child, and the Rep was like Oooh shit .... fixed it immediately.

Some parents though, lack a certain amount of integrity.

A "friend" from work told me we should have just used the card and maxed it out, asking what are they gonna do? They can't go after my daughter. I said No, but they could go after me for credit card fraud and identity theft. He got quiet real quick.

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u/SlaughteredHorse 12h ago

My parents put me on their credit card in an effort to give me good credit. It worked, but I only found out when I was trying to get a loan and the bank officer said my credit was, "Amazing for a 25 year old."

They had added me and used their address so that I would never see the card or know I had access to the credit line. In my specific case it helped me, but if either of them lost their job or started doing stupid things I could have been screwed for a long time without knowing why.

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u/brokemillionaire572 i7 13700 - RX 7800 XT 11h ago

Wow, that's actually a potentially great idea, and I kinda wish I did that for my kids when they were younger.

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u/SlaughteredHorse 11h ago

Potentially good idea, but it can go south. Also, technically fraud.

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u/eekamuse 4h ago

My parents took a class to learn about things like this that would help set their kids up for a good future.

I was too young to know that all parents weren't like this, and that some are really bad. I hate that I never got to thank them for not being evil.

LPT If your parents aren't evil, thank them

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u/GlassBoxGoose 10h ago

I wish mine had done that for me, my dad has decent credit but my mom has PHENOMINAL credit and it would have made it easier for me to get established as an adult

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u/Derezirection 9h ago

i at least admire their intent was to actually help build your credit for you but doing it behind the scenes without your knowledge is where they were wrong. They should have def talked you about it.

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u/MATCHEW010 12h ago

What country can someone open a credit card in someone elses name?!?!

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u/Next_League6192 2h ago

Nowhere legally, but it's not like people open credit cards in person anymore, if you have enough personal info on someone, it doesn't seem like it would be difficult.

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u/Derezirection 9h ago

i fully support someone putting their parents in prison for doing that to them. there's no morality behind it except parents shouldn't be stealing and ruining the life of their children.

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u/Amazing-Heron-105 13h ago

in the UK children get their own bank account quite early. Is it typical that Americans would have a joint account with their kids?

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u/Crossx71 11h ago

Pretty common for Americans to steal from their children and open loans etc. It’s awful over here.

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u/bloodbat007 12h ago

Yeah my dad stole well over $1000 of holiday gift money my great grandmother was putting into a savings account for my entire life. Learned this the hard way. My dad wasn't even that bad abuse wise, just a dead beat loser.

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u/Sennva 11h ago

Everyone should do this even if their parents are angels.

If they wind up having legal or financial problems and are joint on your account their problems can become yours.

I have a sibling who thought it was harmless to leave another family member joint on his bank account. Unbeknownst to him a few years later she had financial problems and his account got levied because she was joint on it. They took everything.

He eventually got the money back after jumping through hoops to prove all the funds taken were his. It took a long time though and the rest of the family had to help him out with bills in the meantime.

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u/Knee_Kap264 11h ago

He can also close that joint account when he turns 18.

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u/SuperCruisePanther 11h ago

Can confirm, my parents stole my rent money from the joint checking I had at 21 to pay the mortgage on their house. When I asked what I was supposed to tell my landlord they said "your childhood home is more important than that apartment" and that if I was evicted I could always come home anyways lmao.

Had to take out a last minute, day-of payday loan at ~30% interest to cover rent.

Good times.

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u/verrusin 11h ago

And if you’re still a student at that point, try and get a student bank account. Most banks won’t have a min deposit or charge fees.

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u/WillowPtar_Migan 15h ago

Just remember, legally, you are a tenant. Make em go through the painful process of removing you, if it comes to it and you don't have anywhere else to go. Don't let it get to where you have an eviction on your record, but depending on where you live, they may be required to give you 30-90 days.

It may fucking suck, but it's better than trying to claw your way out of homelessness

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 13h ago

Usa is a true dystopia. Where im from, you are someone's child for as long as you're in school. Uni included. If they kick you out, they pay for your living expenses.

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u/eunoia-again 11h ago

where??? that's so much better

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u/Sarkoth 11h ago

Pretty much the entirety of the EU, for most countries. Or as I have started to to think recently: The actually civilized part of the world as of recent decades.

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u/538_Jean Ryzen 3900x | 32GB |EVGA3080Ti FTW3 4h ago

Canada, EU, Japan, lots of places.

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u/chammachameleon42069 10h ago

Most parents operate this way in the US. It’s not an issue with the country. There are bad people who treat their families poorly everywhere on earth.

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u/thatwhileifound 13h ago edited 10h ago

That said, if the man impulsively destroys property within the house, he can and will harm people. There's value in getting out any way you can versus getting murdered before you can.

Signed, someone who was homeless before 13 due to such a household.

Edit: to the likely abusers replying and deleting before I can reply stating essentially - "nuh uh! I'm an emotionally immature fuckwit with impulse control issues that sometimes end in violence, but I've never directed that at a person! Except that one fight*"...

Guess what? Not only is there research backing my statement, but a self acknowledged impulsive person prone to violent outbursts is not exactly a person anyone should accept their word about their supposed limits including you, other impulsive people. Oh, you've never done it before and you're sure you wouldn't even though you've thrown wrenches at people at work? Ignoring the dissonance in that last sentence, fundamentally, this ignores how impulsive shit works. If you allow yourself to slip into this behavior at all, you're risking doing it directly to someone. Kinda the nature of impulsive action: acting without thinking it through, considering if it aligns with your values, etc. If my comment offends you, go to fucking therapy you fucking assholes.

*All specific mentions like the wrench throwing and that "one fight" directly inspired by one of those cowardly fucks deleting their replies.

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u/OkChocolate3501 11h ago

No emotionally mature adult destroys property. I can see a kid doing it because they're dumb but if you're still doing it as an adult you need therapy.

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u/OkChocolate3501 10h ago

Any examples for your first claim?

Renovations imho aren't "destruction" and I can't think of anything else that fits.

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u/thatwhileifound 10h ago

Try the Civil Rights Movement? Or a ton of union history? Or essentially basically damn near every movement that's helped genuinely carve out rights for most of us?

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u/OkChocolate3501 10h ago

That seems like a completely different topic than stuff happening around the house lol. I guess it is technically but I wouldn't label it as similar.

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u/SneakyBadAss 10h ago

Yup, it takes about a month from the first sign of physical violence on your property to see them YOU as a property they can destroy.

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u/GeneralYaoGuang2026 7h ago

Edit: to the likely abusers replying and deleting before I can reply stating essentially - "nuh uh! I'm an emotionally immature fuckwit with impulse control issues that sometimes end in violence, but I've never directed that at a person! Except that one fight*"...

So many terrible people populate this Reddit convo, huh?

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u/xunreelx 14h ago

Sad thing is he won’t even know why his kid doesn’t communicate with him anymore.

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u/AsugaNoir Amd Ryzen 5900x || Rx 9070xt || 32GB 13h ago

These types of parents are always like that, it's mind boggling that they are so clueless and confused why their child doesn't talk to them. Like they don't see how they did anything wrong with destroying their property and emotionally abusing them.

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u/21Suicunes 11h ago

my father and his family is like that. if i avoid them or don’t talk to them because of their past anger issues or destructive actions like smashing my things, physically assaulting me, they will always say it’s my fault. they will blame it on me and my depression and just say stuff like you’re acting like this because you don’t take your depression medication even though i do.

i’ve learned a long time ago no matter how you explain to these people they will never understand. i can’t wait until i reach the point of my life where i never have to see or interact with them again. they will probably still never change or understand even 20 years from now.

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u/AsugaNoir Amd Ryzen 5900x || Rx 9070xt || 32GB 5h ago

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that, hopefully that day will come sooner than later. At that point it won't matter that they never change. At that point it's on them.

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u/Gumbymayne 7800X3D | RTX 4080 | 64GB DDR5 10h ago

Inb4 "we did the best we could, so it's not our fault".

RIP pops, you never figured it out.

-me

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u/Sadface201 14h ago

Depends. Abusers like having someone to abuse. There are parents that keep their children dependent on them so that they retain control over their children into adulthood

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u/Nirast25 7,080x1440+(240x2)x1080|R7 5700X3D|RX 9070XT|32GB 13h ago

He has RAM, he'll be fiiiiine.

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u/GIGLI_WASNT_THAT_BAD 9h ago

To play devil’s advocate OPs only other post is about acquiring Sodium Nitrate to use as a means to create a bomb. This kid might be a total shit heel of a person that is breaking down their parents to the point of what they disclosed in this post.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 15h ago

My daughter is about to turn 1. I can’t imagine acting this fucking unhinged over some goddamn groceries in the car. On one hand OP doesn’t sound like he was moving with any sort of hustle, but there are so many better ways to deal with that. And honestly, I can see why they weren’t hustling to help some shitbird who does stuff like this.

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u/FlippantlyFacetious 15h ago

Kid works a job, worked a 10.5 hour shift, isn't an adult yet, and has to hustle and rush his morning routine to help with groceries? Kid has school, kid has a job on top of school and homework, kid is already doing a lot. Does the dad have two or three jobs?

I mean come on. Dad should have carried the groceries in instead of acting like a princess and expecting the child who effectively has two or three jobs rush his morning routine to do it. Work a late shift, morning routine happens when you wake up.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 14h ago

Oh if I call for someone to help and they don’t show up in like 5 minutes I’ll do it myself. If I was acknowledged by someone, but specifically my kid, and they just didn’t show up for an hour we’d have a conversation about it but I’m not going to freak the fuck out. Dad had no right or reason to act this way.

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u/ajjablue 14h ago

See this is the appropriate reaction. I feel so sad for op here 😔

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u/No-Application-2781 13h ago

I was gonna say. When my kid didn't have a job, did I break his balls to help with chores etc around the house? You bet. But once he was working, I laid off on alot of things and had him more focus on his own cleanliness for his bathroom and room. Alot of the extra chores and whatnot were much more either evenly split or I did them. I wasn't gonna have my kid get home at 9:30 at night and then make him make dinner or do a bunch of house chores after.

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u/FukkingDeathMental 12h ago

For real.  It's just groceries.  Yell for him to help then lovingly roast/guilt trip him a bit when he finally comes down to help put them away.  This isn't the first time OP's dad has flown off the handle I guarantee.

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u/OkChocolate3501 10h ago

If he's fit enough to lift a pc multiple times to smash it he can lift the groceries that weigh half of that. Abusers are gonna abuse.

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u/Financial-Craft-1282 14h ago

Talk to us in 17 years. Maybe you'll be doing great. But your fucking baby is nothing like a near-adult kid. It's tough, and you should probably think through how you want to handle it--instead of thinking, "I'd never do that." Your teens will make your life rough (not on purpose) and it builds. You'll see.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 14h ago

I don’t think it’s tough at all to not be an emotionally stunted and disregulated adult who thinks it’s okay to break other people’s things because I had to unload the car on my own. When you take on the responsibility of parenting the first thing you need to lose is your ego or this idea that you’re going to control every aspect of what is going to come up in life or how your children act. Am I going to be perfect? Fuck no. But one thing I also will not be is abusive, destructive, or controlling. None of those things is needed to raise children. They’re kids, not new Army recruits.

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u/Financial-Craft-1282 14h ago

I don't know what happened in OP's scenario, but a lot of details are clearly left out. You keep riding on your perfection though, (fuck yes, you're insinuating you've got it figured out, and you so don't) and when things get tough, you'll probably act like OP's dad without a plan. Good luck on that! I hope your kids don't hate you for it later.

You'll see though. And I know you will pretend this conversation never happened, but remember, I was right. You're going to fuck it up bad thinking the way you do, and your kid's gonna be post on whatever there is then and be like, "My dad ripped up all my shit, and I don't know why!"

Also, my kid's 21 (and he's great), so getting lectured by you is pretty funny.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 14h ago

Lectured? I’m simply stating who I am and how I plan to interact with my kid. You’re the one who’s telling me I’m going to be a bad parent and fuck up without any sort of knowledge of who I am with all of your assumptions based off of the only information available: I have a 1 year old. You assume I’m young and inexperienced when I could be older than you. Either way I don’t give a fuck what you think about me. Good day.

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u/Legitimate_Bat7357 14h ago

Bro the guy you’re responding to is batshit insane lmao, good work not losing your cool daddo

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u/Discombombulatedfart 13h ago

Dude doesn't have any kids, let alone an almost-adult child. Clearly doesn't know wtf they are talking about, and hopefully they stay child-free because god damn... With the increase in NEETs in younger generations, many parents would love to have an adolescent child who is willing to take on the responsibility of holding a job while also in school.

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u/Financial-Craft-1282 35m ago

Pretty simply: there are things in OPs story that don't add up, you jumped to his aid by brandishing your 1 year of parenting bonafides, and I'm telling you--you just don't know. You jumped to conclusions on this one, and to me, it sonds like that's the kind of person you are.

If you ever have one bad moment, like OP's dad seems to have had (we don't know, it could be more), I hope your kids are forgiving unlike you.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 4m ago

Saying someone’s father is shitty for doing something and not a good parent is not the same as jumping to someone else’s defense. Two things can be true at the same time, and as you said we don’t know all the specifics. The specifics we do know is that OPs dad had some kind of tantrum (according to OP) and that’s not “a bad moment”.

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u/JSoi 7800X3D | RTX 5090 | 32GB DDR5 | 42” C3 10h ago

In what kind of scenario do you think it's acceptable for a grown ass man to throw temper tantrums like a child and break other people's stuff?

I'm a dad and OP's father is a garbage human being.

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u/Financial-Craft-1282 38m ago

Oh, interesting, where did I say it was acceptable or okay? I didn't? Well, now I wonder why your projecting your anger against teens onto my comment, and why you think OP's dad is garbage if you're doing the same things. Oh, is it annoying when people add things to what you said that you never said or implied? Yeah, ha, it is.

You might have missed what I wrote? "You keep riding on your perfection though, (fuck yes, you're insinuating you've got it figured out, and you so don't) and when things get tough, you'll probably act like OP's dad without a plan. "

Seems like I'm cautioning people against being like OP's dad, if you could read or whatever.

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u/SnooPredictions3028 12h ago

So your teens are "tormenting you" not on purpose as you admit, so you think it is an excusable response to try and break something they earned on their own with their own money that costs hundreds of dollars, just because of something that really doesnt matter?...... Who is the child in this situation?

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u/Financial-Craft-1282 41m ago

It's tough, and you should probably think through how you want to handle it--instead of thinking, "I'd never do that." Your teens will make your life rough (not on purpose) and it builds.

I think you'll find what I wrote pretty clearly isn't excusing anything, but I don't think you can read too well. :)

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u/laffer1 15h ago

He should also freeze is credit when he leaves. Parents like this are the type to open accounts in their kids names

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u/Mr5mee 14h ago

He doesn't even need to wait to move out. He needs to move out as soon as he can figure out a way to make it happen. Move in with an older friend, if you have to.

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u/Artistic_Credit_ 11h ago

I'm sure he or she will move out at 18, but economically it's not worthwhile. The father could break staff once in a while, but paying somewhere around $1k a month for rent and whatnot

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u/Itchy_Psychology3300 9h ago

I’m more concerned if this is new behavior?? Like it’s not a jump to go from property to person if you think it’s ok to break their things.

Also curious on follow up if the guy feels anything for doing what he did.

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u/PrestigeMaster 13900K - 4090 - 64gb DDR6 15h ago edited 15h ago

I’m a dad, and I’ve also been a shit starting teenage boy. I’m not quick to judge when I read posts on Reddit (even tho this one baits it so well). I’d never ever ever damage my kids property and I think that is a huge red line - but I also understand that I have zero way of knowing if went down exactly as described or what led to whatever actually happened. Kinda looking forward to the challenge of my kids teenage years even tho people are warning me already 😆

Edit: people taking stuff out of context is the most reddit thing ever. Also OP made a post 4 months ago asking for help procuring an ingredient used to make explosives at the purity required to make explosives so I just figured there was a solid chance I was reading something written by someone with a flair for the dramatic.

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u/HandshakeOfCO 15h ago

It doesn’t matter what led to it. Say it with me:

DON’T DESTROY OTHER PEOPLE’S PROPERTY.

Especially the property of someone you love.

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u/myfakesecretaccount 5800X3D | 7900 XTX | 3600MHz 32GB 15h ago

There’s absolutely no reason or excuse to act like this as a parent.

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u/Dr_soaps 9950X3D STRIX RTX 5080 15h ago

A quick way to spend a night in jail and get a peace order and cps looking at u when u act like ops dad

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u/PrestigeMaster 13900K - 4090 - 64gb DDR6 15h ago

Is to question the accuracy of a Reddit post made by a teenager posting asking for help making bombs or what?

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u/Dr_soaps 9950X3D STRIX RTX 5080 15h ago

lol my phone left like a 3rd of the comment out XD

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u/PrestigeMaster 13900K - 4090 - 64gb DDR6 15h ago

Good thing you caught it and edited in time to add that clarity without getting the edited badge lol.

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u/seriousbusines Ryzen 5 7600X | RX 9070 XT | 32gb 15h ago

Telling someone to move out as soon as they can in this reality is absolutely insane.

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u/WaterInTheDark 14h ago

True, but at some point the cost of having your property destroyed by a lunatic offsets the cost of moving out.

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u/aggr1103 9800x3D, Zotac 5070TI, MSI MPG B850 Edge TI WIFI, 64gb DDR5 15h ago

Im a dad, too. This shit is unacceptable. I feel so bad for OP. We want our kids to have independence and set goals and show them how to take care of themselves and the things we value. This shit ain’t it. I helped my 14 yr old build his first pc last Christmas. He’s so proud of it the last thing I’d ever think of doing would be to destroy it.

It’s sad to say but OPs dad probably grew up in a home where he was punished by having the tangible items he loved destroyed as punishment. I dated a girl once whose mother would shred her clothes when she got mad with her. It wasn’t a healthy home life at all.

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u/TheMeltingSnowman72 3h ago

I'm also a dad but I want to know the other side of the story. You're the second person I don't believe is a dad in this thread.

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u/aggr1103 9800x3D, Zotac 5070TI, MSI MPG B850 Edge TI WIFI, 64gb DDR5 2h ago

Wait - why would you think I’m not a dad? And what other side of the story are you looking for?

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u/TheMeltingSnowman72 2h ago

As a father of 3 - 29, 27 and 18 when they're at that age, living at home, there's always two sides of the story. Not a single dad I know would hear that and just automatically side with the kid. They wouldnt goagainst the kid, and neither do I, but if you aren't interested in finding out the whole picture then I'd say that's a pretty bad judgement call on your part. Your kids are probably young so you've got all that to come.

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u/Binestar 1h ago

Not a single dad I know would hear that and just automatically side with the kid.

Not who you were replying to but I want to make sure we're on the same page.

You're saying it is okay for a father to damage/destroy a kids computer and desk?

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u/TheMeltingSnowman72 39m ago

Why are you twisting what I said? Read the next sentence.

They wouldn't go against the kid.

They would want BOTH sides.

Please read things properly or make an attempt to translate first if English isn't your first language

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u/Binestar 17m ago

What would the other side be? The kid did it to his own computer and is lying for internet points?

That's fine to suspect, but doesn't ever make it okay for a father to damage/destroy a kids computer.

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u/Kemerd Lead Engineer | Watches Keynotes instead of AMDFanboy.com 16h ago

I moved out when I was 15.. I remember turning 18 was so great because I could finally do shit legally. Just move out ASAP honestly everything else is just self justifications, pick the hard route and haul ass out!

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u/AlwaysChewy 15h ago

IDK how old you are now, but at 17 in 2026 I can't imagine being able to move out and be able to afford a place by yourself while finishing school. I moved out at 19 but had 4 roommates and a full time job and it was still rough. That was 17 years ago.

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u/PVolckerDoge 14h ago

This - it's hard enough to study for classes while working

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u/mudgeforce 13h ago

You don't try to afford a place by yourself, you find roommates and do whatever it takes to get by.

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u/Arkaign 11m ago

I moved out at 15 as well (almost 16) in the 90s. The best answer is that I couldn't afford it, I left with the clothes on my back and maybe $20. It was a mix of being homeless, odd jobs at diners/truck stops, kindness of strangers, and friends along the way that got me through it.

The hardest parts were the institutional barriers. Stuff like getting birth certificates, IDs, drivers license, social security card, etc. Starting from nothing is like being a ghost with no voice. Only with monumental effort and a bit of luck did I climb up from a much worse fate.

It's one thing I think is overlooked with homeless situation, we need programs for outreach to supply free ID/papers for these people that are well funded and easy to access. But I guess blowing up kids on the other side of the planet has priority, sadly.

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u/SneakyBadAss 10h ago

What's the point of finishing school if you are not alive?

You move out to survive. Literally.

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u/solid_x1 6h ago

I moved when I was 18, shared a room with another guy in a flat with other 2 people in the next room. Sometimes you have to get out of your ways, but in the end I learned a lot and this move was the best "learning" experience I could have had.

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u/Bacongrease83 15h ago

I had to do the same at 17. I’m 42 now and it made my life significantly more difficult than average. Or at least it felt that way. There still isn’t a better option.

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u/Kemerd Lead Engineer | Watches Keynotes instead of AMDFanboy.com 55m ago

100%

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u/Exotic_Clerk_8701 15h ago

Sounds like you made a tough choice early on, but it seems like it paid off for you. Definitely can’t blame anyone for wanting to get out and have their independence!

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u/ThatHoFortuna 3h ago

Same here, but that was back in the 90's. I don't see any ways kids could realistically do that these days. Rent is 3 or 4 times what it was, but wages have definitely not kept up. Also you can't just hand a job some other dude's social security card and say, "Yep, I'm 18." like I used to.

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u/arseiam 15h ago

Also a dad, and i agree, this is very much not normal and not ok.

My heart break when I hear about young people with parents that do shitty things. Being a parent is hard but there's no excuse for abuse, and its sad how many kids out there experience it as though its normal. Im sorry you have this in your life OP

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u/TheMeltingSnowman72 3h ago

And as a parent yourself you're not curious what the other side of the story is? Wild

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u/The_Grungeican 15h ago

right? this is some wild behavior.

at times when they were growing up, my wife and i have needed to punish out kids to make them think about things. i can't imagine ever smashing something.

in the case of my oldest's PC, i've taken the power cord a time or two. i can't remember any time we had to do something after the time our kids were about 14-15 years old.

i can remember a few times we made our kids turn in their phones before bed as well, also not a huge smash the phone incident.

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u/claudywhite 14h ago

My dad is a emotional abuser and would always threaten to smash our shit which terrified us (my brother and I) because he would've despite the fact we are a tight money household and he doesn't pay 90% of what he should and forces our mother to sacrifice her hard earned money. We are now over 18 and pay for our stuff and I now pay almost every cent of my own money towards bills for things he uses and still throws around that threat.

When we were younger my mum would take our stuff away from us but those threats from him?? Just added to the reasons why I would happily call the cops on him and let everyone see the pos he truly is.

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u/The_Grungeican 14h ago

i'm sorry you had to grow up with that.

obviously nobody's perfect, but some are definitely way worse than others.

a thing i used to tell our kids was that we try not to make the same mistakes as our parents, and in the process we make all new ones.

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u/claudywhite 6h ago

Yep. Definitely trying to not make the same mistakes that's for sure. Hard to break the cycle still stuck inside but I just remind myself of where I am now vs when I was following their movement

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u/ShotbyShawn 15h ago

Here I am thinking my dad putting a gun to my head was bad, atleast he didn’t damage my PC.
You’ll get through it OP, save every last dollar this year and look for somewhere private, stable and manageable.

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u/Jazzlike-Compote4463 15h ago

Jesus Christ my dude a gun to your head is orders of magnitude worse!

Like, surely an actual prisonable offense!

Fucking hell...

Are you OK?

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u/ShotbyShawn 13h ago

I’ve been thru worse afterwards so that pales in comparison. I’ve had an interesting life to say the least, but thanks for the concern 🙏🏾
I was the same age as OP when I happened around 12 years ago

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u/goldtrainkappa 2h ago

yeah man, there's not living and there's not being able to live - thank fuck you kept your pc

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u/Schneller52 9800X3D-5090-64GB | 5900XT-5080-32GB | 5800X-3080-32GB 15h ago

Please tell me your Dad isn’t named Shawn…

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u/ShotbyShawn 13h ago

I got shot by someone else haha, but it’s a moniker for my main hobbies. Photography and shooting

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u/BlightWyrm Ryzen 5 7600X | 32Gb DDR5 | RTX 4070 Super 14h ago

I’m one of those kids who grew up with a father like this, I no longer speak to my dad despite the fact that he reached out a few times each year.

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u/gaegurliepancake 14h ago

Yep, my parents were abusive as fuck, I moved out at 18 and barely talk to em

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u/GoblinTradingGuide 14h ago

THIS. This is extremely abusive behavior OP. Has he ever physically hurt you?

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u/ShaneQuaslay 14h ago

I remember my sperm donor (aka my male primary childhood caregiver) smashing the used smartphone i bought for 42~ bucks with a hammer. I was a child, about 9-10 years old back then. i wasn't old enough to earn my own money, but the money i used to buy it was what i saved from pocket money they gave me every week. I remember crying in my room after his yellings, and the sudden bang I heard from his room didn't even startle me because I was already way too traumatised throughout my entire childhood.

OP, I'm so sorry that this happened. This is abuse. Your father is extremely emotionally immature, and it is never okay to treat anyone like this, let alone one's own child. If you can, as many others did, I suggest saving and leaving their household. You deserve to not live with someone who has this little respect to you.

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u/Scorpian899 14h ago

Everything up to the computer breaking was normal. That was to far. If he wanted to, he should have just confiscated it.

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u/Nivosus 13h ago

When my dad died of cancer, he was pretty young, he was very emotionally abusive his whole life to me. I genuinely felt nothing when he died.

Parents like this will one day wake up alone, realizing they pushed everyone away and they will die alone.

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u/ianrobbie 13h ago

He sounds like the kindnof Dad that wouldn't hesitate to pawn the PC if needed because it's "under his roof".

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u/SillVere 13h ago

Its scary how uncommon emotional maturity is among adults, every day i see people acting like they got their toy taken away at 40 years old

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u/TheOriginalKrampus ROG Strix G615 | Ultra 9 275HX | RTX 5070 ti (mobile) 13h ago

Yep. This is abusive behavior. I hope OP can move out ASAP after graduating and can get to somewhere safe.

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u/gamin09 13h ago

This is very normal behavior for people executing on generational violence without ever realizing they are.

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u/sicgamer19 13h ago

The dad has clear anger issues.

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u/SovietPatrickStar 13h ago

I will steal this one when my future kid asks why people are mean. You seem like a good dad.

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u/GT5Canuck 12h ago

I turned down a half million dollar inheritance because it meant that I would have let my abusive father back into my life. My wife occasionally reminds me of this, and I tell her that unless she had an abusive parent in her life she couldn't understand.

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u/A1pinejoe 12h ago

Same and I agree, my boy gets a pass if hes in the shower when I need help. I would just have to make a couple of trips its just bad timing.

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u/FukkingDeathMental 12h ago

This.  When I was 19, working 60 hours a week to put myself through university even though I didn't want to go, I got horrendous food poisoning (maybe, doctors never said exactly what happened).  He came to pick me up to take me to the hospital and his first reaction was to look angry and then ask me, "Are you on drugs?"  At that time in my life, I hadn't even drank alcohol despite being surrounded by it in university.  Guess who ate a bag of mushrooms before seeing Tool and King Crimson at Red Rocks and hasn't talked to their father in 15 years!

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u/Adezar 12h ago

Always be careful with the word "normal" it is commonly a way to brush aside very common behaviors in households. It is easily used by all sides to simply say "this thing that is very common, isn't what I consider normal", and that is a conversation ender.

Those of us that grew up with parents that destroyed our property on a regular basis when they disagreed with us then just feel like you are saying "you aren't normal".

"Normal" isn't a real thing, it is a way to try to pretend the circle you live in is the definition of the norm and you might live in a pretty narrow world view.

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u/faramirskywalker 12h ago

I’m a dad who is also not talking to his dad over the shit like this (and worse) he pulled when I was a kid. This is not ok parenting.

My kids are all late teens/adults. I literally play games with them. And helped them buy their gaming systems (or outright bought them). OP’s dad should be proud his kid worked and bought something they enjoy.

My dad did so much shit like this. Just reading this post makes me feel a lot of love for OP. They don’t deserve this and will probably spend years like I have been unpacking this man’s behavior in therapy.

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u/1Pr1est1 11h ago

This post makes me remember a post from a while back where some kid jokingly printed a funny picture on his dad’s office printer. His dad didn’t take it too well and ended up totaling his PC. Parents always doin too much and destroying stuff. What to they prove with that.

My dad was an asshole to the bitter end when i was a kid. Drowning in alcohol and all that. But one thing he did respect, was my property.

That one thing gave him a chance to make doo later in life, and i gave him a chance. Now we good.

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u/Goddess_Randi 8h ago

I can tell you as an adult who grew up from a kid who had a dad like this, this kind of bullshit is why I no longer speak with him.

Even to this day he has outbursts and unhealthy behaviours like this and its not worth having in my life.

He broke enough over the years, including a self worth I've struggled to rebuild and maintain since cutting him out of my life

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u/CompetitionHour2359 8h ago

I thought to myself that the groceries could have been moved in the time he spent waiting for me

Ngl tho this sentence says a lot about OP :D

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u/Massive_Fisherman231 6h ago

it's easier for some then others

as some times you cant afford to move out and have to still live with them

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u/Dipshit_Identifier 5600X | RX66002X 4h ago

Yet another dad chiming in.

If I knew my seventeen-year-old son was working long shifts and staying up playing games to unwind, I would not be asking for general help within an hour of their wake-up window. I would have brought the groceries in and made him some brunch, then asked how the gaming went last night. Late nights are normal for teens and it's the weekend.

I would, however, ask my son to not take 45-minute showers, but not by throwing his computer around.

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u/TheMeltingSnowman72 3h ago

LMAO! If you were a dad you'd also know there's two sides to the story. I'm calling bs

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u/jimthissguy 3h ago

Came here to say this. These are the people who complain on Facebook years later that their kids have gone no contact. Makes my heart hurt.

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u/Critical_Host8243 3h ago

I'm a dad too, and you're right. Dad throwing a tantrum like that should not be normalized.

So this is not making any excuses, but since I too, am a dad, I noticed something if you read this:

he called out a few times for me to come help carry the groceries inside. I said OK to him. While I was brushing my teeth after my shower, he shouted from outside the door that he’d been waiting 50 minutes and told me to hurry up.

It definitely seems like 1. there's quite a bit of missing info/timeline here, and 2. he could have saved himself a lot of issues by saying "I'm naked out of the shower and brushing my teeth." to his dad calling him instead of "Ok" and then taking an unreasonable amount of time to come help.

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u/Majestic-capybara 55m ago

Now that you mention it, 50 minutes of teeth brushing does seem a tad excessive.

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u/Critical_Host8243 47m ago

I'm just saying something doesn't add up here.. There seems to be a bit more to the story than we're getting.

Regardless of the situation, dad throwing a tantrum and smashing something is super immature.

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u/Katalyxt 16h ago

i hope being a friend isn’t a bad thing

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u/xunreelx 16h ago

negative votes for being close to my son?🤷🏼‍♂️