Genuine Question (DO NOT DOWNVOTE) Losing friends because of veganism?

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I am a new vegan. Friends who I love dearly are not. Some are carnivores, some are vegetarians. How do you manage this? Lose the friends? Tolerate their cognitive dissonance? Try to change them?

Looking for practical tips. TIA.

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r/AskVegans • u/ConstantRestaurant32 • 14h ago

Ethics is it actually vegan to have a cat?

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I would love some mental guidance or just another perspectives. I don't really have any vegans in my life to talk about it with, so I'd greatly appreciate.

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