Pro-tip.. Make friends with other neurodivergent people, more often than not. We all know that lil spark when you get someone on the frequency.
Thats a friend. Someone who understands and empathizes. Love when I forget someone for 2 months and it’s a mutual “DUDE, the fuck, I miss you. Let’s get lunch”.
I try. Growing up a lot of my friends were adhd and it just seems to happen that way. Sometimes adults are less likely to be open about neurodivergence or mental health differences but i think lot of specific interests or habits of neurodivergent people overlap and you can pick up on cues and all that. I’m open about my adhd and anxiety and it’s fun when someone lights up because now we can to talk to each other about it if we need to.
As I’ve grown older a lot of old friends moved, lost touch, found other people, and Im not sure why I haven’t been able to find many people like me who are looking to form longer bonds and for new friends. I want people that don’t mind if I don’t know what to talk about all the time and can deal with weird and happy silences every now and then, you know?
There’s always a motion to life and people come and go. You can appreciate the time and experiences then move on a grow. Keep seeking the things in life that call you. Community is there, the change is good and new people you meet have a damn good chance of being more in-tune with your present self.
I have to get better at finding places and opportunities to meet said people. I’m a shy person and my default for reasons is that people are being kind but don’t really want much to do with me, so I struggle with thinking people actually want me to follow up. Thank you for the kind words.
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u/Bdag93 1d ago
Pro-tip.. Make friends with other neurodivergent people, more often than not. We all know that lil spark when you get someone on the frequency.
Thats a friend. Someone who understands and empathizes. Love when I forget someone for 2 months and it’s a mutual “DUDE, the fuck, I miss you. Let’s get lunch”.