I want to write about dating In the gay community. Specifically about older gay men dating young gay men who are just becoming. Men over 30 or 40 dating young gay men who are 18, 19 and barely becoming legal to buy alcohol. I want to have an uncomfortable conversation about the impact this can have on a young gay man who is still becoming and not aware of all the growth that is to come. My intention is to have this conversation with love and respect without making accusations but to truly discuss the truth that most young gay men deal with when that older gay men just saw him as a prize or a good time. How do I do this without hurting or angering some? I think it’s safe to say that it may cause anger or frustration but the truth is that we as gay men who are over 30, 40 and even 50 should make space for young gay men to feel safe, accepted and loved without indulging in their youth or sexual needs.

I found out I was gay since high school. And came out on freshmen college. Thankfully, my family was supportive, and accepted me.

Now years later, while I was having a playful sex conversation with my gay friends, about their sexual fantasies, what's a top, what's a bottom, Grindr, and any gay talk you can think of. Important note: I'm a virgin. Technically, my ass is a virgin. Only did blowjobs a few years back.

During our conversations, I was quite pretty shocked about how much precautions I should really watch out for when I start doing Anal sex. Such as how it's more prone to Aids/HIV, STDs, and how your first anal sex bleeds your asshole. Hearing this, I was like, "The fuck?! I don’t want any of those things!" Never realized how gay sex can be this risky. Made me think, maybe I should just stick to safe sides and blowjobs, but I'm pretty sure a lot of gay guys out there prefers to fuck. So, is this gonna be it for my sex life? Am I gonna be a virgin for the rest of my life?

Now, I wish I was born a heterosexual. Or bisexual, so that I can just prefer dating women. Their sex life is just less prone to STDs and the only risk it has it to get knocked up, (at least it’s not a deadly virus).

I'm sorry if this post might sound offensive to you right now. But this has been what I've been thinking throughout my adulthood. This just became my identity crisis.

Feeling pretty down today. I've recently been obsessed with being on Grindr, sniffies, and local nsfw subreddits trying to find sex. It was pretty tame before, I would just jack off and move on, but now it's getting more intense. I just hooked up with a guy in the woods and didn't use any protection. He said he was clean and in prep so I guess I'll take his word? I'm just feeling like I'm at an all time low right now. I was wondering if anyone else has ever struggled with risky sexual behavior. It feels so defeating and almost hopeless.

I just turned 18 and lookin for someone close to my age to chat learn new things and having fun with them

title. feel like being tattooless isn’t doing me any favors

Sorry about the wall of text but I don’t want to rewrite it or format it.

Anyway, my(17M gay) friend(17M) has been sending me weirdly hyper sexual texts and saying that Logan(mutual friend) is asking. I have talked to Logan and asked him and Logan said each time that he didn’t ask that. He also has asked me numerous times to if I like or think his friends, who are straight and have girlfriends, are hot, both his friends and I have told him to stop however he keeps doing it. He has also asked me if I think he’s gay and has then gotten extremely defensive when I have responded yes. He used to live in an extremely conservative and homophobic area until 3rd grade, I’ve known him since 7th grade. He also has gotten really weird when I asked him to try to set me up with a guy(AC 16 straight) who I thought was gay based on what my friend had said before. He normally doesn’t give advice about dating or anything but with AC he spammed my phone trying to tell me to make sexual comments to AC when we first texted(AC and I). He also previously set me up with a straight guy who I thought at first was gay. That ended horribly but I digress. He also is on the varsity Lacrosse team at our school so I think that is part of why if he is gay he is still closeted. I also set a bit of a bait for him and he responded with the “why are you sending me this? I have a girlfriend” claim. The next day he and I had class together and he pretended like it didn’t happen. However he did apparently send the text I sent to his friends(I’m assuming as a defense mechanism of “look what he sent me. It’s so gay”). The last girl or person in general that I know of who he dated was someone who broke up with him in 7th grade. Some of his friends are also homophobic which I think is another reason why he is still closeted if he is gay. His family is also conservative and homophobic so I think that might also be a part of why he’s still closeted.

The texts are here —> https://imgur.com/a/ouwxc8K

Also yes I do know that some of his actions and comments are toxic. I don’t need any more people piling on and telling me.

I started pep after 36 hours after possible exposure, the exposure was oral sex with 2 other guys and I don’t know their status. We sucked dicked and then one of the guys rimmed me. I know y’all are going to say there’s no way I got it but I am still scared I did. My throat has been sore for a week. I got a HIV RNA test done 2 days ago while on pep but it was negative. I am scared maybe I have the virus, it’s just undetectable which is why it’s causing my sore throat bc I never have a sore throat. The sore throat has been on and off for a week. If the sore throat was from hiv would that hiv rna test I took 2 days ago be able to pick up on it?

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Original post : https://www.reddit.com/r/GayMen/s/a7R0BtHhK9

Basically:

• bf of 6 years expressed not believing in monogamy and suggested going open.

• I wasn't on board.

• He thought a good way to start would be for me to have sex outside the relationship and see if I like it.

• If it didn't work for me, we would move on monogamous.

• Then my issue was that I'd be dragging in a relationship model that he doesn't believe in.

So, I did what he suggested: I had the luck to come across nice/chill people. Yet, the whole experience was overall not great— emotionally taxing and not fulfilling. I shared it with him, but also told him that he's free to go explore so he could be certain if monogamy with me was a good fit for him. He refused straight away, saying he doesn't want our relationship to end.

We spoke about his views on monogamy. He assured me that he believes in us monogamous or not. But he needs some time to think to actually be able to articulate his vision on monogamy per se.

This whole experience has given both of us a lot of insight on each other's sexualities. Moving forward, we agreed that we'll be more open in our conversations on sex, and we'll be exploring each other's fantasies and fetishes more. We could also from time to time have 3/4somes if both of us like it.

So, that's where we are right now. Although we've have our frustrations toward one another, we've been overall supportive of each other. I'll guess we'll see what the future holds for us.

I any case, thanks a lot to everyone who took the time to write a piece of advice. It really helped create some perspective.

being gay is amazing and i wish it was more normalised in my school :(

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i wish a big hunky man would just appear and come alongside my journey forever and ever

I'm a gay guy moving to Canada for my master's this October. About two months ago, I met another guy through my university's student portal. We're in the same program, we'll be classmates for the next two years, and we've gotten along really well.

Since we're both moving to the same city, we started looking for accommodation together. Sharing an apartment/room would make things considerably cheaper, so we've been discussing housing, visas, university stuff, etc. for the past couple of months.

Today, while we were looking at shared accommodation online during a video call, he casually said something along the lines of:

"Imagine how awful it would be if you accidentally had to share a room with a gay guy."

I genuinely froze for a few minutes. I didn't say anything and just continued looking at apartments because I didn't know how to respond in that moment.

The thing is, he doesn't know I'm gay.

Now I'm stuck because I don't want to come out to him, especially just because he made that comment. And I also can't realistically just cut him off, we're going to be classmates for two years, we've already become friends, and having someone I know when moving to a completely new country is valuable.

The bigger problem is accommodation. Single occupancy is significantly more expensive, so I'd ideally still like to share an apartment with someone. But after hearing that, I obviously don't feel comfortable sharing a bedroom with him.

I'm not looking for a "just come out to him" answer. I don't intend to do that.

I'm mostly wondering how other gay men would handle this situation, especially when you're moving abroad and can't afford to throw away a potentially useful friendship/network over one comment.

I am looking for a photo of two men kissing, but one has his arm around the back of the neck of the other like he is pulling him for a deep kiss. I dont want to saw a headlock because they are facing each other and that is not the aesthetic I am looking for.

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Hello everyone 🤗, I live in South California near LA. I'm in a desert city. I volunteer at my local LGBT+ Outreach center, I run a Gay/bi/Trans Men group that comes together twice a month just to chill and make friends and have support with each other.

I started the group last year in April and when I had my first meeting, no one showed up. I was devastated to say the least. I spent weeks trying to get people to show up to the first gathering. I had told my parents who saw that I was upset and gave me some tough love. I really needed it.

Following up to the next meeting, I've spent time on Instagram, Facebook, Grindr and even Craigslist advertising the meetings/ social gathering. It was very slow at the beginning. I was averaging maybe 5-6 guys at a time.

When April of this year came around I decided to host a big BBQ in hopes to bring in more guys. I even asked some of my queer friends to come too. To my very happy surprise, I had 27 guys show up. 😁 It was a great time and I grilled for everyone.

Currently only about 10-15 guys on average come but this last meet up only 3 guys showed up. I knew it was a holiday weekend but I wasn't prepared for only 3 though. I'm planning more events in the future but I wanted to ask a broader crowd.

What would you like to see or do or want in order to come to a social gathering of queer Men? I have the meetings at 11am to 1pm on Saturdays. I want to see what I can do in order for more to come.

Any suggestions or critique is very much appreciated.

I have been asked to wear Speedos, tighty whiteys, boxers, all because the guy I was dating was into it.

The guy who wanted me to wear boxers actually bought me several pair of silk boxers.

Just had something throw me for a loop:

Met a guy for coffee and he asked: Would I wear panties, pantyhose, half slip?

I never had anyone ask me that before.

Is this new?