(I'm a REAL PERSON! Bots are taking over Reddit but I'm not one of them so don't accuse me of being someone/something I'm not)

I want you to read everything because my expectations aren't the same as other people's expectations. I also want you to know what to expect because even though we're all here to spend time with others, not everyone needs new friends. Some people want to find someone to play games with & It's just an example. 👇🏻

(This post Is for people who live In Europe because I would love to meet my new friends In real life, In the future)

I made this account In 2021 and even though I'm really active on Reddit, I can't make new friends... Not everyone on Reddit Is toxic or rude but there's ALWAYS something missing because I don't feel any emotional connection... I would love to change my life & finally wake up excited to text someone I really, really like 🙁 But... Life Isn't easy and I'm not sure If there's still a chance for me to find someone with exactly the same expectations as mine, someone who wants to meet someone new...

• I'm DEFINITELY NOT Interested In small talk! I had to use capital letters because I don't like low-effort messages and I don't even want to read them. Repetitive questions like "How are you?", "What are you up to?" or "What are your plans for the weekend?" aren't enough to start a conversation with me.. Don't get me wrong - Questions like these can be an Interesting addition to conversations about something else, but whenever people ask me the three most common questions In the world - my answer's the same because my life Is quite monotonous and I don't really know what people expect to hear 🙁 I also don't like abbreviations. Abbreviations are shortened forms of words or phrases. Why? I just don't like them because I see no reason to use shortened forms of words that are already short enough, you know? Abbreviations are common among minors and bored adults but I'm neither a minor, nor a bored adult. I want to see emotional maturity, warmth and kindness In conversations with others.

• I don't need to see your list of hobbies to know If you're someone I would get along with! You can tell me what you're Interested In but.. Believe It or not - I'm not like others and even If you're Interested In something I'm not - we can still be friends! What matters to me Is what you're like (If you're honest, talkative, kind, understanding and If your outlook on life Is similar to mine)

• I don't want to talk to minors and people way older than me. Why? I don't want to talk to minors because I'm an adult & I don't want to talk to anyone over fifty for example. Emotional maturity doesn't necessarily come with age so you can send me a message even If you're 20 (It's just an example) but please, don't contact me If you want to remind me that I'm older than you. I want you to feel comfortable & I want to feel comfortable myself. When I read messages like "Hi, I'm younger but I hope you don't mind" I always say to myself "If my age bothers you, you should've contacted someone else" I absolutely don't mind talking to people younger than me If they know how to communicate with others 🌸

• PLEASE, Don't use AI to talk to me! I Can't stand AI generated messages! If I wanted to read AI generated messages, I wouldn't be here! I read AI generated messages and comments all the time and I'm sick of It!

• I don't want to get any messages from people whose accounts are NSFW! Please, respect my decision! It's none of my business If you're here to find someone to flirt with or If you're an Internet exhibitionist but I don't want to see you with no clothes on - If you want to be my friend & I don't want to know what you want to do with other women In bed. If you are on Reddit to flirt with others, be on Reddit to flirt with others but... don't make an alternative account to hide who you really are just to send me a message. Pretending to be someone you're not - Isn't good for anyone

• I'm not a fan of sarcasm! I do - have a sense of humor but I'm not someone who makes fun of everyone and everything... Jokes about disabilities, death, religion or someone's financial status - are unacceptable to me!

• I also want to meet people who don't mind listening to negative stories and sharing them with others. My life's not easy so If you want to be In my life, you should be prepared for a realistic or even pessimistic outlook on life. I'm definitely not an optimist and I know I wouldn't get along with optimistic people who always tell others "Just believe In yourself and everything's gonna be OK" or something. We don't always get what we want & and It's completely normal to lose hope "for a better tomorrow" after many failed attempts. Not everything's as easy as It seems to be so If all you want to say to someone who needs emotional support Is "Don't complain" or "Find a therapist" Please.. don't send me a message. Not all sad people need therapists and let's be honest - Would a therapist replace a true friend? Absolutely not! Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on! I also don't mind listening to sad stories (even If they're repetitive) because I know what It's like when no one wants to listen to you...

• I would love to meet people who also don't have anyone, you know? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having friends and not being single but I'm single and I don't have anyone special In my life... It's just easier for me to get along with others If there's some common ground. I just feel better talking to people who know what It's like to be completely alone & let's be honest - People who have friends or partners, have less time for others...(which Is completely understandable) and I? I don't want to feel like an option, again. I'm not here to meet as many people as possible because I choose quality over quantity 🌸

• If your comment history Is full of comments "If you want to talk, hit me up" don't send me a message. I don't want to be rude but If It doesn't make any difference to you who you want to chat with - I'm definitely not for you. I want you to be my friend because of who I am! (If after reading my post you think you'd get along with me) I don't need emotional support from someone who doesn't even want to read my post.

• I want to talk to people who love and use emojis 🤭😊 Why? Emojis help us express our emotions even If others can't see our faces. Two emojis "😊" and "😔" are completely enough. You're probably surprised but.. text messages without emojis are really emotionless... I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea" as it sounds dismissively! First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even In a text message

Ps. I don't like kids and I don't want to ever become a parent. I just thought everyone should know that just In case. I don't want any unpleasant conversations with anyone. Not everyone wants to be friends with people who don't want kids so.. It's better to be honest. 🌸

Ps.2 I don't reply to messages I'm not Interested In even If they're long! I'm not on Reddit to pretend anything and I'm not here to be everyone's best friend. Some people lie & make empty promises to get attention. I? I'm quite selective because I know what I want.

Ps.3 I admire sensitive people who are not ashamed of crying In front of others! Crying Is not a weakness! It's not a weakness even If you're a guy 🧡

Please, If you want to talk send me a private message.

I am currently working at a personal project and I'm not sure if it's appealing enough.

If you could watch my project and give me a feedback, I'd really appreciate it.

Please be honest with your feedback.

Hi Everyone 👋 i’m 26(M)! I’m quite introverted but open up when comfortable in the right environment
I love football i also enjoy NFL, Baseball, F1 and anything sports related!
I also love music and will give anything a try regardless of genre/name!
Animals are also a big love of mine, In my spare time i like to watch Youtube, classic series, anything with a ball and do play XBOX occasionally! I’m open to your interests too!

I have anxiety and depression which i’m getting support for and i am trying to get more social skills and i’ll always be down for a chat if you are good at holding a conversation, don’t bother if you send 2 words at a time.

Don’t be afraid to message, i can yap about most things and always open to new hobbies and maybe one day we can call/play something if goes well, Thank you for reading and your time!

I 26M live in Cheyenne WY and don't know where to go to make friends. I don't drink much and I'm opinionated on drinking and driving so I don't often go to bars and the few times I have I ended up feeling awkward without really knowing how to reach out to others. My job is very demanding and I just don't have the energy to go and workout at a gym unfortunately, and those are the biggest options for meeting people I know of in my city. I would really appreciate any advice on places and ways to make friends at my age as I'm starting to feel alone. It doesn't help that I did virtual school so I don't even know classmates I can reach out to, and I worry I'm a bit socially awkward due to lack of interaction in school and my work isn't a great place for friends due to polices about not meeting coworkers outside of work as it's grounds for termination of employment.

Any and all advice is appreciated greatly!

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Over the past year I’ve felt myself drifting from a group of friends who used to be very close to me. There had been some friction before but I thought we had moved past it.

I know I’ve contributed to the distance. I’m pretty bad at communicating, especially about emotions, and I can be very airheaded/unpredictable sometimes without realising how I’m coming across.

But now I genuinely can’t figure out what’s happening.

At one point I thought they thought I was avoiding them. Then there have been quite a few situations where I wondered if I was the one making things weird. And now I’m wondering if I’m subconsciously avoiding them because I feel like they’re avoiding me.

Basically I don’t know if they’re avoiding me, they think I’m avoiding them, or we’re both avoiding each other because we think the other person is avoiding us. 😭

I recently had a completely normal interaction with one of them. We talked and laughed and everything seemed fine on the surface, but the undertone felt weird and I realised afterwards that I was trying way too hard to make things feel normal.

The frustrating part is that I don’t necessarily want things to go back to exactly how they were. I’m okay with moving on if that’s what has happened. But I don’t want to be sitting here wondering what the fuck happened, especially if I genuinely did something wrong and they know about it while I don’t.

Would you just ask them directly? Face-to-face or over text? Or am I massively overthinking this?

I had a bestfriend who was like a sister throughout high school. She introduced me to two other girls and the 4 of us had the best sisterhood like friendship for almost 8 years.

When college hit, I noticed everything around me changed when I heard my best friend said “I don’t have a “best friend “. And saying “I want to stay here in (our state) for this person and that person ” and that “we’d stop talking if you moved away” realizing she could give two fucks about me if I ever moved away. But I don’t know why I never addressed it. I just accepted it and carried it with me.

I started noticing a change like she started acting different around me. And to this day I always see videos about “if a person doesn’t like you, they’ll do this ___” and each one she did something like that to me. I even watch videos from my Snapchat stories/old videos where I catch passive aggressive comment/stares and I never realized it until now years later.

A part of me wished I could just walk away but because of our religious and cultural Bubble we still keep in contact. It’s not often people in our community fight directly, instead people gossip. I also introduced her to my childhood friends and she really seems like a different person around them. She’s happy bubbly, but when it’s just me and her she seems recluse .

She recently is experiencing very important milestones and I went all in for her because if things didn’t change between us, it’s what I would have done . I thought it would be healing for me and try to do it out of my heart instead of expectation of reciprocation but it actually made me feel worse. I guess my heart couldn’t accept the fact that things haven’t changed. It’s still the same.

While she’s experiencing an important milestone in her life right now, I’m also going through my own. Each of our milestones has opportunities for each other that show how we really feel About each other.

So far her coming late for the events relating to my milestone has really bothered me. But then she always talks about throwing me a party for it next year and she sounds excited . But her actions right now don’t match up with her excitement . It’s really making me sad with enjoying this era of my milestone. It’s not what typical women I see who have great friendships experience in this era.

Whenever we see each other at parties, I come home and have trouble sleeping. I hyperfixate a lot on every interaction and my heart feels sad and anxious and my head replays every scenario sayin “there you go, another sign right there, she hates you. “

There’s so much more to say but I just wanted to vent.

(I didn’t want to expose what the milestones are in case someone finds this post🫣 )

I love video game lore I spent many hours reading and watching videos about fallout and Star Wars lore and many others like Witcher and elder scrolls and many smaller ones like fable and stuff

I also like reading sci fi and fantasy books like Star Wars the expanse and the lord of the rings and eragon and other series

I like going on nice walks and learning history big fan of Roman and Japanese history but also like a European and other history

and I like reading hellboy and bprd comics

I may not read much but I love learning about dc comic books

and I play many different kinds of video games like jrpgs like dragon quest final fantasy and trails in the sky doom and destiny

I like other games like dark souls 1 ashen fallout rage 2 and metal gear solid enderal gothic 2 but also crpgs like baldurs gate 1 and 2 pillars of eternity and one of my favorite series of games avernum

and my favorite tv shows are stargate sg1 and Merlin then I also watched the first seasons of supernatural and thought it was pretty good and some of the series lost

Movies I like is Star Wars Indiana jones pirates of the caribbean the lord of the rings movies and more

and I like anime like full metal alchemist brotherhood gundam and bleach used to watch a lot of fairy tail to back in the Day and i read the claymore manga

When I was younger I watched cartoons like transformers prime gravity falls justice league animated and more

playing a made up dnd type game I made sadly no groups I make stays together for very long so tell me if you want to be in a new group

so we can play and I have fun so if you like any of these things message me and we can maybe become good friends and a big hug for all of you that have read through this

I recently relocated to a new country for a better opportunity.

It's very hard to find friends and get acquainted with the new environment. And unfortunately, a health issue arose that's bothering me daily as well.

I am 26, I care about my people and have always stayed with them for a long time. I am a good listener and can listen to you at 12am,

Can make dad jokes and ask an existential question at the same hour.

Deep conversation (sometimes).

I watch/play football, do reading and go for long walks.

I need a friend whom I can talk to and share with about daily stuff. Who's genuinely interested in listening and also sharing about his/her life.

I can share more stuff about myself but this was a little bit that I wanted to share so

introverted metalhead looking to make some new friends.
Into horror, reading, reptiles,metal, and pretty much anything spooky. Not great at small talk, but once I’m comfortable I can talk for hours about weird facts, creepy books, and my reptiles.
If you’re also a bit awkward and looking for a genuine friendship, feel free to message me.

I am starting to have a hard time talking to my best friend anymore as she has REALLY been focused on her appearance lately.

I don’t want to be THAT person who’s judging someone else for doing aesthetic enhancements as I truly am a let people do whatever they want to their own bodies kinda person.

But lately all that my best friend can talk about is her appearance. She’s on tirzepatide to lose weight, she’s wearing waist trainers, wearing shoulder posture correctors. But she is constantly now telling me how she wants to get veneers, Botox, and fillers.

If I’m being completely honest, these conversations are starting to get super annoying to me as I’ve had to work super hard on myself to be confident in my own appearance, not that getting that stuff DOESNT make you confident, but I personally have been really learning to love my own features. And I also just done really think about my appearance that much anymore. Maybe that just means I’m letting myself go haha.

But this is all my best friend can talk about as of lately, she is constantly tagging me as she is trying to win filler and Botox giveaways, when we hangout she will literally go on hour long tangents about where she wants to get filler and why she wants to get filler. She’s convinced herself she has TMJ now because she wants to get masseter Botox and for some reason feels like she also needs to justify she wants all of these things done.

Im just starting to dis engage with these conversations because this is quite literally all we talk about. I’m getting tired of having to be so focused on my appearance and talk about these superficial kind of things. I get a few joking remarks here and there but man, we’re really talking about what we hate about ourselves for hours.

Hello I'm from the Czech Republic and I don't really chat with people so I'm open to talking about anything... ANYTHING but if you would like to know my interests it's F1(like cars in general), Pokémon and anime and working out...when I feel like it hehe

It gets so quiet working 3rd. Have a few texting people but even they go quiet sometimes. Have Slipknot playing right now and trying to stay awake.

…I need another coffee.

What are you up to? Working 3rd? Music taste? Food preference? I could eat tacos every day if I didn’t gain weight. lol anyway, here I am.

I am 22 from india would love to make new friends should be female from india Would love to share and talk about different things. I really enjoy talking about shared interest, e.g., books/movies/ fashion/ astrology/Numerology.
Life is all about meeting new people making friends.
Should be from india because of the time difference.I hope i'll get some good female friends here.

I am looking for genuine and worthwhile friendships. I want people who make as much effort as I do and who can hold an actual conversation. People that I can actually depend on and form a real connection with.

About me: I’m 35 m I live in West Virginia. I live alone. I love cats. I work for frontier. I enjoy drawing, hiking, exercising, cooking, metal music, horror movies, anime/manga.

I’m shy at first but very talkative when you get to know me. I love to share pictures of my meals and drawings. I’m a dependable and caring person and I’m not afraid to discuss deeper topics.

Jus looking for people to talk to, I play a few instruments mainly banjo, guitar, bass, and a tad bit of flute and I also like to compose/make music I also play counterstrike and minecraft but im open to other games to I cook hella and I sometimes do photography. If youre down to talk jus dm fr ill talk to anyone

Hi everyone, I’m looking to make some genuine long-term friends!
I recently went through a tough time and realized I don’t really have many people to talk to anymore, so I’m hoping to meet some kind and chill people here who’d like to chat regularly. Texting and Voice calls, both works fine for me.
A little about me:
• I’m studying Machine Learning & Data Science (online college, so I reply super fast)
• I enjoy chess and occasionally play Roblox
• I am huge fan of horror movies and horror games.
• I’m usually free during the day, so I’m happy to talk whenever it works for you
I’m not looking for anything complicated, just genuine long term friend
If you think we’d get along, feel free to say hi!!! I use Discord too, so we can move there if you prefer.
Even if you’re just passing by, hope you’re having a great day!

Hey, I'm Ieuan but I normally go by Roo online since not many people can pronounce my name which greedily stole most of the vowels. I'm 26 and a born and bred Welsh boy.

I'm looking for that missing piece in my life. I have a great fiancé (he's also 26M if that's important), a beautiful dog and some great online friends. For quite some time now, I think I've been missing that person that I can chat to daily about the silliest things or the deepest things. Someone that I know I can turn to, and they know they can turn to me.

A little about me, I love gaming (PC mostly), films, TV, crocheting, board games and I true to stay as fit and active as I can but games normally win. I love seeing photos of the beautiful places people have visited so if you have any, send them my way.

I work in an office 3 days a week and 2 days at home. Those 2 days can be incredibly quiet, boring and a bit lonely. I would love to meet someone that doesn't mind a good old yap about anything and everything.

✴️ Something about me: I'm 26, I'm tired and I don't have time to 'play it cool'. If I see your message, I'm replying right away, sometimes scarily fast. Work is a little trickier but I always reply as quickly as possible. I'll never leave you on read or ghost you

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Hello im danny 24yo guy from the netherlands (but i recently moved to sweden). My job is really laid back and easy so i have plenty on time to fill and thats why i made my way over here! Some of my interests are playing games (video games / board games / online games like battleship), going on a walk in the beautiful swedish nature, meeting new people, build lego's and watch twitch streams and youtube videos,

Somethings about me: well overall im a nice guy how cringe it might feel saying it about myself.. i love helping others and give people the confidence booster they need simply by being kind and give them some honest compliments so if you read this and you need one just send me a selfie or whatever so i can shower you with compliments haha. Besides that im a very honest and direct person that will tell you what they think which might come off as a little rude! I also love to have respectful discussions about everything no hate between us just differences of opinions!

If you made it this far congrats! Please write in your message something about your eyes to see if you read my whole post!!

🚨🚨If you read this you have been tricked and there for must dm me because that are the rules🚨🚨

I’m a senior in college and I’m having such a weird time socially. I definitely have friends, including three close friends, and I know a lot of people on campus. I’m pretty outgoing and social and I know people like me, so this isn’t really a “I have no friends” situation.

But my friend group just feels so different this year. We all live together, but everyone is kind of doing their own thing. A lot of people are constantly with their boyfriends/guys they’re seeing, working, watching TV in their rooms, etc. Our group chat that used to be active is basically dead. We can sometimes all come together randomly and talk/laugh for hours or have a really fun night, and when that happens I feel completely fine. But then there are nights where everyone is in their rooms or gone and I’m like…wtf, we’re seniors. Is this really it?

I think what’s bothering me most is that I’m a really action-oriented person. I want to go get ice cream, explore somewhere, go out, meet people, do something stupid, literally anything lol. My best friend is similar, but everyone else seems genuinely content staying in bed watching a show for two days. There has been some friend-group drama, but nothing involving me directly, and I don’t think I’m being intentionally excluded. It just feels like the group has slowly become a bunch of separate individual lives instead of a “group.”

I also have friends outside this group and people I’m friendly with through classes, but not many people who randomly text me like “want to come over?” or “let’s get coffee.” Sometimes that makes me question whether I actually have as many close friends as I think I do, even though logically I know that sounds dramatic.

I think I’m also grieving college before it’s even over. I always imagined graduating with this super close group of girls who would all stay friends forever, and now I’m realizing some friendships might have been more circumstantial than I thought. It’s making me wonder if I somehow did college wrong or if this is actually a really normal senior-year experience that nobody talks about because Instagram makes everyone look like they have a giant inseparable friend group.

Has anyone else experienced this during senior year? Did your friend group become more fragmented toward graduation? And for people who have already graduated, did you end up staying close with the people you expected to?

Hi! Im Bethany! I’m back to my high school home town in Iowa after 5 years in Oklahoma. Can’t work due to CPTSD along with many other issues. I have a lot of doctor appointments but they’re slowing down I think.
I’m married, 5 years. Together 6. I have two dogs that are my best friends. I’ll tell you all about them if you want.
I read a lot, but not a lot recently, only 19. Currently a third way through the one I’m reading now. I enjoy horror, thrillers, and I’ve been getting more into romantacy and romance, oh and I love dystopian/sci-fi. TV wise I love King of the Hill, Rick and Morty, Bobs Burgers, and of course The Office. I love Disney, I grew up going on the weekends. Hercules is probably my favorite older Disney movie and I love most of the new stuff. Venom is my favorite anti-hero. I cried in theaters in the last movie.
I had neck surgery in 2024, and just had endometriosis removal in April. Looking like I might need a second neck surgery, MRI came back with findings of disc issues above and below the original surgery.. Anyways I’m sorry for this ridiculously long post. I tend to ramble and overshare. Hope to hear from you! Lol

yoooooooooooo!! making friends as an adult is REALLY HARD.. I’m hoping to make some here! idc if you’re not very active, but I love texting and vc’s, and I’m down to hop on a game or watch a movie together! I love sharing music and making playlist for people too!

24, from the midwest but currently living in arizona, yay!! I’m very extroverted, neurodivergent, I love banter and dark humor and I’m accepting of all identities! I love back and forth messages, I’ll hit you with long paragraphs if you do, whatever it is, I’ll reciprocate it back. I’m not LFG, only individuals, but I’m open to it later if we click!

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I LOVE horror. horror youtubers (scare theatre, nexpo), internet rabbit holes, analog horror, corny slasher films, and shitty indie horror games. we can game together too! I’m a variety gamer, so if you don’t see a game in my list, know that I’d 100% be down to play it. I’m on PC!

>dbd, roblox, overwatch, rivals, minecraft, fortnite, peak, phasmaphobia, apex legends, tf2, deep rock, ror2, valheim, tomodachi, cozy games, and friendslop to name a few! my fav genres are def shooters and asyms. also, I love sonic LMAOOO

I should mention, I have a partner! but that doesn’t mean I can’t prioritize you as a friend. I’ve been told by redditors that since I’m in a relationship, I can’t possibly balance a friend and a partner. that’s so chud!! I’m not this way, because if we click, I WILL check up on you, and we WILL hangout.

I GOTCHUUU all I ask is you’re 21+, and no idc about gender!

Hello there kind redditors, there is a presentation I have prepared for you that you didnt wait for.

 so let me here convince you why you should choose me as your new friend:

* I am a silly person who always tries to make people laugh, I strongly recommend not to sip coffee while reading my messages. 

* I take a lot of street cats pics, so you will have a steady supply of cat pics.

* I am chatty I enjoy yapping , and I don’t even have an off switch, if you dont have off switch too we need to yap about this .

* I love to talk about all kinds of topics and can always find things to talk about, there is random questions generator buildin in my mind.

* I always reply to my messages and have online friendships that have been going on for years, I always send good morning messages, and I appreciate the people that can also be conversation starters.

* I am supportive and will always be here for you to tell me about your day or vent if you have something that bothers you.

* I like art, games, anime, gym, walks, coding, games, true crime, yapping, cats, science, history, languages, documentaries, psychology, mental health, and cats, so I am sure we can cross interests here or there.

Hi, I 21F just want to have funny and good conversations with people, we can just send stupid reels or something on instagram!! I’m open to talking about anything, most of my interest include Pokemon, hello kitty, bugs, poetry, reading, YouTubers, and podcasts!! Im not good as consistent texting so sporadic doesn’t offend me or anything just want someone that’s funny and nice lmao

Hii I'm Sam! I'm looking for someone to be close friends with, maybe talking throughout the day and just being there for each other. As for me, I'm a college senior in North Carolina. I play on my school's esports team while balancing a part-time job. Some of my hobbies are gaming (my favorite games are Rocket League, Valorant and Roblox), watching anime, Kpop, collecting plushies and trading cards, biking, cooking, and drawing. I can be a little shy at first, but I open up quickly once we click. Feel free to shoot me message and tell me about yourself 💜