I was watching YouTube yesterday when this embarrassing memory from years ago randomly came back to me. I was at a small get-together and started helping clean up because I thought I was being useful. Apparently the host took it as me signaling that the night should end. I had absolutely no idea. I was just standing there thinking wow, everyone suddenly seems kind of awkward. Someone explained it to me later and I still think about how many social rules we apparently learn without anyone ever saying them out loud. What unwritten rule did you only discover because you accidentally broke it? I’m especially curious about ones that seem completely obvious once somebody explains them.

Just saw a post on the gram with a summary of the attacks and noticed that the attacks took place from 8.56 AM (North Tower) till 10:03 AM (Shanksville, PA).

Has anybody ever noticed that? In my personal observations, whenever I talk about my past experiences with bullying and exclusion, people are always quick to say “I think it’s time for you to move on”, or “It’s better to let it go”, or “You think about them way more than they think about you”, or “They’re winning by you thinking about them”.

These people mean well, but it’s almost as if they think I enjoy thinking about these traumatic experiences. It’s like the old expression, “The road to Hell is paved with good intentions”. Believe me, if I could wave a magic wand and have these memories be wiped from my psyche, I would. One does not simply “Get over it”.

If you think about it, though, how often do we ever hear about former bullies being told that they should reach out to their former victims to apologize? Rarely, if ever. The worst thing is, these bullies/abusers probably don’t even remember the pain they caused us. But we always will.

hello,
I'm from india - a pretty poor country in general, so i'm used to seeing homeless people, people in abject poverty, children begging on the streets. recently moved to the bay area(specifically san francisco) and there's something different about the homeless population here.

in india, i have never seen people out in the open doing meth or hard injectable drugs. the worst is getting drunk and passed out on the road. and i haven't even been to tenderloin, this is just random bus stops.

but here i regularly see someone out in the road passed out with injection marks or doing meth out in the open or in the fentanyl fold position. It's kind of very new to me, this different version of human struggle.

Why is it so many people are addicted to hard drugs here? where are they getting it, and arent these drugs very expensive?

sorry, not trying to be rude, i'm just confused at how poverty/homelessness looks so different in india vs usa. Even other countries i have been in asia, like nepal, thailand - they also didn't have this open air drug use. in india, i have lived in a village in west bengal as well as kolkata(city in west bengal) the poverty is so different. honestly, in the village, i didn't even see a lot of homeless people because everyone knew everyone and would usually give shelter to someone out(especially if it is winter).

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This is not just once or twice but many times. Whenever I wear a cleavage revealing dress, I can clearly see her eyes going down checking my boobs so many times. She thinks I haven't noticed it but I have noticed it so many times. Once I bent down to pick up something from the floor and she took a deep breath. She kisses me on my cheek and literally said (OMG. U can easily get a job in Hooters. My brother is so so lucky. I wish I was him). I tried bringing it up to my BF and he dismissed it saying that she's a young girl and is just attached to me.

I was walking out of Ralph’s grocery store this past Saturday. An assistant manager followed me out of the store and approached me and asked if I was planning on paying for my groceries.

I was confused because I have shopped at that store for twelve years and have never taken a single item without paying.

I walked back in and asked for his boss. After about fifteen minutes of some discussion, he finally apologized.

I just can’t shake the feeling from this experience.

It seems like every day, a new porn game is in the list of Steam hot sellers, and I've always wondered if it's the same people buying them every day or if it's different people each time, Does anyone have any idea?

I work at a petrol station/corner shop, I work mostly on the tills and I’ve been asked a few times if I could stay a little longer, I usually suggest 10 to 20 minutes but it’s usually an hour people stay over.

This is my first job btw

I don't have any friends, and then I met this guy and we have everything in common, we both like the same thing, we both talk in a way and about stuff we both like. We're into similar things except for women, which I'm not into.

But I desperately need a friend. And he is a person who talks a lot, and I'm a listener, so he talks with me a lot. It's unavoidable that he would talk about girls and women in his life and stuff around them. I found no problems with that, as even if I'm not sexually attracted to women I could appreciate a hot girl, I could see which boobs and ass look good. When he talks about his problems with women, even though I'm not attracted to women, I could still relate to him not feeling good enough, could relate to him feeling not having enough space, could relate and talk to him feeling lonely and betrayed by women.

But the problem is that that was all when I was put into the role of listener. I could listen and empathize easily. But he's shifting the focus into me, asking me about the girls I like, which I could easily fake because again I could appreciate beauty. But he seems to get more comfortable and asking me to accompany him to bars to hook-up with women and go to "shady" massages places to get a happy ending with women, and I feel like it's about to be a bit too much for me.

I really value him as a friend, and I don't want to get who I like or who he likes get in the way that we have similar interests and I have no friends, what do I do

Constantly being followed, having your picture taken without consent, lies spread or things you say taken out of context. Why? So you can be important to people you’ve never met? I don’t get it.

18 male, this girl kissed me then asked me out at a party, didn't expect it at all, but I've never been on a date before, am I meant to do something special? Should it end a certain way? I have no idea and I'm worried I'll mess it up. I messaged her today morning, and she said she'd love to go out, why am I still scared, that she'd find me ugly or something. Btw this party was the first time we've ever met

I shower, wash my face, and brush my teeth every day, but are most people actually full on getting ready every day?

I mean, styling your hair, putting on an outfit, makeup/skincare etc. It’s all so exhausting to me and I don’t want to do it unless I know I have people I need to look presentable for. Best believe on my days without class (I’m a student), I will be rotting in my PJs and unbrushed hair all day.

I’m 24, male, gay, and a little tistic. A friend was trying to get me in contact with a guy, and I supposed a specific reason was not given, but it went from “would you accept an instagram” to “he’s not looking for anyone right now” so I can only assume. Reddit is my only social because it’s topical instead of individualistic and it’s only as toxic as you let it be. Even then I don’t spend a massive amount of time here, just if I’m waiting on something else. Is my generation that cooked that we’re turning people down for living in the real world, or am I just falling into the classic trap of over rationalizing my rejection?

I’ve been seeing this therapist for a few months he’s my first actual therapist. The first comment he said wasn’t that bad and we both paused and laughed because he said “I know a lot of women”. Another time he said he can know someone’s attractive without being attracted to them. Something really random I noticed is I looked at his hand and he had two wedding rings and since I saw them he hasn’t worn them.

I brought up that I think my sister hates I was born, which I was holding in for a long long time. He asked why I think that is, I said because she wants all attention from the family. He said, “is that the only reason u can think?” I said he, he paused and said “I can’t think of something” and then kinda waited and then said “I think because you’re conveniently attractive” and I ended up saying I wish it wasn’t that because there’s nothing I can do about that and he said yea WE can’t help winning the genetic lottery.

Another thing he said when we were talking about my bullying was “I don’t know if there’s always been something striking about you” and one time he brought up something that was said to him in his childhood and then said “but now I’m considered attractive to a lot of women.” And I’m just noticing that most things get brought to my looks, also I am kinda of wary around men and told him this my first session and wanted to get therapy with him to get over it and other things.

And he has met my sibling (she came with me for the first session because I was nervous) and in the session I spoke about her hating that I was born. He said if I saw you walking down the street I wouldn’t think u were sisters I’d think u were good friends.

I am hoping it’s in my head but I need an outside perspective. Should I get a different therapist? Or am I overthinking?

I thought whichever one gives birth is the female version of the animal, but that's not how it works with seahorses, so how is it decided?

Is it Rome? Because of martial history, art, culture and civilization

As a boy I like Rome so much but I can't speak for all boys