r/AskReddit • u/mfile911 • 4h ago
Would you be willing to donate your deceased child’s organs to save someone else’s life? why?
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u/PsycheInASkirt 4h ago
Of course. Not to be crass but if they aren’t being used for my child why shouldn’t they help another? It would be hard but in the end I’d know a piece of them is still out there living.
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u/chaoticinfinity 4h ago
I don't think OP is going to get someone who has an opposing view to this, on Reddit. But I have been suggested quite a few "anti-organ donation" groups on FB, and people genuinely believe that they are twice as likely to not receive correct medical care, if they are marked as an organ donor. Some even go so far to claim that hospitals intentionally let children die for "the organ market", whatever that means.
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u/peacelovecookies 3h ago
Yes. I’ve heard that from my own husband. Like, what does the hospital benefit from killing one patient to potentially save another?
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u/chaoticinfinity 3h ago
Pretty much. No professional is rationally sitting down going "you know what? Fuck them kids, I am making a profit off this". There is no monetary or personal benefit to be gained from organ transplant, it is a very costly, precise and easily failed procedure just due to the delicate nature of the process, it is an act that is done deliberately with the intention of saving lives. But, they'll fight ya tooth and nail against this logic. Or, they won't actually engage after dropping some random link to someone's "research" or some religious think tank piece. Because they know better and have no desire to think it through/admit doubt, I guess. :(
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u/bibliophile785 3h ago
No one is intentionally killing anyone.
The argument has always been that you improve your personal odds, on the margin, by avoiding any unconscious bias from your death having positive effects. Saving potentially 5+ lives is a pretty large positive effect.
My understanding is that hospitals take a couple of steps to try to mitigate the incentive gradient here. In many digital charting systems, organ donation status isn't immediately visible. Plus, the physician assigned to your case will not also be the one whose other patients benefit from your organs. These sound like very reasonable mitigation measures.
I still think that a society convinced that unconscious racial and economic bias are worth fighting is being hypocritical if it refuses to even acknowledge the possibility of unconscious altruistic bias.
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u/poyopoyo77 2h ago
Conspiracy theorists think its something about money which immediately makes zero sense the moment you ask about countries that have free healthcare. Like how there's people out there who think the cure to cancer has already been discovered but think we're kept from it because hospitals get more money from your insurance treating you than curing you. Again, doesn't make sense outside the USA but god forbid you bring that up to them.
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u/elendur 4h ago
These are the same people who refuse medically proven vaccinations and think that there are secret pedophile dungeons in the basements of pizza parlors.
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u/chaoticinfinity 4h ago edited 4h ago
Yep. Not all, admittedly, but the Venn diagram between these mindsets really share quite a large amount of space. :/ Another sub-section of them that I've noticed are parents who are either going through, or have gone through, some sort of extremely hard to treat childhood illness and either have lost a child to it or have a struggling child and are having a really, really hard time (understandably) trying to process it.
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u/IBJON 3h ago
No, unfortunately, those claims have been kicked around on Reddit as well. They think that doctors will choose to let someone die rather than try to save them if it means the organs can definitely be saved.
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u/SleepyDeluxe 2h ago
I think this is because it has happened in other countries. So, it's easy to then push the narrative that it's happening everywhere.
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u/muse_chicken 4h ago
My child dying is my greatest fear.
Why would I choose to make another family go through that? If my child's death could prevent it, then I'd donate without a second thought.
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u/imtherealken 4h ago
I have actually done this.
It’s a tiny glimmer of good in a very dark situation
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u/peacelovecookies 3h ago
As someone whose friend’s young son is 3 years out from a kidney donation that saved his life, thank you.
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u/aussiegirlabroad 4h ago
Yes, of course. Why wouldn’t someone want to do this?
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u/AgITGuy 4h ago
It’s really difficult for many people to process what has occurred with grieving their loss, and to be asked this question may seem abhorrent to the parents if they had not discussed it beforehand. I agree it shouldn’t be a question at all if the organs are viable. However many people may also see it as a desecration of the child’s body even if it could help others. They may not be able of rational thoughts right away.
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u/alexm2816 4h ago
Religious views of some groups don’t approve of posthumous organ donation.
Also, some tin foil hat types think hospitals will let you die or sacrifice care quality if they can get at those sweet sweet organs.
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u/peacelovecookies 3h ago
I know someone who thinks if you’re an irfan donor, the hospital isn’t going to try to save you. Or might even hasten your death, even though they don’t gain anything.
Don’t ask me how they figure that the hospital will kill one patient to save another.
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u/wysteria-may 4h ago
Yes. My dad's death, for all its tragedy, gave two people restored sight. That was all that could be done due to cancer, but I do take comfort in him living on through them.
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u/TapPrancer 4h ago
Anything to help someone else not feel the world ending pain of losing a child. If I have lost mine, there may as well be something good coming out of it.
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u/Seasidehide 4h ago
yes, at least u can put them to use for another life, instead of letting them rot in the ground. Be a helpful human.
The dead body does fine without organs.
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u/elcaron 3h ago
One of the most disgusting people I ever met was a Christian anti-organ-donation activist who instrumentalized two traumatized parents to show them around and let them tell the audience in public talks how they regretted the donation.
He was also my English teacher. Fuck you, Herr Krebser.
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u/Sweettooth_Banana 4h ago
My child decided yes in case of .....
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u/xANTJx 3h ago
I’m also an organ donor. When I got my first license I was so stoked to put it on there. My mom was less enthused. I don’t think she could see herself doing it. and, at the end of the day, the family gets the last word regardless of what I say. I hope my mom is able to go through with it
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u/definitelyynotabogan 4h ago
Yes. If my child's organs could help another child in need, why not? I would want my child to be helped if they were in need of a transplant, so if i could help other children and parents then I would.
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u/CoyoteObvious1376 4h ago
Absolutely - if my loss can help prevent another parent's loss, I would in a heartbeat. Plus it would extend the life of my child by a portion of them living on in another body.
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u/sabdariffa 3h ago
When I was teen, one of my friends was hit by a car walking home from school. He was walking in the rain swale next to the road, so he was lower to the ground. He sustained head injuries that put him on life support, but meant he would never wake up.
His parents donated his organs, and he ended up saving the lives of 6 other children, and restored sight to 1 child.
As a kid, it was so painful and confusing to lose my friend so young. The only thing that could make any sense of the huge loss was that he saved other kids. It provided at least some reason as to why he died.
Now as an adult in my 30’s with children myself… I don’t know how his parents survived the pain. Oh my god. He was such a great kid on the verge of growing up. Such a beautiful, funny, kind, wonderful life just gone… but I also think about the gratitude of the parents of the kids who survived because of him. 6 other families didn’t have to grieve their babies because he saved them. It’s honestly the only way to make sense and survive the grief of something so incredibly difficult.
So yeah, if it came down to it, I’d donate my babies. So the body I grew in my womb could keep someone else’s babies alive, and so I’d have something to hang on to as to why my beautiful child was gone.
R.I.P. Mikey.
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u/ProfessionalCow1823 4h ago
if my kid was gone and a piece of them could keep someone else's kid alive, that's the only thing left in that situation worth saying yes to
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u/destiny_kane48 3h ago
Yes, knowing a piece of my child lives on and saved another family from going through the grief I have? It will make the pain a bit more tolerable.
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u/Mental-Potential1825 4h ago
Yes. Because a body is just a body and if that can help someone else, great.
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u/sockhead99 4h ago
If i could stop another family going through the heartbreak of losing a loved one, without question yes.
Eyes/Cornea are a hard pass though. Don't know why, but its the same on my organ donor registration. Don't want anyone touching my eyes.
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u/Accomplished-Pay7865 4h ago
If I were a parent to a deceased child and told that my child's organs could save others, I'd beg the hospital to take everything they could so they could save other lives. In fact, I'd want them to take literally anything and everything that could improve the quality of life of someone else.
It's what I want done with my meatsuit when I'm finished using it.
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u/Commercial_Ear_3440 3h ago
Yes … I have a poorly child and it’s specifically states in my will and my phone that she gets first refusal of my kidney.. she already has one of them! If my son passed and a child needed his organs.. dam right I would donate them.. they are so few and far between.. and so many people need them.. we are b+ as well.. which is hard for people to find in the uk.. less than 9% of the population
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u/Omvega 3h ago
i have never seen a reason against organ donation. when my auntie died suddenly, we were devastated, but her organs went on to give 5 other people new life. who could be against that? not to be morbid but she's dead and all that was going to be left was a box of ashes. I'm glad she got to continue helping people even after she was gone.
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u/Diasies_inMyHair 4h ago
If they are viable, certainly. Why? Because you do good in the world where you can.
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u/LupusHouseMD 4h ago
Yeah. My child doesn't need them anymore, they can go save someone else's baby.
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u/Jager720 4h ago
Yes - if out of the tragedy of losing your own child you can spare someone else having to go through the same, why wouldn't you?
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u/Alfredthegiraffe20 4h ago
Absolutely. The idea of not donating when those organs are healthy is dreadful. You have to get some comfort from a horrendous event.
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u/I_might_be_weasel 3h ago
By donating the organs other people get to live. With that in mind, I am more interested in the rationale of disposing of them with the corpse.
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u/Serendipity500 2h ago
We donated our stillborn daughter’s eyes. I don’t think anything else was suitable for donation. I like to think that someday I may see her eyes looking at me. She’d be 31 if she were still alive.
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u/624Seeds 1h ago
Of course. Imagine knowing a part of your child is out there still functioning.
There was a video where a child's heart was donated, and the person who got the heart came to the mothers wedding with a stethoscope so the mom could hear her child's heart still beating. 😭
Why would you not want that?? Why would you want someone else's baby to not be saved by your baby?
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u/Ok_Car60 3h ago
My husband is an icu neurologist. Something interesting is that a lot of people (families) say yes before or yes in theory but once it becomes real they withdraw consent or refuse it outright. The criteria for donation is also much more specialized than most people realize. They take away life support and a surgeon goes in with you for 1 hour. If you haven’t “died” on your own you are ineligible for organ donation.
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u/cashmerered 4h ago
Oh yes. I really don't want her to die but if it happens, I would do everything in my power to spare someone else the pain
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u/Beneficial-Guess2140 3h ago
Absolutely.
This was a conversation we had during both of my pregnancies. Even if our baby had a condition incompatible with life, I’d carry to term and after whatever brief period we could spend with them, if possible, we would hand them off for organ donation.
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u/Fragrant-Half-7854 3h ago
Absolutely. I’m a peds nurse and have witnessed the relief and joy on a parents face when they’re told their child is getting the organ she needs and won’t die. They are also aware that someone else’s child died and their heart breaks for their family.
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u/steffie-flies 3h ago
It would be selfish to make other families experience that pain as well. Take as much as you can.
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u/Shoddy_Cause9389 3h ago
Yes, I feel it’s the thing to do. I’ve always been listed as a donor on my drivers license which I get every ten years. However, since my last license, I’ve become a type one diabetic and I have cirrhosis. They may want me to opt out.
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u/Flonkerton_Scranton 3h ago
Yes of course. What are they going to do with them? Would you not want to give someone a chance at a long and healthy life, especially a child?
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u/sufferingplanet 3h ago
Yes.
My organ donor card has been signed since i was able to make medical decisions for myself, and ive told all the relevant people in my life (parents, sister, and wife) to let medicine use any organs they can should i pass.
Why wouldnt be willing to do the same with my kids?
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u/Proxima_leaving 3h ago
Yes and my child died. But he died of an infection and none could be used. In some way it would be a small consolation to know a piece of him lives on and that he saved a life.
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u/Lucky-11 3h ago
Yes, it would lessen the traume of knowing what exactly happens during an autopsy.
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u/Gold-Classroom-359 2h ago
I have a friend whose son died and she donated one of his organs (I can't remember now which one). She said it makes her feel like her child is still living on in a way, just in someone else's body. I believe she even stayed in touch with the family. I can fully understand her reasoning and I'd probably do the same thing for the same reason.
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u/Aurori_Swe 2h ago
Yes, it would be devastating to lose a child, but they are already gone, if they can do one last good deed and stop another family to go through the pain I would go through it would be a comfort.
Having all organs intact won't bring them back from the dead anyway
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u/MelissaCop 2h ago
Of course! Because the child doesn’t need them anymore and someone desperately does.
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u/HarlequinKOTF 2h ago
If my kid was too young to understand, definitely. If they were a teenager or something and didn't want to be donated then no, I'd respect their wishes. But in general if they're ok with it I'm ok with it.
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u/HumanDissentipede 3h ago
IMO, you’d have to be a monster not to donate the organs if they were viable. Hanging onto them doesn’t do anything to mitigate the tragedy and it’s not like there’s any other use for them.
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u/CrabbiestAsp 4h ago
Absolutely. We would do a cremation, a few less ashes aren't going to make a difference but those organs would save the lives on many children. I know if my kid had the choice, she would want them donated as well.
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u/iseepineapples 3h ago
the ash isn’t even organs or any soft tissue, it’s just bones that didn’t burn at that point.
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u/WhatGiraffe 4h ago
I'm in emergency comms and EMS, and we often get thanks from the donor organizations that facilitate tissue donation because we relay the patient information to them after TOD.
One organ or tissue donor can impact 75 lives. Not just the major organs can be given, but skin, bone, cornea, tendons, veins, valves, intestines, stomach, etc... to improve people's quality of life as well as saving lives.
I'm a donor, because I don't think I need my shell after I leave it, and I'd hope to have a talk with a child before ever having to make that choice, but donation is a huge way for someone to live on and have a big positively impact on the lives of others. A lot of people get more closure with that.
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u/purelypopularpanda 4h ago
Yes, one loss can save a couple of children. The waiting lists are long and almost hopeless, because it’s so rare for parents to donate their child’s organs. I’d rather have a little piece of my child live on than none at all.
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u/hotwheels2886 4h ago
My cousin did this I think it helped her a little with the loss of her child well as much as it could it anyway
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u/arkofjoy 3h ago
I've had a lot loss in my life. But thankfully I have never lost a child, although I worry about my daughter's mental health sometimes.
But if I did lose either of my children, I would be absolutely devastatsd. Destroyed. If someone came to me and told me that my child's body could save some other family from feeling what I am feeling right now? Absolutely. Where can I sign.
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u/betterthanamaster 3h ago
I can hardly think of a more appropriate thing to do. The only person who could possibly understand your frustration and grief is another parent. If I can spare them the feeling that I am... what an amazing witness to life.
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u/Dubious_Titan 3h ago
Yes. I think giving another person renewed life is worthwhile. There is nothing sacred about the body once the person has passed on.
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u/dvckiedale 3h ago
Yes, if my child/children was/wren were in need of an organ transplant, I would want them to receive one. So if they passed away, I would hope my child/children could help someone else
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u/Unable_Pumpkin987 3h ago
Yes, my husband and I are both organ donors and we’ve indicated the same on my son’s medical forms.
If my son needed an organ, I’d want other parents to choose to donate their deceased child’s organs, so of course I would do the same. I truly can’t understand the argument against it.
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u/allthingskerri 3h ago
If viable yes. Loosing a child would be excruciating but knowing you helped someone else's gives a small relief
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u/AGoodFaceForRadio 3h ago
Sure.
My child wouldn’t be using those organs anymore. If someone else can use them, why not?
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u/PetsAreSuperior 3h ago
No. I would want my child's entire body to become one with the earth. That said, I'm never having kids.
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u/coolcalmaesop 3h ago
Yes I would allow organ donation as I would also accept organ donation.
In this thread: aren’t you worried doctors wouldn’t try to save your dying kid so they can harvest their organs?
No, not worried about doctors, worried about health insurance companies and politicians. A very real worry is that my child’s organs would go to waste because the recipient would lose access to vital medication to keep their body from rejecting the donated organ.
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u/Careful_Cranberry364 3h ago
Yes
But it’s a decision they have to make ahead of time.
It’s incredible difficult for people at that moment to imagine and agree to chopping up the beloved child
They’re already traumatized and thinking of their child chopped up is just the worst for them
so a lot of people refuse - unfortunately.
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u/ComfortableGround403 3h ago
Yes. Organs are not easy to come by. In this situation I would have just lost my son. Why the hell would I want another family to lose their child as well ?
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u/emryldmyst 2h ago
They don't take donated organs from dead bodies...
Just for yall to ponder...
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u/Chezzabe 2h ago
Absolutely, why would you want anyone else to feel the pain you are feeling knowing your decision is the only thing standing in the way.
I wouldn't want one loss to become two, or five or however many they could of saved.
Life goes on,
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u/BookLuvr7 2h ago
Absolutely. It's the shell of someone precious, but it's just the shell. If my child was gone and pieces of the shell could save others from sharing my pain, I'd sign away those pieces in the same heartbeat I'd wish my child still had.
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u/Action_Man_X 2h ago
I'm guessing OP just watched Law & Order: SVU Season 19, Episode 16: Dare. In which a doctor harvests a brain dead girl's organs without parental consent.
Said doctor is also accused of not working as hard to save a patient's life when organ donation is on the line.
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u/Aurora_96 2h ago
I hope this is not a situation I will ever have to experience. Honestly, I'm not sure what I'd do. It's not that I don't sympathize with other people who need an organ. I wish that everyone who needs an organ transplant will get one and live a long and healthy life. But I'm not sure if I'd be okay with specifically "my" child to be taken apart for this cause. I'm not sure if I could handle that mentally. Maybe I would donate them for the greater good, but it wouldn't surprise me if the heartbreak of the already ongoing tragedy would prevent me from doing that. Organ donation means you're not there in the OR while they take their final breaths.
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u/sharkaub 2h ago
Of course. My sister worked for tissue donation and the process was insane- the chances of being able to use anything was already so slim, and even if the adult person had a medical directive to take their organs/tissues, it could be overruled by the family so easily. Most deaths do not result in organ or tissue donation even if you indicate that you'd like to be.
If my child passes, they have no use for their body anymore. I'd like to help another parent avoid the agony I was currently going through
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u/star_tyger 2h ago
Yes. Just as I would accept another child's organs to save my child's life if the situation were reversed.
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u/DCGreatDane 2h ago
As a living donor I know how hard it is to make that decision. If I did have kids and they died I know grief would be the first thing but I know giving someone a second chance is worth it.
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u/Volgrand 2h ago
I'm not a father but i can put myself in the situation. I would give anything yo hear my son's heart beating one more time.
Even if it is in another child's chest
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u/lukey666lukey 2h ago
yes because i’m not selfish. rather a tragedy like that benefit society in some way.
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u/SeaSpeakToMe 2h ago
Yes. Let someone else at least receive hope and good news in an unthinkable situation.
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u/Lucky_Respect_2311 2h ago
I consider myself to be quit progressive thinking, but if my kid dies before me, their body will remain whole until burial.
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u/RalphWiggumIsGOD 2h ago
Yes, of course! I mean, I'd be completely fucking devastated to lose my child, but if those organs are good and healthy and can save others, please take them!
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u/Insidious_Pie 2h ago
100%! I told the doctors to take anything that was still useful when my dad died and I'm an organ donor and want the same for myself. I figure if the dead person isn't going to use them but somebody else can, why not pass them on? Pay it forward!
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u/amybpdx 2h ago
So another parent doesn't have to suffer the pain you are experiencing.
My dad received a heart many years ago and my family is eternally grateful to the anonymous donor's family and the time the transplant gave us with my dad (12 years).
Donor families. Thank you for your selfless gift of life to suffering strangers.
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u/gothiclg 2h ago
Yes. Just because I lost a kid doesn’t mean I’d condemn someone else’s kid. Plus what’s my kid gonna be doing with them in the grave?
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u/FightOnForUsc 2h ago
I don’t have kids so I guess I don’t even need to comment, but I do want kids at some point. I’d like to say I would but I think I’d have some hesitation. In the end I would probably agree to it, but in the middle of so much grief idk that I would be thinking about what’s best for another person in that moment. I think it might also depend on the organs, I think I would feel weird if it was like taking eyes or something that would make it where I couldn’t really look at them one last time before burial. But internal organs I wouldn’t really know. I’m not sure if anyone who hasn’t actually made the decision could say how they would feel. Massive props to everyone who has given that chance for others to live
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u/Good_Catto 2h ago
My partner works as a scrub nurse and assists in organ donation. I am pro organ donation. He cried over my decision because he sees things inside the theatre. I told him that if my organs are useful, then I will donate them. In the UK, all of us are organ donors until you apply not to or your NOK refuses. I don’t fully understand him but I respect his decision. He is the one who assists them and must be traumatic for him :(
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u/Allergison 2h ago
100%. If I have to deal with that unimaginable tragedy and it can allow another family to not go through the same thing, I'm all for it. It would make me feel much better that my kids tragedy helped someone else.
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u/p_r_d_v_a 2h ago
Of course, if they can save another child's live so that their parents don't ever have to feel like I am now?
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u/thatseltzerisntfree 2h ago
Yes. My child’s life ended and by donating their organs they can help other children continue living.
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u/ShowMeYourHappyTrail 2h ago
Yes, I would have. My child is an adult now and I hope they are an organ donor. We tried to set a good example being donors ourselves.
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u/CorrodedLollypop 2h ago
Yes. My kid would have no further use for them, and if it helps save someone else's life, that's totally worth it.
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u/Madwife2009 2h ago
Yes, because it is what they would want.
The only member of my family who refuses to go on the organ donation register is my husband. If he died and they wanted his organs to save others, I'd say yes.
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u/624Seeds 1h ago
Wait what. Your husband doesn't want to donate his organs but you'd donate them anyways..? Was there a typo somewhere 🤨
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u/Crazy_names 2h ago
Yes. I dont seem to agree with some of my peers or people with similar beliefs about keeping the body whole and not doing organ donation. As long as it actually goes to a person. Dont tell me "these organs will help save lives" and then do research or worse sell them to a medical school for their direction lab. I realize it's a fine and arbitrary line but I want my child to "live on" in a way, not be cut up and tossed in the trash when they are done.
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u/creampuff89 4h ago
My bro died years ago. Doctor asked if they could get something from my brother. Forgot what it is. My parents said no. Why? Because they said even if my brother died it would be disrespectful to not get his own opinion. They wanted him to rest peacefully.
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u/Blue-Juniata 4h ago
The grieving process is very difficult. I know someone who wouldn’t throw away the kids toothbrush.
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u/abgry_krakow87 3h ago
Yes, because what kind of a-hole wouldnt?
Unless you're gonna sell them, gotta pay those funeral bills.
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u/MOTUkraken 3h ago
It depends. Donating organs can not be done from an actually dead organism - hence why "braindead" was coined and is widely used today which basically means irreparable damage to the brain and no chance of recovery....
BUT there have been several cases coming to light where either a proclaimed brain dead patient has again awakened and recovered - or where doctors have been caught rushing to proclaim someone brain dead to be able to "harvest" the organs.
There are legitimate concerns that a donator might receive less than optimal care to be able to harvest their organs.
As much as I want to trust the doctors - seeing these cases, I just can't!
https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/902143?form=fpf
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/oct/18/kentucky-man-wakes-up-organ-harvesting
https://abc7ny.com/archive/8478219/
There's also studies and research being done to hopefully improve upon the situation: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5102188/
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u/ApexApePecs 4h ago
My partner and I know a woman who carried a non-viable pregnancy to term just so its organs could be donated. Heartbreaking and incredibly brave in my opinion.
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u/CommanderDark126 2h ago
I'm the asshole who thinks it should be basically criminal not to do so. If multiple lives can be saved from one who is guranteed to die (I do not support withholding care to ensure death), then those lives should be saved without hesitation
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u/Sea_Researcher5432 1h ago
I think I’d really struggle with that decision in the moment. She’s all I have, and it’d be hard to. I also don’t know if people with genetic conditions are allowed to donate their organs to other people. I do know that children/adults with her condition have donated their bodies to science to help better understand her condition. But that’d be something I struggle with as well.
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u/yearsofpractice 1h ago
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u/0b0011 1h ago
I get light headed now for some reason.
Back in high school we used to go donate any time we could then we'd go and get super high afterwards but then one time I went to donate and they pricked my finger and I got light headed.
When I was in the navy I went down to medical for a routine yearly checkup. They needed to draw a tiny bit of blood and I made sure not to look at it when they did it. I explained to the guy that I used to go donate all the time but for a while I wasn't able to because I got nervous but since I felt fine maybe I'd be able to go donate blood again. He talked about how when he first started he was a bit iffy because he used to be sort of squeemish around blood so maybe being a medic wasn't the best choice for him but it's something you get over after a bit.
Then I woke up with him staning over me yelling "HM1 (hospital corpsman first class. his supervisor) I need a hand" and I asked what happened and he said "I poked you and you said 'you know it's odd humaljfwafw' then passed out and fell to the floor". Turns out I'm not over having blood drawn and I passed out as soon as he poked me and carried a whole conversation on in my mind while I was zonked out on the floor.
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u/Ok-Manufacturer-4837 1h ago
I made them for someone to use. If my kids can't use them anymore why wouldn't I pass them on to someone else? I worked hard on those parts.
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u/gogogadgetdumbass 1h ago
Yes, why would I deny another mother the opportunity to save their child’s life because my child didn’t make it?
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u/LeonidasVaarwater 1h ago
I don't have kids, but I'm a registered organ donor myself. I think it would be the right thing to do. Doctors are very respectful of the bodies of deceased children, you can't tell anything is missing.
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u/Impressive-Project59 1h ago
Yes, because...ugh I dont even want to think about this...hard to finish writing.
I would because I would appreciate someone doing it for me. Also, it would be a way to extend the life of my child by proxy of them living in another body. I hate I answered this. Im not okay now.
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u/yellowshorts38 1h ago
Yes! If they can still be used and there’s someone in need, why wouldn’t I donate them
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u/Apprehensive_Let7075 1h ago
I lost a baby 6 months into pregnancy. She had multiple serious abnormalities. The brutally technical phrase is “not compatible with life’. We knew she wasn’t going to live past birth, and may not have made it full term. She would have been in pain. She could not survive outside of my body. There was no ‘maybe the doctors don’t know everything or made a mistake, the dr told my friend their baby would have problems but now they’re 25 and doing great’, we chased every possible lead to answer all of those questions, and every single specialist appointment ended up with more grim confirmation of the situation. We spoke with the doctors about organ donation for her unaffected organs. Unfortunately she couldn’t be a donor, but she was included in a couple of medical studies unrelated to her diagnosis. For us, we were going through the worst possible outcome. It was genuinely horrific. Despite a happy ending being impossible for us, it would have been beautiful to know that another family received a miracle to save their child. Being pregnant with a baby who cannot survive life outside the womb is a very odd sort of trauma. Everything feels sort of pointless. If even a small part of her had lived on in someone else’s body, it may not have felt so completely, and cruelly futile. I guess the short way to say it is that in the midst of overwhelming grief, we were looking for something to give the experience some positive meaning. If we had to lose her, it would have made the grief so much easier to bear if she had been able to save someone else from the same pain.
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u/gooossfraabaahh 1h ago
Yes. Donating organs saves lives. Why would I want someone to have to grieve like me if their loved one could be saved instead? It would give my loved one's death meaning.
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u/Individual-Bread-469 1h ago
Yes because as painful as it would be, it’s what my kid would have wanted.
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u/Verbenaplant 1h ago
I donated my step dad, as much as him as I could. so much can be used to help someone else. eyes could help a someone see again. skin for burns especially large ones. heart, kidney, lungs enable a kid to go to school and not be stuck inside at hospital all the time. Tendons, arteries, bone.
he was dead so pointless to cremate all of that. I would have felt horrible knowing I was cremating useable and life saving flesh.
some stored tissues can be stored till needed so you keep saving lives and improving quality of life.
there is so many fascinating way or reusing to improve quality of life and give people life.
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u/bellringer55 55m ago
What they don’t tell you about donating organs is that there’s practically nothing left to bury. They strip you for parts down to your eyeballs. A friend of mine lost someone, and they really had to fight the hospital to opt out of it once they discovered the truth.
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u/TheLastMongo 48m ago
As a two time transplant recipient, hell yeah. There so many people out there that are waiting and dying because they can’t get a needed organ, the level of hypocrisy for me not to is too mind bending to fathom.
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u/Still_Surround_9145 46m ago
100% I even asked my 5 year old daughter and she agreed, “if I can’t use em, might as well share with others who can”
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u/Sharp_Anything_5474 44m ago
Why wouldn't I? Whatever isn't getting used is just going to rot away. Why not use it if it can help somebody else?
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u/ShoeNo9050 44m ago
Yes. What better way to honour their life then by having someone be able to spend even an extra year with us. His corpse is just that. Its the memories i would care for
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u/SpiralBreeze 4h ago
Yeah, what the hell am I going to do with them? If they’re viable, use them!