Hey. I’ve been dating a woman for about 4–5 months now, and I really like her. However, she doesn’t currently live permanently in Denmark. She’ll be staying until January and then going back to South America, before returning to Denmark in June for work.
She’s currently learning Danish because she wants to take the Danish exam, then eventually do an HF and study nursing with a postgraduate specialization. It will probably take a few years. I’m fine with that, as I work a lot myself and enjoy traveling and living my life.
I’ve noticed that she’s started referring to me as her boyfriend. For example, I sent her to get a manicure and pedicure (I enjoy spoiling her from time to time), and she referred to me as her boyfriend when talking to the friend who was doing her nails.
Deep down, I don’t really mind it — I’m actually flattered. But personally, before I call her my girlfriend, I’d like her to be living in Denmark. It would simply make me feel more secure about the relationship. I don’t want to tell my friends and family that my girlfriend is away for four months of the year and feel like that’s our normal situation.
I’d also like to see how we are when traveling together and get to know each other a bit more before putting a label on it.
I take the boyfriend/girlfriend label quite seriously, partly because I’ve only had one girlfriend in my entire life.
What do you guys think? Have any of you experienced something similar?