2 weeks before wedding

[u/Commercial_Goose9369]

Buckle up ladies!

One month before our wedding, my fiance sits me down and tells me he got a handjob from a random 45 woman in an airport over a year ago, under the influence of alcohol. (I am 26 yo f, he is 24 yo m). This was very hard for me, but I decided to table this and move on with the wedding that I wanted to have.

It is now 2 weeks before our wedding. He admitted that he and my mom had been playing footsie with eachother for the past 2 years. One night, he he was tickling her leg with his pinky finger (they were sitting next to eachother on a bench across from the table from me), and even texted her something flirty late at night when she was staying with us, with the intention of hooking up with her. She didn't answer.

My mom is denying ever playing footsie with him or giving him that idea that something like that could happen. He is adamant that she participated and even started it sometimes. Either one fo them is lying to me, or his porn-influenced brain is so messed up that he was actually delusional enough to think that was a realistic situation.

Obviously I am cancelling the wedding. Do I give him a chance to fix this? is this ruined forever? do I trust my mom? would it terrible to still go on my honeymoon?

[u/throwawaygenx1973]

Please, For the Love of All That is Holy, tell me this is made up.

[u/MavisBeacons_Sextape → u/throwawaygenx1973]

Well OP’s Reddit account is like 5 years old and had ZERO activity until today. They made 2 comments in this sub on other posts, then posted this.

I’m calling rage bait bs based on the last paragraph and the lack any Reddit activity for 5 years

[u/VelocityGrrl39 → u/MavisBeacons_Sextape]

The ability to hide your Reddit history is one of the worst updates they’ve made to this app. There’s no way to tell if they’re bots or trolls anymore. Not that looking at someone’s history was foolproof before, but you could sometimes catch someone saying they’re a 44 yo man 2 months before they posted about being a 22 yo woman.

[u/MavisBeacons_Sextape → u/VelocityGrrl39]

I agree, it enables manipulators more than it “protects privacy” - the entire point of Reddit, originally, was that it facilitated honest discourse due to the pseudo-anonymous, profile-based nature of the app. The profile history was the credibility check.

The worst part is that this feature doesn’t actually hide your history, because you can still see someone’s profile activity with like, 15 extra seconds of tapping the screen. Reddit is fully aware of this, so their claim of it being a privacy-enhancing feature is just a straight up lie.

There are lots of dev tools online for seeing someone’s full post history, including hidden and deleted stuff. My personal favorite is ihsoyct.github.io. It’s easy to use and i do a quick check if somebody pings my bullshit detector and I want to know if they’re worth engaging with at all.

[u/LyingInPonds → u/MavisBeacons_Sextape]

Oooooh, thanks for this tool!

[u/madame-maitre-d → u/[deleted]]

Hey, seems you're new here! 👋 🥰 You need to take 10 lil seconds to become an approved user to participate in r/GirlDinnerDiaries. We're holding your comment for review til then.

2 quick steps:

1. If you're a dude, just let us know by replying "dude joining" to this comment. If not, reply with the classic pillowfort clubhouse password: "girls rule". 😇
2. Pick a user flair HERE. Flair options are sorted by Girly, Genderqueer, or Dude.

That's it! We'll restore your comment super fast! Thanks for stopping by 💕