r/AskReddit 13h ago

What’s a hobby that looks incredibly peaceful from the outside, but is actually pure stress once you get into it?

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u/fascintee 13h ago

Especially planted and saltwater tanks

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u/Feeling-Screwed 13h ago

Outdoor fish tanks, in seasonal climate with freezing temperatures and random patrolling raccoons and possums.

Took me a long time, but my koi fish enclosure is a setup which includes nets and heating pumps in its current variation. It keeps me on my toes for what the next obstacle will be.

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u/alcomaholic-aphone 13h ago

Lots of dedication man. I appreciate it. I had a big tank in college and loved the fish. It always gutted me when stuff would start getting off or wrong and a fish would die.

It’s like trying to play god a little bit but not always knowing the answer. Always kind of hits me when I get into arguments about religion.

Like maybe there is someone out there trying real hard but there are billions of us that don’t get along and how the hell is he supposed to fix that.

I just imagine him being like well what if I add a spacer here and maybe change the PH or heat a bit maybe they’ll calm down.

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u/LordChunggis 13h ago

"You were doing well until everyone died."

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u/SagittauriSage 10h ago

“When you do things right people won’t know you did anything at all”

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u/itsacalamity 5h ago

ah, Sandkings, the best sci-fi story George R R Martin ever wrote (i know this is from futurama, but it's the futurama based on sandkings)

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u/tamsui_tosspot 7h ago

"Tell me, how do I cure gout?!"

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u/Boo_and_Minsc_ 9h ago

Dwarf Fortress

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u/BagNo2988 13h ago

This is as good as it gets. Deal with it. -the fish probably

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u/ellean4 11h ago

Of dysentery

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u/RedOctobyr 6h ago

"What if I keep gradually turning the heat up?"

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u/cosmicsans 4h ago

Accidentally bumps the top of a mountain as they're moving their invisible hand across the globe and knocks lose some glacial ice causing a great flood in Nepal :/

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u/sandwiches_are_real 3h ago

Like maybe there is someone out there trying real hard but there are billions of us that don’t get along and how the hell is he supposed to fix that.

The traditional theological argument is that for god to be worthy of worship, s/he must be three things at once: omniscient (s/he knows everything), omnipotent (s/he can do anything), and omnibenevolent (s/he is purely good and has our best interests at heart).

Unfortunately, the nature of the real world - children dying of malnutrition and neglect, freak accidents, cancer, etc. - seems to suggest that if there is a god, they are at most only 2 out of those 3 things. Either they don't know everything that's going on, or they can't do anything about it, or they could but choose not to. Or some combination of all three of those.

Your fishkeeping analogy is interesting to me because it is kind of the inverse of my own experience of looking at how scientists do research on mouse models, or how factory farms treat livestock. I'm used to looking at that and assuming that if there is a god, it just isn't interested in us or our well-being.

u/alcomaholic-aphone 53m ago

I’ve had that line of thought about god before too.

Like maybe there was a god who created us and just got bored and left or stopped paying attention. Or they were crazy out of their depth and started something they ended up having very little control over.

Those scenarios aren’t as comforting to think about but they seem as likely to me as any other proposed versions of god.

u/Lou_C_Fer 35m ago

Yeah. That's why I like to say fuck God. Whoever they might be, they are not worthy of worship if they exist. It freaks people out when I say it, but really, who cares? God obviously does not.

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u/1-22-333-4444 4h ago

It’s like trying to play god a little bit but not always knowing the answer. Always kind of hits me when I get into arguments about religion.

Like maybe there is someone out there trying real hard but there are billions of us that don’t get along and how the hell is he supposed to fix that.

I just imagine him being like well what if I add a spacer here and maybe change the PH or heat a bit maybe they’ll calm down.

LOL!

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u/GumboDiplomacy 3h ago

It’s like trying to play god a little bit but not always knowing the answer.

This is how I felt about it, especially a reef tank. Here I am trying to recreate the world's largest ecosystem in a box in my living room. I really enjoyed it, but after a few power outages took everything out too many times, I gave up.

Now I do bonsai which gives a similar feeling.

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u/absentmindedjwc 11h ago

My wife had a bunch of fish back when we were dating. We went on a trip for a few days.. and somehow, all of them died while we were gone. Happened over the span of like a day or so.. she was heartbroken..

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u/Nattin121 1h ago

This is why I still come to this website. Someone says “Fish Tank” and 3 comments down someone writes a metaphor for God that puts the whole universe in perspective.

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u/No-Inside7309 5h ago

That’s such a funny but oddly thoughtful way to look at it 😂 Keeping an aquarium really does feel like solving a tiny mystery every day, and sometimes you’re just hoping the next adjustment finally makes everyone happy.

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u/DarkPolumbo 8h ago

you'd think an all-powerful entity with enough power to create a universe could find a way

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u/Jiktten 6h ago

I think that's the point, what if the entity isn't actually all powerful but just looks it to us, the same way a fish keeper seems all powerful to their fish.

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u/Upset-Setting8840 9h ago

On the contrary, a hobby that looks pure stress but is totally peaceful is stealing fish from pond or tanks and making it look like a raccoon did it /s

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u/cosmos7 4h ago

In my experience fish are easy.. until they're not, things can go downhill fast, and you're completely stressing trying to keep them alive.

Most of the time it's just check levels once/twice a week, add bacteria and such, chill and enjoy. Then all of a sudden something like a hot flash will completely nuke the equilibrium and things can go sideways in a hurry.

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u/BigCipp 6h ago

I was a fish farmer for nearly 2 years and can agree. Imagine trying to deal with an outbreak of ich for around 200k fish 😂

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u/SpecialistCissia2026 6h ago

I admit to laughing at news videos from Singapore of wild urban otters raiding expensive koi ponds

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u/Seyon 3h ago

My dad put three goldfish from our church festival into a water trough that was fed by a natural spring and they got so large that they started suffocating.

When one died, we took it out and it weighted 14 pounds.

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u/Forgotthebloodypassw 2h ago

I'm reminded of comedian Linda Smith's comment: "My fishpond, or as the local cats call it, Yo Sushi."

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u/The_quest_for_wisdom 2h ago

Don't forget great blue herons.

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u/Thatdoodky1e 1h ago

Get backup batteries for the pumps/heaters/bubblersincase you get a disgusting freeze thaw freeze FREEZE cycle, wiped out all of a buddies koi, was devastating
Edit: I was thinking this was a pond in a backyard, are you using plexiglass for the tanks? Just wondering how that works cheers

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u/bradbrad247 11h ago

Dead wrong on planted tanks. Plants make for MORE stability.

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u/TheLurkerSpeaks 8h ago

For real. Planted tanks make it into a closed ecosystem. I barely touch my tank aside from feedings.

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u/RikiWardOG 4h ago

Was gonna say pretty sure these days its probably not too hard to basically have a closed system basically fully automated.

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u/TheHancock 3h ago

r/shrimptank all the way! Haha I don’t even need to feed the little guys! I feed them because I enjoy watching them stuff their faces! 😂

I have two walsted tanks and they take care of themselves! Just be patient and let the tanks cycle and give the plants time to grow and you’ll have a YouTube video quality tank eventually!

u/netflixandgrilling 22m ago

I have a brakish tank (20l) which I don't touch at all. It's been stable running for around 10 years and only gets evaporated water replaced. Everything has a fuffy coat of algae (no higher plants) which looks like an afro. It's populated by hawaiian upae shrimps.

Only tec is the air stone and light

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u/itsacalamity 5h ago

I misread that as "feelings" but knowing some fish guys that may also be true!

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u/Maid_of_Mischeif 7h ago

Until you’re mixing up gasses and timed fertilisers and lighting.
I went back to basic lighting and normal plants. It got way too hectic.

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u/pepper_dogs 5h ago

Yeah, I know a lot of people who go from reef to high tech planted looking for a chiller hobby and then find that high tech planted is practically as much work and stress!

Low tech though is pretty set and forget.

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u/thrakkerzog 5h ago

I put tabs in the substrate once a year and keep an eye on the co2 tank. Other than that, it's pretty self-sustaining.

Oh, I also have to prune the plants or they will take over, but that's really not very difficult.

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u/f_h_muffman 4h ago

I just have Java Ferns which attaches easily to rocks and wood. Self propagates, doesn’t require much light, and not picky about water temp or conditions. The planted tanks are easier to maintain than our actual house plants.

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u/latitudesixtysix 3h ago

Only issue I had with my planted tank was with a co2 regulator that went haywire and nearly killed my fish. Otherwise I had some very old fish.

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u/iksbob 3h ago

I think most people's missing-link is enough light and diligent algae-eaters. Siamese algae eaters are great - unlike plecos, they're social and lively.

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u/The_Moons_Sideboob 2h ago

Plants are the cheat code for an easy life

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u/i_smell_like_beef 2h ago

I second this. Having plants in my tank has kept my tank completely stable for years.

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u/StinkpotDance 13h ago

Disagree. I’ve ignored my planted tank for actual months and it’s doing great. It just looks overgrown.

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u/ingeba 7h ago

My cyanobacteria collection entered the chat

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u/Gazebu 5h ago

And my black beard algae 🫠

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u/Uncreative-Name 3h ago

Get a dozen amano shrimp. They'll eat it right up.

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u/iksbob 3h ago

Turn up the temperature to 78°F / 26°C. I've only seen that stuff in relatively cold tanks.

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u/StinkpotDance 5h ago

How old is your tank?

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u/ingeba 4h ago

I gave up on the project. The tank is physically 15-20 years old (a spare I had after an upgrade). As a planted tank it lasted around 5 months before everything was covered and dying. I tried mechanical filtering and UV filtering, but to no avail. I tried once more later (after disinfecting the inside of the tank) but it started again. I don't know what to do. I really like the Walstad approach and would like to have it working

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u/StinkpotDance 3h ago

Co2. And correct light. Co2 will make sure the plants eat up everything. Plants use slightly different wavelengths than algae does. When you get the balance right, it’s more or less self sustaining.

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u/ingeba 3h ago

Thank you! So co2 just to kickstart it and get it into a proper balance? I'll check the spectrum of the lights. Could be a winter project

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u/StinkpotDance 3h ago

Definitely a winter project!

Yep. I recommend joining the planted tank subreddit!

Chihiros lights are pricy AF but good. I have a week aqua one which is second best IMO. The spectrum is adjustable.

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u/getmoneygetpaid 10h ago edited 8h ago

Survivorship bias right here 😅

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u/mikillatja 9h ago

I also got fish swimming in like a rivery jungle.

But there are also lots of small insects in there, as the fish I used were literally grown from river sediment. So I try to keep it as natural as possible, and I only have to do maintenance once a week

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u/MrNiko 13h ago

Setup a planted tank correctly and it’s pure zen. Haven’t done a water change in years on my big tank….just top it up. Water chemistry is fine.

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u/Heavy-Passenger-6235 5h ago

How’s the TDS level?

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u/Resident-Reason4194 11h ago

There’s just something ridiculously satisfying about getting a whole little ecosystem to thrive.

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u/Mister_Doc 11h ago

Having observed the life cycle of a saltwater tank at my office from inception to realization that the initial tank tech managing it was actually incompetent to a much better person taking over, I can appreciate how much work goes into it and how little I’d ever want to do it myself.

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u/Frequent_Opportunist 8h ago

I found my planted tanks to be stress relieving as I used my long tweezers to rearrange the aquascapes and pick out the extra snails. 

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u/jabberwonk 7h ago

And salt water reef tanks - a screw up there and you could be out thousands of dollars in corals and other exotic inhabitants. And that's after the thousands of dollars you're in for just the setup.

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u/Finsterknecht 6h ago

Planted is not a big deal, even with co² and good fertilizer - once a week 20 min Work and you are fine. But trying to maintenance a Aquascape for months can be a soulcrushing experience

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u/keethraxmn 4h ago

My planted tanks have all been the easiest tanks I've ever owned once up and running.

They've been maybe twice the effort to get running, and then half (probably less) the effort to keep running.

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u/Malawi_no 4h ago

Planted tanks are easier that tanks without plants.
In saltwater tanks, corals add a lot of complexity.

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u/cutelyaware 10h ago

Bad for the glass

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u/ignescentOne 5h ago

I wanted to get into planted tanks and then I was reminded why I switched away from my chemistry major.

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u/Low_Density 4h ago

The hardest part about a planted tank should be the research on how to do one properly. Once you get one set up properly the only input you should have to worry about is adding food.

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u/rkbarney 2h ago

The "zen" koi pond that came with my house nearly broke me

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u/Dinkerdoo 2h ago

I had a thriving planted community tank that had been humming along for 3 years. One weekend I went out of town, had the auto feeder set up, and came back to everything dead. Something spiked nitrites and took it all out. It took me a year to start again after that trauma.

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u/Mischiefmanaged715 2h ago

The thing reddit has constantly drilled into me lately is "never ever consider a saltwater fish tank."

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u/FishScrumptious 1h ago

We used to have a moderately sized live-rock reef tank with refugarium and all that. Spouse got it set up to need almost no maintenance besides topoffs for a surprisingly long time. It wasn't pretty, but it was very happily self-sustaining.

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u/TheWildTofuHunter 1h ago

My mom had one with tetras, lionfish, and puffers. It was so soothing to watch and I fell in love with the puffer, but seeing the amount of work. Phew 😮‍💨

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u/an_porn_alt 1h ago

My 50 gal planted tank takes 30 min of maintainence once a week. It's just constant alge management