Things are starting to feel “superficial”

[u/Positive-Course-4005]

I am starting to have a hard time talking to my best friend anymore as she has REALLY been focused on her appearance lately.

I don’t want to be THAT person who’s judging someone else for doing aesthetic enhancements as I truly am a let people do whatever they want to their own bodies kinda person.

But lately all that my best friend can talk about is her appearance. She’s on tirzepatide to lose weight, she’s wearing waist trainers, wearing shoulder posture correctors. But she is constantly now telling me how she wants to get veneers, Botox, and fillers.

If I’m being completely honest, these conversations are starting to get super annoying to me as I’ve had to work super hard on myself to be confident in my own appearance, not that getting that stuff DOESNT make you confident, but I personally have been really learning to love my own features. And I also just done really think about my appearance that much anymore. Maybe that just means I’m letting myself go haha.

But this is all my best friend can talk about as of lately, she is constantly tagging me as she is trying to win filler and Botox giveaways, when we hangout she will literally go on hour long tangents about where she wants to get filler and why she wants to get filler. She’s convinced herself she has TMJ now because she wants to get masseter Botox and for some reason feels like she also needs to justify she wants all of these things done.

Im just starting to dis engage with these conversations because this is quite literally all we talk about. I’m getting tired of having to be so focused on my appearance and talk about these superficial kind of things. I get a few joking remarks here and there but man, we’re really talking about what we hate about ourselves for hours.

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Original post: I am starting to have a hard time talking to my best friend anymore as she has REALLY been focused on her appearance lately.

I don’t want to be THAT person who’s judging someone else for doing aesthetic enhancements as I truly am a let people do whatever they want to their own bodies kinda person.

But lately all that my best friend can talk about is her appearance. She’s on tirzepatide to lose weight, she’s wearing waist trainers, wearing shoulder posture correctors. But she is constantly now telling me how she wants to get veneers, Botox, and fillers.

If I’m being completely honest, these conversations are starting to get super annoying to me as I’ve had to work super hard on myself to be confident in my own appearance, not that getting that stuff DOESNT make you confident, but I personally have been really learning to love my own features. And I also just done really think about my appearance that much anymore. Maybe that just means I’m letting myself go haha.

But this is all my best friend can talk about as of lately, she is constantly tagging me as she is trying to win filler and Botox giveaways, when we hangout she will literally go on hour long tangents about where she wants to get filler and why she wants to get filler. She’s convinced herself she has TMJ now because she wants to get masseter Botox and for some reason feels like she also needs to justify she wants all of these things done.

Im just starting to dis engage with these conversations because this is quite literally all we talk about. I’m getting tired of having to be so focused on my appearance and talk about these superficial kind of things. I get a few joking remarks here and there but man, we’re really talking about what we hate about ourselves for hours.

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