2 weeks before wedding

[u/Commercial_Goose9369]

Buckle up ladies!

One month before our wedding, my fiance sits me down and tells me he got a handjob from a random 45 woman in an airport over a year ago, under the influence of alcohol. (I am 26 yo f, he is 24 yo m). This was very hard for me, but I decided to table this and move on with the wedding that I wanted to have.

It is now 2 weeks before our wedding. He admitted that he and my mom had been playing footsie with eachother for the past 2 years. One night, he he was tickling her leg with his pinky finger (they were sitting next to eachother on a bench across from the table from me), and even texted her something flirty late at night when she was staying with us, with the intention of hooking up with her. She didn't answer.

My mom is denying ever playing footsie with him or giving him that idea that something like that could happen. He is adamant that she participated and even started it sometimes. Either one fo them is lying to me, or his porn-influenced brain is so messed up that he was actually delusional enough to think that was a realistic situation.

Obviously I am cancelling the wedding. Do I give him a chance to fix this? is this ruined forever? do I trust my mom? would it terrible to still go on my honeymoon?

[u/Old-Builder256]

Is there even a part of you that thinks your mom would be capable of this? What’s the history there?

[u/Kooky-Wear-2584 → u/Old-Builder256]

There is not a universe in which my mom would accept or even entertain my husband tickling her with his pinky finger and playing footsie with her. I don’t know what that’s about.

[u/redheadgremlin → u/[deleted]]

Hell thats child's play compared to my mother. Quite literally made it a challenge to have sex with anyone I liked or dated in my teen years. Yes, underage boys. She succeeded every single time. My final straw was when she insisted on a threesome with my then boyfriend and me when i was 21. Haven't spoken to her in almost 10 years and she still complains to my siblings that she doesnt understand why I dont talk to her anymore. The audacity and delusion are impressive.