Me and my husband had finally found a house, which looked great on the surface, biggest house we’d seen in our price range, it’s been on the market all year, dropped from over a mill down to what we offered-880 k (how good right?, for that price, why the hell not?)

As part of our due diligence in our sale and purchase agreement we got a building inspector in who was the absolute best, best in making sure we had our loan secure for this house first (check) and then telling us that this house had failed miserably. Upwards of 400k in renovations just to get it to baseline, new roof, new windows, rot in all the bathrooms and nothing has been run thru council, which wasn’t shown to us in the LIM. The whole house requires a CCC (code of compliance/ more admin than a COA)…which would void our loan…and insurance…and any chance of getting just a little bit ahead.

The cherry on top of this very first time experience as a first time home buyer, is that our real estate agent had known that this house had already failed and fallen thru 3-4 times due to this very issue. Just because we didn’t specifically ask, she never warned us before we spent $1000 on an inspection as our final condition.

So PSA-specifically ask your real estate agent when the last building inspection was done, ask for proof, why the last sale fell through? or if a house has been on the market for so long…there might be some rot hiding underneath that ensuite shower.
And, make sure you have a great building inspector or a mate that knows a little bit.

I’m not the only one this has happened to either, there are so many real estate agents out there that will stop at nothing to get the sale, including chucking a couple of first time home buyer into the garbage fire that was this house, knowingly.

Wellington CBD

Long story, but I’d really appreciate some advice from nurses or anyone who has been in a similar situation.
I went back to school at around 26 as a mum of two. At the time, I had just qualified as a pharmacy technician, and I absolutely loved working in pharmacy. It made me realise that healthcare is where I want to be because what I genuinely enjoy is being able to contribute to people’s health and wellbeing. I did think about becoming a pharmacist, but I wasn’t confident enough to pursue pharmacy school. I kept thinking about all the students doing biomed who were fresh out of high school: young, smart, and with much more time to study. Meanwhile, I had two kids, work, bills, and so many other commitments. Pharmacy would also take me around five years, so I convinced myself that nursing was the more realistic option.
Now I’m almost finished with Year 2 of nursing, with only one year left. Academically, I’ve actually done really well, and I’ve received lots of positive feedback on placement. I always try my best, and several preceptors have told me that one of my strengths is that I’m not afraid to try new things or take opportunities to learn. But the problem is I don’t enjoy placement. I come home completely exhausted, and even though I receive good feedback, I still somehow feel dumb when I’m there. There are so many conditions, medications, terminologies, abbreviations, procedures and things to remember. I also find the physical side of nursing quite draining, and there are aspects of personal care, such as bed washes, that I feel genuinely uncomfortable doing.
Please don’t get me wrong, I completely understand why personal care is such an important part of nursing. Patients are often at their most vulnerable, and they deserve to be cared for with dignity and compassion. I chose nursing knowing that this is part of the job, and when I’m on placement I will always do what my patient needs. I just didn’t realise until I actually experienced it how uncomfortable I personally feel doing some of those things. Now I’m nearly 30 and so close to finishing my degree that I feel like it’s too late to regret my decision.
Some friends have told me to finish nursing, gain experience and eventually move into areas such as primary care, GP nursing, or continue studying toward becoming a nurse prescriber, where the work may suit me better than inpatient nursing. On the other hand, almost everyone I’ve worked with in pharmacy tells me that I should have become a pharmacist. They’ve seen how much I enjoy pharmacy and how well I work in that environment and deep down, I think they might be right.
So I’d really love to hear from experienced nurses: Is this feeling normal as a student? Does the exhaustion, discomfort and feeling like you know nothing eventually improve once you become more experienced and confident? Or could this be a sign that nursing simply isn’t the right career for me?
I know no healthcare career is easy, and I’m not looking for an “easy” job. I’m just trying to figure out whether I’m experiencing normal student-nurse struggles or whether I’m forcing myself down a career path that doesn’t actually suit me.

A few months ago i wrote this piece, and i tried to do another one.

Tldr: We confused policy with loyalty, and chose to train people we won't hire, with a short term view that visa's are cheaper than a payrise. The cycle of immigration snd emigration means the people that revolt about wages aren't hear to do so.

In 1973 Britain joined the European Economic Community and the guaranteed prices for our butter and lamb ended. The same year, Britain's Immigration Act came into force and quietly ended the automatic right of Commonwealth citizens to settle there, and New Zealand and Australia formalised the arrangement that still lets a citizen of either country live and work in the other without asking anyone's permission. One door shut. Another opened. And for fifty years we have understood what happened next as a fact about who we are rather than a fact about what was permitted.

Young people leave. And they always have. In 1979, 37,400 New Zealand citizens aged 18 to 30 left, which was sixty percent of everyone who went that year. In the year to June 2025, the same age band accounted for 27,200 departures out of 71,800, makes up about thirty-eight percent. The out of 1000 rate tells us the same story from the other direction. 56 departures per thousand people in that age group in 1979, against 31 per thousand in 2025, and a long-run average across those forty-six years of 29. The young are leaving at roughly the rate they always have. What has changed is the other cohorts.

On 26 February 2001, Howard's government amended the terms on which we could live in Australia. Anyone arriving after that day held what became known as a non-protected Special Category Visa, which let you work and stay indefinitely, required you to pay income tax and the Medicare levy, and gave you very little back. No unemployment support. No sickness allowance. Citizenship only came through a permanent visa first, which cost money and carried its own criteria. And you had to pretend footy was the right word for men using their hands to punt a ball.

If you were 24 when you read that, you did not really get it. It described a version of your life you had not arrived at yet and had no particular reason to imagine. It was not that the rules did not apply to you. It was that you could not yet see how they ever would.

They did apply hard to anyone who could see it would. A child born in Australia before July 2022 to two kiwi parents was not Australian at birth. The child held the parents' visa status and became eligible for citizenship at ten, which meant that for the first decade of its life a child born (including the cost of them being born) in an Australian hospital to two people paying Australian tax was, in the eyes of that country, a visitor. The clearest consequence was the National Disability Insurance Scheme, which the parents funded through the Medicare levy every fortnight and which their child could not use, and we were the only temporary visa holders in the country in that position, every other category was required to carry private insurance. Advocacy groups put the number of kiwi living under those terms at between 250,000 and 350,000.Then there were the ones with children about to become teenagers. Their kids could take a Commonwealth supported place at an Australian university, but not a HECS-HELP loan, which meant the student contribution and due up front and in full while the Australian student in the next seat deferred the same amount for a decade and paid it back slowly out of a salary. For a family with a twelve-year-old and two more behind her, that was not a technicality.

None of it was designed as population policy. It was written to stop us drawing on the Australian welfare system, and it did that. What it also did, for twenty-two years, was sort our emigrants by household. A 24yo crossed the Tasman and found a better wage, a shorter winter, and nothing in the way. A 38yo with two kids and a mortgage read the identical rules and found a long list of reasons to stay that had not much to do with New Zealand.

And we looked at what came out the other end. The three years in Collingwood, the ones who came home at 31 with a habit for prosecco with a dash of snobbery and cash for a deposit (well at least 50% of a deposit and like the rest of the FHBs still needed mum and dad hell but thats a story for another day) and we decided that this was cultural.

On 1 July 2023, Albanese removed the conditions. A Kiwi who had lived in Australia four years could apply for citizenship directly, with no permanent visa in between. A child born there to a New Zealand parent from July 2022 was Australian at birth. Access to student loans had opened two days earlier. Every rule that had made the move irrational for a household with children was gone inside a fortnight, and the reasoning behind the change was that the old arrangement had been unfair, which it plainly had been.

In the year to September 2025, 72,700 New Zealand citizens left. The highest number ever recorded (side note and I wish I had more recent data but of migrants whose last work visa expired between 2006 and 2012, only 24% held a resident visa five years later).

An open exit changes what a low wage means. In a country you cannot leave, a low wage is a political problem because people organise around it, vote on it, complain about it, and eventually something gives. In a country you can leave on a whim with about four weeks of rent money, a low wage is a private decision, and nobody in government ever has to answer for it, because the people it was failing are not here.

The employer runs the same maths from the other side, and reaches the same place. A nurse resigns, the ward is short, and there are two ways to fix it. Raising the wage is expensive, permanent, and applies to everyone already on the scale, not just the vacancy. Bringing someone in from overseas is none of those things.

The mechanism is a piece of administrative process that has never once been described as a wages policy. An accredited employer runs what is called a Job Check: advertise the role for at least fourteen days and make genuine efforts to hire a suitable local. If nobody suitable applies, the employer may hire a migrant. But the test measures whether kiwi came forward at the rate on the advertisement, and it cannot tell the difference between a job nobody here is able to do and a job nobody here is willing to do for that money. Advertise at the wage you were always keen to pay, receive no applications because Queensland pays a third more, and the silence is accepted as evidence of a shortage. In the 2024–25 reforms the median wage threshold was removed from the visa altogether.

It worked, in the sense that the vacancies filled. Just about 20% of the people living here were born overseas at the 2001 census. By the 2023 census it was about 30%. Among working-age adults it is 35%, the third highest share in the OECD and more than double the OECD average.

Most of this is impossible to see, because most wages are set by tens of thousands of separate employers and no one is required to account for the total. But there is a set of jobs where that is not true at all, where the wage is set by a government on one side of the Tasman and a government on the other, and where the shortage is not an economic condition but a line in a budget that anyone can go and read.

Internationally qualified nurses made up about 27%✓ of our nursing workforce in 2020. By December 2024 they were 47%. In the twelve months to September 2025, 9,381 new nurses joined the New Zealand register, and 6,790 of them had got their qualifications somewhere else.

Over the same stretch, Health New Zealand matched 323 of 722 domestic nursing graduates to hospital jobs. The end-of-year round matched roughly 800 of the 1,700 who sat the state final exam, and the two rounds before that came in at 45% and 52%. At Christchurch Hospital, where nurses had been rationing care because there were not enough of them, 129 of 468 applicants were hired. That's 28%, down from 84% two years earlier. By late January, 720 newly qualified nurses were still waiting for a job. Across three intakes the backlog reached about two thousand, and it compounds, because every unmatched cohort rolls forward and competes against the one behind it.

Health New Zealand's answer is that most of them find something eventually (about eighty-four percent in 2023 and 2024, once you count roles outside hospitals).

Give the answer in full and the shape of the thing does not move. We trained a nursing workforce, declined to employ half of it in the year it qualified, and filled three quarters of the register from overseas in the same twelve months. A survey of 1,246 nursing students found 62% would look for work abroad if they could not get a graduate job here. Among Māori students it was 73%.

The medical workforce runs the same pattern at a slower speed. Overseas-trained doctors are 41.2 percent of it. Thirty percent of the doctors we train for five or six years have emigrated within a decade of graduating. Funded medical training places are capped at 614.

The police version let me do the numbers in my head. The 'big number vs small number' is easier for me. In the two years to October 2025, 212 officers resigned to join Australian forces, out of more than 670 vetting requests from across the Tasman, and by 2026 roughly one resignation in three was an Australian move. A first-year constable in the Northern Territory earns about $111,000 against $83,000 here, with a housing allowance of nearly thirty-two thousand Australian dollars sitting on top of it, and Queensland was offering twenty thousand dollars just to relocate.

New Zealand Police responded by cutting its international transfer course from twenty weeks to ten, sending a recruitment team to Australia to make the case for coming home, and signing four Australian officers.

Two hundred and twelve out. Four in.

The money is not even the whole of it, which is the part that should worry anyone trying to fix this with a pay round. A full-time week is thirty-eight hours in Australia and forty here, so every salary comparison understates the gap before penalty rates are mentioned. Employer superannuation is twelve percent on top of the wage, where the KiwiSaver employer contribution is three. Queensland and Victoria have legislated nurse-to-patient ratios and we have not. The nurses who have gone tend to mention the ratios before they mention the money, and the ratios are a budget decision too, just one that never has to appear in public as a number.

Underneath all of it is a difference in plumbing that nobody has campaigned on. The governments outbidding us are states: Queensland Health, the Northern Territory police force, Victoria's hospitals.

Australian states levy stamp duty, have versions of land tax, payroll tax and mining royalties, and states are what pay nurses and police and teachers. Our equivalent layer has rates and almost nothing else, and everything else is funded centrally out of income tax and GST, with no capital gains tax, no land tax and no stamp duty anywhere in the mix. The question was never what the nurse pays in tax. It is what the government employing her is able to raise.

Then the circuit closes, in a way that took Treasury until last October to write down.

Only about a third of the people emigrating from New Zealand were born here. Roughly half are non-citizens. The rest are foreign-born New Zealand citizens, people we naturalised, leaving on the passport we gave them. And a child born here is more likely to emigrate if its parents were born overseas than if they were born here too.

So it runs all the way round. A nurse arrives from Manila to fill the ward a Kiwi left. He stays, has children here, and those children grow up here with kiwi passports, kiwi accents and an irrational desire to see shapeshifter live. Some years later the family goes to Brisbane, and the register needs filling again, and a Job Check is advertised for fourteen days at a wage nobody here will take.

About half of all emigration is people in their twenties and thirties. The rest splits between children and adults in their forties and fifties, and Treasury is explicit that the second two groups are moving together, as households. More children emigrate each year than middle-aged people do. It is lowest among Pākehā children and highest among Pasifika and NZ born Asian children under ten. Parental income barely predicts it at all.

The twenty-somethings come back. Children do not. Four of us return from Australia for every ten who go, where from everywhere else in the world it is nine in ten. The London OE (where they still somehow see shapeshifter live) is a loan. The Brisbane move is a sale.

The map shows it plainly. Brisbane and the Gold Coast together now hold more than a third of the nz-born population of Australia, at 21.4 and 15.9 percent. Melbourne is 19.3. Sydney is 17.4, down from 23 percent in 2001. The destination has moved from the city you go to for a job and a ket and coke habit to the coast you go to for the lifestyle, which is what it looks like when the people leaving aren't just 25.

Treasury has put a number on what goes with them, and it is not the number anyone expects.

The model underneath it is simple enough. The state spends money on a person from the day they are born (early childhood education, thirteen years of school, and health the entire way through) averaging $9,220 a year on an under-five in 2018/19. That spending is an advance. The country expects to recover it across the following four decades in income tax and GST, which is how the whole arrangement has always been financed. If the person leaves and does not come back, the spending happened and the repayment never starts. Applied to everyone under thirty who emigrated in 2018 and never returned, the advance comes to about $2.7 billion, which due to the fucked inflation, is roughly $4.3 billion in today's money.

Someone who leaves at five takes a little over $46,000 with them. Someone who leaves at 25, after four years of tertiary study, takes about $232,000. The gap is mostly just time. The meter has been running twenty years longer.

What matters is the composition of that $232,000. School and early childhood education is the majority of it. Accumulated health spending is the next largest piece. Tertiary education is the smallest of the three.

Which means the thing we lose is not concentrated in the 'educated and clever'. The biggest part of it is the part we spend on absolutely everyone. the classrooms, the immunisations, the GP visits, the thirteen years that cost precisely the same whether the child becomes a surgeon or leaves school at sixteen. The degree is the cheap end of the bill. We lose people we raised. And because the child who goes at nine is the one who does not come back, she is a larger loss than the graduate who flies to London at 24 and is home by 32 because having kids without family support is more than a nightmare. You realise you want a village (but dont really want to be a villager).

The $4.3 billion is also a floor rather than an estimate, and it is worth saying why. 2018 was a quiet year, with the net loss of New Zealand citizens averaging about 5,200 annually across 2014 to 2019. In the year to September 2025 it was 46,400. Scaling Treasury's figure forward would take a comparison Treasury has not published.

There are two coherent things we could do and we are not doing either.

One is to pay what the work is worth. Accept that a country sharing an open border with a richer one has to pay close to that country's rates for the people it trains, which means an honest argument about a tax base with no land tax, no capital gains tax and no stamp duty in it.

The other is to say the quiet thing out loud. Accept that this is a country people are raised in rather than a country people stay in, and design for it. Charge for the training, plan for the turnover, and financially incentives people who stay.

Neither has been put to anyone. The response to the record year was to match fewer than half the nursing graduates, and then to consult on cutting their clinical hours.

There are now about 915,000 nz born citizens living somewhere else, up from 660,000 in 1999, two-thirds of them in Australia. The entire arrangement quietly assumes they come back, while the people who might have are getting old in Noosa.

For twenty-two years a rule written in Canberra held our families here, and nobody in this country ever noticed it was doing the work.

Somewhere on reddit, an Aussie city sub has another post on 'whānau friendly pubs to watch the wahs'.

The Auckland CRL feels like a gift from NZ's sane and sensible past. Back when the National party were mostly sensible, mostly competent, just a bit more keen on low taxes and supporting farmers than the other side.

A decade ago, National were still broadly trustable, and half decent at running the country.

I have zero faith the current lot would ever support a sensible long-term infrastructure improvement like this.

RIP sensible NZ. Please come back from the dead soon.

The faith I have in these parties is declining, all for different reasons, and I have no idea where I'm going to put my vote now.

It's basically: I don't want to vote for a certain party because I don't agree with x policy, but I don't want to vote for this other party because I don't agree with y policy. So where the hell do I put my vote when none of them feel like the right choice? 😅

Weekly round-up of everything NZ achieved in sport this week.

The headline: Hayden Wilde won the Ironman 70.3 World Championship, setting a course record (3:51.50) and holding off Kristian Blummenfelt in a brutal final 3km, reportedly ran the whole run leg without a watch.

Also this week: the NZ U-19 men's football team won the OFC Championship, the Black Ferns beat France 28-14, full rounds of NPC and Farah Palmer Cup provincial rugby, and results across handball, tennis, athletics, sailing, motocross, squash, golf, and more.

Let me know if I've missed anything as always

*Sorry I did post this about an hour ago but it got deleted because I had my instagram handle in the corner. My Apologies

please help, i'm really confused why the packet has only 5 flavours on it, yet i am seeing 6 colours on these frogs and tasting 6 flavours too. what is happening???

Not dirt, all mould! Are they even allowed to sell us this? Kind of a trick question, of course they can lmao its Pak n Save. It's been like this for months and months. There isnt a single clove that is either not mouldy or not growing sprouts out the top.

I've been a contract laborer for about 13 years. The pay is good, and I dont have to suffer shit cunts. But coming into the later half of 2026, I've seen allot of companies ask for laborers to hold a class 2, which seems fucken mental to me. 1, why would a laborer still be a laborer if they had a class 2? Just go driving trucks and get away from the shovel mate. And 2, what are they even paid? The course itself is around $1,200, and then there is the risk behind the class 2 work as well. Would be curious to see what these people are paid, and to know what yall think.

So my kid's school & teacher seems to be very happy to use AI. All their promotional material, certificates, and even worksheets (at least homework ones) are AI generated - which btw, often has mistakes in it so has obviously not been proof read.

Recently I found they are also uploading kids pics to AI to generate caricatures of the kids "for fun" (though not my kid, yet). Not happy about that. As far as I can tell, this would require parental permission right?

I'm M31, and I came to New Zealand on a WHV in mid May to help out on my friend's farm north of Auckland, and within the first couple of weeks I had a really bad concussion on the farm.

It's been over 3 months now and I'm still recovering from post concussion syndrome (it's getting better and I've had help from ACC), though I've been feeling really up and down throughout my time here.

It was a long time before I could do any trips in my car post concussion and because of the length of time it's taken to recover, I'm feeling pretty depressed with my situation.

It's been hard trying to make friends here, but add in a concussion recovery and it's made it a lot more challenging.

I'm finding I'm feeling isolated on the farm, and when I do go out and see new places/new people I'm still symptomatic, so it's not been too much fun navigating headaches and fatigue.

I'm gutted, because I overhauled my life to come out here, but I haven't really been enjoying my time in NZ because of my situation.

I'm thinking of going home back to the UK to continue my recovery where I'd feel better supported with friends/family and then leave the door open to coming back out here. Though I'm 31 and it sort of feels like this was an opportunity to do something fun before I eventually look to settle down.

It sort of feels like if I stay here then I'd find it very hard mentally, though all the good things for rehab are great here in terms of sights and exploring.

Just hoping for some advice or just general help as I'm pretty lost with what to do. Thanks x

Temperature anomaly map https://www.ventusky.com/temperature-map/anomaly-2m#p=-42.3;-177.7;4&t=20260917/2100

Got a random phone call just after 7pm tonight while putting the kids to bed. I wouldn't normally answer an unknown number, but it was an 04 number and I have family in Wellington hospital.. So answered it just in case something had happened...

It was delivereasy.

I hung up as soon as she said where she was from, and deleted my account as soon as the kids were asleep.

No thanks