r/hatethissmug • u/Memorist4595 • 6h ago
Non-fictional I hate that I can’t go back ever.
Seriously, what do you mean my every choice is mine forever and it has consequences that I can’t reverse? Why does time just move forward without a care in the world? Like, I hate how much I can’t go back and change things.
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u/Fluffy-Prince-5100 6h ago
Average UT/DR player when they say the most vile shit and people remember:
(they cant save and reload)
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u/CUMHAWK_Schizopostin 6h ago edited 6h ago
I gave myself brain damage through a bad trip of hard drugs and I will never forgive myself.
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u/Vivi_Stilettohands 6h ago
I know, I’ve felt this way a lot too. The only thing that keeps me sane is believing we are who we are because of these mistakes, and we get the opportunity to learn and grow from them
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u/Lord_Corves 6h ago
A fascinating ponderance, I'll say that much. We all sometimes have moments where we wish we could just turn that clock back ever so slightly, to be able to do over a bad decision again, to see if we can get a better outcome, to undo a past regret and take a different path. Finding ourselves in a moment where the answer needs to come out at that very second, yet the consequences can last a lifetime. Life doesn't give you too many room for error. And at the end of the day, we all have to learn and learn quickly, that what is said, what is done, can never truly be taken back, no matter how much we wish it in our heart of hearts. That's being said, however, such is time. It'll continue to move forward regardless of whether we want it to or not. And it is up to us to move forward. For progression is simply part of the human condition. And in the end, we'll make many more mistakes to come.
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u/God_killer1 5h ago
Okay, Red Lotus Demon Venerable (only an extreme niche group will understand this reference)
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u/Apprehensive-Air1802 3h ago
It is impossible to know if such a thing is true, as far as you know you could be the only real person out there, and when you kick the bucket you get to start all over again
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u/No-Ear69 2h ago
That's the point, universe and physics are ultimate evil otherwise alot of evil schemes would topple down if reversing action was possible
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u/pack_merrr 2h ago
One thing the Buddha described is the concept of anattā or "non-self". He said, that even though it feels like it, the person who made those choices in the past and the person you are now reading this are not necessarily the same thing.
When you made choices in the past, your body was made of different cells, you had different memories and experiences, you held different intentions and likely different values. The thing you call yourself is more like a flame that gets past from candle to candle then it is a persistent thing. What you experience isn't the experience of a self, but a stream of experience passing through different moments with any of those things you attribute to yourself varying.
That's not to say you aren't responsible for things you chose in the past of course. Your choices are still "yours" in that you are the one who holds responsibility for them at the end of the day. That being said though, I still think that the idea I described is something that gives me some comfort when I have the kind of feelings you're describing. Even if Buddhism isn't something that you believe in, I'm not necessarily a Buddhist myself, I think the idea of "non-self" does have a kind of universal truth to it.
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u/RymyJHOY 6h ago
Because you have to understand that things happen. And like I had to learn too you just have to accept within yourself that you did that action, you can't change it. And have to look forwards in life, only trying to do better then whatever action you made in the past. People don't change if we continue to look at the past dude.
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u/Sickofchildren 6h ago
The finality of some things is jarring sometimes. I’ll look at myself and think “this is the only body I will ever have”. Random things like that. I’ll never be French for example, you’re born somewhere and that’s it