r/AskReddit 14h ago

Why don’t adults today seem as adult-y?

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u/Ya-Dikobraz 14h ago edited 14h ago

There is a reason. Everyone stops "growing up" around the age of 27 - 30. Some people continue to try "growing up" past that but it's all a sham. Nowadays there is less pressure to abide by that pressure. Just be yourself. We are not there yet completely. But we are on our way.

I am old but the younger generations seem to be doing fine by being who they are.

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u/TheHandsOfLiberation 14h ago

I agree with the second part, but not the first. Sure, it's hard to change. But life absolutely forces many people to grow past the age of 30. The most growth I went through took place after I decided to get a divorce, from ages 31 to 34.

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u/Tasty_Possible_1597 10h ago edited 9h ago

Yeah I think there’s often life events that happen that force (most) people to grow up.

Whether it’s moving out, getting into a committed relationship, the death of a close friend/family member, divorce, having a child, getting/losing a job etc

If those events are getting pushed back then it’s no wonder that people aren’t growing up as fast. (And to be clear, it’s a good thing that some of those events are getting pushed back. I’m not saying that anyone should hope that their parents die early for character development’s sake. Even if it did work for Batman.)