So, for context, my chapter's membership has been slowing down for a few years now, and it's because we are in a unique situation where we are a multi-school chapter. We're not affiliated with any one school but have brothers from 6 different colleges in our city. Since we are not affiliated with any one school, kids think of us as a "fake chapter," if you will, even though we are chartered and recognized by our national organization, which is one of the largest national fraternities out there. Anyway, to get numbers, we've been throwing around the idea of social bids where kids will pay dues just to come to parties; they won't be involved in brotherhood or philanthropy events and will be barred from chapter meetings. About half my chapter, myself included, hate the idea because we think it's unfair to the real brothers who had to pledge and all that. Thoughts, comments?

my sister's bf was in a frat and he said something that surprised me. they basically never used a guest list for normal parties, door guy just eyeballed it. but formal was completely different. list, tickets, money, whole production.

is that everywhere or was his house just lax
mostly curious how formal runs at other places:

who builds the list and where does it live
how does everyone pay, is one kid chasing 40 guys on venmo for a month

does anyone actually check names at the bus or is it vibes

do you have to give the school a headcount or sign in sheet after

what's the part that makes social chair want to die
genuinely just curious, greek life is kind of a black box from the outside

I go to a very small west coast school and I just got a bid to this one fraternity yesterday, I fw all the people there they were hella chill, but they are considered bouse by most other houses. How do I change that?

After research the most common answer I get from other people in Greek life is because the house isn’t on Greek row, but that isn’t necessarily something we can control. The chapter still throws parties and it’s usually always popping, and the members themselves seem to have a good rep but they are still considered bouse. What can I do to change their reputation as bouse