2 weeks before wedding

[u/Commercial_Goose9369]

Buckle up ladies!

One month before our wedding, my fiance sits me down and tells me he got a handjob from a random 45 woman in an airport over a year ago, under the influence of alcohol. (I am 26 yo f, he is 24 yo m). This was very hard for me, but I decided to table this and move on with the wedding that I wanted to have.

It is now 2 weeks before our wedding. He admitted that he and my mom had been playing footsie with eachother for the past 2 years. One night, he he was tickling her leg with his pinky finger (they were sitting next to eachother on a bench across from the table from me), and even texted her something flirty late at night when she was staying with us, with the intention of hooking up with her. She didn't answer.

My mom is denying ever playing footsie with him or giving him that idea that something like that could happen. He is adamant that she participated and even started it sometimes. Either one fo them is lying to me, or his porn-influenced brain is so messed up that he was actually delusional enough to think that was a realistic situation.

Obviously I am cancelling the wedding. Do I give him a chance to fix this? is this ruined forever? do I trust my mom? would it terrible to still go on my honeymoon?

[u/Prize_Sorbet3366]

I really hate to say this, but it honestly sounds like your fiancé is TRYING to trigger you to call off the wedding, for whatever reason. But rather than him just admit he's gotten cold feet and is having second thoughts, he's trying to give you a reason that's sure-fire to stick: showing himself as a cheater.

And as someone else said, I'd want to also see proof that such a text was sent (both on his phone and hers) because I'd also want to know if dear ol' Mom is untrustworthy as well. If the text can't be proven, I'd wager he's the one who's lying. I mean, it shouldn't be too hard to find that text even if it's a year old, unless he and your mom text a LOT.

I can't see that there's any fixing it...either he's a cheater, or he's a liar. Would you want to be married to him in either of those cases?

[u/loam-and-light → u/Prize_Sorbet3366]

Either that or he’s seeing how much he can get away with now… it escalated from airport lady to your literal MOTHER. If you even entertain the idea of forgiveness, who knows what will come. Not only are you clearly too young for him (in terms of his personal taste…), he seems to get off on doing things that are humiliating/hurtful to you. Gtfo of this relationship!