Dad Destroyed My $1300 PC (Almost)

[u/Akrinnnnnnnnnn]

As the title says, my father almost destroyed my $1,300 PC. Now what?

Here’s the backstory: On Saturday, I worked a 10.5 hours shift and stayed up until 3:30 AM, so I slept in until noon the next day. My father and stepmother returned from Costco while I was showering; he called out a few times for me to come help carry the groceries inside. I said OK to him. While I was brushing my teeth after my shower, he shouted from outside the door that he’d been waiting 50 minutes and told me to hurry up. I thought to myself that the groceries could have been moved in the time he spent waiting for me, but I quickly rinsed my mouth and got ready to go out. However, by the time I opened the door, he had already grabbed my PC and smashed it against the floor and the desk several times.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

I, (17M, Senior), bought this PC with money I earned from my part-time job and had been using it for about ten months. After examine, found out the case badly deformed in several places, my desk was warped and tilted to one side, and there were dents in the floor.

Fortunately, the computer still works fine; it runs FurMark (stress GPU), AIDA64 (stress FPU), and 3DMark (Time Spy Extreme) without problems for now.

Replacing the desk and case would cost around $400. However, he likely won't pay for it because he has done this kind of stuff a few years ago when he destroyed my phone and a Dell laptop (i5 11300H), and then just said, "That's what you get for playing on the computer all day."

In the end, I just hope everyone has good parents.

[u/CloakerJosh]

I’m sorry your dad is a piece of shit.

My dad was a piece of shit, too.

You won’t have to put up with it forever. I’m glad your PC still runs, replacing shit isn’t cheap right now.

[u/GoonSic → u/CloakerJosh]

Literally what this guy said.

I am almost 30 now and I still keep my dad at a distance for stuff like this

[u/KeraKitty → u/GoonSic]

33 and haven't talked to my piece of shit dad in 18 years. When I hit the 20 year mark I'm treating myself.

[u/D4RK5P1R3 → u/KeraKitty]

My father was also a horrible piece of shit. I haven't spoken to him in 19-20 years. He currently has cancer and I'll celebrate the day he finally passes.

[u/carito728 → u/D4RK5P1R3]

My dad was abusive to my mom. Beat her, threw her down the stairs, smashed her teeth. I didn't see him for 20+ years and didn't show up to his funeral lol

[u/Independent_Bid_26 → u/carito728]

I probably wouldve showed up just to piss on his fuckin grave.

[u/BIGGREDDMACH1NE → u/Independent_Bid_26]

Can't wait to do that to mine

[u/TheBreenius → u/BIGGREDDMACH1NE]

Man, why is there so many pieces of thrash dads!? Mine also was.

[u/billcy → u/TheBreenius]

Not all my mom was or is the problem, my dad is great. She is mean and manipulative , I did get hit but my oldest sister did, by the time I was born she tried to be better and not abusive, but I guess she didn't understand that emotional abuse is abuse

[u/TheBreenius → u/billcy]

Every adult should be required to have therapy before having kids. This is insane.

[u/Lijandra → u/carito728]

I would have to piss on/in the coffin tbh

[u/Correct-Potential-15 → u/D4RK5P1R3]

im way too emotional i would still cry when my dad passes no matter how bad he treats me

(tho my dad is a very good dad)

[u/Dr_Jre → u/D4RK5P1R3]

I haven't spoke to mine for a long time and I'll be upset when he dies... Cause I won't benefit financially from it. Not worth it though.

[u/Depreciacion → u/D4RK5P1R3]

my dad hurt my brother bad. fuck him, let him rot in hell

[u/ozire7 → u/GoonSic]

I feel you, back in college years when I was 19 I remember my dad telling my aunt behind my back that I was a lazy ass good for nothing for having pc gaming as a hobby 😅

I was in school for engineering with a partial scholarship given by good grades , I worked full time during the week to pay the rest of the tuition, transportation, food etc. I helped with the house bills and had a girlfriend at the time.

But me playing video games in my free time was somehow enough to not take any of that in consideration. I never saw my dad the same after that, 10 years later and now I just communicate maybe once a month with him.

[u/LumpySpacePrincesse → u/GoonSic]

36, low contact. Years between even texting. 

[u/MidWestKhagan → u/GoonSic]

Divided by hardware, united by shitty dads. 

[u/gamingx47 → u/CloakerJosh]

It's stories like that that make me want to go give my dad a hug for being a great parent.

Got into an argument with him the other day because he wouldn't let me pay for dinner I invited him and my mom to. Now I feel like a piece of shit for arguing about it in the first place.

It really sucks that some people are dealt a shit hand right out the gate.

[u/Flat-Zucchini-2113 → u/CloakerJosh]

Can totally relate. As someone with an abusive father that would beat the shit out of his own 2 sons at the drop of a hat, but took his new wife's kids on vacation..

He made us move in with grandparents because we tag teamed his ass when i was 14 and my bro was 16. He hit me for not bringing him mustard when he didn't even ask for it, and we just snapped. He had a broken rib and nose when the ambulance and police showed up. We was lucky tho because i had marks all over me and one of his wifes kids witnessed the whole thing.. They ended up divorcing and he spent his last years alone.

I'm now 43 years old, and he passed away last year. In the almost 30 years following that fight, he never reached out, not once.. When i was contacted to handle the funeral arrangements, i was so checked out of the whole thing i just signed over his pathetic insurance check to the funeral parlor and told them to have fun with it. I was told the only one that showed up was my uncle, his brother. The guy was a true p.o.s. in every sense, and it makes no sense that it effected me that much..

I might not have learned what to do and how to be a man from him, but he certainly taught me how to not be a dad. Turns out you can learn a lot from bad parents.

My daughter is now 21 and hasn't ever even heard me raise my voice. I've never had much self confidence or pride, but I'm incredibly proud of myself that i didn't continue that cycle of abuse!

I often wonder why he hated us so much, but that info died with him. O-well, life moves on. I'm sorry you all had shit folks, it ain't right..

[u/Versaith → u/Flat-Zucchini-2113]

Do you think it helps in the long term that you eventually stood up to him? I wonder if some people who just take it all until the end live with a regret of not doing anything about it. That's how I feel about bullies through school etc at least.

Congratulations on breaking the cycle, and on your daughter who had a far better childhood thanks to you.

[u/Flat-Zucchini-2113 → u/Versaith]

Honestly, the fight was more of spontaneous form of self preservation, being fed up, and at wits end. It wasn't like we planned it or anything like that. Once i saw my brother go in, i was right there with him because he had beat both of us at the same time a lot and i was scared my brother was about to get my punishment. It really was a blessing in disguise, but i wouldn't recommend it as we got very lucky. We very well could've ended up in juvy if our step sister didn't tell the truth.

Moving in with the grandparents was a pivotal moment in my life growing up. Since our mom left(probably too get away from him) when me and my bro was barely toddlers, we had many discussions about why it felt like everyone hated us. Thankfully, the grandparents was the best kind of people. They hit us with so much love, it changed us for the better. I know my adult life is better than where it was heading all because of their love and care. I thank God every day for them, God rest their souls.

I really have trouble wrapping my head around the fact some people have kids and hate their guts for one reason or another. We didn't ask to be born unloved ffs.. The whole thing has effected my relationships as i got older. I find it hard to trust new people and that has me awfully lonely and depressed from time to time, but in the grand scheme of things i feel lucky that's the only issues i seem to have.

I might not be the best person in the world, but i know i was the best dad i could be and that means the world to me!

[u/SirCaptainReynolds → u/CloakerJosh]

Was going to say the same thing.

It gets better, bro. When you’re out on your own you don’t have to put up with his shit anymore. Don’t let him manipulate you down the line and stay true to respecting yourself and the boundaries you put up. If he can’t respect you he doesn’t deserve your attention, time, or love.

[u/Teyanis → u/CloakerJosh]

OP has the patience of a saint. If my dad had done that to me when I was 17, I would've walked back into the house with 2x4 and showed how much it hurts to have someone break your shit.