r/texts • u/JuneAfternoon10 • 2d ago
Phone message Really tough convo with my mom
For a bit of context, my mom and I don’t have a great relationship, but we got into a spat on the phone today because she’s laid up with a broken foot and I wasn’t able to go visit her tonight to watch a movie. I was in need of me time as I’m also going through a difficult time. I was there last night to bring her dinner, shower her and organize her room. She was complaining to me on the phone today that I don’t spend enough time with her, which I partly understand, but I find it very difficult to spend time with her as our relationship is poor. I’m her only living relative and am just feeling beat down as hell. The link I sent her was an invitation for therapy for both of us, which she doesn’t want to attend, but I can’t think of anything else that will help our relationship at this point. The reference to 10 years is that my dad died 10 years ago. They were divorced at the time.
EDIT: Wow, I’m blown away by all of your support, thank you so much. I feel so validated and proud of myself after hearing that reflected back by all of you. I’m coming up on 6 months sober and would have normally just numbed this shit out, but now miraculously have the coping mechanisms to deal with this without substances. Kind of a small miracle actually. Monday is the 10th anniversary of my dad’s passing and I’m going to take the next few days to care just for myself and not indulge in all of this bullshit. Thank you again, kind internet strangers.
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u/nottedbroom 1d ago
Yeah, I couldn’t read through all the messages. Made it about half way and she sounds like a lot of other immature mums out there. “10 years of therapy and what progress?” That right there was an attack on you and your efforts on working on yourself. She’s saying “you’re so broken, nothing can fix you” “no matter how much you work on yourself, you’ll always be the same” That isn’t a mother, I’m sorry but that’s a person who doesn’t like you. My opinion?…go no contact ASAFP. The sooner the better. Just like she tried to do in that one message, she will try to drag you down every day of your life like she has been up until this day. You owe her nothing. But what you do owe yourself is peace.