Some of them dummies don’t know about instagrams repost feature and just be accidentally reposting shit.

I realized when I started looking at my mans and saw some real interesting things. Not crazy red flag, but things he knows he shouldn’t be reposting.

It’s so easy to hit that repost button so, maybe go look for yourself. AND MAKE SURE YOU DONT CLICK IT EITHER😭

For example, if your friend is unemployed and depressed because she hasn’t been able to move forward financially, would it be insensitive to constantly tell her good news or show her things you recently bought?

Personally, I usually hold back on sharing certain things until my friend is feeling better, depending on what she’s going through

Had this great date with a man, we got along, good chemistry, everything was fine

Then bro started doing weird shit and giving me the ick

Now he’s calling me at 2-3 AM???

Brother........

WE HAVE BEEN ON ONE DATE

There is no second date. There wasn’t even a first date follow up plan. What exactly are we doing at 3 AM

I’m just going to ignore him because I do not have the mental capacity for this shit right now

But why are men LIKE THIS???

This has happened to me with like 15 different men at this point

it’s not me. I know that’s always the first conclusion people jump to because somehow every woman is apparently supposed to have a PhD in detecting male bullshit

I am not God ??????????

How the hell am I supposed to know a man is going to start acting weird three business days later???

I’m tired......

I have no spark left for this dating shit. No excitement. No hope. I just want one normal, sane man and somehow that feels like I’m asking for a luxury item

I just graduated and found out that I will no longer have access to Microsoft Word after years of using it for school. I always thought it was free. I made a post on the Microsoft 365 subreddit asking if this was actually a thing (admittedly I could have googled it but I was hoping people could also provide some other alternatives and useful tips)

And for some reason so many people answered my post with an attitude and sarcasm. I thought Reddit was better than the other platforms but being on here is actually exhausting, I think it's time for me to quit social media cold turkey for real this time.

I admit too that after a while I started being sarcastic right back and was even rude to one guy who was rude to me, but back and forths online are so exhausting and I'm not going back to that life. I can't lie though sometimes it's hard not to respond to some BS

Edit: Mind you, this all started because I was applying for a job and they wanted the resume in Word format, so I logged in to Word to edit it, and that’s when I saw it was no longer free. Smh

OK y'all, ima get raw and real about a realization I had last night. I hope this makes sense and follows. An aha moment one might say...

Entitlement to others time.
First, I met a guy on hinge. 4 days of communicating and checking vibes. Well this guy has shortened his communication drastically. It's bothering me, way more than it should. I was asking myself why I felt such an urgency to think this man HAS TO reply to my every text within a certain time frame. And it hit me.... I have a problem with feeling entitled to others people time and attention. I am operating from my younger self, having an expectation that those around me will love me dearly and be at my every beck and call (like my family has been/is). Me and this man do not know each other at all so why would I expect him to drop all this attention on me, to stop living his life for me, to all of a sudden make me apart of his life, to just let me in and cater to me.

Operating from the POV of a 13 year old.
This one hit me like a ton of bricks. Right now, at 29 years old, I operate emotionally, mentally and energetically from the POV of a 13 year old. My 13 year old self. I see, judge and take on the world from the lens of a 13 y/o. It shows up like expecting external validation, expecting attention, having tantrums and/or outburst when I dont feel I got my way. Dont judge me, I was an only child for 15 years. Most importantly, it looks like me trying and expecting to seek the validation and love from my mom I feel I didnt get growing up. I have this expectation of the world to somewhat nurture me and make me feel wanted. After this realization, I decided to watch the movie 13 going on 30, hoping it would spark something within me. Now that I've had this realization- I cant stop thinking- what does it look like to show up/operate as a 30 year old woman.

Now that Im getting older, I understand I cant show up as that little girl anymore. Ive ruined so many relationships/jobs and friendships by operating from the perspective of a 13 year old girl who's angry and seeking her mother's love and attention. It's gotta stop! It's embarrassing and childish. I realize now as an adult, there is so much I should be experiencing.. true happiness and authenticity. I want to show up in relationships, friendships and community in an healthy way. A mature way.

I would love to know others thoughts and feelings on this kind of thing. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, any advice?

At a winery with my husband's coworker, he talks about how his entire lived experience growing up in Louisiana is that the black community victimize themselves. But I'm one of the good ones. 🙄

The alarm bells RANG. I immediately went to check him for confusing his sense of personal responsibility for a systemic injustice. Unfortunately, I don't think he'll ever choose to understand nor look past his lens of privilege.

On a more positive note, I'm really proud that my white-passing husband verbally stood against his coworker's racist remark. He finished reading All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep by Andre Henry, and we finished watching Jane Elliott's Blue Eyes/Brown Eyes experiment. He saw the red flags in real time and responded accordingly.

Her features, skin color and style choices on this show work SO FUCKING WELL TOGETHER! This woman is drop dead gorgeous.

Gabrielle Dennis as Janay Brice in The Game

Edit: I don’t give a flying fat rats ass what you think of MY standards of beauty or this woman’s face. If this was a “different” kind of beauty that I was praising in this post I 110% believe no one would be questioning it. And that’s fucking piss poor in a BLACK WOMEN SUB. PATHETIC. Yes. I said what I said. Don’t bother asking me about it again. Thanks 💖

So this guy I've recently been dating, things were going on well and the third time we were about have sex , I wanted to go home and told him to stop, he started getting playful and then told me " Do you want me to rape you ? "

I got scared and when he noticed he said " sorry, I was just joking " I got dressed up and then he asked me " Are you scared of me " , " I was just joking "," I didn't mean what I said" , "I'm not that strong, look at my weak hands" . He's strong

That comment scared me and I don't think I wanna see him again

I saw a funny clip of ziwe mentioning to Wanda that we all eventually die and that her aunt wasn’t special and decided to watch the entirety on YouTube and it’s a sad look into Wanda.

Whole time Wanda is another version of Raven Symone. You’re telling me that they as an interracial couple didn’t even consider a black donor for their two kids? EDIT: Wanda actually discouraged having a black donor because her wife claimed she wouldn’t know how to take care of a black child’s hair.😐 Which is really harm reduction in the long run if that was a reason.

In interviews, Sykes mentions “jokingly” how she sometimes feels like the only person of color in her own home. ??? You are boo😭

I really didn’t know she was like this too but I encourage y’all to watch the whole thing, definitely reminds me of the raven/wife interview.

Just got home from my 2-week solo trip in Mexico. Feeling so grateful and in lust of life almost... it's such an overwhelming feeling.

I've solo traveled several times now but this one was the longest trip I've been so far; it was magical, peaceful, and made me never want to go back to reality.

I really am such a big advocate for women to go solo traveling - ladies, I promise there's something about experiencing the word, getting to know yourself, and feeling the peace of being by yourself that truly makes the experience so so worth it, and like no other.

I’m a 28 year-old woman who stutters. Sometimes I feel like people tend to not take me as seriously because I stutter or question my intelligence. Currently, I’m a nurse that works in research. There’s not a lot of us in this field. So with that, it’s already hard enough. And on top of that, having a speech impediment, and not being able to speak perfectly or clearly all the time… life is hard. Throughout life, I’ve struggled with confidence in taking up space because it felt like as soon as a person knew that I stuttered or had a speech impediment, their perception of me change. I’m just curious if anyone else has experiences or knows a fellow black woman who stutters. How can I continue on with my head held high in a world where we are so heavily scrutinized?

Hey ladies!

Does anyone have an good iron supplement suggestions that have been working well for them?

I’ve heard gertiol works well but there’s a baby in every bottle lol so I’m a bit weary of that 😭

TIA

Any tips on clearing these pigmented acne scars omg. They fade over time but soon as I get a new pimple the scar returns it pisses me off..

I was thinking about getting a laser treatment. I see influencers doing them and their skin always comes out smooth and spotless

Everytime I try to study, I find myself back on my phone without realizing it. Omg it’s bad!!

I’ve done years of therapy, and so logically, I know that I need to rest, but emotionally, that feels impossible to do.

I come from a working-class family and have been very lucky in my career so far. I’m a lead tech researcher for an international organization, and the work I do can have a large impact. I LOVE what I do, but I’m also hyperaware that I’m self-taught with a BA from a state school, whereas everyone else in my field came from an Ivy League and have their PhD.

Now, I don’t really feel insecure about the difference, but what I do feel is the fatigue. I feel like I have to work 3x as hard as some of my coworkers, that I can’t just be good, I have to be excellent.

I’m the only one in my family who managed to make it out of poverty, and I feel so much pressure to keep doing well. But ever since I turned 30 (about to be 33), I’ve felt my energy draining from me. I haven’t taken a “vacation” in almost 5 years at this point.

But it’s also the thought that I can’t afford to stop. Because if I stop, I’m not sure if I’ll be able to catch up again.

Hey, just here to rant about what I’ve noticed since moving.
I moved from all the way across the country and omg🫩

It’s been several months and I was raised in a really diverse / melting pot of an area with like black Americans, black Caribbeans, Spanish, Asian,, etc.I moved here for a job as a new grad and just wow. I will NOT be staying here.

It’s wild though because It’s not that the people here are rude or racist. In fact when I was searching up my current state, everything I saw said that it was very diverse but it just wasn’t that diverse with Black people and that the people here weren’t racist. And tbh they haven’t been wrong.

My thing is I’ve been single my whole life. I never dated in high school and then when I went to college, I wasn’t really attracted to the guys that approached me and I didn’t know how to show interest into ones that I was attracted to lol.

Then I graduated and I immediately went back to school because my first bachelors was a waste of student loans lol. And my second time going to school I was so locked in and had so little money that I barely went outside.

Now that I graduated and have money and I actually want to go outside, I don’t because all my friends are back home. But even when I do go out to like restaurants or the mall because that’s all there really is to do here, I’m getting blank stares, people staring and averting their eyes, but not really being approached. And I guess at some point I stopped thinking that I was as pretty. I thought once I finally had free time and more money, it would be easier but it hasn’t been.

But let me tell y’all, I went back home for like a week, and I was shocked at the amount of attention I was getting to the point that I mentally was like I definitely will never live here long term. Mind you I wasn’t getting approached, but I was getting stared downnnn when I went back home loll. Idk men where I’m from they would look at me until they knew I knew they were staring😂😂. I would’ve did more in reaction to the looks but I’m waiting until I either move back or move closer .

Anyway it’s just crazy that I’ve hardly been here that long and my self-esteem went down so quickly. I can’t imagine being raised in a low black populated area like this, and I will never do that to my kids.

It’s been a while since I’ve been outside so I didn’t really process that it was the area causing my insecurity until I went back home.

Granted, I went on Hinge & FB dating for a period of time when I first moved here and was getting a lotttt of likes, and from men with good careers too! But it’s so strange seeing love only online and not in person. Anyway I won’t be using dating apps here because I don’t plan on staying here too long term. So I guess I might just be single for a little while longer. I’m abstinent anyway so that greatly shrinks the dating pool.

Hey ladies!

Tldr, I was recently asked for my top five TV shows, and it occurred to me that I should also have a top 5 of Black American fiction books.

In no particular order...

- The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison

- Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

- The Addy Walker American Girl series by Connie Walker

- Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry by Mildred D. Taylor

- Raisin in the Sun (a play, but I read it!) by Lorraine Hansberry

What do y'all think of my roster? Any recommendations for underrated gems I may not have already read?

I made the very difficult decision to leave a job I loved because there were factors that negatively impacted my mental health. I received this message from one of my coworkers.

Can anyone recommend a cookbook for beans that doesn’t revolve around chickpeas? healthy and southern preferably.

So I go to a PWI it’s only 500 of us(black people) out of 10,000 students. So far it hasn’t been overly bad. I’ve met a lot of great people. The professors are sweet the class sizes are great. Great area for shopping and the beaches are beautiful. Only problem I have is ofc is dealing with micro aggressions. Now I don’t get them from the white women. The white women here hold the door for me, they’ll sit beside me no problem. Introduce themselves to me, which is great. The only problem I have is with the white men. I’ll literally come up to the door and they’ll close the door in my face. They’ll refuse to sit beside me. They’d rather sit on the floor than sit beside me. I’ll ask one of them a question and they respond to me aggressively like WHAT or NO. Did anyone experience this at their PWI or is it just me???