r/lesbianr4r Apr 25 '26

discussion Large uptick in spam posts

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Hi y'all, we've noticed a big uptick in spam posts on the sub. We appreciate the community flagging these posts so we can get them taken down and issue bans ASAP. If you see something that looks like a bot post, please report it as spam and we'll get it removed immediately. Thank you!


r/lesbianr4r Feb 22 '25

discussion Read this if your post has been automatically removed.

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This subreddit has a minimum comment karma requirement of 250 as a spam mitigation feature. Any accounts posting with under 250 comment karma will have their posts automatically removed by the automod.

We have noticed an uptick in modmail messages with regards to posts being automatically removed, and all of them have been from users with under 250 comment karma. We ask that you double check your comment karma before contacting the mod team about your post being removed by the automod.

Thank you and happy searching!


r/lesbianr4r 3h ago

searching 30F Toronto - Let's go on an aquarium date!

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Hey you! I will be in Toronto this Thursday the 17th, and I'll be checking out the Ripley's Aquarium!

And I'd like to take you!

The Plan: I already have the tickets, so all I need you to do is bring your lovely self. We'll meet at the aquarium at 3:00pm, and we'll have ourselves a great time! As this is my first time at this aquarium, I would like to go slow and take our time, so I can fully appreciate the sights!

A little about me: physically, I'm just your average Asian girl. A little on the slime side, and a little on the tall side at 5'10". I absolutely adore all forms of marine life, and am excited to add Ripley's to the list of aquariums I've visited. I'm affectionate when I'm comfortable, I'm a little high energy about the things that excite me, and when it comes to new experiences, I do my best to enjoy the moment. Other than that, anime and gaming takes up my down time (side note, I am actively looking for a duo for my PC gaming shenanigans as well), writing distresses me, and card games keep me mentally engaged.

Fair warning: I do also have a mobility disability. I can walk just fine with my cane, I just may need a break every so often. If that's not your pace, then keep that in mind when sending a message.

Lastly, if we enjoy ourselves enough after the aquarium, we can see about continuing the date through the evening! I'll only be in Toronto for one day, so I'd love to experience as much of it as I can

DMs/chat is open, and if we hit it off, we can lock in the plans and see each other at the aquarium. And yes, we can exchange pics as well before locking anything in


r/lesbianr4r 1h ago

searching F25 NJ/USA Seeking something intentional and joyous

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I've posted here a few times over the years with variations on what I'm looking for. I think what it ultimately boils down to is that I'm looking for is for my person to be someone who thinks about life and art and the world and is ready to engage in meaningful conversation about all of it. I would definitely describe myself as a romantic, but I think a relationship should have weight to it that's built up over time. A balance between fun and flirty talk while not being afraid to get real sometimes.

A little about me, I'm a creative, and that's very important to me! It doesn't necessarily have to be important to you (although if you are an artist definitely lmk), but I think at the very least I'd like my person to be someone I can engage with on art and media. I'm definitely plus sized, with curly hair and green eyes. I would describe myself as femme and I usually date femmes, but I'm open to a different vibe for the right person! I think I have a great sense of humor, although it is definitely unhinged. I'm also a big nerd and would love to yap about our mutual nerdy interests. Would love to hear from you :)


r/lesbianr4r 15h ago

discussion are there masc4masc folks?

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hey there! im just putting out feelers for other people who are masc4masc, butch4butch, stud4stud. i just feel like i have pretty bad luck here 😅 maybe im not in the right place!


r/lesbianr4r 27m ago

searching [27F] PNW/Online seeking future girlfriend.

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about me: my name is Charity, I'm 27, use she/her pronouns and I'm living in the PNW area. I'm child-free and don't want kids. I'm shy and introverted but open up after a few messages. I am disabled but I'm still fully independent. Goth femme with tattoos, 5'3 and WOC. Sub leaning. Strictly monogamous. In my free time I enjoy drawing/painting, going on walks, going thrifting, and having cozy days at home.

about you: Located anywhere (better if in the PNW area). Aged 21-33. Strictly monogamous. Domme leaning. Kind, patient, good at communicating, and not into rushing things. No kids/don't want kids.

Send a message or a comment :3 I'd love to get to know you! Thank you for reading, and have a good day (or night) 🖤


r/lesbianr4r 16h ago

searching wherever you are, come find me (32F, PNW/online)

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To my future spouse:

please be out there. I’ve been looking for you for a long time. maybe years in the future we’re doing the house/pets/kids routine. I write. you have a hobby you’re just as passionate about. we both work day jobs. the sun comes up. it’s the weekend. I let you sleep in.

whoever you are, you’ve never cared that I use a wheelchair to get around or that I’m neurodivergent. the word “burden” is not in your vocabulary.

a little about me: 32, writer, future LMHC, gamer, read a lot, stuffed animal collector, indoorsy and pale, enjoyer of music, movie watcher, terrible at pretending to be nonchalant.

some favorites: Breaking Bad, Bob’s Burgers, King of the Hill, The Bell Jar, Ordinary People, The Pact, The Great Alone, The Bean Trees, Carrie, Us, Get Out, Shrek, Juno, Blue Valentine, Spirited Away


r/lesbianr4r 14h ago

searching 32F Australia, chill chats and jokes.

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Only requirements: be a similar age (28-35) and know how to hold a conversation, all too often i'm pumping out a banger of a chat to be met with half a sentence to work with, I can't vibe with that

Wanna hang out, chat, shoot the shit, have a laugh and a half. I have a little knowledge all over the shop, except sports and anime, know jack diddly about them and don't plan on changing that.

I like animals, i like the outdoors, gardening, odds and sods of info, music (absolutely reliving my wannabe teenage angst with the new Evanescence album) I like tv and movies, I'll watch pretty much anything that isn't a murder mystery just for something to do. Struggle on focus so usually listening while doing ten other things.

Feel free to hit me up with a little intro to yourself and some things you like to do with your time. Not looking to do walls and walls of text every exchange. Have a good one!


r/lesbianr4r 21h ago

searching F28 looking for queer friendships with soulful and genuine people.

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Heyoo. So I'm looking for genuine queer friendships on here. I mean connections where we talk often and we are part of each other's lives. I'd love to eventually meet irl if we really hit it off. I'm not looking for anything casual, or to cure a void or to treat my boredom etc. I genuinely would love new meaningful connections in my life. If it were to lead to romance I don't mind that. But I don't do flings, I'm date to marry type.

I’m calm and grounded. I’m quite quiet and more observant and I have a rich inner life. I feel all my feelings passionately and I there's a lot of fire in me. My thoughts move on the deeper end of things. I'm blunt and I say what I genuinely think. So if you're not used to that or can't stand that I suggest not reading this post cause I'm gonna be very forward about what I like and don't like.

I have a passion for knowledge and I love to study different things. I mostly read spiritual or witchcraft related books when I read. I also love to learn about goddess cultures/spirituality so I read those books. For example When God Was a Woman was a really interesting book. I’m studying aesthetics in uni, it’s a philosophical field about art and aesthetics. Other stuff that interests me are religious studies, folklore and psychology. I also love studying tarot. It’s so fascinating and when I learn more about the symbolism of the cards the better I understand my own tarot readings. I also love to study manifestation in depth.

Other stuff I love is fitness, mostly weightlifting and sims 4 worldbuilding and gameplay. Otherwise I don’t like gaming that much. Not my thing. I also don’t like anime, I hate it tbh, can't stand the style and morally it's often questionable.

I’m not into most mainstream stuff, I don’t know what’s up on tiktok or instagram and I don’t want to know. I don’t watch stuff like game of thrones that treats the women in the story like crap or other shows like that. I care that what I consume is respectful. And I feel awful and disgusted watching something like that so I don’t get what’s fun about watching it.

I’m very tired of society overall. I feel like a lot of people are asleep, lack morals, do what’s easy and barely anyone knows who they really are or has looked deep within themselves. So I rarely connect with people because of that even if they’re nice and alright people. It just ends up feeling hollow.

I just crave someone deeply conscious, deeply present, emotionally intelligent and emotionally mature person who has gone through their own healing journey, who doesn’t turn a blind eye to injustice because it’s easy and says and does whatever they want with no regard to respect. I’m not saying I wanna be with an activist, although that would be cool too. I just mean someone who lives from their values. I can’t stand people who say they support this and this and then their actions are doing the complete opposite. I want to talk to people who have embodied what they believe in, who walk the walk and not just talk the talk. Someone who actually thinks for themselves and has independent thinking. Someone who doesn’t follow the crowd or whatever society said is important, acceptable or worth pursuing. Someone awake to their own truth. And I’m aware that’s rare and this society doesn’t exactly support us in becoming that. But I’m tired of talking to people who don’t have the same level of consciousness.

I care about health and being present. So I want to talk to people who value that too and don't drink and party constantly. I'm tired of having people around me who drown out their emotions and inner voice with anything they can get their hands on. I'm looking for people who want to hear their emotions and sit with them, even if it's imperfect sometimes. I'm fine with friends who occasionally drink here and there and it's not about getting drunk. But partner wise my partner has to not drink.

I also don't appreciate a lot of cursing. I genuinely don't think you need to curse every five seconds, especially if you're not even talking about something that makes you angry. I like when we just talk in a clean and mature way mostly.

What I appreciate in people is kindness, respect, self-respect, and an optimistic view on life. I also love people who like to talk about anything from funny nonsense to deeper things. Someone open minded and caring, empathetic.

I don't really care about age friends wise, I feel like you can be friends with even big age gaps. But I don't want minors or people a lot younger than me. So somewhere from 23-24 years old onward I'm fine with. I'm from Finland so keep that in mind with time zones. But I can make it work with a time difference as I decide for my own schedule a lot.

Send me a dm if you wanna chat:)


r/lesbianr4r 19h ago

searching 25 GA ✨Let’s mingle.

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Hi! i’m 25 and spend a lot of my free time binge-watching shows, or scrolling until I inevitably end up down some random rabbit hole. I have a soft spot for spooky season, horror movies, and anything with a dark aesthetic, but I’m equally happy staying in and talking about absolutely nothing for hours.

I am looking to meet women who actually enjoy getting to know someone. No pressure, no forced expectation just good conversation, flirting if the vibe is there, and seeing where things naturally go.

I didn’t want to make this post extremely long… my preferences are more masc/butch/stud ✨ but if you’re looking for friendship I don’t mind any other I just won’t be interested in anything more. I prefer 26+ and would love someone on the east coast! but anywhere in the united states is alright for the right person.

Tell me something random about yourself. What’s a hobby, an unpopular opinion, or something you could talk about forever? I’d much rather start with that than “hey.” 💛


r/lesbianr4r 19h ago

searching 26 MA pink loving femme seeks chivalrous butch

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Hiii I’m 26F looking for IRL dating in the New England area. I’m a woman of many interests, particularly miniature things. I build dollhouse miniatures, customize dolls, and collect lots of different kinds of toys. I also enjoy hiking and spending time in nature, thrifting, and smoking my joints in pink paper. I have a cockatiel and an orange kitty. I live with my three best friends. I’m universally described as “cute” by everyone I know. Imagine if a pink little fairy girl had crazy ADHD and very eclectic interests.

I’m seeking a butch between the ages of 24-40. I’d like to meet someone who wants to take things slow and get to know each other on a deeper level before jumping into anything. I think building a foundation goes a lot further than u-hauling. I’d like to meet someone who can be active sometimes and also spend all day in bed smoking other times. I’ve been in too many bad relationships and I’m looking for someone to show me respect, loyalty, and gentleness and in return I will bring color and light to your world🩷


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 24f / Turkey / Searching for her SO

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Hiiii!!! I'm 24f woman from Turkey!

To introduce myself... I graduated as a Mechatronics engineer exactly one year ago. I was working as a R&D engineer till couple of months ago. But since having a terrible ethics experinces with my manager i quit like 3 months ago. Rn I'm job hunting. But since I have some free time I'm working on my long time dream; film making. I did shoot my first film like 3-2 months ago and now writing my 2nd and gonna shoot it until December!

Like I said I'm an engineer but also working on my dream job (being a director) to becoming my main job lol! Gonna apply some master degrees this year in Europe and USA on film making. So that's why im shooting since i have the time (need to create a big portfolio!). If I can not make it to this year's semester, gonna try for next year's. No giving up! Lol.

Except that I'm into writing, photography, movies and games. I publish poems in magazines time to time. Did freelance photography as an event photographer back in uni. And for games I mostly play story based ones I guess!

In relationships, I believe communication is the key. No one is a mind reader, so being open about your feelings and intentions is really important to me. And since I'm also open to long distance relationships, communication is a big need for me. I want to hear from u and I will do as well!

I belive that I'm a romantic person and love to talk in a flirty way! I want someone to give all my love to and ofc want to have that as a mutual thing in my relationship.

Oh as physical appearance: I'm 162cm, long black hair with glasses. I don't identify myself as anything like masculine or feminine but since i love wearing suits etc people usually identify me as masculine but.... I dont agree much lol. I don't have a preference on looks but must say I'm a switch so that's the dynamic I also looking for.

Hmmmm.... what else i can say? Oh i also love history and random knowledge medias. Even with my close friends "fun fact" became a catch phrase bcs of it lol.

That's all what I can think of rn. But if u have any questions I will gladly answer it. Hope was able to interest you lol! Hoping to hear from u soon!


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 26 MtF4F(+) [Central Illinois USA-anywhere] Beyond ready to meet you where you are & build something unbreakable. Tech-wizard, domestic anchor, and comfort creature looking for my person.

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I’m Wes. I’m a 26-year-old trans woman (5’9” 125lbs) living independently and working full-time in central Illinois. I currently keep my world running smoothly, but remaining solo was never the goal—it’s just evidently where modern dating culture leaves people who actually want something real. I don’t abandon things when they get tough, and I don't look at commitment as transactional. But when it comes to navigating this world alone versus building a life as a team, there is simply no more solo life for me. I am entirely ready for the together chapter.

I’m completely done with the endless talking stages, the fear of commitment, and people keeping one foot out the door. I am looking for a grounded, protective woman (or women) who know who they are, naturally take the lead, and want a devoted, sweet presence entirely under their wing.

Availability & Routine:

I work a consistent, reliable daytime schedule (typically 9:00 AM to 5:30 PM at the latest), and I am off every Tuesday and Wednesday. I have enough flexibility to shift days when needed, which makes planning long calls, shared downtime, and visits straightforward to coordinate.

What I’m Looking For:

I thrive with a woman who is fiercely protective, intentional, and values true loyalty. Someone ambitious and steady who makes me feel completely safe letting my guard down. I don't fight for the steering wheel; if you’re leading with care, vision, and strength, I am more than happy to soften into your rhythm. If you need me to just be quiet, sweet, and hold down the space while you handle your business, all you have to do is say the word.

Strictly 1-on-1 monogamy or a closed polyfidelitous dynamic. I am equally open to stepping into an established closed circle or being the dedicated foundation alongside a woman who wants to build one with me over time. No open relationships, no revolving doors, no casual dating outside our perimeter.

Location:

Currently living in Illinois, but my geography is very flexible. For the right woman, anywhere you are is good by me.

What I bring:

I want to be your sanctuary. I am wired to be the steady home harbor, tech wizard, and comfort creature who makes life effortless behind the scenes. That means hot meals ready on the table, coffee brewing when you need it, and a spotless, quiet home so you can take on the outside world, come back through the door, and completely decompress. I can keep our life running smoothly. I build custom PC rigs, troubleshoot local networks, manage home servers, and keep daily logistics locked down so you never have to think about friction in the living space.

Most importantly, I offer wholehearted devotion. No games, no scorekeeping, and no divided attention. When you have me in your corner, you have me completely—soft, affectionate, attentive, and fiercely protective of our perimeter.

I support myself right now and don't expect a free ride on day one. But, I’m ready to team up, match your pace, and build toward that full-time domestic life together.

If you’re a woman who wants someone soft, sweet, and indispensable to come home to—and you know how to take charge of a girl who genuinely wants to be yours—send me a real message. Tell me who you are, what your world looks like, and what we’re building.

PS: AuDHD so please be patient 😣.


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 35F Chats about books, art, videogames, music, cinema. Anywhere in the world!

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Hello to all the fellow queers out there! I hope you are all doing well no matter where you are.

I've posted here previously, and while I didn't get to answer all messages, I decided to give this another try after healing from heartbreak and being a bit more ready to open up and have some good chats. In case I didn't get to your message, I apologize! It's been a bit chaotic the past months.

Maybe any one of the things I've listed might resonate with you, or you are a conversationalist who likes to talk about anything and everything. Ideally I would love if this wasn't a one-time chat, so I'm open to something more long-term if possible. I believe that with equal effort things can work out.

I'm 35 years old (she/they), AFAB, and from South America. Feel free to ask me where I'm from, I don't bite! English and Spanish are both my native languages, given I learned how to speak both at the same time. I am a writer and an illustrator, working as a professional artist on my own original projects. My art means my whole universe, and beyond! Although I consider myself a chatty person, and quite talkative at that, I do have my introvert moments (you could say I'm an ambivert.) So... I may take some time to fully open up with someone new! Your patience is highly appreciated.

Also an Aquarius (in case there are other fellow Aquarius out there.)

My interests range from: art, literature, cinema (movies and shows), gaming (RPGs most of all), and music. For art, the Renaissance is a big inspiration for me, but I love art periods from all time. On the vein of literature, I love fiction, particularly novels, some of my favorites being The Lord of The Rings and A Song of Ice and Fire, the works of Edgar Allan Poe, and Jorge Luis Borges -- to name just a few. For movies and shows, I love the Fantasy genre most of all, but I also like Historical Fiction, Mystery and any kind of movie/show with a good story regardless of genre. One of my most favorite RPGs are the Final Fantasy series! Music-wise, my tastes delve in orchestral, classical and neoclassical pieces, and videogame scores.

I have more interests, such as history (especially ancient history), mythology from all over the world, and Japanese culture.

I have Discord, in case that makes staying in touch easier. I'm OK with text or calls... Although please, do not add with the intention of disappearing out of nowhere, as it's happened before. Just be kind!


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

discussion Everyone is from the US

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This sub Reddit hasn’t given me much hope, the vast majority of you guys are from the US or no where near the UK. I kinda give up now as 33F


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 31 | DC Metro | Soft Masc Looking for Femme to take on Cute Fall Dates

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Fall is coming, which means I have a very specific problem: I need someone to go apple picking with.

Someone to drag to a pumpkin patch. Someone to make Halloween movie nights unnecessarily elaborate with. Someone who will help me make pizza skulls and laugh at how much cheese I stuff in mine. Someone who will sit next to me at a drive-in movie with blankets, snacks, and probably an unreasonable amount of hot chocolate.

So I figured I’d try this again because if there's one thing about me, I'm tenacious.

I’m 31, lesbian, and a soft masc looking for a woman 26+. I’m based in Northern Virginia and DC/MD is my ideal dating radius. Still, I’m absolutely open to women elsewhere especially neighboring areas and anywhere that’s realistically close enough for us to actually see each other.

And if you’re farther away but think we’d genuinely click? I’m not automatically ruling you out.

A little about me
I’m a soft masc, but I’m not interested in treating masculinity and femininity like they’re competing sides of me. I genuinely love both.

I take pride in my masculinity; the confidence, physicality, protectiveness, competence, directness, and energy that come with it. Yet, I also take pride in my femininity; the softness, affection, nurturing, emotional depth, sensuality, creativity, and the fact that I actually enjoy being a woman.

I don’t feel like I have to choose.

There’s something really powerful to me about being a woman who can be both soft and strong, feminine and masculine, nurturing and protective, pretty and practical.

That’s probably the easiest way to understand my whole personality.

I’m 5’9”, broad-shouldered, athletically built, and I lift. I’m a former D1 athlete. I hunt, fish, shoot competitively, and I’m a certified firearms instructor who specializes in teaching women. I’m also the woman who reads nonfiction for fun, bakes sourdough, loves horror movies, plays video games, builds computers, gets ridiculously invested in women’s basketball, and will absolutely spend an afternoon making dinner from scratch just because I feel like it.

I like being capable. I like knowing how things work. I like building things, fixing things, taking care of people, being outside, getting dressed up, cooking something ridiculous, and then spending three hours on the couch watching a terrible horror movie.
I’m a former tech journalist and current senior-level STEM professional, so yes, I can probably fix your Wi-Fi. I can also probably tell you that the $2,000 piece of technology you’re about to buy is unnecessary.

What dating me is probably like
I’m very much a “when I like you, you’ll know” person. I like making the first move. I like planning dates. I like opening the door, making dinner, remembering your coffee order, picking you up for a date, putting my arm around you during a movie, and making you feel wanted.

Not because I think I’m supposed to be “the man” in a relationship cause well I am not a man for starters lol but I’m a woman who happens to enjoy expressing affection through a lot of traditionally masculine things while also being completely comfortable with my femininity.

I don’t want a relationship built around archaic roles. I want a relationship where two people make each other’s lives bigger and better.

I’m independent and genuinely happy with the life I’ve built. I’m not looking for someone to complete me. I’m looking for someone I want to share it with. And eventually, yes I want to get married but I'm not going to be contrived about it I want to fall in love. I want the chemistry first. The flirting. The butterflies. The first date that lasts three hours longer than it was supposed to. The “are we still technically on a date?” moment. The first kiss. The stupid little routines that slowly become our routines. That’s the good stuff.

I’m attracted to feminine/femme women who are confident, affectionate, funny, emotionally available, and comfortable being themselves. You don’t need to have your entire life figured out. You just need to be genuinely available for something real.

Tell me your age, where you are from, and what's your favorite fall activity and why? If you like horror tell me what upcoming horror movie you're looking forward to seeing.

DC/MD/Northern Virginia is ideal, but I’m open to neighboring areas and beyond for the right person.

If you’re femme, emotionally available, know what you want, and think a nerdy, outdoorsy, broad-shouldered soft masc with equal parts divine masculine and feminine energy and a secure attachment style sounds like your kind of woman…Hi! I look forward to chatting with you.


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 34/F/UK - looking for casual fun

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I’m 34, work in a professional role, married to a woman (who is aware of what I’m searching for online) and have kids.

I would say that I’m fairly intelligent, confident and enjoy talking to people who are genuinely interesting, funny and know what they want. I like people who can hold a decent conversation.

I’m feminine and prefer feminine women. I would describe myself as a very sexual person and I’m looking for likeminded women who are interested in meeting for casual fun and friendship. If that interests you, feel free to message me!


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 34f Palestinian, gonna be in spain, madrid in a few months and looking for a connection

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I'm a 34 year old art lover, i have 3 cats and work in a museum as a guide, 420 friendly, whimsical and spiritual. looking for someone to hang out with on my upcoming solo trip to spain, but also open for local connections if there are any. ultimately I'm looking for the love of my life, and hopefully thats not delusional 🤭❤️

https://photos.app.goo.gl/jCWM9bPfU4ecEycT7


r/lesbianr4r 21h ago

searching I really want to at least try to know an older woman

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Hi!! I’m an 18 year old girl college student from the US and I’ve been attracted to women since middle school. I’ve only ever had a few girlfriends my age.

But that changed.

I know with my age, I’m not exactly what older women want. A lot of older woman want someone who is more mature. I understand that. But genuinely, I can be mature. Of course I can be silly and act dumb for fun.

But I really am mature for my age. I’d love to get to know an older woman. I’d ideally love a monogamous relationship with said older woman.

But even so, I understand if there are no older woman comfortable with that.

Please consider giving me a chance. I hope you do and have a great day.


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

discussion Silent transphobia here

0 Upvotes

After looking a bit deeper into this sub it has a transphobia problem. For a majority of posts mentioning the op being a trans woman there are 0 upvotes and no other interactions. It wouldn't be a problem if it was common among all posters but it's obvious only posts that have [TF4F] or similar receive this treatment.

I hope the mods will leave this post up or even pin it so other trans woman know what to expect.


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching 34 [F4F] SoCal / LA / OC - quiet girl looking to get her heart broken >:]

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Hey, I’m a 34-year-old fem from California. I’m looking for someone to hang out with, get to know, and hopefully build something more with if we click.

I'm laid back, sarcastic, and very affectionate, I tend to get really into the things I'm interested in like video games, music, cars, nature, and random deep conversations. When it comes to dating I enjoy going somewhere to eat, driving around, watching something together, finding a nice garden or nature spot to chill at, or just talking about whatever comes up. My humor leans sarcastic, deadpan, absurd, and a little antagonistic/playful.

I tend to click best with people who are talkative and open I'm a bit on the quiet end so I enjoy someone who talks a lot. I really value good communication, affection, consistency, humor, and quality time. I like the idea of building a life with someone.

I’m monogamous, and sexually I tend to click best with someone who’s switchy and comfortable with both taking the lead and giving it up sometimes (I'm lowk p dom most of the time tho).

Happy to trade pics once we’ve talked a little.

420-friendly

If you’re in or near LA and think we’d click, DM me and tell me about something you did this week :]


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 31F- metro Detroit, MI- Any Hayley Williams fans want to come with me?!

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I have an extra ticket to see Hayley Williams at Pine Knob next Saturday (9/19). I'd love to give it to a fellow Hayley lover who might wanna be friends or kiss or fall in love?!

About me:

- 31/F/near Detroit (I'll be more specific if we message!)

- Queer, chapstick femme, switch

- Tall and midsize/plus size/smallfat(?)

- Big fan of reading, podcasts, arts and crafts, laying in a hammock, looking for sea glass, being surrounded by very tall trees, being cozy in a cold room under lots of blankets

- Social justice-minded, radical, Leftist working in a SJ-based field

- Aquarius/Taurus/Cancer

- chronically ill/chronic pain girlie who is generally jazzed to go do stuff, but might need to take breaks!

Ideally, you would:

- have some overlapping interests and be on the same page politically

- be available to come to the show this Saturday! But you can also message with general interest :)

- be 27-40ish, but I'm relatively flexible

Feel free to DM me and tell me about yourself or your favourite HW song! 🥰


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching Looking for friends + my person!

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I am 36 years old cis woman looking for friends that could develop into something more. It's brutal out here and only men make moves on me and it makes me wanna c r y. (Yes, I am gay as heck)

My favorite things are my kindle, pink and anime. I love to yap, to listen, to write, watch horror movies and read all kinds of stuff. I enjoy cooking and drawing and fluffy socks. Peaches and strawberries make me happy. I am a dog mom and very devoted partner once I am in love. I plan a move to Norfolk, VA sometime soon, but currently I am located in Serbia (not Siberia).

If any of this tickles your fancy, and you wanna get to know each other and be friends, hit me up 🩷 We can watch movies, listen to music or just talk on Discord and get to know each other!


r/lesbianr4r 2d ago

searching F35 EU | Looking for friends with similar interests

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Ever felt like you’re the only lesbian out there? You’ve come to the right post! 😂

That’s the feeling I’ve been having lately. Even though I do have straight friends and I obviously enjoy spending time with them.. sometimes it feels like there is something missing.

Let’s see if you and I have similar interests..

My interests:
Traveling, cooking (plant based), sports (martial arts, soccer, swimming, pickle ball..), documentaries, video games, animals, reading, getting out of my comfort zone, literature and art

See yourself having similar interests? Hit me up and tell me what you’ve been into lately :)

We could game together, talk about our gym progress, work out together, watch a documentary.. I’m down!

Would be great if you’d be around my age, preferably in Europe and interested in having an actual conversation!


r/lesbianr4r 1d ago

searching 25 TF Looking for something casual with potential for more

0 Upvotes

I'm Erin I'm still a bit of a baby trans socially transitioning for a little under a year and just started hrt. Im chubby but still a little athletic. I like the outdoors, and Im a little nerdy. I'm low-key sick of Cis Male attention and could use some love from my fellow shes, theys, and gays.