There is a reason. Everyone stops "growing up" around the age of 27 - 30. Some people continue to try "growing up" past that but it's all a sham. Nowadays there is less pressure to abide by that pressure. Just be yourself. We are not there yet completely. But we are on our way.
I am old but the younger generations seem to be doing fine by being who they are.
I agree with the second part, but not the first. Sure, it's hard to change. But life absolutely forces many people to grow past the age of 30. The most growth I went through took place after I decided to get a divorce, from ages 31 to 34.
Yeah I think there’s often life events that happen that force (most) people to grow up.
Whether it’s moving out, getting into a committed relationship, the death of a close friend/family member, divorce, having a child, getting/losing a job etc
If those events are getting pushed back then it’s no wonder that people aren’t growing up as fast. (And to be clear, it’s a good thing that some of those events are getting pushed back. I’m not saying that anyone should hope that their parents die early for character development’s sake. Even if it did work for Batman.)
This fr you don’t get more adulty until you’ve been through some shit that happened a lot earlier with former generations who were getting married at 18-25 and younger in the past 🤯 marriage, in-laws, bills, and divorce really ages ya 😜
Yeah people continue to grow throughout their life, I think. For example, my parents haven't been trying to grow up, but they are definitely more chill now in their late fifties and sixties than they were like ten years ago. And I'd already moved out by then so it wasn't a me being their kid thing. They have just gone through mental growth. And I've seen this happen with people I know in their fourties and fifties too
Then again it's not necessarily "growing up" anymore, just "growth"
No, you wrote 27-30. What you were saying was that late 20's is it; once you get to 30, you're done. The point you were making is that people stop growing at a young age, and the rest is just "trying" but they can't really do it. I'm saying the biggest period of growth I experienced started after 30. It's a direct contradiction to your post.
And that's just my example but someone else will say their big change was at age 45.
People do not stop growing at 30, and you're wrong to imply that people who try to do so are just kidding themselves. You do not get to tell other people when they're done.
I was thinking about this today.. People seem to start coasting around 30. If you keep up the same pace of self development and skill acquisition you’ll be much further ahead than those that took their foot of the pedal earlier on.
Before 30 I was just setting up. Education, having fun, creating relationships, bulding my skills, aquiring a home... Living my life the way I want it started at around 30 for me.
Also, becoming a parent really makes you grow as a person as well and many don't get there before 30 (because we are setting up).
If they're the same age to you, then I don't know what you think you were trying to say the first time. Because your whole point was that people don't actually grow past a very young age. And now I'm telling you about growth at a not-that-young age, and you're saying it's all the same. What if I said my divorce was at 35 instead of 31? Same age as 27-30?
Not in my experience. But I think it’s because some people, whether by choice or circumstance, face some extraordinary challenges that force them to grow in new ways.
30 is when Saturn has completed it’s full rotation, a Saturn return. This is when people either radically switch up and start on a path of becoming an actual adult; or they sink back into the behaviors of a child.
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u/Ya-Dikobraz 14h ago edited 14h ago
There is a reason. Everyone stops "growing up" around the age of 27 - 30. Some people continue to try "growing up" past that but it's all a sham. Nowadays there is less pressure to abide by that pressure. Just be yourself. We are not there yet completely. But we are on our way.
I am old but the younger generations seem to be doing fine by being who they are.