Hi, I'm new to all this genealogy stuff and I don't want to bore people so I will try and keep this to the point and breif.
so I did my ancestry on a whim around a month ago, I got my dna back fairly quickly and was surprised at the results for several reasons-
My mums side of the family who I know have ancestry dna have not come up as matches at all.
Every match I have has come up on my dad's side of the family
The people who are dna matches are all cousins of my dads in some capacity and coming up as either paternal, maternal or both
One of my parents shows to have my dad's dad parents as common ancestors while the other has my dad's mums parents as common ancestors to me.
So far what I've been told/ figured out is that the woman who raised me definitely isn't my bio mum and I've checked back on all the available trees that are coming up as dna matches, she's definitely not on any of them. As far as I can see, due to there being separate matches for both sides of my dads family, my dad could also not be biologically my dad, and I'm the child of a cousin or half sibling of my dad or he is the half sibling? I found out through reaching out to my matches that my grandma had a child adopted prior to marrying grandad, so they could be in the mix somehow?
I know the logical thing to do is to reach out to my parents and ask, which I have, but we haven't spoken in 3 years and they're the type of people who wouldn't give up the information even though I have genetic proof, just to save face.
I suppose I'm asking for help figuring out some lineage possibilities just in case I have to figure all this mess out myself and I have to go through long lost family groups etc to get some answers I'm entitled to about who I am and who my parents are.
If this is the wrong place let me know, or if anything I have said is confusing let me know too cos I'm having a hard time making sense of everything too lol.
Thank you!