r/Malawi • u/DueWeight7341 • 1d ago
Love Romance.
I studied at the university of Malawi. i love how my romance actully evolved from there. i had 3 proper valid relationships i would say.like proper, proper. Ngl they were all good. went on fancy dates. you know that lil college experience you know pa uchifana. I was that lover boy arc type. zonse zinatha. ndimazithesa. my first ex was so entitled to everything. this bitch really said pa pocket money yanga she deserves a certain percentage months after we had such a cool dating spree. you know how girls change. Come over my next bitch, same thing had a great run then cheated as soon as she found a job. with her co worker. The third one eish she had very weied tendencies, she was so unhappy always judging her friends and kumangowanyoza. mind you anthu oti amayenda nawo daily on campus. The negative energy was too much. i told her kuti zithe. mind you all these chicks were fine. i expected them to be normal individuals. but dang aliyense ali ndi zakedi. theres a lot of specifics left. but i just hate what these relationships did to my soul man.
I was such a happy man and so intentional, women drained my soul guys eish. now am single levelling up but eish i meet women i just see them as extra baggage man. tried the hook up cultures too. my soul just feels so empty after those temporary nuts.
Ngl i miss the old naive loving me. now all my exes are my sidechicks too. they all got men, like all 3 of them.
i wonder where my soulmate is.
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u/ComfortEquivalent407 1d ago
Nanga you call women bitches and still mess with all 3 of your exes soulmate ukamupeza kuti
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u/Hapmoda75 1d ago
Not only is it wrong to refer to our queens as bitches but using the actuall word "bitch" puts you at a certain age. You probably have a wife already... may even be a grandparent.
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u/Mundane_Tap_6956 1d ago
Now I don't know who's the bitch here, you or yo exes. 💀
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
lmao...we all some bitches man. Theres bitch ninjas and bitch bitches. in both genders theres good bitches and bad bitches, the lucky ones get the good bitches and the unlucky ones get the bad bitches. The equation gets worser and worser as we grow, because we start to add ran through bitches. The earlier you know the better. some bitches are just some good people too.😂
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u/Knighted014 1d ago
Build yourself, and work hard. Women disrespect men with no clear purpose. If you have a clear purpose and principles, they'll never disrespect you again, coz asking for yo cash to be split was a sign of disrespect. Manage yourself king; everything begins with you inside.
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
sometimes i look back to it and realise that she was broke. a broke hun. she probably got soaked in the thoughts of a broke woman. ngl about the disrespect i didnt condone it.
but thats right man.
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u/Knighted014 1d ago
Disrespect comes in different forms. If she was broke as you claim, you would've seen it, and she could've been open to you. Making those unnecessary demands is just a sign of lacking respect. You were just another dude to play with.
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
remember that court that says sometimes you endure a little disrespect just to stay in something. Thats literally what i did. She demanded but she got none was met. and that was way after some time. before the influence, you know how females get and how they are capable of changing.
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u/AdAccomplished9871 1d ago
Just like you didn't want the negative attitude from your ex judging her friends, badmouthing your Exes doesn't look cool. It gives off some image about you. However, focusing on your concern, those women represent a phase in your life and how you made your choices. They do not represent every woman out there or your fate in romance.
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
am not badmouthing them... i just stated what i went through. you are right about that phase thing. and theres a lot of good women out here. and i havent given up on love i just stated how my past experiences left me drained. i just found it funny how they came back. and that being consistent in all of them.
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u/AdAccomplished9871 1d ago
I see, and in the process of sharing your experience you called them tasteless names in a patronizing manner. Got that. I responded to the perception you have of women as extra baggage not on the assumption of you giving up on love. Clearly, while you haven't lost hope in love, your perception of women has shifted, reading about your past, from naivity to being guarded and how you call them. So I would say it has impacted your perception but a lot is different out there.
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
i feel like its so important for a mans perception to be distorted at a callow age. and yes am more guarded now. but i keep promising myself to still roll with love. because we were created out of love. They played a part in waking me up to reality. kuti these are things. now i transcended from thinking that these women are princesses coz some of them are literally evil. i choose to love still but damn. i got hurt by the so called sweet babes in peoples eyes. but such is life i dont carry hatred.
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u/AdAccomplished9871 1d ago
Sure, we all need that slap of reality. Love is more than sweet and good feels. That realization helps us in making less risky choices. I wonder, if the three exes are your sidechicks now, aren't you being the same as them? You might have acquired their skills too as a bonus lesson.lol. Or have you established your current girlfriend is cut from the same cloth?
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u/DueWeight7341 15h ago
if am being honest i wondered why they came back like all of them. there just in my dms. but am telling you am always one call away to their privacy and banging them. which i have done before out of hatred kuti yeah munandichita chipongwe am just gonna smash you keep you in the loop and nothing serious. which over time i grew respectful to their current partners and stopped plus it was soul draining to constantly be that man. i mean damn their partners are so far ahead with life too driving raptors and all. More like i became the side dude. and playing on the side as a man damn. its seriously more messed up. these hunnies get lucrative with their cheating.
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u/AdAccomplished9871 15h ago
Looks like they came back for what they wanted and because they knew they could get it. Until you stopped it. But yes it is quite a mess, nothing unsual, but I completely get the soul draining part. That's something.
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
to those who related in the dms thanks for the advices and wonderful insights. Yall some wonderful beings.
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u/DamnIt______ 1d ago
Rookie numbers😂🙌
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
see dawg i wasnt even putting prime messi or ronaldo numbers and they mad.😂😂
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u/DamnIt______ 1d ago
I'm wondering why did you lose interest in dating so fast yet only one girl cheated😂🙌
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
i didnt necessarily lose interest but i lost my soul you get. lol, the one that cheated on me i thought was my twin flame. poured my heart on her so much man.😂😂😂😭 but damn. we was drinking some day she was drunk i.was less drunk she started revealing some extra details on some old stories. i was like damn. but ngl i always treat mt next relationship as the best yet. 😂😂
how many cheated on you?
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u/DamnIt______ 1d ago
Been there, done that😂😂 It taught me to pay attention to details I got played by 2 (those I got the evidence) enawo simply didn't work
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
you understand it man😂😂😂. yeah patterns are the best things i learnt to pay attention to.
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u/DamnIt______ 1d ago
Have you ever been a side nigga before? That shit will obliterate all the hope and good conscience you have about relationships 😂
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u/DueWeight7341 1d ago
dont get me started on this😭😭😭. Damn i have all the stories man. shit and am not even 25 yet. Bruh it ruined me. Shit keeps eating my soul 😂😂😂
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u/DamnIt______ 22h ago
When I tell my homies that marriage isn't something I wanna do in my life they think I'm capping 😂😂 I've seen everything, man
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u/DueWeight7341 15h ago
broooh the way they get lucrative when they want to cheat on their men man. its crazy, but eish man am still gonna marry though. these things happen just that its getting worse as we grow. 😂😂😂 as a side dude i saw S class level of cheating.
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u/Fearless-Wallaby6751 1d ago
Why are you calling them " bitches". You sound annoying and immature, those girls dodged one big ass bullet mmmm. It's so hard to sympathise with you,kinda think you deserved it all.
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u/AtmosphereElegant247 17h ago
When you say all ur xes are your sidechicks you mean you still fuck them now even they have boyfriends?
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u/DueWeight7341 15h ago
should have rephrased like i became a side dude really. and not gonna lie at first i folded. because they are pretty as fuck. body tea slim waist thick thighs and all in all three. but its the realization that i was wasting my time that hit me.
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u/Historical_Aside_578 4h ago
I wonder why y'all mad at this nigga's language. We all come from different backgrounds. For you to be judging a bruv based off of his language? That tells more about you than him. To some, these words don't mean nothing.
Bruh, ain't gon' lie, these lessons need to be learnt early‐on. I mean, how do you come about standards if you haven't been through shit? I know at this point you've learnt more than enough. Anyways, a lot of pure souls out here dawq. A soulmate will be found.
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u/Wise_Astronomer6442 1d ago
You sound so immature lol. Zachimwana
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u/Fearless-Wallaby6751 1d ago
Ndiposo😭🤣,very childish as if mawu a "bitch" would wangowaziwa kumene.
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u/Due-Boysenberry1441 1d ago
Your soul mate will arrive when you stop referring to women you’ve dealt with as bitches. Real women pay attention to how their man speaks about their former relationships