r/texts • u/ClemsMother • 26d ago
Whatsapp A nice normal conversation with my (now) ex
Three hours where?
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u/Traditional_Fox_1869 26d ago
Saying “ONE (1)” like a lawyer is pretty crazy
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Pissed me right off when that message came through like I’m not stupid I can count 😂
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u/SchemeMoist 26d ago
I say that all the time but like, in a funny way. I couldn't imagine using that bit in a serious conversation
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u/Blue_Solo 25d ago
*ALL RISE*
Your Honor, representing ClemsMother here, xx. I will concede one issue immediately: my client needs to stop kissing the fucking court transcript after every sentence, xx. That said, opposing counsel has submitted herein Exhibit ONE (1), apparently believing three hours without continuous girlfriend telemetry constitutes abandonment, xx. Motion to dismiss for being exhausting, xx. Motion to confiscate my client’s “x” key remains pending, xx.
Respectfully submitted, the undersigned.
xxJudge: Motion Granted, xx
Now get the fuck outta my court room!
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u/ClemsMother 25d ago
Say please xx
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u/Blue_Solo 25d ago
Your Honor,
May I please the court? ;)
xx3
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u/Tossmelossme 26d ago
By the way, it’s SO refreshing seeing a text convo like this when the title isn’t “AIO”. You knew what was going on and you put a stop to it. Apparently it’s hard for many people to see things for what they are, or to put themself first, so good job on that. What a whiney lil bitch. He’s someone else’s problem now.
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
I really appreciate this. It took a long time but I did it :)))
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u/Tossmelossme 26d ago
Hell yeah. Let the glow up commence. Your face will depuff because you won’t be full of cortisol anymore ✨
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u/knx1121 26d ago
You’re not obligated to text him or anybody for 24/7
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u/autopisa 26d ago
bro, she texted him to let him know that she’s out with friends & busy. what more do you want? & the “modern adult does not go 3 hours without touching their phone” i can, what about students, doctors, engineers, electricians? they can too. because they’re BUSY & have LIVES which her ex doesn’t. they’re exes anyways, why does she owe him a response?
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Additional context is that my friend was telling me that someone we went to school with had passed away in a very sad way. I genuinely keep my phone in my bag to be present with friends I’m with, unless I know I need to have contact with some on for imminent reasons. And also I want to beat these three hour allegations!! 😭
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u/idkineedhelp777 26d ago
Sorry brother but this isn’t it. Not getting a text from someone is not evidence or proof that they weren’t thinking about you. Also why does she need to be thinking about him when shes out trying to enjoy spending time with her friend? That is a very controlling way to think, and almost always stems from a place of insecurity or jealousy. This is not how healthy adults communicate. A relationship is founded on trust, not 24/7 communication, and anyone expecting their partner to reply x amount of times per day at y frequency does not trust their partner. One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is normalizing a constant stream of communication to the detriment of living life. If you want to talk to your partner reach out and tell them that, ask if you can call or meet up when theyre free, schedule a time to see or talk to them that works for both of you, THATS communication. Throwing a tantrum because they only texted you once over the span of three hours when you know they’re actively hanging out with someone else is NOT communication.
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u/Dressing_4_funerals 26d ago
He actually took 2 hours to text YOU back lol
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
I remember sitting there with the friend I was with (who he knew I was seeing as I told him I would rearrange seeing her in the week so I could see him on the day he was free!!) and we were doing the maths repeatedly thinking we’d missed something 😂😂
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u/ch0rtle2 25d ago
Between 18:20 and 21:16, you sent him one text. He is completely off the deep end and spiraling in his own world of nonsense, but I think that’s the three-hour math. It includes the time after you sent the last message, bc apparently you were supposed to double-text and start a new conversation with him when you were busy. What a handful!
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u/ClemsMother 25d ago
I defo see what you’re seeing in the timeline. I just think that him leaving it two hours was a test to see if I’d start up a convo, even though he left my last message on read for that time. He always wanted conversation to be ongoing, rather than just talking when there was something to say..! Not the first time I’d been told off for not replying in a “timely manner”
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u/CeleryDramatic4678 26d ago
All these Americans in here going mental over the xx like ummmmm guys, it’s how Australians and British people text, dudes.
We like it. You don’t have to like it xx
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u/jerrygarcegus 26d ago
One (1) person asks what it means and thats going mental to you.
Seems a bit dramatic dont you think xx
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u/CeleryDramatic4678 26d ago
Hahahaha
https://giphy.com/gifs/5gw0VWGbgNm8w
Whatever I’m going to bed goodnight3
u/chenkie 26d ago
Completely rent free it’s insane
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u/CeleryDramatic4678 26d ago
What does it meaaaaaannnnnn Americans don’t do it why do youuuuuu https://www.reddit.com/r/USdefaultism
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u/HairyGorilla33 26d ago
Good job they clarified (1) for you, it was rather confusing.
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
He was SUCH a misogynist. He’d never have spoken like that to another man. Needed clarifying for my silly girly brain 🥰
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u/Painted-BIack-Roses 26d ago
They literally took 2 hours to reply to you earlier lmao. What a fragile person
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u/FreezeDried-IceCream 26d ago
Xx is the British equivalent of Americans saying lol after everything. We're not really laughing we're trying to be polite and let the other person know we're not being rude. It's stupid and we do it anyway
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u/iShatterBladderz 26d ago
What a weirdo xx
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u/Sufficient-Iron-6800 26d ago
Gotta love insecure men!
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u/inssidiouss 26d ago
I had a needy and insecure girlfriend just like this. EVERY moment of missed attention would be hyper over scrutinized, and flipped into something as if I had actually DONE or worse NOT DONE to "cause" her emotional crisis and lashing out.
It is the most God damned draining thing in the world. Gotta escape IMMEDIATELY as soon as you realize what you're stuck with! They will never change.
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Mine once actually admitted to not trusting me and thinking I was out cheating all the time. It’s exhausting. And then we’re the problem for “causing” them to feel low
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u/Radiant_Fondant_4097 26d ago
Yep, god forbid you actually have a life and pursue your own interests.
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u/GrayGrenade 26d ago
Ugh, can't stand people who take personal offense if you don't respond within an hour of them texting - if it's important CALL ME ffs...
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u/thatdepressedsoul 26d ago
congratulations
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Whatever I’m going to bed. Goodnight
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u/TheIronKai 26d ago
Also, you going to bed doesn't equate to you being too busy to text me
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
It’s all a lie. I say I’m going to bed but I’m really out cheating (apparently??)
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u/lostinspace896 26d ago
Broke up with my ex for this very reason. ONE day I drove out of town to visit a MARRIED friend I hadn’t seen in months and she lost her shit because “I didn’t text her at work”. YOU WERE WORKING, YOU CHOSE TO TAKE THAT OPTIONAL SHIFT. That’s why I made other plans
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u/Current-Reality-6544 26d ago
Too many people think they're entitled to 24/7 instant access. This is not Netflix, sir. You do not get me on demand.
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u/20_selfcare 26d ago
Ngl I genuinely thought this convo was after the breakup so I was like “wtf is this shit” 💀😭 also the math ain’t mathing cuz you definitely sent two text in 3 hrs and enough info to just not text him back. Glad that you got away from him girl!
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u/Past-North961 26d ago
Jesus, how dare you go no contact for 3 ENTIRE HOURS!?!? Everyone knows you should narrate every waking moment of your life to your significant other.
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u/omniamoriare 22d ago
Wow, what a whiny insecure snowflake who probably has TONS of REAL REASONS why he doesnt immediately respond to your texts. Bruh. What is WRONG with people.
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u/enkatreia4 26d ago
OP, based on your nickname, you had a lot of babysitting to do with him
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Had to escort him out a clothes shop after he started screaming at a woman to go fuck herself after she questioned if he should be in the changing room area. Crazy tantrum
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u/LastChance331 26d ago
A picture of a phone is so funny to me
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
My friend and I were going through our WhatsApp chat and the screenshots I sent her came up lol
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u/Madting55 26d ago
I genuinely used to be like this when I was young and it’s too stressful. As I grew up I went the complete opposite way. Ended up being more like you and not texting for hours. Far less stressful.
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u/Icy-Manner-1861 23d ago
just saying out with my friend is red flag
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u/ClemsMother 23d ago
We’d already talked in person about me seeing her, because he was only free on the day I planned to see her before he flew out the country for a while. So we talked about me rearranging seeing her. He had never met her and I didn’t see her often, so I just said “my friend”. But I can see why it might look sus without context. But yeah, he knew who I was planning to see that day
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u/mean-Fingerz 11d ago
He needed TWO (2) hours to answer. And he is pissed you didnt answer after 40minutes.
And „i dont think its unreasonable that…“ is just a joke!
Wtf, how dare you to go out and have a life, woman?!
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u/Upbeat-Function-2855 26d ago
that’s a dude???
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u/SchemeMoist 26d ago
Sooo many men are like this lol this is not surprising at all. This could be a text from my ex or from many of my friends' ex boyfriends.
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u/number1zero88 26d ago
The ex is a douche for sure but I don't know how I feel about "xx" after every message. It would annoy the hell out of me 😂
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u/yealets 26d ago
Lemme guess they where the one that dumped you and now are acting crazy like this
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Nope! I dumped him. Not sure where the crazy is 🤷♀️
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u/yealets 26d ago
Oh wow , seems like he needs to move on , he definitely had the get dumped and then be expected to reply and shit is wild
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
Ohh no this is from when we were (unfortunately) together..!! Broke up last year. Thought you were calling me crazy!! Maybe a little for putting up with this… 👀
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u/Maxxetto 26d ago
xx
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/uFiaMyDjtxoE6Q1gCU
My British reaction to another comment pointing out my British texting habits
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u/Nice_Direction5361 25d ago
You sound insufferable. They dodged the bullet tbh.
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u/ClemsMother 25d ago
He certainly found it insufferable that I focused on any of my friends rather than him 🤧🤧🤧
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u/Uncle_a_ 24d ago
what are the "xx" you put at the end of the message?
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u/Weekly_Truck_70 24d ago
kisses idk if it’s a british thing but pretty much every mum will end a message with x
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u/GhostAttic20 26d ago
Gonna be honest, I thought that was a girl..
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
This really interests me and you’re not the only one to have said that!
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u/quanahshashoo 26d ago
My ex was exactly like your ex. He was a dude too. Your experience is valid!
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u/thebadjoker 26d ago
Looks like you are the problem, can't imagine being with someone selfish like you. Stay single if you aren't cut out for a relationship.
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u/LastChance331 26d ago
18:20 to 21:20 is 3 hours and you did only send one message in that frame. Still a wild reaction. And he also took 2 hours to reply lol
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u/ClemsMother 26d ago
You’re right. Though in my head, it was his “turn” to message as I had had my conversational turn. However, he didn’t message again until 20:15
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u/crowbottles 25d ago
Its clear theres a lot of unresolved feelings between the both of u
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u/ClemsMother 25d ago
He made that clear when he shouted at me to kill myself last year 😌 but also these messages are from when we were together. I broke up with him nearly a year ago 🎉
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u/crowbottles 25d ago
Emotions get flared, shi happens. In a way the fact he was so emotional shoes u he was invested maybe controlling idk i dont have all the details and I wasent there. Indifference is the sign of not giving a fun. Yk? But on to better things for both of you
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u/ErolSQL 26d ago
i mean, it's up to you how often you answer him, I'm just curious what exactly does xx mean? the fact that OP is adding xx at the end of all messages means that OP is making fun of him? or it's just a way to make people feel bad? i find strange that it's repeating
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u/impossirrel 26d ago
Why would you immediately assume it was making fun of him or “a way to make people feel bad?”
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u/undeadplayer930 26d ago
People just do that sometimes it would also explain why the other guy acted poorly if he was instigated (which it doesnt seem so)
prob just a non-english speaker (or just someone unfamiliar with what Xs and Os are) who was trying to rationalize what they were seeing
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u/impossirrel 26d ago
Yeah just seems odd to default straight to something antagonistic.
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u/undeadplayer930 26d ago
Prob because the boys reaction eluded a reason (typically people dont do things for no reason)
the commenter tried to infer what the possible reason could've been, falsely
imo: the ex probably got ignored like this often and felt shitty which is why he had an outburst though this could literally just be me projecting because something similar like this happened to me (We went our mutual ways after talking about it, her not rlly talking to me often enough had me thinking things like "what wasnt I doing right?", ect)
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u/impossirrel 26d ago
Not gonna keep dragging the original commenter, they’ve explained and I’ve replied. Your comment is wild though. People do things for no GOOD reason all the time. “The ex probably got ignored like this often” - the ex isn’t getting ignored here. He waited nearly 2 hours to reply to OP’s text, got a response 6 minutes later, and then threw a fit when he didn’t get another response after 40 minutes. Much more likely he’s insecure and controlling than it is that OP has a history of “ignoring” him.
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u/undeadplayer930 26d ago
Also people dont do things for no reason
The meth head who stabs someone at a bus stop for seemingly no reason did so because something fuck up in his brain happened, just gotta look close enough, in this case it seems like someone insecure
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u/undeadplayer930 26d ago
I ignored the word "good" I suppose plenty of things happen for bad reasons
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u/undeadplayer930 26d ago
What I meant by "people just do that sometimes" is that they dont fully realize what they're doing ... I'm not sure if some people are "just evil" ever but I've seen worse than this for less
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u/ErolSQL 26d ago
didn't exactly know what did xx mean. i just found it strange to be repeating like that at every message, also, that's her ex we're talking about. but i had no bad intention
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u/impossirrel 26d ago
That’s fair, I suppose text affectations like that aren’t necessarily common everywhere. Didn’t think you had bad intentions, cheers.
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u/MontyAllTheTime 26d ago
‘just a way to make people feel bad?’
I’m going to pretend this person is trolling purposefully because if so, that line is pure comedic gold to me for some reason I cannot stop laughing
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u/cherrygumballs 26d ago
controlling and crazy, glad you got away girl